what's with all the hate?

Constructive criticism and often blunt advice against dangerous or ill-advised weight loss schemes, yes. Hate? I've never come across that on here.

Madness is what you demonstrate
And that's exactly how anger works and operates
Man, you gotta have love just to set it straight
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y'all, y'all
People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practise what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love?

you totally stole my song quote.

how dare you?

hmmmm

how about:

I don't know the reason why we do these things
Why we fight despite all the tears and the hurt it brings
I know no one else can fill this space inside our hearts
So then why are we trying to make us break apart?

If we love each other, why do we hurt each other?
If we need each other, why do we make each other sad?
If we care about each other, why do we bring pain to one another?
Why do we make each other sad, treat each other bad?
If we love each other why do hurt each other this way?

I am sorry, this should be really off topic but these last few days I have noticed a surge in hate comments to threads and just basically people trying to find excuses to start an argument. Why is that? Why the irritation/frustration?
I know it looks like everybody's doing just because these argumentative people make more of a fuss than everybody else, so they seem to be many more than they actually are but really, I see people ridiculing things like loss of water weight, dietary choices, plateaus, when really, aren't we all on MFP just to feel encouraged and focused on our personal weight loss journeys? Why trying to put others down? it's not even constructive criticism, it's just trying to be borderline rude.
I haven't been here long, so maybe someone with more experience can explain it to me: why does it seem like arguments can start from basically every single thread in every single forum???

No. Some of us are here for honest and real truth answers and information. Those people are for us. Sorry if they bothered you, just try searching the groups lists for people more to your liking and also feel free to post a thread asking for friends of the type you seek. You could fill your friends list with them and then ask your questions on your newsfeed or just have all the high fives and WTG's that keep you motivated with none of the other stuff. I have been here nearly a year. My fave features are 1)ignore and 2) block. Hope this helps. :flowerforyou:

Hi, I was thinking the same thing. On my very first post here I was called foolish because I was eating about 800 calories per day. Someone actually deducted that it was because I was once eating too much that I was now overweight and I'm now on this diet. Ni w I was in the wrong and I admited it. I realized that 800 calories a day while exercising 1 hour (burning anywhere from 600 to 800 calories) was not a good idea but instead of being constructed they seemed like they were bulling me a bit.

I don't care enough about anyone here to hate them. I do care enough to type out a reply telling people that they don't have to make themselves completely miserable to lose weight. Then I get called "unsupportive" and "negative" for not supporting extreme or expensive weight loss gimmicks.

Then I have to care even less. That's where random gifs help.

And for the record I gained weight after pregnancy but I'm still not overweight. And even if I was she assumed that people are just overweight because they eat too much and that is not always the case. I have a cousin who every since he was a baby was a little chubby and a s he grew up he became heavier. I remember him going on trying everything and notting simed to work. The only thing that help him along with the help of exercise and dietting was a prescription pill. I don't remember what its called.

It wasn't always this way


There was a time when posters were kind
When their tone was soft
And their words encouraging
There was a time when cardio was fine
And MFP was a song
And MFP friends were inviting
Then it all…went…wrong

I dreamed a dream in bandwidth gone by
When motivation was high
And logging on worth doing
I dreamed the MFP site would never die
I dreamed the Mods would be forgiving
Then I was a noob and unafraid
And strikes were made and used and wasted
There was no reason to be made

No post untrolled
No joke unwasted
But the bullies come at night
With their mean words soft as thunder
As they tear your hope apart
And turn your gurney to shame
MFP filled my days with endless distraction
It took my productivity in real life
But it was gone when I deactivate
And still I dream I’ll recreate
That we’ll live our days online
But there are dreams that cannot be
And there are threads we cannot weather
I had a dream my MFP experience would be
So different from this hell I’m logging
So different now from what it seemed
Now your thread has killed
The dream I dreamed

Jajaja that is hilarious!

It wasn't always this way


There was a time when posters were kind
When their tone was soft
And their words encouraging
There was a time when cardio was fine
And MFP was a song
And MFP friends were inviting
Then it all…went…wrong

I dreamed a dream in bandwidth gone by
When motivation was high
And logging on worth doing
I dreamed the MFP site would never die
I dreamed the Mods would be forgiving
Then I was a noob and unafraid
And strikes were made and used and wasted
There was no reason to be made

No post untrolled
No joke unwasted
But the bullies come at night
With their mean words soft as thunder
As they tear your hope apart
And turn your gurney to shame
MFP filled my days with endless distraction
It took my productivity in real life
But it was gone when I deactivate
And still I dream I’ll recreate
That we’ll live our days online
But there are dreams that cannot be
And there are threads we cannot weather
I had a dream my MFP experience would be
So different from this hell I’m logging
So different now from what it seemed
Now your thread has killed
The dream I dreamed

It's just typical group behaviour. Initially group members tend to communicate politely, if guardedly. Then conflict arises - how the group deals with the conflict determines its future success. Groups that stay in conflict will either dismantle or become dysfunctional.

Once conflict has been resolved the group strengthens and moves past untils goals are achieved or deadlines are met and then it dismembers. Or a group keeps its impetutus but changes its members, like this one as people start, struggle and then finish their journey.

Those who cannot resolve conflict within an evolving group remain stuck there while others come and go... the Lost Boys, if you like. They make their own group etc etc...

Do you actually know EVERY thing?

Madness is what you demonstrate
And that's exactly how anger works and operates
Man, you gotta have love just to set it straight
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y'all, y'all
People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practise what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love?

I definitely stood up and waved my hands about in a care free manner...Meaness lifted

I LOVE..............................
I HAVE SO MUCH LOVE.....................................
BLISSFUL LOVE.............................

Ya, you do! LOL

We're all snowflakes hanging out inside the same snowball...
[/quote]

Some just like to be shaken more than others LOL

Madness is what you demonstrate
And that's exactly how anger works and operates
Man, you gotta have love just to set it straight
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y'all, y'all
People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practise what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love?

I definitely stood up and waved my hands about in a care free manner...Meaness lifted

Honestly, my life was made with the Les Miserables.

You win this one... you win this one.

It's just typical group behaviour. Initially group members tend to communicate politely, if guardedly. Then conflict arises - how the group deals with the conflict determines its future success. Groups that stay in conflict will either dismantle or become dysfunctional.

Once conflict has been resolved the group strengthens and moves past untils goals are achieved or deadlines are met and then it dismembers. Or a group keeps its impetutus but changes its members, like this one as people start, struggle and then finish their journey.

Those who cannot resolve conflict within an evolving group remain stuck there while others come and go... the Lost Boys, if you like. They make their own group etc etc...

Is this going to be on the test?

For sure, after she gets the 5 praises to one negative in.

It's just typical group behaviour. Initially group members tend to communicate politely, if guardedly. Then conflict arises - how the group deals with the conflict determines its future success. Groups that stay in conflict will either dismantle or become dysfunctional.

Once conflict has been resolved the group strengthens and moves past untils goals are achieved or deadlines are met and then it dismembers. Or a group keeps its impetutus but changes its members, like this one as people start, struggle and then finish their journey.

Those who cannot resolve conflict within an evolving group remain stuck there while others come and go... the Lost Boys, if you like. They make their own group etc etc...

so you're saying you're going to be gone soon?

don't tease me