what women shouldn't do on the first date...
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don't have sex with the waiter in front of me while we're waiting for the entrees to arrive.
same goes for bartender, valet, busboy, cashier... better yet, pretty much anybody else we might encounter while on the date.
'cause i REALLY hate when that happens!
Well dammit. This is totally where I'm going wrong :sad: All that wasted time. Good sex though. :drinker:0 -
Ladies....take notes. This is how it's done.When you date me, this is what you get....
If the place you are taking me is 30-50 dollars a plate, I am dressed in a dress with expensive shoes, tasteful make up and accessories.
If the place is 15-29 a plate, then I am in a business casual suit (skirt and blouse combo or slacks and blouse) again great shoes, nice make up and accesories
if the place is 8-15 dollars a plate I'm in jeans and a nice top (not a tee), my nice flats or boots, again tasteful make up and accessories...
I always ask what you are having and order a plate that costs less than yours does. I do not order a drink until you do, if you order water, I order water. If you order a drink I order a glass of wine.
I never talk about my ex, unless you've asked me a question about my child that requires me talking about my ex. I do not ask about yours, but may ask about your child which would prompt some back history.
I always offer to pay, I have never been taken up on it.
I am almost always over dressed since it seems that no matter what the cost of the plate, men wear jeans and a ball cap. (which I don't understand....don't you want to impress me too?)
I prefer a coffee for a first date. It's quick, short and I can easily bail if it's not working out.
I think highly of you if you open my door or hold my elbow when I'm walking across an icy parking lot.
You do NOT get sex the first night. You should expect and know this. I have a child at home it makes sense you aren't coming to my place. I have a child at home, it makes sense i'm paying for a babysitter by the hour and I'm not coming to your place for a "nightcap".
I will not text or call you after, except for one brief text/email saying I had a good/great time (if I did) and that I was glad for the opportunity to meet you.
Once I send that, I will not reach out again until YOU do.
If you don't, I assume you didn't have a great time and I am ok with that.
I don't invest too much into the first date. It's like the pre interview of a job interview. You're just scoping out the field. So am I, so realise that I have other fish in the sea and if this looks like it's heading somewhere, THEN I will stop fishing.
A couple things to add:
Do NOT be all demanding that men open doors for you, help you with your coat, pull out your chair, etc. If you want to be treated like a lady, act like a woman, not a spoiled princess. If you like that kind of stuff, mention it later. Some women like it, some don't, we don't know. Just don't be demanding about it.
When you are discussing where to go, if the guy asks you for input try to be a little bit helpful. Try not to say "I don't care", you don't have to pick the place but if you hate sushi or are a vegetarian or something then say that. I'm perfectly fine picking the place but I also want to go somewhere you feel comfortable. Plus I want to see your communicating and decision making skills.
Don't come on too strong, if we think you like us too much the challenge will be gone and we will like you less. It's not our fault, women do this too. Just play it cool, act like your having a good time but try to remain a little bit of a mystery.
If you meet someone somewhere and you get there early, let them know. This happened to me once, she showed up early, I didn't see her or recognize her from here pictures, and we both ended up getting a table. That's what text messaging was invented for.0 -
don't have sex with the waiter in front of me while we're waiting for the entrees to arrive.
same goes for bartender, valet, busboy, cashier... better yet, pretty much anybody else we might encounter while on the date.
'cause i REALLY hate when that happens!
Agreed. Also don't say "Who do I gotta blow to get a drink around here?"
.....and then mutter under your breath
"....like there is anyone in here I haven't....."0 -
scraping for the smallest hint of chemistry when all that's there is one-sided.
if it's not mutual, dont try to force it, just because he agreed to go out with you. Agreeing to go out with you doesnt mean youre great for each other. If there's no spark, let it go and move on. Dont put that much pressure on a first date. Just have fun and dont think about the future so fast.
be in the moment.
recognize the lack of, or presence of, authentic chemistry.0 -
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talk to your ex the whole night0
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Ladies....take notes. This is how it's done.When you date me, this is what you get....
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I don't invest too much into the first date. It's like the pre interview of a job interview. You're just scoping out the field. So am I, so realise that I have other fish in the sea and if this looks like it's heading somewhere, THEN I will stop fishing.
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If you meet someone somewhere and you get there early, let them know. This happened to me once, she showed up early, I didn't see her or recognize her from here pictures, and we both ended up getting a table. That's what text messaging was invented for.
Thank you.
YES! to the above! I had someone arrive early and didn't tell me, his picture was no where NEAR what he looked like. I grabbed a table and texted him only to have him tell me he was already here. THAT was embarrassing to have to get up from the table and look for him.0 -
expect the guy to pay...
Because nothing's classier than a guy asking a woman out for a first date and then expecting to divvy things up when the check comes.
LMAO:laugh:0 -
Be a debbie downer, the guy on the first date is not your best friend to vent all the frustrations in life. That was probably my worst date though I was sympathetic to the girl.0
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how Many of you have held in a fart on the first date?0
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Gah. This looks hard. Glad I nabbed a dude at at bar long ago.0
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When you date me, this is what you get....
If the place you are taking me is 30-50 dollars a plate, I am dressed in a dress with expensive shoes, tasteful make up and accessories.
If the place is 15-29 a plate, then I am in a business casual suit (skirt and blouse combo or slacks and blouse) again great shoes, nice make up and accesories
if the place is 8-15 dollars a plate I'm in jeans and a nice top (not a tee), my nice flats or boots, again tasteful make up and accessories...
I always ask what you are having and order a plate that costs less than yours does. I do not order a drink until you do, if you order water, I order water. If you order a drink I order a glass of wine.
I never talk about my ex, unless you've asked me a question about my child that requires me talking about my ex. I do not ask about yours, but may ask about your child which would prompt some back history.
I always offer to pay, I have never been taken up on it.
I am almost always over dressed since it seems that no matter what the cost of the plate, men wear jeans and a ball cap. (which I don't understand....don't you want to impress me too?)
I prefer a coffee for a first date. It's quick, short and I can easily bail if it's not working out.
I think highly of you if you open my door or hold my elbow when I'm walking across an icy parking lot.
You do NOT get sex the first night. You should expect and know this. I have a child at home it makes sense you aren't coming to my place. I have a child at home, it makes sense i'm paying for a babysitter by the hour and I'm not coming to your place for a "nightcap".
I will not text or call you after, except for one brief text/email saying I had a good/great time (if I did) and that I was glad for the opportunity to meet you.
Once I send that, I will not reach out again until YOU do.
If you don't, I assume you didn't have a great time and I am ok with that.
I don't invest too much into the first date. It's like the pre interview of a job interview. You're just scoping out the field. So am I, so realise that I have other fish in the sea and if this looks like it's heading somewhere, THEN I will stop fishing.
This is classy and I like it. However I'd probably prefer the $8-$15 place, especially for a first date.0 -
not put out! hello! i opened doors, payed for dinner and wine, the whole shebang. The least you can do is put out.
You ask her out, you paid, you opened doors ( big f deal), and you expect sex for that? Why not just hire a hooker?0 -
Ladies....take notes. This is how it's done.When you date me, this is what you get....
If the place you are taking me is 30-50 dollars a plate, I am dressed in a dress with expensive shoes, tasteful make up and accessories.
If the place is 15-29 a plate, then I am in a business casual suit (skirt and blouse combo or slacks and blouse) again great shoes, nice make up and accesories
if the place is 8-15 dollars a plate I'm in jeans and a nice top (not a tee), my nice flats or boots, again tasteful make up and accessories...
I always ask what you are having and order a plate that costs less than yours does. I do not order a drink until you do, if you order water, I order water. If you order a drink I order a glass of wine.
I never talk about my ex, unless you've asked me a question about my child that requires me talking about my ex. I do not ask about yours, but may ask about your child which would prompt some back history.
I always offer to pay, I have never been taken up on it.
I am almost always over dressed since it seems that no matter what the cost of the plate, men wear jeans and a ball cap. (which I don't understand....don't you want to impress me too?)
I prefer a coffee for a first date. It's quick, short and I can easily bail if it's not working out.
I think highly of you if you open my door or hold my elbow when I'm walking across an icy parking lot.
You do NOT get sex the first night. You should expect and know this. I have a child at home it makes sense you aren't coming to my place. I have a child at home, it makes sense i'm paying for a babysitter by the hour and I'm not coming to your place for a "nightcap".
I will not text or call you after, except for one brief text/email saying I had a good/great time (if I did) and that I was glad for the opportunity to meet you.
Once I send that, I will not reach out again until YOU do.
If you don't, I assume you didn't have a great time and I am ok with that.
I don't invest too much into the first date. It's like the pre interview of a job interview. You're just scoping out the field. So am I, so realise that I have other fish in the sea and if this looks like it's heading somewhere, THEN I will stop fishing.
A couple things to add:
Do NOT be all demanding that men open doors for you, help you with your coat, pull out your chair, etc. If you want to be treated like a lady, act like a woman, not a spoiled princess. If you like that kind of stuff, mention it later. Some women like it, some don't, we don't know. Just don't be demanding about it.
When you are discussing where to go, if the guy asks you for input try to be a little bit helpful. Try not to say "I don't care", you don't have to pick the place but if you hate sushi or are a vegetarian or something then say that. I'm perfectly fine picking the place but I also want to go somewhere you feel comfortable. Plus I want to see your communicating and decision making skills.
Don't come on too strong, if we think you like us too much the challenge will be gone and we will like you less. It's not our fault, women do this too. Just play it cool, act like your having a good time but try to remain a little bit of a mystery.
If you meet someone somewhere and you get there early, let them know. This happened to me once, she showed up early, I didn't see her or recognize her from here pictures, and we both ended up getting a table. That's what text messaging was invented for.
Is it really, though? I read through that thinking 'oh my god, too many things to remember'. I'd spend all night worrying if I'd remembered or stuck to all the 'rules'. Surely the idea of a date is to relax and enjoy yourself?0 -
I punched him, I dry humped him, I stuffed my face full of Chinese, I gave him blue balls...
8 years later...
screw the rules0 -
how Many of you have held in a fart on the first date?
Excuse me, that warrants its own thread.0 -
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NO sex on the first date, unless you're a hooker or want to look like one. Have some class, get to know the guy and devellop a relationship of some sort with him first.0
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NO sex on the first date, unless you're a hooker or want to look like one. Have some class, get to know the guy and devellop a relationship of some sort with him first.
what about sexual acts BEFORE the official first date?
asking for a friend....0 -
expect the guy to pay...
Because nothing's classier than a guy asking a woman out for a first date and then expecting to divvy things up when the check comes.
First of all, it's 2014. If there is anything a woman shouldn't do on a first date then the same would apply for men. What's good for the goose is goose for the gander.
We (women) make our own money now. There is no reason we should expect the men to be the ones to do the asking out all the time. If we expect equal pay and equal treatment in society we should be willing to pay at least our fair share on a date.
My rule is, the one who asks is the one who should pay. Then if there is a second date the other person pays.0 -
Ladies....take notes. This is how it's done.When you date me, this is what you get....
If the place you are taking me is 30-50 dollars a plate, I am dressed in a dress with expensive shoes, tasteful make up and accessories.
If the place is 15-29 a plate, then I am in a business casual suit (skirt and blouse combo or slacks and blouse) again great shoes, nice make up and accesories
if the place is 8-15 dollars a plate I'm in jeans and a nice top (not a tee), my nice flats or boots, again tasteful make up and accessories...
I always ask what you are having and order a plate that costs less than yours does. I do not order a drink until you do, if you order water, I order water. If you order a drink I order a glass of wine.
I never talk about my ex, unless you've asked me a question about my child that requires me talking about my ex. I do not ask about yours, but may ask about your child which would prompt some back history.
I always offer to pay, I have never been taken up on it.
I am almost always over dressed since it seems that no matter what the cost of the plate, men wear jeans and a ball cap. (which I don't understand....don't you want to impress me too?)
I prefer a coffee for a first date. It's quick, short and I can easily bail if it's not working out.
I think highly of you if you open my door or hold my elbow when I'm walking across an icy parking lot.
You do NOT get sex the first night. You should expect and know this. I have a child at home it makes sense you aren't coming to my place. I have a child at home, it makes sense i'm paying for a babysitter by the hour and I'm not coming to your place for a "nightcap".
I will not text or call you after, except for one brief text/email saying I had a good/great time (if I did) and that I was glad for the opportunity to meet you.
Once I send that, I will not reach out again until YOU do.
If you don't, I assume you didn't have a great time and I am ok with that.
I don't invest too much into the first date. It's like the pre interview of a job interview. You're just scoping out the field. So am I, so realise that I have other fish in the sea and if this looks like it's heading somewhere, THEN I will stop fishing.
A couple things to add:
Do NOT be all demanding that men open doors for you, help you with your coat, pull out your chair, etc. If you want to be treated like a lady, act like a woman, not a spoiled princess. If you like that kind of stuff, mention it later. Some women like it, some don't, we don't know. Just don't be demanding about it.
When you are discussing where to go, if the guy asks you for input try to be a little bit helpful. Try not to say "I don't care", you don't have to pick the place but if you hate sushi or are a vegetarian or something then say that. I'm perfectly fine picking the place but I also want to go somewhere you feel comfortable. Plus I want to see your communicating and decision making skills.
Don't come on too strong, if we think you like us too much the challenge will be gone and we will like you less. It's not our fault, women do this too. Just play it cool, act like your having a good time but try to remain a little bit of a mystery.
If you meet someone somewhere and you get there early, let them know. This happened to me once, she showed up early, I didn't see her or recognize her from here pictures, and we both ended up getting a table. That's what text messaging was invented for.
Is it really, though? I read through that thinking 'oh my god, too many things to remember'. I'd spend all night worrying if I'd remembered or stuck to all the 'rules'. Surely the idea of a date is to relax and enjoy yourself?
yes it is....it really is....
for him...and for me... this is really how it's done for some of us.
that being said, if the conversation is good and the person I'm sitting down with sharing a meal, is a great guy with a good conversational flair and sense of humor then I have a GREAT time. I know how to relax.
so it doesn't work for you...that's cool...you do you.....ultimately that is what works...
I just put out there what I do...and someone agreed with me on it. You don't have to date him or me.
that's all.
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NO sex on the first date, unless you're a hooker or want to look like one. Have some class, get to know the guy and devellop a relationship of some sort with him first.
what about sexual acts BEFORE the official first date?
asking for a friend....
I also want to know. For some "friends" who did this and have been married 10 years...0 -
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NO sex on the first date, unless you're a hooker or want to look like one. Have some class, get to know the guy and devellop a relationship of some sort with him first.
Oops, I did it wrong.
*together 12 years*0 -
Too many rules. I'm going to be single forever. It was so much easier dating when I was young!0
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I always ask what you are having and order a plate that costs less than yours does. I do not order a drink until you do, if you order water, I order water. If you order a drink I order a glass of wine.
I make my own money and will order whatever I want.0 -
Only in my opinion, but everyone is different obviously. Most of those things I consider common sense but not dealbreakers. If they can't relax and have a good time because they have to try to remember to not get wasted, talk about their ex, or not wear jeans and a baseball hat, than they're probably not my type. Nothing against them, it's probably just not a good fit.Is it really, though? I read through that thinking 'oh my god, too many things to remember'. I'd spend all night worrying if I'd remembered or stuck to all the 'rules'. Surely the idea of a date is to relax and enjoy yourself?
It's a date, I wouldn't tell anyone to not be themselves, just try to put your best foot forward. Put in some effort to look your best and act polite and it will be appreciated. It is like a job interview, I'm not going to hire a guy who can't take 2 minutes to tie a tie and acts like a jerk.0 -
Just throwing this out here, but I think you're missing the point. I believe it is offered as a courtesy. She mentioned how she always offers to pay but is never taken up on it. It is rude to insist, therefore staying within the cost parameters set up by the person paying, is courteous. She will not be inflating the bill.
I always ask what you are having and order a plate that costs less than yours does. I do not order a drink until you do, if you order water, I order water. If you order a drink I order a glass of wine.
I make my own money and will order whatever I want.0 -
So... like... paying for the hotel and being naked in less than an hour is probably a no no?0
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