Most awkward weight comment

An acquaintance was talking about how all the moms at her daughter's school are so fit and trim and that they don't like to hang around with "big girls like us." I mean, yeah, I've gotten a bit chubby, but dang!

UGGGGH, I totally hate comments like that. And I don't even mind being a "big girl" at all, I am still 199 and have been as big as 300 but what I hate is that women who say stuff like that are usually lumping me in with them. Like "Big girls like us gotta eat Sonic double Frisco bacon burgers, amirite?" or "BBWs like us can't get the hot guys" or "Isn't it awful shopping in Lane Bryant? There's no where else REAL WOMEN LIKE US can shop"

I'm just like no. Not just now but when I was at my heaviest. I didn't share that creepy mindset.

My most memorable awkward moment was after I had transitioned into maintenance and I ran into a friend who I hadn't seen in a while, who has a pretty blunt personality (aka no tact filter on her mouth lol), and she dug into me a bit about losing too much weight and being 'too skinny' now (and yes, she's overweight). Several minutes after this (in which I just stood there, totally flustered and embarrassed because she was saying these things in front of other people), I ran into her husband and he did a double take, mouth fell open and told me that I looked amazing :bigsmile: Funnier yet, he did this in front of my husband, got more flustered when he realized what he had said, and apologized to my husband :laugh: I love my friend, but I look pretty darn good now, thank you very much

My Grandmother who is 93 "bless her heart" has a bunch of them for me:
1. Least you have a pretty face
2. You carry the weight well
3. When you wear black you "almost" look thin
4. Its a shame you weren't taller (guess the weight would have stretched????)
5. You have a nice personality that's what counts

She sounds as sweet as my granny! God love her.

I'm getting tired of people telling me I will disappear if I lose anymore weight, :grumble:

I've been hearing this a lot and it's not bad unless it's in front of someone who's had the "I want to lose weight too." conversation with me. I do find it funny too because I need to lose at least 25lbs and possibly more once I reach that first goal.

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Had a woman rub my belly on the bus once, i just looked at her and told her I wasn't pregnant and to please stop touching me.....last time I took that bus to work. *pokes belly*

Probably too many to count. The one that sticks out the most was in college at a bar I was an average 5'6" 150 size 10/12 and a guy came up to the table sat down and proceeded to say "I know your probably self conscious about your weight but how'd you like to dance?" - Really Asshat. Then when I shot him down with an obviously snotty remark he turned to my friend and said "What about you?"

I've also had a lady tell me she thought I was the tall thin girl from another department when she first saw me (at the time I was hovering between 170-175 no where near thin) so yeah that was awkward.

So those comments obviously sting but you think once you lose the weight you won't have to deal with awkward weight comments anymore. Not so much, lately I have been dealing with "how much more weight are you going to lose" or "you just keep shrinking" comments ALL the time. It wouldn't be so bad if they weren't so constant - some days I want to shout "Yes because I have shrunk so much since you made that comment two days ago!". Now that I am at a normal BMI it is coming off very slowly so when I've only lost 2lbs in a month being baraded by those comments is just annoying.

I wanted to buy a skirt, and the smallest size they had was about a size too big. When I asked if they had the next size down, the sales lady told me they did not, and if I would just eat a couple of cheeseburgers, I'd be just fine. Uh...thanks?

The other thing that bothers me (a little) is that I'm often not offered treats at work because I "obviously" wouldn't eat them. I consume about 2500 calories per day, thankyouverymuch, but I also work out every day.

I've had so many bad experiences with this. I'm usually slender (size 6--ish, 5'6.5") until I have a kid, and both times, I gained a large amount of weight, ending up at about a size 16 when the baby is 1. Last time was 12 years ago and it took 2.5 years to get it all off again, and I ended up at about a small size 4. Now I've got a 21 month old, and I'm at a size 12. On the way down, should be there by.. 2 1/2 again. No biggie, it's what I do, apparently. Very hard work, though, and it takes so long because of all the set-backs. Anyway, here are the sort of things I hear:

[Warning my mom is a mean person]

Days after I had first daughter, we had to go from the maternity ward to Children's Hospital as dd was sick. I finally go to food court for my first meal, literally, since having the baby. This was day 4 or 5, and I'd only had *crackers* that Children's had given me. I order a ham and cheese sandwich. My mom is with me and says "You should just get a salad. Your husband is going to leave you if you stay fat like that, and who could blame him." (my baby was ok within a week, some kind of viral infection)

Day after my son was born, my mom comes to birth center to visit us. He is sick (what is it with me and sick babies!) and we're stuck there for 5 nights. I'm looking pretty beat, having, like, had a natural childbirth and now a sick baby. My mom says "let me take a photo of you, it would make a great "before" picture."

The whole time I was losing weight the first time, it came off pretty rapidly that time. I was on WW, and it was just a different time for me, so it came off about 10 lbs per month for the first 6 months! I didn't keep it a secret what I was doing, which seemed to invite a LOT of people to comment. Everyone: "Be careful not to lose too much." REALLY? It's that easy I'm going to just waste away?? I swear this was only from people who think that if *I* did something, it must be easy. That is a super unsupportive thing to say, and it's inconsiderate. It take amazing work to get fit, to lose 50+ especially. I should know, I ended up losing 100.

This past Christmas, my horrible In-Laws were here, and MIL pats my belly when I'm least expecting it, and says "I heard you are pregnant." No, she didn't hear that. (Husband had vasectomy, and I wish he'd tell everyone so they'd stop asking us if I'm pregnant). I told her later "I'm not pregnant, and I'm definitely not going to be ever again." And she said as she was leaving "I know you're keeping it a secret, I am onto you!" Wink wink, hee hee. I could have choked her!

Also this past Christmas --by the way I am a size 12 currently. I have worked out nearly every say since my baby started sleeping, at the tender age of 14 months!, which was last Spring. So for nearly a year I have worked out daily. Burning an average of 250-300 per day. So.. I have changed a lot. From a 16 to a 12, and more healthy looking. But anyway, no one noticed it, and my mom was opening gifts with us and says, randomly, to my husband who always looks the same (You look like YOU have lost weight! What's your secret?!) He has done nothing. He has like Chipotle every lunch and never works out. He looks ok, but he's not different, doesn't try. There was an awkward silence because everyone but her knew I was working out and changing, just slowly. I don't know why I have her over! But my dad is even worse and I've got to have someone from my side or else it's all in-laws, and there aren't strong enough pills to get me through *them*.

I think that's all I can remember for now. I can't wait to get to a size 8 so people will start begging me not to go all anorexic. sigh.

This thread has given me all kinds of ideas.... like if anyone ever said I was pregnant and rubbed my belly, I would just start rubbing theirs right back. Or if they asked when I was due I'd say 2017, how about you? And next time someone says I don't need to lose weight I'll whip out my belly pudge for all to see and make them feel awkward.

LOL- when the woman who stook her hand out and touched my belly asked when I was due, I said something along the lines of "Um, I'm not pregnant. That's just fat." People always feel bad after asking....but so did I.

I've lost 70 plus lbs and have been feeling really positive. I ran into someone that I haven't seen in almost a year and they asked if I was sick because I had lost weight!

I gained 40 lbs in the last 3 years(so yeah, very quickly, sigh) I started telling people I had some thyroid problems and gained weight(I don't:/) how sad is that?!

After losing a bunch of weight I get a lot of ignorant comments from people who think losing weight means never, ever, ever eating any "unhealthy" foods.

I eat a cookie or a piece of candy and it's "You're gonna get fat!" From one piece? Hardly.

I tell someone I lost weight eating the foods I like including pizza and burgers and they say, "That's impossible. You couldn't have lost weight if you ate that." And yet I did...

And then there were people warning me that I was getting too thin. Given that my weight has never dropped below 150, that was hardly a cause for concern.

I get comments like this at work all the time.
We have fajita day at work on Thursday's and once a month I'll treat myself to one, well that just sets everyone off!
People will walk by me and say "OMG YOU'RE EATING!!!" Like of course I'm eating...soooo annoying!

My Dad told me once that my *kitten* was 2 axe handles wide. HA

I look smaller than i am too. Once my trainer was doing the body fat pinchy thingy, after he calculated the number he said "Lets do that again". Then he did it a third time. Then he said "I guess you're just that big' I was 170 at the time so I was barely in the obese category but still...people should keep their opinions to themselves.

The time I told my coworker I had lost fifteen pounds and then they said ohh just ten more to go right? maybe twenty?