need some help from pervy looks!

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How you doin'?!?

Check out Jenna Marbles on youtube and learn how to do the 'face' when someone looks at u, throw them 'the face' they'll stop perving at u, guaranteed!

Yay! Love that face! Thanks for posting this, I was trying to work out how to post this picture :flowerforyou:

This is what I don't understand about women. You exercise and train to look sexy, drss sexy, show cleavage and then complain about getting "PERVY LOOKS" I disunderstand the whole concept of wanting to look, dress and feel sexy only to have guys NOT look at you. Help me understand!

Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?

You are wrong for not understanding. Just because a woman wants to lose weight/look sexy/etc, does not mean she's doing it to impress someone else. She could be doing it for herself. Or that could just be how she is.

You're under the misconception that the entire point of a woman's existence is to impress men. It's not.

I enjoy looking at beautiful people, both male and female. Its what makes us human. Pretty sure it doesn't make me a perv, just someone who appreciates beauty in all shapes and forms.

Just because you want to look good and be healthy does NOT give someone the right to look at you like you are a piece of meat. It's freaking disgusting. You should not have to be ashamed of your body. Try not to let the nasty people affect how you feel about yourself. I know it's hard, but it's about you, not them.

Oh, get over yourself. Someone admiring how another person looks is not objectifying her, or him, or treating them like a piece of meat. I look admiringly at people of both sexes all the time. Sometimes it's because of a nice body, sometimes it's because of a pretty face. Sometimes they just have really lovely hair. Physical beauty is just one aspect of a person and it's okay to admire it. I like to look at pretty cars and buildings and flowers too, but it's not meant in a harmful way. Take the compliment or ignore it move on.

Baggy clothes and a paper bag over your head, it's the only way.

This is what I don't understand about women. You exercise and train to look sexy, drss sexy, show cleavage and then complain about getting "PERVY LOOKS" I disunderstand the whole concept of wanting to look, dress and feel sexy only to have guys NOT look at you. Help me understand!

Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?

Douche.
You're operating under this typical b.s. view that every girl gets fit and dresses attractive for your attention. The world doesn't revolve around your or guys in general. Some girls do it for looks, but most do it for themselves. They get fit to be healthy and because they like how THEY feel and how THEY LIKE their body. They wear clothes that make them feel good. It's for themselves. Women are independent entities with their own lives. They don't operate solely for the benefit of men.

There's also a difference between noticing a girl looks beautiful and staring at her in a very lecherous way that makes her uncomfortable.

Not for my attention but for someone they find attractive. Plain and simple!

I can't wait to have this problem!!! I want people to look at me and think 'whoa, helloooooooooooo!!!!

Sorry OP, I just don't understand the problem as I'd much rather have the appreciative looks than the ooh you're gross looks.

Translation : A guy is a pervert when the feelings are not mutual, and the vibe gets weird

The reason they are looking is because you look good. MFP must be working for you!! Congratulations..

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First, lots of people - of both genders - lose weight in order to improve their health, not to gain the attentions of any particular person. . . particularly a stranger. Is this a universal? Nope. People have all sorts of individual motivations.

Second, lots of people - of both genders - people-watch reflexively. When we see something that especially catches our attention, most of us have a tendency to look a bit longer. As often as not when people-watching, this is because we find something about the person spotted to be attractive. Are we automatically perving for looking? Nope. People have all sorts of individual motivations; they may even be looking at something near the person who believes s/he's being stared at.

Third, lots of people - of both genders - have personal preferences related to comfort as to the tightness of their clothes. I'm told 'skinny jeans' and yoga pants are relatively popular at the moment, and worn by people of virtually all shapes and sizes. Is there a direct, universal causation between losing weight and suddenly wanting to wear tighter clothes? Nope. People wear what they feel comfortable in, often for reasons only tangentially related to how other folks look at them.

Fourth, if we cannot instantly and accurately ascribe a motivation to a person for losing weight or getting in better shape overall, why do we think we can instantly and accurately ascribe a motivation to a person who happens to look at you? Is there any indication the person looking even knows you've made an effort to lose weight or exercise more?

So it is safe to say you won't be posting in the eye candy thread. :ohwell:

The OP question is so pathetic b/c it's so non-specific!:explode:
Men like to look at women, generally.
Conversely, women like to be looked at, generally.
There's the general answer to your general, if pathetic, question.

I'm married. My husband loves me and is all male....he thinks women are attractive. However, he tries to avoid giving his attention to another woman besides me (b/c that would hurt me). It's amazing how he has to discipline himself at work and at other times....women can be pretty aggressive about seeking that attention (not that you are doing that OP). He even stopped helping new employees train (mostly women) b/c they are almost always unprofessionally provocative. "It's not worth it" was his final word on the matter.

Basically, it's ignorant, and perhaps unkind, to have an accusing attitude toward men when that is how they are physically made (to respond to the sight of a woman). Morally speaking, my husband and I think it is wrong to give sexually provocative attention to someone other than your spouse or fiance.

I am getting the popcorn ready for this one.

The OP question is so pathetic b/c it's so non-specific!:explode:
Men like to look at women, generally.
Conversely, women like to be looked at, generally.
There's the general answer to your general, if pathetic, question.

I'm married. My husband loves me and is all male....he thinks women are attractive. However, he tries to avoid giving his attention to another woman besides me (b/c that would hurt me). It's amazing how he has to discipline himself at work and at other times....women can be pretty aggressive about seeking that attention (not that you are doing that OP). He even stopped helping new employees train (mostly women) b/c they are almost always unprofessionally provocative. "It's not worth it" was his final word on the matter.

Basically, it's ignorant, and perhaps unkind, to have an accusing attitude toward men when that is how they are physically made (to respond to the sight of a woman). Morally speaking, my husband and I think it is wrong to give sexually provocative attention to someone other than your spouse or fiance.

Yeah, I'm gonna sound in on this one. I'm married too, and my husband and I have a slightly different take on it. We both like to look at other people and can appreciate their looks and even talk to each other about it. We're married, not dead, and flirting can be fun. We don't touch other people, or kiss other people, or cheat in any way, but it's nice to notice and be noticed. You should be appreciative that your husband is attractive and appreciated by other women, and that he is still honorable and faithful to you. Let him look and enjoy, and do some looking of your own.