The meanest thing just happened :-(

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  • johnny7625
    johnny7625 Posts: 50
    you don't need anybody's approval you look great and that guy is a douche !
  • Negative_X
    Negative_X Posts: 296 Member
    Currently, i weigh 136 at 5'6. Which is 8-11 pounds lighter than my outdated pics on here (most of them I was around 144, one I was at 147) so I know im not big and blah but I'm so desperate to get to 125. I was just at the gym when this guy who is usually there when I am comes up to me for the first time and says *it's so nice to see you here so often! Once you lose 20 pounds, Youre going to look amazing.* I just said *um. I don't intend on losing 20 pounds* and he goes *well, that's my recommendation. I think you should rethink your goals.* I literally went into the lockerroom and cried :-(. Just wanted to share it. Too embarrassed to rant to anyone I know so thanks for reading.

    You definitely don't need to lose 20lbs... hell, you look perfect in your current photos.

    Disregard the *kitten*, they are everywhere and seem to be in higher concentrations at the gym. You look amazing already, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Keep up the good work!
  • LKW59
    LKW59 Posts: 28
    All I can say is . . . WOW.

    I can't believe the nerve of this guy.
  • javonjay76
    javonjay76 Posts: 48 Member
    It's a ploy......He says something mean, you'll think about, then ask him for his recommendations, he gets to know you better and then he'll ask you out.

    You look great! So that was the only way he could think of to approach you. "Break you down, make you vunerable and then pounce".

    Stir clear.... act like he doesn't exist and the conversation never happen. I'll bet you he'll approach you in the "I'm sorry if I offended you.......
  • stealthq
    stealthq Posts: 4,298 Member
    Holy hell. If a guy can be a douche to a gorgeous girl like you, then there is no hope for humanity. I just thought it was us chubby girls who got the rude comments.....

    Oh, no - everyone gets the nasty comments at some point. People better not be losing weight because they want to please everyone else. 'Cause when it comes down to it, this stuff happens at every age, gender, weight, and height. It's just more often to some than others.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Currently, i weigh 136 at 5'6. Which is 8-11 pounds lighter than my outdated pics on here (most of them I was around 144, one I was at 147) so I know im not big and blah but I'm so desperate to get to 125. I was just at the gym when this guy who is usually there when I am comes up to me for the first time and says *it's so nice to see you here so often! Once you lose 20 pounds, Youre going to look amazing.* I just said *um. I don't intend on losing 20 pounds* and he goes *well, that's my recommendation. I think you should rethink your goals.* I literally went into the lockerroom and cried :-(. Just wanted to share it. Too embarrassed to rant to anyone I know so thanks for reading.

    Wow. I would have gone all ninja on his *kitten*.

    And you look great by the way! Screw him.
  • TXRanchGirl
    TXRanchGirl Posts: 303
    Bet he doesnt have a girlfriend...LOL
  • DamianaKitten
    DamianaKitten Posts: 479 Member

    Screw him.

    I think that's what he's after. D-bags don't know how to be decent men, so they run the insult route to break women down so they'll screw 'em.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    sorry that happened to you. Just remember, that's one guys opinion, not yours. Yours is the only one that counts.
  • zapinkleopard
    zapinkleopard Posts: 49
    I would have said "Thank you! And you too are going to look great once you get in shape."
  • SydnieBean5
    SydnieBean5 Posts: 2
    "once he gets some class, he'll be a gentleman" He's an *kitten* and not worth you worrying about. Men like that are a waste of oxygen, so don't waste your energy dwelling on his worthless opinion.
  • traerjudy
    traerjudy Posts: 36 Member
    What an *kitten*. Total butt!
  • jkolbe94
    jkolbe94 Posts: 23
    That makes me so mad. Flashback to every rude comment on my weight...
    Thing is, though, you're gorgeous. Doesn't look like you have an ounce on you that's not supposed to be there. I've always been the "fat girl," and I've grown tough skin because of it.

    Just shoot back a snarky comment next time :)
    Keep your chin up, and prove that douche bag wrong
  • Marcia315
    Marcia315 Posts: 460 Member
    When I was in my 20's, a remark like that would have made me cry and re-evaluate my goals.

    Now that I'm in my 40's, I either would have punched the guy, or told him to go **** himself.

    Sometimes getting old is nice.
  • Marcia315
    Marcia315 Posts: 460 Member
    I would have said "Thank you! And you too are going to look great once you get in shape."

    Or "I can lose weight. However, you will always be a dumb as$."
  • ChaplainHeavin
    ChaplainHeavin Posts: 426 Member
    I would have said "Thank you! And you too are going to look great once you get in shape."

    Now that was funny.
  • Grendel07
    Grendel07 Posts: 112 Member
    Currently, i weigh 136 at 5'6. Which is 8-11 pounds lighter than my outdated pics on here (most of them I was around 144, one I was at 147) so I know im not big and blah but I'm so desperate to get to 125. I was just at the gym when this guy who is usually there when I am comes up to me for the first time and says *it's so nice to see you here so often! Once you lose 20 pounds, Youre going to look amazing.* I just said *um. I don't intend on losing 20 pounds* and he goes *well, that's my recommendation. I think you should rethink your goals.* I literally went into the lockerroom and cried :-(. Just wanted to share it. Too embarrassed to rant to anyone I know so thanks for reading.

    Girl, dont let this jerk get to you. Honestly, I dont take comments like that lightly. Espeically to my face. I would have told this a** to go f-himself and that my body is NOT his business to make comments like that; I'm NOT your wife or girlfriend.

    Please dont cry; you're too beautiful to cry. I know other people can be so mean but this world is mean. You must ignore those types of people. Next time you see him in the gym, avoid him. Give him the evil eye if he looks your way. If he tries to talk to you; tell him to leave you alone. There is so much power that you're giving him, that power should belong to you. Be happy with yourself; only you know how far you've come on your journey. Who cares what a nobody thinks? Stay strong Beautiful!
  • 73Laine
    73Laine Posts: 63 Member
    Imagine how he wud treat a wife/girlfriend, if walking up to a stranger and say such as this. If u were the least interrested in him i hope u never give him the time of day now.
    I agree with others that u losing 20lbs wud make u look too skinny. Ur a very pretty young lady and looks like ur already at a good weight, so do not let his opinon bother u.
  • Citrislazer
    Citrislazer Posts: 312 Member
    I would have said "Thank you! And you too are going to look great once you get in shape."

    Or "I can lose weight. However, you will always be a dumb as$."

    Agreed! With thee above. Get even! Don't let anyone get to you like that again. You look amazing! Don't believe anyone who tells you otherwise. If anyone does something like that again, embarrass the heck out of them.
  • fast_eddie_72
    fast_eddie_72 Posts: 719 Member
    What a ****.
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    I would have said "Thank you! And you too are going to look great once you get in shape."

    Or "I can lose weight. However, you will always be a dumb as$."
    Or...

    I can always lose weight, but no matter how many weights you lift if won't make up for your small penis.
  • Josalinn
    Josalinn Posts: 1,066 Member
    Aw sweetie, I know how you feel. I would have probably done the exact same as you. I would LOVE to have the confidence that many of the posters have expressed in telling him off, and I know I wouldn't have it. I would also love to be at your weight :flowerforyou:

    You are gorgeous. He is a butt wipe. You are a fabulous person who has already had huge success in her weight loss journey. He doesn't even have the right to talk to you.

    That said, I agree with some others about your goal weight. Being at "insert weight here" isn't nearly as important as body comp. Why do you want to be at 125? What are your other measurements? Do you lift? Lifting can bring definition and tighten everything up if you are unhappy with your overall look. But I still say you look fab :drinker:
  • urban_ninja
    urban_ninja Posts: 175 Member
    Ignore that dumb@ss. He's butt-juice! You're gorgeous. You should just get Samuel Jackson on his @ss and say, "I didn't ask you a Godd@mn thing!"
  • wonderwoman234
    wonderwoman234 Posts: 551 Member
    Guys who are really, really insecure sometimes use a strategy of putting a girl down so that they can feel power over her and feel better about themselves. I once dated a guy who all of my friends thought was well below my league. He used to say crap like that to me all the time when I was skinny and smokin' hot. Turns out he didn't think he wasn't good enough for me (which he wasn't) and he dealt with it by putting me down. I dumped his *kitten*.

    I think what happened at the gym has nothing to do with you or your body or your looks (which are all gorgeous). It has everything to do with the little weenie who said those things to you. He saw a gorgeous girl he could never have (you) and put you down to make himself feel better.

    Next time you see him, just smile and laugh.
  • _Terrapin_
    _Terrapin_ Posts: 4,301 Member
    Currently, i weigh 136 at 5'6. Which is 8-11 pounds lighter than my outdated pics on here (most of them I was around 144, one I was at 147) so I know im not big and blah but I'm so desperate to get to 125. I was just at the gym when this guy who is usually there when I am comes up to me for the first time and says *it's so nice to see you here so often! Once you lose 20 pounds, Youre going to look amazing.* I just said *um. I don't intend on losing 20 pounds* and he goes *well, that's my recommendation. I think you should rethink your goals.* I literally went into the lockerroom and cried :-(. Just wanted to share it. Too embarrassed to rant to anyone I know so thanks for reading.

    BuMp....just 'cause...
  • Jezebel9
    Jezebel9 Posts: 396 Member
    sounds like a grade A douche ….

    When you let things bother you like that you let the Ahole win it is best to just ignore them and just brush off…


    or you could of always say, and when you put about 15 pounds of muscle on you will look a lot better too …


    unless of course he was already shredded…


    I think your pic looks hot…:) So screw the F'r...

    THIS^
    A quick and useful comeback I keep in my pocket for moments when people are suggesting I change so that I can please them with the way I look, "I didn't ask for your opinion and I'm not here to look the way you want me to."
  • Josalinn
    Josalinn Posts: 1,066 Member
    Oh should mention if he tries to talk to you again and you tell him to leave you alone and he doesn't, report his sorry a** to the front desk. Get him suspended!:devil:
  • JONZ64
    JONZ64 Posts: 1,280 Member
    Go buy a skeleton put a bikini on it and tell him you bought him a sex toy, since apparantley THAT'S his style of woman:tongue:
  • AmykinsCatfood
    AmykinsCatfood Posts: 599 Member
    What a douchecanoe.
  • fast_eddie_72
    fast_eddie_72 Posts: 719 Member
    Man, fascinating insight from the women posting in this thread! I think you're all exactly right. He's an *kitten* hole, but in a weird way, he was trying to compliment you. I think they may be right. It was just a really, really bad pick up line. lol Another reminder of one of the things about the world that makes me scratch my head. So many losers who end up with women. But I have known guys who were just fantastic human beings who end up being alone, mostly because they don't say anything at all to women. It's just sad. That dude will find some woman who feels bad enough about herself to end up with his lousy *kitten* while some great guy who doesn't say anything will stay lonely.

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