"I knew you'd lose weight and leave me."

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

You also don't know how a man thing works, and I don't agree with that.

Consider it nailed.

I'm so happy for you! It's crazy what we settle for because we feel bad about ourselves and therefore believe we don't deserve better.

You're an inspiration! Life is short and there is way too much magic in this world to spend it drowning in unhappiness with people who don't value us.

*Shrug* I get judged regularly for choosing to get divorced. Good thing I don't give a *kitten*, cause I've never made such a good decision in all my life :drinker:

Lol, so much of this. I am so constantly amazed at how much time and energy people spend on giving a hell about how other choose to live their lives.

Srsly :grumble:

I married my ex-wife when she was significantly overweight, constantly complimented her and supported her eventual weight loss, and she still changed so much for the worse after the weight came off and the attention came from others that the marriage ended.

Maybe if I hadn't been so complimentary all the time, she wouldn't have gotten used to it and gotten her head swelled by the compliments of others. Who knows. One thing's for sure, with women, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Yay, a bitter!

well said....I just did the same ....

Very very wise words. I expected massive neediness when I read the first part of the post, but I was mistaken.

I wonder how much support this would be getting if the genders were reversed?? Just saying

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

You also don't know how a man thing works, and I don't agree with that.

Consider it nailed.

Meh, witty comeback - 2/10.

Ya know what? This is a bad thread to derail.


OP, I am very happy for you that you got rid of a negative influence in your life and have moved on to someone more loving.

This... Good for you OP! :flowerforyou:

agreed \m/

"I knew you'd lose weight and leave me." I honestly HOPE those are the words he said to you! If they are: How sweet life is. Don't you agree? I went through something like this in away. I met a guy & man, did he say all the right things. I thought I fell in love with him. We moved in together. His parents very much being "upstanding people" in the church FORCED us into getting married. As in: They set the date. Bought the rings. The dress. Decorated the place. Even picked out who would give me away and stand up for us. I kept my mouth shut. He was cheating. I had a daughter. Things happened. I was pregnant again. He cheated some more. I was on my 3rd daughter at this point. I couldn't stand him. He would "force" me to scrub the kitchen floor on my hands a knees when his parents were coming to visit even though I was 9 months pregnant. When I was ready to deliver my 4th daughter & I told him I had to be at the hospital at 5 am- He responded with "Don't call me when you have the kid. I will call you when I wake up. I am going to sleep in." SLAP! Bye Bye. After 10 years it took that one sentence & I was done. I met my now husband 17 years ago. Gosh! We all deserve to be happy he is wonderful. My supporter. My love. My life. My heart. My revenge came when my x-husband knocked on my door one day & my second oldest daughter opened it turning around & calling out to my husband "Daddy, someone is here to see you!" Yes- I did say revenge because honestly some moments are just to amazing not to high five yourself. So girl, you high five yourself & let me give you one too! I am so happy for you. Everyone has their own opinion but my saying is: You get what you give! Shake that butt & snap those fingers! Hold that head high & wear that crown that you so deserve! Smile honey, it looks great on you!!!

I married my ex-wife when she was significantly overweight, constantly complimented her and supported her eventual weight loss, and she still changed so much for the worse after the weight came off and the attention came from others that the marriage ended.

Maybe if I hadn't been so complimentary all the time, she wouldn't have gotten used to it and gotten her head swelled by the compliments of others. Who knows. One thing's for sure, with women, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

I agree. I tell my wife all the time how ugly and fat she is and everything is perfect for us.

On a different topic, how do I get me wife to stop taking a dump on my forehead while I sleep?

I wonder how much support this would be getting if the genders were reversed?? Just saying

This card is pulled so often it makes me laugh... I can't speak for everyone, but I wouldn't care if the OP were male, female, trans, or agender. I'd STILL support their decision to cut off someone who verbally attacks them.

Nobody verbally attacked anyone from what we know of the story. Are you filling in extra details?

I married my ex-wife when she was significantly overweight, constantly complimented her and supported her eventual weight loss, and she still changed so much for the worse after the weight came off and the attention came from others that the marriage ended.

Maybe if I hadn't been so complimentary all the time, she wouldn't have gotten used to it and gotten her head swelled by the compliments of others. Who knows. One thing's for sure, with women, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

I agree. I tell my wife all the time how ugly and fat she is and everything is perfect for us.

On a different topic, how do I get me wife to stop taking a dump on my forehead while I sleep?

IDK, doesn't matter. I upgraded anyway. I realize looking back that she wasn't worth any of the praise I threw her way; Fat or skinny, ugly goes to the core.

Sounds like he was just looking for an excuse to break up from the beginning.

"I knew you'd lose weight and leave me." I honestly HOPE those are the words he said to you! If they are: How sweet life is. Don't you agree? I went through something like this in away. I met a guy & man, did he say all the right things. I thought I fell in love with him. We moved in together. His parents very much being "upstanding people" in the church FORCED us into getting married. As in: They set the date. Bought the rings. The dress. Decorated the place. Even picked out who would give me away and stand up for us. I kept my mouth shut. He was cheating. I had a daughter. Things happened. I was pregnant again. He cheated some more. I was on my 3rd daughter at this point. I couldn't stand him. He would "force" me to scrub the kitchen floor on my hands a knees when his parents were coming to visit even though I was 9 months pregnant. When I was ready to deliver my 4th daughter & I told him I had to be at the hospital at 5 am- He responded with "Don't call me when you have the kid. I will call you when I wake up. I am going to sleep in." SLAP! Bye Bye. After 10 years it took that one sentence & I was done. I met my now husband 17 years ago. Gosh! We all deserve to be happy he is wonderful. My supporter. My love. My life. My heart. My revenge came when my x-husband knocked on my door one day & my second oldest daughter opened it turning around & calling out to my husband "Daddy, someone is here to see you!" Yes- I did say revenge because honestly some moments are just to amazing not to high five yourself. So girl, you high five yourself & let me give you one too! I am so happy for you. Everyone has their own opinion but my saying is: You get what you give! Shake that butt & snap those fingers! Hold that head high & wear that crown that you so deserve! Smile honey, it looks great on you!!!

You didn't have to show up at the church, yanno.