Men, how do you feel about SAHM?

I have a strong opinion on this, so let's see where it gets me.

Being a young mother and a single mom, I worked to support my son and myself. I knew and still see many, many young women who have "stay at home mom' as their job title on facebook or whatever other social media. That's not a job, that's parenting. A job is what I do 8-10 hours a day and then come home and do all the things you do but in a couple hours.

The part that bothers me is people who have a stay at home parent who utilize government assistance. To me, being a stay at home parent is a luxury. You shouldn't qualify for government assistance when you CHOOSE not to work. I'm ashamed to say that I know of at least 10 young mothers who consider 'stay at home' parenting a job and collect welfare to supplement their lack of income.

Do you pay for child care? Are you aware of the cost of child care? Not everyone can have a family member watch their child AND work.

You don't get to call the shots on who deserves assistance and who doesn't. I'll bet money you're exaggerating on all of these young moms who live the high life on welfare.

Yes, I have paid for child care since my son was 6 weeks old. Thankfully he's in school now so I pay less. Do most states not have childcare vouchers for working parents? I know my state does and that's something I would support. Parents are more likely to better their financial situation and get off of assistance by working, as opposed to making it a career. In all honesty, I could probably think of over 20 young women who stay at home by choice, if I took the time.

So if I were to say that I would rather stay at home with my child (which I would), guit my job and go on government assistance for 18 years, you think that's ok? What if every mother did the same, would we have to enact a law that provided income to stay at home parents?

Fun Fact: it's no one's business that someone else gets assistance for "staying home by choice"

when the public contributes to said assistance, then yes, it is.

you honestly think youre entitled to stay home and collect because childcare is expensive?
i would feel a tremendous amount of guilt if i did that.

when the public contributes to said assistance, then yes, it is.

you honestly think youre entitled to stay home and collect because childcare is expensive?
i would feel a tremendous amount of guilt if i did that.

I have been a SAHM for 12 years now.. but Have always worked from home doing various business ventures. I will add I have five kids and having a job outside the house would be impossible with childcare costs etc. I CHOOSE to have five kids.. and i believe in making that choice it would have not made sense for me to CHOOSE to have a job outside the home. If i wanted to have a job outside the home i would have CHOSEN to have less children.

I don't think people can compare each others situation and determine which is harder. Everybodys situations are different and by that I mean, relationship status, Children (characteristics) , family situations (grandparents etc around to help), finances etc.

I find these arguments and question so stupid. its like the moms who compare there kids etc.. who bloody well cares when your child was reading, or how many sports, or when they lost there teeth.. point is, we are all different, we all strive to do whats best for us and our families and everyones BEST is different. Thats what makes the world an exciting place. I think the real issue in parenting and motherhood etc is the relationships we have with our family as a whole.

Am i saying I love being a stay at home mom.. no, not always, sometimes yes. I feel lost in it, i feel lost in my kids, I feel that sometimes my value is determined by my children and thats a WHOLE other issue. Threads like this are really stupid.. and they are started by people who don't have a clue and perhaps think that we all function the same way. WE DON'T!!!

NOW I NEED A CAT GIF TO MAKE ME LAUGH AGAIN.. ANYONE ANYONE?

I could go into detail about corporations benefiting more from taxes than single moms cheating the system and getting a handout. I'm pretty sure it was also our tax dollars that fund wars, and all of that other political crap I really shouldn't get into. It's called being an adult. People pay taxes, regardless if they want to or not. (I mean, another example is that the streets aren't magically plowed by snow angels in the winter)
I also like to not assume what other people are doing because, you know, I have my own stuff I need to worry about.

You have a say in where your tax dollars go, its called voting.

Oh, I forgot I get to pick and choose where my own tax dollars go. Damn, I must have missed that at the booths.

I could go into detail about corporations benefiting more from taxes than single moms cheating the system and getting a handout. I'm pretty sure it was also our tax dollars that fund wars, and all of that other political crap I really shouldn't get into. It's called being an adult. People pay taxes, regardless if they want to or not. (I mean, another example is that the streets aren't magically plowed by snow angels in the winter)
I also like to not assume what other people are doing because, you know, I have my own stuff I need to worry about.

I could go into detail about corporations benefiting more from taxes than single moms cheating the system and getting a handout. I'm pretty sure it was also our tax dollars that fund wars, and all of that other political crap I really shouldn't get into. It's called being an adult. People pay taxes, regardless if they want to or not. (I mean, another example is that the streets aren't magically plowed by snow angels in the winter)
I also like to not assume what other people are doing because, you know, I have my own stuff I need to worry about.

"It's ok to steal from working families because corporations do it", what a wonderful nugget of knowledge from a person struggling to survive off the bare minimum. If bare minimum means having an iPhone with a data plan, a fitbit, treadmill and more recent cliché ink than a 20 year sailor.

I love how you call "paying taxes" a fact of being an adult. When do you plan on growing up and becoming an adult like the rest of us you live so well off of?

I could go into detail about corporations benefiting more from taxes than single moms cheating the system and getting a handout. I'm pretty sure it was also our tax dollars that fund wars, and all of that other political crap I really shouldn't get into. It's called being an adult. People pay taxes, regardless if they want to or not. (I mean, another example is that the streets aren't magically plowed by snow angels in the winter)
I also like to not assume what other people are doing because, you know, I have my own stuff I need to worry about.

"It's ok to steal from working families because corporations do it", what a wonderful nugget of knowledge from a person struggling to survive off the bare minimum. If bare minimum means having an iPhone with a data plan, a fitbit, treadmill and more recent cliché ink than a 20 year sailor.

I love how you call "paying taxes" a fact of being an adult. When do you plan on growing up and becoming an adult like the rest of us you live so well off of?

You couldn't pay me to answer this honestly.

We don't pay trolls.

i just can't stomach a child saying "I want to be a stay at home parent when I grow up". If it happens for the right reasons of nurturing and behavioural development concerns, then awesome. But having it as a goal. Can't stop facepalming.

Eh, I am sure it is rough in the beginning, but once the children are of school age, then I can't see how it is hard. You have 8-9 hours to do whatever you please

I was waiting for this to escalate into political mud-slinging......Some people really hate the poor these days, eh?

I just hate lazy people. Rich or poor don't matter to me.

I also hate Butterfingers. They are to sticky in my teeth. Each bite ensures a new cavity.

So how is it like being a pregnant man who cheated on his hubby with a black man? Is it all sunshine and butterflies?

I never said black. You just assumed that.
I sense you are racist...

I was waiting for this to escalate into political mud-slinging......Some people really hate the poor these days, eh?

Criticizing a small section of the poor does not equal hating on all poor people. Nice spin though.

I was waiting for this to escalate into political mud-slinging......Some people really hate the poor these days, eh?

Criticizing a small section of the poor does not equal hating on all poor people. Nice spin though.

And does b*tching about this supposed small percentage help? I would prefer my taxes help those who are less fortunate, even if that might mean one or two cheaters of the system benefit as well.