Why is there SO MUCH negativity here?!
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I don't think everyone is negative; I think a lot of people are too sensitive.0
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I don't think everyone is negative; I think a lot of people are too sensitive.
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I don't think everyone is negative; I think a lot of people are too sensitive.
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I'm mean.
But people here are still too sensitive.0 -
Don't pay any attention to the perfectionists
Use this site to learn what works best for you, we are each different and all have our own ways of coming to terms with what we need to do to succeed ( and we all have setbacks)
The negative people in my opinion:- expect instant results, always find fault with others, and usually are the first to complain/criticise. In this time of life when things can get tough mentally you don't need that going on, look for the positives and frankly discard the negatives
feel free to add me ( I have good and bad days and just get on with it)
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because they r horny and need some sex in their life.
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People are HUNGRY and exhausted..... and that is why they are "mean".
I used to work for a supervisor who would submit to the most rigid diets and he was MOODY. I wanted to tell him, "You should just have a sandwich with a lot of meat and mayo and cheese. You're so mean when you're hungry!"0 -
I don't think everyone is negative; I think a lot of people are too sensitive.
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I'm mean.
But people here are still too sensitive.
I agree, you have to be very careful what you say cause people get offended easy. It seem, all they want to hear is how well they are doing even if they're not. people ask for friends and advice but all they really want is someone to agree with everything they say and do. Believe this, if you really read their diaries and give your honest opinion, you would soon see they are not as friendly as they started out. Don't take my word for it, try it for yourself. Who knows, you may be that person that can't handle being told something you don't agree with.0 -
Should I just clarify... I'm not saying that telling someone, "you probably shouldn't eat 300 calories a day of pure fat and then work out 600 hours" is negative. That IS supportive. All I'm saying is, someone will say "I lost 30lbs low carb! Yay!" And then some self righteous turd will come right behind them and say something like, "Oh that's funny because I lost 34lbs eating whatever I wanted at 2000 calories".
WHAT? It's when people interject that their way is OBVIOUSLY better and totally glazing over someone else's success. That, is just plain rude.
Or maybe the self righteous turd is just pointing out that you don't need to do some restrictive diet in order to lose weight? That possibly the fact that the poster was eating at a calorie deficit was the reason for their success rather than the fact they were following XYZ protocol of eating?
Yes, and the aforementioned, allegedly rude response is actually some of the more helpful advice I have heard on here. Also, I would be sure to remember it better than if it was said in some icky sweet tone. That kind of over the top politeness from strangers is a little weird to me anyway.0 -
Again, not referring to MFPers telling people to NOT do something ridiculous. I'm just saying that even when it's not ridiculous... in fact totally normal... some know-it-all comes behind them and tells them they MUST be wrong. And their way is better. Pfffft your weight loss is less impressive because you did it XYZ way. Clearly.
Um. Some people think it is totally normal to demonize sugar. Or eat 1,000 calories a day. Or cut out entire food groups.
See where I'm going with this?0 -
I agree with you, We are all here fighting our own battles and no two people are the same. The way i look at it ... If you can't be supportive then don't add or look for supports. If your not being supportive what is the need to add people your just going to tear down! Not one person here needs the negativity! Bring on the positives 0
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You go, OP!
That'll show 'em!0 -
In late to the party...
I attribute it to there being more over sensitivity than anything else.0 -
Wink K xo0
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I'm even worse in real life where I'm not constrained by the suffocating Community Guidelines (all hail).
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And why is this in "General Diet and Weight Loss Help"?0 -
I'm going to answer this question as I just witnessed this on my totally inncocent post regarding do you log your cleaning?
People ended up *****ing about hrms and that it's ridiculous to log because it is built into sedenary lifestyle. I stood by my guns and other ladies on that post stating that basically some people don't do 4 hours cleaning or painting and also I only log 30% of Mfp estimate. F******* hate Mfp now was supposed to be a place of support for me to slim down for my wedding, but thanks to these negative pains in my *kitten* I'm done. I'm only using my diary now.. Peace out
well, thanks for the lolz.
But seriously, HRMs aren't made for recording housework. Not sure why that fact has everyone's jimmies rustled.0 -
I agree with you, We are all here fighting our own battles and no two people are the same. The way i look at it ... If you can't be supportive then don't add or look for supports. If your not being supportive what is the need to add people your just going to tear down! Not one person here needs the negativity! Bring on the positives
Most people are in fact the same, in respects to biology and the laws of thermaldynamics. I truly worry about a society where there is no capacity to deal with anything you don't find "positive", "supportive", "nice", or what-have-you. Then again I'm from the camp that doesn't agree with the "don't say anything I don't want to hear or it's mean", over-sensitive, participation trophy for everyone agenda that seems to be becoming prevalent.0 -
First Law Of MFP Forums states that as DERP increases, Negativity must also increase.
Second Law of MFP Forums states that as negativity increases, butthurt also increases.0 -
Years of programming through violent video games, movies, rock and roll music, and a diet made entirely of sugar and energy drinks.
But for real though...we could all be a little nicer to one another.
*runs off to learn all the words to Kum ba yah*0 -
We love arguing online.
Please point us to these Success-turned-nasty threads. We wanna see...:sad:
ooooooooooooh. Must mean this one:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1129252-1200cal-day-really-works
But that is what happens in 1200 cal threads. Because - oh - nm.
That was the one that spurred my post, but I see it all the time. Someone always did it better and easier.
There are many reasons 1,200 cal "the answer" posts get "negative", and really they should be discouraged: if you are promoting any diet as "the answer", and it is unsafe for a large percentage of people, if you have any concern or personal responsibility for others, it should be discouraged. That thread, if you read the original post was PROMOTING 1200 cals as "what really works". For some it can, for some it can be life threatening, and, it's just not "what really works". Maybe its OK and safe for her, that's not the issue, the "1,200 cal diet" as promoted being "what works" is the issue.
NO calorie number from anyone is "the answer", we all have our own inherent errors, many we aren't even aware of, most aware people are still trying to figure out some of them, and some errors can even balance each other out and we think we are doing great and maybe the individual is, but those errors can cause problems for others if you apply my formula to you, and your errors don't cancel. Why use "used" data? Why not just go and create your account and start from scratch and use MFP as the tool its supposed to be? Figure your own situation out, there is no "answer", just rules to apply to your own situation, and some rules dont work as well for some situations as others, everyone needs to figure out what suits them. Touting any "answer" for all is just silly, doesn't help and truly misleads new people coming in. So, if some get "negative" on the 1200 cal fad that seems to spawn a new thread every day, I say good job alerting people there is a problem with it!
My "answer" is 2,500 cal some days, 3,000 cal other days, and that wont hurt anyone medically (except get some obese, and a few with certain conditions), but I wont promote it as "what really works" and then get mad at people who say thats too much and some saying its too little...yeah of course, it has to be applied to your situation, any number isnt "the answer"...doesn't take much to realize this.0 -
I'm going to answer this question as I just witnessed this on my totally inncocent post regarding do you log your cleaning?
People ended up *****ing about hrms and that it's ridiculous to log because it is built into sedenary lifestyle. I stood by my guns and other ladies on that post stating that basically some people don't do 4 hours cleaning or painting and also I only log 30% of Mfp estimate. F******* hate Mfp now was supposed to be a place of support for me to slim down for my wedding, but thanks to these negative pains in my *kitten* I'm done. I'm only using my diary now.. Peace out
You may find married life difficult.0 -
wtg0
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Years of programming through violent video games, movies, rock and roll music, and a diet made entirely of sugar and energy drinks.
But for real though...we could all be a little nicer to one another.
*runs off to learn all the words to Kum ba yah*
*hands over hand-woven floral wreath* Peace, brother.0 -
ETA:Gif form of saying "Whatever"0 -
nvm..dead horse is dead.0
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OP - pay attention to the stuff and the people that you like and ignore the rest.
Simples.0 -
In for the butthurt...oh and for future reference please use this form instead of another "you people are mean posts"
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You're dealing with a lot of this kind of person...0 -
Isn't this supposed to be a place of support? Time after time I see threads of success and someone rips them a new one for doing it differently then themselves. TDEE isn't for everyone. Paleo isn't for everyone. High carb high sugar eat everything in moderation isn't for everyone. But, no, people with zero medical skill pipe in about how wrong someone's diet choices are. Seriously, how awful is that? Can't we just say, "RIGHT ON!" and move along? What kind of a support system IS this?!
WHERE ARE MY POSITIVE PEOPLE AT?!
well see...the thing is that people spout all kinds of nonsense that isn't backed by any kind of science and can often be dangerous to other naive users...so some people like to point out that nonsense and actually feel that that is more supportive then just letting someone do something that's actually stupid, might be dangerous...might be a waste of time and money, etc. Most of us are also blunt and don't **** rainbows and daisies either...
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Should I just clarify... I'm not saying that telling someone, "you probably shouldn't eat 300 calories a day of pure fat and then work out 600 hours" is negative. That IS supportive. All I'm saying is, someone will say "I lost 30lbs low carb! Yay!" And then some self righteous turd will come right behind them and say something like, "Oh that's funny because I lost 34lbs eating whatever I wanted at 2000 calories".
WHAT? It's when people interject that their way is OBVIOUSLY better and totally glazing over someone else's success. That, is just plain rude.
And creating a thread like this is such a great example of being positive, supportive and not inviting confrontation?
You also failed to point out but have demonstrated an another thing that's not too popular with the community which is hypocrisy. :nocauliflowerforyou:0 -
I'm going to answer this question as I just witnessed this on my totally inncocent post regarding do you log your cleaning?
People ended up *****ing about hrms and that it's ridiculous to log because it is built into sedenary lifestyle. I stood by my guns and other ladies on that post stating that basically some people don't do 4 hours cleaning or painting and also I only log 30% of Mfp estimate. F******* hate Mfp now was supposed to be a place of support for me to slim down for my wedding, but thanks to these negative pains in my *kitten* I'm done. I'm only using my diary now.. Peace out
well, thanks for the lolz.
But seriously, HRMs aren't made for recording housework. Not sure why that fact has everyone's jimmies rustled.
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