Why do people get so mean?

Alluminati · May 2014

michelle duggar

PikaKnight · May 2014

everybody please to vote
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Chewbacca. Real men have a *kitten* ton of fur.

Going to have to respectfully agree about the real men having fur. There are some that don't and are just as hot..and just as real

1princesswarrior · May 2014

Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.

I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.

An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.

I just...I can't stop watching...

Oddly mesmerizing, isn't it?

firewalking · May 2014

I am a director of human resources, and I can tell you that people do NOT always think before they type. Some individuals are downright crass and do not like to be "challenged" with new ideas or thoughts. Weight loss is very personal and some people just need to be right.

I too have been subjected to these rude individuals and the only thing I can tell you is that you cannot change other people; you can only change and/or control your response. These people who are upsetting you do not pay your bills, hang out with you or your friends, work with you, and will likely never go to your funeral. Ignore them - they cannot get to you if you do not let them - that is a choice you are fully in control of!

If it is really bad, send an e-mail to the site - they take this very seriously. Remember though, what one thinks is offensive may not be offensive to every/anyone else.

Don't waste the anger...use it to get in a great workout!

ccmzone2013 · May 2014

People are always envious . . .

Just block them . . Life is Easier That Way!

Never Give Up!

sloth3toes · May 2014

michelle duggar

Alluminati · May 2014

michelle duggar

:smokin:

AtticWindow · May 2014

Actually, I think "sourpuss" might be more appropriate than "mean"; mean suggests an aggression you don't really see before it gets locked by moderators. It's more like, "Hey, you clean eating kids, get off my lawn, rabble rabble!" and then equally sourpuss clean eating kids sulking away.

which kind of kid are you?

SourPATCH, motha****a.

LiftAllThePizzas · May 2014

H̶o̶n̶e̶s̶t̶l̶y̶,̶ ̶I̶ ̶t̶h̶i̶n̶k̶ ̶i̶t̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶t̶i̶m̶e̶ ̶M̶F̶P̶ ̶m̶o̶d̶e̶r̶a̶t̶o̶r̶s̶ ̶g̶e̶t̶ ̶m̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶i̶n̶v̶o̶l̶v̶e̶d̶ ̶w̶h̶e̶n̶ ̶p̶e̶o̶p̶l̶e̶ ̶g̶e̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶m̶e̶a̶n̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶r̶e̶s̶p̶e̶c̶t̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶i̶n̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶s̶e̶ ̶p̶o̶s̶t̶s̶.̶ ̶ ̶I̶t̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶a̶ ̶b̶i̶g̶ ̶t̶u̶r̶n̶ ̶o̶f̶f̶.̶ ̶ ̶Y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶f̶o̶r̶ ̶h̶e̶l̶p̶,̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶b̶e̶c̶a̶u̶s̶e̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶'̶r̶e̶ ̶s̶c̶a̶r̶e̶d̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶,̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶r̶e̶a̶c̶h̶ ̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶f̶e̶l̶l̶o̶w̶ ̶m̶a̶n̶ ̶(̶o̶r̶ ̶w̶o̶m̶a̶n̶)̶ ̶b̶e̶c̶a̶u̶s̶e̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶h̶o̶p̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶g̶e̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶e̶m̶p̶a̶t̶h̶y̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶h̶e̶l̶p̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶g̶u̶i̶d̶a̶n̶c̶e̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶.̶ ̶ ̶W̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶h̶a̶p̶p̶e̶n̶s̶ ̶f̶a̶r̶ ̶t̶o̶o̶ ̶o̶f̶t̶e̶n̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶a̶r̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶l̶d̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶'̶r̶e̶ ̶a̶ ̶j̶e̶r̶k̶,̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶w̶r̶o̶n̶g̶,̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶s̶t̶u̶p̶i̶d̶,̶ ̶e̶t̶c̶.̶

W̶h̶e̶n̶ ̶h̶a̶v̶e̶ ̶w̶e̶,̶ ̶a̶s̶ ̶a̶ ̶s̶o̶c̶i̶e̶t̶y̶,̶ ̶l̶o̶s̶t̶ ̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶a̶b̶i̶l̶i̶t̶y̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶c̶o̶u̶r̶t̶e̶o̶u̶s̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶f̶e̶l̶l̶o̶w̶ ̶h̶u̶m̶a̶n̶ ̶b̶e̶i̶n̶g̶s̶?̶ ̶ ̶I̶s̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶a̶n̶o̶n̶y̶m̶i̶t̶y̶ ̶i̶n̶h̶e̶r̶e̶n̶t̶ ̶i̶n̶ ̶t̶h̶i̶s̶ ̶s̶i̶t̶e̶ ̶a̶ ̶r̶e̶a̶s̶o̶n̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶r̶u̶d̶e̶?̶ ̶ ̶Y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶a̶n̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶a̶g̶r̶e̶e̶ ̶w̶i̶t̶h̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶o̶n̶e̶ ̶w̶i̶t̶h̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶b̶e̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶h̶o̶r̶r̶i̶b̶l̶e̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶r̶e̶s̶p̶e̶c̶t̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶i̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶A̶n̶d̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶a̶n̶'̶t̶ ̶d̶o̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶,̶ ̶ maybe you should just ignore that particular post that ticks you off so much and move on!

W̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶w̶r̶o̶n̶g̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶a̶n̶e̶c̶d̶o̶t̶a̶l̶ ̶o̶b̶s̶e̶r̶v̶a̶t̶i̶o̶n̶s̶?̶ ̶ ̶S̶o̶ ̶m̶a̶n̶y̶ ̶p̶e̶o̶p̶l̶e̶ ̶w̶a̶n̶t̶ ̶s̶t̶u̶f̶f̶ ̶"̶b̶a̶c̶k̶e̶d̶ ̶u̶p̶ ̶w̶i̶t̶h̶ ̶s̶c̶i̶e̶n̶c̶e̶"̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶s̶c̶o̶f̶f̶ ̶a̶t̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶s̶e̶ ̶o̶n̶e̶-̶o̶f̶f̶ ̶s̶t̶o̶r̶i̶e̶s̶,̶ ̶b̶u̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶i̶m̶e̶s̶,̶ ̶t̶h̶i̶s̶ ̶l̶e̶a̶d̶s̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶s̶c̶i̶e̶n̶t̶i̶f̶i̶c̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶c̶o̶v̶e̶r̶i̶e̶s̶.̶ ̶ ̶T̶h̶e̶s̶e̶ ̶"̶a̶n̶e̶c̶d̶o̶t̶e̶s̶"̶ ̶m̶a̶y̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶n̶e̶x̶t̶ ̶d̶e̶c̶a̶d̶e̶'̶s̶ ̶"̶s̶c̶i̶e̶n̶c̶e̶"̶!̶ ̶ ̶A̶n̶d̶ ̶e̶v̶e̶n̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶y̶ ̶a̶r̶e̶ ̶n̶o̶t̶,̶ ̶w̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶h̶a̶r̶m̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶i̶t̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶p̶o̶l̶i̶t̶e̶l̶y̶ ̶h̶e̶a̶r̶ ̶a̶n̶o̶t̶h̶e̶r̶ ̶p̶e̶r̶s̶o̶n̶'̶s̶ ̶e̶x̶p̶e̶r̶i̶e̶n̶c̶e̶?̶ ̶ ̶Y̶o̶u̶ ̶m̶i̶g̶h̶t̶ ̶a̶c̶t̶u̶a̶l̶l̶y̶ ̶f̶i̶n̶d̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶h̶e̶l̶p̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶u̶s̶e̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶i̶n̶ ̶i̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶A̶n̶d̶,̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶n̶o̶t̶,̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶'̶r̶e̶ ̶f̶r̶e̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶i̶g̶n̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶i̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶N̶o̶ ̶o̶n̶e̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶t̶w̶i̶s̶t̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶a̶r̶m̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶d̶o̶ ̶a̶n̶y̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶d̶o̶n̶'̶t̶ ̶f̶e̶e̶l̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶h̶e̶a̶l̶t̶h̶y̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶r̶i̶g̶h̶t̶ ̶f̶o̶r̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶.̶

I̶ ̶w̶i̶s̶h̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶p̶e̶o̶p̶l̶e̶ ̶w̶o̶u̶l̶d̶ ̶r̶e̶m̶e̶m̶b̶e̶r̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶"̶G̶o̶l̶d̶e̶n̶ ̶R̶u̶l̶e̶"̶.̶ ̶ ̶T̶r̶e̶a̶t̶ ̶o̶t̶h̶e̶r̶s̶ ̶a̶s̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶w̶o̶u̶l̶d̶ ̶l̶i̶k̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶t̶r̶e̶a̶t̶e̶d̶.̶

J̶u̶s̶t̶ ̶m̶y̶ ̶t̶h̶o̶u̶g̶h̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶N̶o̶w̶,̶ ̶I̶ ̶s̶u̶p̶p̶o̶s̶e̶,̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶s̶ ̶m̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶h̶o̶r̶r̶i̶b̶l̶e̶ ̶b̶e̶h̶a̶v̶i̶o̶r̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶w̶e̶,̶ ̶a̶s̶ ̶a̶ ̶s̶p̶e̶c̶i̶e̶s̶,̶ ̶h̶a̶v̶e̶ ̶p̶e̶r̶f̶e̶c̶t̶e̶d̶.̶:̶c̶r̶y̶:̶

QueenBishOTUniverse · May 2014

Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.

I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.

An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.

Again with the passive. I assure you at no point is my aggression ever passive. I just use snark to avoid getting a strike

fallingtrees · May 2014

In almost every thread I follow, there is at least one jerk who has to cut down the person who asked the question. Everyone has to be a beginner sometime, and there are no dumb questions.

Honestly, maybe if everyone reported the rotten apples, we could remove them.

To that jerk in every thread: Hey Buddy, nobody forced you to read this. Go away.

countscalories · May 2014

Have a nice day!

delicious_cocktail · May 2014

Now, I suppose, comes more horrible behavior that we, as a species, have perfected.

I'm certain this observation has been made, but I just don't have the time to waste reading the pages of well-earned hostility you've received.

Fact is, you knew exactly what was going to happen when you wrote this, it was intentionally provocative, and you even hung a little lampshade on your self-fulfilling prophecy when you wrote this last sentence.

Way to troll! Nice to have you on board.

countscalories · May 2014

EXCELLENT!

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PikaKnight · May 2014

If you're specifically referring to this topic or others like it (http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1283974-it-starts-with-nutrition), the reason people, including myself, jump on LaMarques Carter is because he is trying to sell a product. His information is not backed up by proper peer-reviewed studies, he never sticks around to even have civil discourse about it - he just blatantly plugs Herbalife in an effort to take advantage of those new to fitness and looking for "help."

It's not being mean, it's standing up for those who don't know any better and preventing them from getting scammed.

No. She's not upset about that thread specifically. She's upset someone brought up her own thread about clean eating in that thread.

Quarkles · May 2014

Just wanted to throw this out there - the 'mean' people on here are awesome. I've learned so much from their 'bullying' and 'rudeness' and the advice I've read (that most thread OPs ignore because it's not sugar-coated unicorn farts) has helped me immensely.
I mean...GAWD, I thought MFP was here to SUPPORT people, not tell them that their bad ideas are bad!

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jofjltncb6 · May 2014

If you're specifically referring to this topic or others like it (http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1283974-it-starts-with-nutrition), the reason people, including myself, jump on LaMarques Carter is because he is trying to sell a product. His information is not backed up by proper peer-reviewed studies, he never sticks around to even have civil discourse about it - he just blatantly plugs Herbalife in an effort to take advantage of those new to fitness and looking for "help."

It's not being mean, it's standing up for those who don't know any better and preventing them from getting scammed.

No. She's not upset about that thread specifically. She's upset someone brought up her own thread about clean eating in that thread.

Threadception.

Strokingdiction · May 2014

If you're specifically referring to this topic or others like it (http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1283974-it-starts-with-nutrition), the reason people, including myself, jump on LaMarques Carter is because he is trying to sell a product. His information is not backed up by proper peer-reviewed studies, he never sticks around to even have civil discourse about it - he just blatantly plugs Herbalife in an effort to take advantage of those new to fitness and looking for "help."

It's not being mean, it's standing up for those who don't know any better and preventing them from getting scammed.

No. She's not upset about that thread specifically. She's upset someone brought up her own thread about clean eating in that thread.

Threadception.

cychogal · May 2014

I can see both sides of this issue. I feel bad for people, and myself, when someone treats their question or comment like it is stupid.
But the more I check out the message boards, the more I see that it truly is the same darn thing every day. So I understand why some questions get the responses they do.
I have learned to use the 'search' function for many of my questions. And only if I want more opinions or don't find the information I'm looking for, will I post a question.
I love the reality you have to face when you come on these boards. If you post something about doing a grapefruit cleanse, or injecting yourself with whatever it is they inject in people to help them lose weight, then there will be tons of posts about how ridiculous that stuff is.
And I like it because I agree with that. But I sometimes get my head turned. I could see myself falling for some stupid diet scheme, but I come on here and to a little research and I can see clearly again.
So I guess if you get upset by some of the comments, you need to develop a thicker skin. And try to not let being offended steer you away from some really great, sound advice.

Sharon_C · May 2014

Just wanted to throw this out there - the 'mean' people on here are awesome. I've learned so much from their 'bullying' and 'rudeness' and the advice I've read (that most thread OPs ignore because it's not sugar-coated unicorn farts) has helped me immensely.

This x100. I love reading the threads full of snark because I always learn something from the discussion and I can draw my own conclusions from pros and cons that always emerge from the posts. Some people on here are incredibly knowledgable about weight loss and weight lifting and I owe nearly everything to them for introducing me to the proper way to lose weight and to build muscles. And some people are just downright humorous. And some people take themselves way too seriously.

I have a motto that I've adopted over the past year that I think explains it perfectly: We live in a land of the perpetually offended.

People need to stop being so uptight and so darn serious. Live a little, laugh a lot and your life will be so much better.

ninerbuff · May 2014

H̶o̶n̶e̶s̶t̶l̶y̶,̶ ̶I̶ ̶t̶h̶i̶n̶k̶ ̶i̶t̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶t̶i̶m̶e̶ ̶M̶F̶P̶ ̶m̶o̶d̶e̶r̶a̶t̶o̶r̶s̶ ̶g̶e̶t̶ ̶m̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶i̶n̶v̶o̶l̶v̶e̶d̶ ̶w̶h̶e̶n̶ ̶p̶e̶o̶p̶l̶e̶ ̶g̶e̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶m̶e̶a̶n̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶r̶e̶s̶p̶e̶c̶t̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶i̶n̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶s̶e̶ ̶p̶o̶s̶t̶s̶.̶ ̶ ̶I̶t̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶a̶ ̶b̶i̶g̶ ̶t̶u̶r̶n̶ ̶o̶f̶f̶.̶ ̶ ̶Y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶f̶o̶r̶ ̶h̶e̶l̶p̶,̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶b̶e̶c̶a̶u̶s̶e̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶'̶r̶e̶ ̶s̶c̶a̶r̶e̶d̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶,̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶r̶e̶a̶c̶h̶ ̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶f̶e̶l̶l̶o̶w̶ ̶m̶a̶n̶ ̶(̶o̶r̶ ̶w̶o̶m̶a̶n̶)̶ ̶b̶e̶c̶a̶u̶s̶e̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶h̶o̶p̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶g̶e̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶ ̶e̶m̶p̶a̶t̶h̶y̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶h̶e̶l̶p̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶g̶u̶i̶d̶a̶n̶c̶e̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶.̶ ̶ ̶W̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶h̶a̶p̶p̶e̶n̶s̶ ̶f̶a̶r̶ ̶t̶o̶o̶ ̶o̶f̶t̶e̶n̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶a̶r̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶l̶d̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶'̶r̶e̶ ̶a̶ ̶j̶e̶r̶k̶,̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶w̶r̶o̶n̶g̶,̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶s̶t̶u̶p̶i̶d̶,̶ ̶e̶t̶c̶.̶

W̶h̶e̶n̶ ̶h̶a̶v̶e̶ ̶w̶e̶,̶ ̶a̶s̶ ̶a̶ ̶s̶o̶c̶i̶e̶t̶y̶,̶ ̶l̶o̶s̶t̶ ̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶a̶b̶i̶l̶i̶t̶y̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶c̶o̶u̶r̶t̶e̶o̶u̶s̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶f̶e̶l̶l̶o̶w̶ ̶h̶u̶m̶a̶n̶ ̶b̶e̶i̶n̶g̶s̶?̶ ̶ ̶I̶s̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶a̶n̶o̶n̶y̶m̶i̶t̶y̶ ̶i̶n̶h̶e̶r̶e̶n̶t̶ ̶i̶n̶ ̶t̶h̶i̶s̶ ̶s̶i̶t̶e̶ ̶a̶ ̶r̶e̶a̶s̶o̶n̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶r̶u̶d̶e̶?̶ ̶ ̶Y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶a̶n̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶a̶g̶r̶e̶e̶ ̶w̶i̶t̶h̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶o̶n̶e̶ ̶w̶i̶t̶h̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶b̶e̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶h̶o̶r̶r̶i̶b̶l̶e̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶r̶e̶s̶p̶e̶c̶t̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶i̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶A̶n̶d̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶c̶a̶n̶'̶t̶ ̶d̶o̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶,̶ ̶ maybe you should just ignore that particular post that ticks you off so much and move on!

W̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶w̶r̶o̶n̶g̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶a̶n̶e̶c̶d̶o̶t̶a̶l̶ ̶o̶b̶s̶e̶r̶v̶a̶t̶i̶o̶n̶s̶?̶ ̶ ̶S̶o̶ ̶m̶a̶n̶y̶ ̶p̶e̶o̶p̶l̶e̶ ̶w̶a̶n̶t̶ ̶s̶t̶u̶f̶f̶ ̶"̶b̶a̶c̶k̶e̶d̶ ̶u̶p̶ ̶w̶i̶t̶h̶ ̶s̶c̶i̶e̶n̶c̶e̶"̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶s̶c̶o̶f̶f̶ ̶a̶t̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶s̶e̶ ̶o̶n̶e̶-̶o̶f̶f̶ ̶s̶t̶o̶r̶i̶e̶s̶,̶ ̶b̶u̶t̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶i̶m̶e̶s̶,̶ ̶t̶h̶i̶s̶ ̶l̶e̶a̶d̶s̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶s̶c̶i̶e̶n̶t̶i̶f̶i̶c̶ ̶d̶i̶s̶c̶o̶v̶e̶r̶i̶e̶s̶.̶ ̶ ̶T̶h̶e̶s̶e̶ ̶"̶a̶n̶e̶c̶d̶o̶t̶e̶s̶"̶ ̶m̶a̶y̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶n̶e̶x̶t̶ ̶d̶e̶c̶a̶d̶e̶'̶s̶ ̶"̶s̶c̶i̶e̶n̶c̶e̶"̶!̶ ̶ ̶A̶n̶d̶ ̶e̶v̶e̶n̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶y̶ ̶a̶r̶e̶ ̶n̶o̶t̶,̶ ̶w̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶h̶a̶r̶m̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶i̶t̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶p̶o̶l̶i̶t̶e̶l̶y̶ ̶h̶e̶a̶r̶ ̶a̶n̶o̶t̶h̶e̶r̶ ̶p̶e̶r̶s̶o̶n̶'̶s̶ ̶e̶x̶p̶e̶r̶i̶e̶n̶c̶e̶?̶ ̶ ̶Y̶o̶u̶ ̶m̶i̶g̶h̶t̶ ̶a̶c̶t̶u̶a̶l̶l̶y̶ ̶f̶i̶n̶d̶ ̶s̶o̶m̶e̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶h̶e̶l̶p̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶u̶s̶e̶f̶u̶l̶ ̶i̶n̶ ̶i̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶A̶n̶d̶,̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶n̶o̶t̶,̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶'̶r̶e̶ ̶f̶r̶e̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶i̶g̶n̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶i̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶N̶o̶ ̶o̶n̶e̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶t̶w̶i̶s̶t̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶r̶ ̶a̶r̶m̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶d̶o̶ ̶a̶n̶y̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶d̶o̶n̶'̶t̶ ̶f̶e̶e̶l̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶h̶e̶a̶l̶t̶h̶y̶ ̶o̶r̶ ̶r̶i̶g̶h̶t̶ ̶f̶o̶r̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶.̶

I̶ ̶w̶i̶s̶h̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶p̶e̶o̶p̶l̶e̶ ̶w̶o̶u̶l̶d̶ ̶r̶e̶m̶e̶m̶b̶e̶r̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶"̶G̶o̶l̶d̶e̶n̶ ̶R̶u̶l̶e̶"̶.̶ ̶ ̶T̶r̶e̶a̶t̶ ̶o̶t̶h̶e̶r̶s̶ ̶a̶s̶ ̶y̶o̶u̶ ̶w̶o̶u̶l̶d̶ ̶l̶i̶k̶e̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ ̶t̶r̶e̶a̶t̶e̶d̶.̶

J̶u̶s̶t̶ ̶m̶y̶ ̶t̶h̶o̶u̶g̶h̶t̶.̶ ̶ ̶N̶o̶w̶,̶ ̶I̶ ̶s̶u̶p̶p̶o̶s̶e̶,̶ ̶c̶o̶m̶e̶s̶ ̶m̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶h̶o̶r̶r̶i̶b̶l̶e̶ ̶b̶e̶h̶a̶v̶i̶o̶r̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶w̶e̶,̶ ̶a̶s̶ ̶a̶ ̶s̶p̶e̶c̶i̶e̶s̶,̶ ̶h̶a̶v̶e̶ ̶p̶e̶r̶f̶e̶c̶t̶e̶d̶.̶:̶c̶r̶y̶:̶

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SnuggleSmacks · May 2014

This is what comes from giving kids prizes for participating.

whitebalance · May 2014

Anybody posted this link yet?
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp
:flowerforyou:

MyChocolateDiet · May 2014

I can see both sides of this issue. I feel bad for people, and myself, when someone treats their question or comment like it is stupid.
But the more I check out the message boards, the more I see that it truly is the same darn thing every day. So I understand why some questions get the responses they do.
I have learned to use the 'search' function for many of my questions. And only if I want more opinions or don't find the information I'm looking for, will I post a question.
I love the reality you have to face when you come on these boards. If you post something about doing a grapefruit cleanse, or injecting yourself with whatever it is they inject in people to help them lose weight, then there will be tons of posts about how ridiculous that stuff is.
And I like it because I agree with that. But I sometimes get my head turned. I could see myself falling for some stupid diet scheme, but I come on here and to a little research and I can see clearly again.
So I guess if you get upset by some of the comments, you need to develop a thicker skin. And try to not let being offended steer you away from some really great, sound advice.

Honestly I had all my ducks in a row for developing an eating disorder when I came here. I had a 1200 calorie goal and the method to implement it easily. I'd lost weight in the past the same way but only about a half to a third of the amount I needed to lose now. I had months and months and months to keep to this low cal goal WHILE simultaneously having the medical "all clear" to workout to my hearts content. That meant that within about the first month or two I would have been netting about 1000 cals or less and each month going less and less as my body became more conditioned to working out for longer times. If I had managed to survive all this, I would have achieved my cal goal probably netting closer to 600-700 avg daily cals. I don't even know if I could have recovered from that? That would've been a year on that.

I'm personally grateful to all the meanies who make the TDEE and other information so glaringly and loudly obvious as well as explaining in all the ways from complex to direct things like net cals, and yo yo dieting, and that thing where ppl who eat too little for too long have their mind play tricks on them. All these things combined to keep me from going down a bad road. I'm not where I wanted to be right now b/c life happened along the way and a MAJOR life event got to me. However, I would much rather be where I am today than where I could have been, all skinnyfat with no idea how to dig myself out of a very low cal hole and with probably little mental or physical energy to figure out how to fix that. I can't imagine what poor health that would have yielded but I'm glad I didn't have to find out and my family didn't have to suffer for it.

Thanks meanies!:flowerforyou: Or truth tellers, however you wanna look at it.

Quarkles · May 2014

Just wanted to throw this out there - the 'mean' people on here are awesome. I've learned so much from their 'bullying' and 'rudeness' and the advice I've read (that most thread OPs ignore because it's not sugar-coated unicorn farts) has helped me immensely.

This x100. I love reading the threads full of snark because I always learn something from the discussion and I can draw my own conclusions from pros and cons that always emerge from the posts. Some people on here are incredibly knowledgable about weight loss and weight lifting and I owe nearly everything to them for introducing me to the proper way to lose weight and to build muscles. And some people are just downright humorous. And some people take themselves way too seriously.

I have a motto that I've adopted over the past year that I think explains it perfectly: We live in a land of the perpetually offended.

People need to stop being so uptight and so darn serious. Live a little, laugh a lot and your life will be so much better.

Agreed. I'm one of those people who tends to get uppity over racist/sexist/homophobic etc remarks. I thought I was an easily offended person. But apparently not, because there are people getting their undies in a twist over hilarious gifs and being told that their fad diets aren't going to work.
I've also noticed that if people put aside their pride and actually listen to the advice being given, things stay pretty civil and there's very little snark (if any) involved. It's only when people get upset because they weren't patted on the head and told what they want to hear when the snark comes out, and I completely understand why. It must be frustrating trying to actually help someone only to be called rude and mean for your efforts.

smantha32 · May 2014

Some people are just determined to be mean and angry and hateful. There's not a lot you can do about it.

I usually just ignore anyone who strikes me that way on MFP. The only problem I've experienced on these forums is a couple of people who for whatever reason refuse to ignore me, even though they have made it very clear how much they hate me. Then others "quote" their posts to respond in some way (positive or negative) and I wind up seeing it anyway. I wish MFP had a more sophisticated layout that would keep that from happening, but eh...not a big deal really.

I wish anytime a thread was started with the words "people are mean" in the title, it would autodelete itself.

Biggirllittledreams · May 2014

Usually when I am wrong, I want people to tell me I am wrong. So I can stop being wrong.

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smantha32 · May 2014

OP, Don't let these forums get to you. It's just not worth giving your energy to. Everyone has different communication styles and when people are passionate about diets, politics, and religion someone is bound to get their feelings hurt.

Not if they have a spine. I read things all the time I don't like. Especially politics. I stop reading them, instead of starting a thread to fling poo at everyone.

Why do people get so mean?

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