Just an observation....almost scared to post!

Is it time for butts and cat gifs yet?

and porn profile pics!

Is it time for butts and cat gifs yet?

and porn profile pics!

This is probably how every thread ever should always start from now on.

FTFY

Perhaps I should have said that I really haven't asked any questions, one or two, barely gotten any response, which is fine, no skin off my nose, as my mom used to say. This is just my observation in general...and from what I've observed, I WON'T be asking any questions.

There is no problem asking questions about a topic you have researched and still need clarification on. In these instances you will find many in this board you classify as mean to be truly helpful.

The problem with this thread is you called out people in general and expected what........ An apology?

There are an astonishing number of people here who give their time, their talent and their extensive knowledge to new people over and over and over again. Understandably, sometimes they become weary of people arguing with them no matter what advice is given. Of course the favorite topics have already been mentioned but if you don't want a question answered honestly, do not ask it.

The same people who have been labelled "mean," or "the wolf pack" are the same people who have answered my questions (on and off the forums) with grace, patience and kindness. Some of them are my friends, some are not. But all are valuable to me because they've saved me from magic unicorn fixes, injury from stupidity in the gym, and they make me laugh every day.

Don't mistake sarcasm and weariness for meanness. And don't waste the tremendous help these meanies can offer you. They are incredible.

I fully agree.
I don't think I would have made it as far as I have without some of those "mean" people.

The problem is very rarely in asking the question, even if it's one that's been asked a hundred times. If you sincerely ask for help and are willing to consider the advice that educated and successful people give you, you'll most likely have a pleasant experience here. If you ask a question and only want confirmation or one set of responses (particularly when it has to do with fads, pills, or unsustainable/dangerous methods) you're probably going to get hit with a lot of blunt truth.

When I first signed up, I spent a lot of time just reading through the forums to get accustomed to the culture here and gain plenty of beginner's tips. Then I took note of the people who repeatedly offered the same solid advice and had the success and experience to back it up. I've learned a lot from them.

And as in real life, the internet is comprised of all kinds of people. Some of them really are jerks. But kindness and support do not necessarily equate to hand-holding or telling someone what they want to hear. Good advice may not always sound pretty, but sometimes the best you can do for someone is to provide them with factual information and the tools they need to be successful on their own.

Both of these, 100%.

It's a fitness website with a side of entertainment. Stay focused on your goals and do not get sucked into the drama. Trust no one because one day someone you trusted will pull the carpet out from you and tell you that you are not trust worthy. I recommend your fitness and food inquiries to professionals and not ask a website full of random people because they may respond with pure entertainment that may upset you.

Well, that's forums for you. This one is a collection of adults with a common goal, so it is waaaaay better than a lot of the other ones out there. ...But the 80/20 rule still applies, 80% awesome, 20% terrible.

I'm also going to make an educated guess and say that most of the active users on here are here because they've tried every other magical sunshine diet and exercise program, and it didn't work. One of the nicest parts of this place is that you can find a large community who have hunkered down and decided to do it "the hard way" with you, and I find seeing other people who have had success with the work very inspirational.

The flip side of that coin is that those same folks don't have patience for fluffy diets and magical thinking - in a lot of cases, they've probably already tried it and know when and how it fails - they're just trying to get you the answer as quickly as possible, and may not take into account that you need a little more handholding. They also see a lot of the same questions every day, and even the most generous person loses patience from time to time. (If you've ever worked a service or help desk job, you know what I'm talking about.)

So, I guess, give it a chance. I lurked for over a year before I started posting, but it improved the experience for me, and is a motivator to keep logging. If it bothers you, narrow your focus to your chosen interests, and let the chaff fall. Good luck!

In for the cat .gifs.

These posts always end so well.

Is it time for butts and cat gifs yet?

and porn profile pics!

I knew I should keep my *kitten* on display for a little longer! I am well prepared for the meanies thread!

OP1: I'm not losing weight, what's wrong?
Veteran Member: You're probably eating more than you realize.
New-ish Member: You're putting on muscle!
OP1: I'm putting on muscle!
Veteran Member: No, and you're an idiot for not listening to me!

OP2: I'm not losing weight, what's wrong?
Veteran Member: You're eating more than you think, idiot!

Every. Single. Time.

That's because some people are thoughtless self absorbed BELL ENDS! But fear not we aren't all like that, I don't attest to know everything there is to know about this whole crazy weight loss game, but feel free to add me and I'll help where and when I can...

Perhaps I should have said that I really haven't asked any questions, one or two, barely gotten any response, which is fine, no skin off my nose, as my mom used to say. This is just my observation in general...and from what I've observed, I WON'T be asking any questions.

There is no problem asking questions about a topic you have researched and still need clarification on. In these instances you will find many in this board you classify as mean to be truly helpful.

The problem with this thread is you called out people in general and expected what........ An apology?

Nope, as I said. Just an observation. Free country and all that, which means you're all free to be as mean, insulting and childish as you'd like. We all have opinions, observations, whines, gripes, complaints, stories, advice, insults, blah, blah, blah. How you chose to reply says a lot about you to those observing.

I won't delete this thread, not that I know how, and I won't ask how either! Y'all have fun.:bigsmile:

Complains about insulting people by insulting people. These threads always go exactly the same way.

Perhaps I should have said that I really haven't asked any questions, one or two, barely gotten any response, which is fine, no skin off my nose, as my mom used to say. This is just my observation in general...and from what I've observed, I WON'T be asking any questions.

There is no problem asking questions about a topic you have researched and still need clarification on. In these instances you will find many in this board you classify as mean to be truly helpful.

The problem with this thread is you called out people in general and expected what........ An apology?

Nope, as I said. Just an observation. Free country and all that, which means you're all free to be as mean, insulting and childish as you'd like. We all have opinions, observations, whines, gripes, complaints, stories, advice, insults, blah, blah, blah. How you chose to reply says a lot about you to those observing.

I won't delete this thread, not that I know how, and I won't ask how either! Y'all have fun.:bigsmile:

I see, you are one to take helpful information and instead of using it, take offense and lash out.
Good luck with your goals!:flowerforyou:

You are so right on ! I have had to delete some of my posts because of bully`s on these board who think only their way is the right and only way to lose weight.

You mean.... like a calorie deficit?

This is neither the time nor the place for your reason.

You are so right on ! I have had to delete some of my posts because of bully`s on these board who think only their way is the right and only way to lose weight.

Agreed.

Certain people on MFP who have already lost the weight they were looking to lose think they are entitled and overall better than everyone else because they have already accomplished their goals.

I find them to be very narrow-minded. They think they have the right answer to everything. They think other individuals who are still in the process of losing weight's opinion is less valuable and accurate.

Most importantly they think what worked for them, will work for everyone else. Yes, there's only one way to lose weight: a calorie deficit. But everyone gets their calorie deficit different ways.

This sounds an awful lot like you last night in the Ketones thread. Pot, kettle?