A girl who activeley pursues a man with a gf...

Though I'm not saying its right, you're putting far too much blame on the girl and not your boyfriend. She isn't responsible for keeping YOUR relationship together. He is.

In my opinion, its far more pathetic to assume your boyfriend doesn't have control over his own actions and gets a free pass because some girl was pursuing him. Your boyfriend is clearly a POS. Leave him. You'll be much happier.

You deserve better. Promise.

My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.

Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.

But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.

Agree!

Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.

I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.

Having sex with her is kind of leading her on.

My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.

Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.

But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.

Agree!

Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.

I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.

I divorced him. He begs to come home daily. The grass wasn't greener.

My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.

Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.

But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.

Agree!

Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.

I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.

I divorced him. He begs to come home daily. The grass wasn't greener.

My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.

Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.

But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.

Agree!

Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.

I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.

I divorced him. He begs to come home daily. The grass wasn't greener.

The second your boyfriend is sure you are sold on his "I'm done with her" act, he'll go back to this other chick and explain away the text he sent her. And since she obviously has no self-respect, she'll buy it, and then he'll have two girlfriends again. He really thinks that both of you are that stupid, and, so far, he's been proven right.

Damn girl! Why don't you ask your BF if you can join them? Seriously, a 3some with another woman is very hot!!! Bet he'll love it!

oo ooo here you are. I asked you in another thread but forgot to look and see if you answered.... It is December...did you lose the 75 pounds?

Sadly heaps of women like doing this. They actually get off on "stealing" taken men. If a guy lets himself be "stolen" He was never yours to begin with and he is not worth your time. Sorry to say that. I don't though believe in once a cheater always. I believe there are always certain circumstances and issues and they should be voiced among partners and maybe even addressed with professional help when something like this happens.

Maybe this was a faze.. Maybe not. That's for you to decide. How ever the fact that he actually txt her and sent that shows it may have been his one off and he didn't really care all that much for her. But the moment you suspect something like this again. Just leave him. Find someone better. 5 months into a relationship isn't all that much and for him to be okay with doing this to you, ruining loyalty and most importantly your trust. That's a deal breaker.

I'm a bit all over the place with what I'd do in your shoes but I just wanted to give both positive and negative reasoning. You will make the right choice in the end.