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"I knew you'd lose weight and leave me."

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  • Posts: 19,224 Member
    Awesome! You should feel so proud!!:drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

    I left a similar toxic situation. And am doing great! And I think it pisses him off!! :laugh:
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    Perfect illustration of how the female mind works. Bashing your ex-wife = bitter. Bashing your ex-husband = you go girl!

    Not all female minds work the same thank you very much. But yeh why is there a difference?!

    I saw a video of an experiment where a man getting violent with a woman in public was responded to by the public and when the woman was violent to the man the public were laughing!? What the hell?!

    For those of you that happen to give a f:
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2638752/Shocking-video-shows-members-public-intervene-man-attacking-girlfriend.html

    Congratulations OP.

    I don't believe she was advocating divorce... More like advocating self empowerment
  • Posts: 22,281 Member

    IDK, doesn't matter. I upgraded anyway. I realize looking back that she wasn't worth any of the praise I threw her way; Fat or skinny, ugly goes to the core.

    QFT!

    I just had to learn this the hard way. I was like why are we always being invited to attack everybody all the time? And then one day as predicted when I stopped playing that game, I was attacked. There are some character traits that people mantain no matter what comes their way. It's pretty sad, but not my problem.
  • Posts: 129 Member
    Awesome! You should feel so proud!!:drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

    I left a similar toxic situation. And am doing great! And I think it pisses him off!! :laugh:

    I don't get why you'd care if it pissed him off. If he was toxic forget him! Stop caring about what does and doesn't piss him off :-)

    Jus' saying :-)
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    You DO look absolutely amazing! His loss forever! Eat your heart out buddy. Go on girl, and I hope you find or have found a man who appreciates you for YOU, regardless of your appearance!
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    Like I said earlier, I don't criticize people for getting divorced. Relationships are hard. My issue was the message sounded like "I did and so can you!" People, at various times, advocated for my marriage when we were fed up with each other. I read somewhere that a bad marriage and a good marriage are often the same marriage at different points in time. Sometimes people need to give their marriage some time and give that time some time. That's all.

    I agree
  • Posts: 1,062 Member
    wow.. why can't people just be happy for others instead of always nit-picking?! good for you for being happy again!!! :flowerforyou:
  • Posts: 2,850 Member
    Cheers to you and your newfound happiness! Well said, good lookin! :smile: :drinker:
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    Some of us aren't religious, therefore have no issue with divorce.

    I am not religious and have issues with it...mainly due to the fact that marriage is taken so lightly now and people jump in without considering the consequences...

    NOt saying the OP did the wrong thing...sometimes it is the only answer...I mean my own parents are divorced...

    But I know this...it is up to no man to make me happy or make me feel fulfilled I do that on my own and if that is why you are getting married...you know the old "you complete me" bull crap then take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship.

    Goes for men too...

    If you "need" a partner in your life...as opposed to wanting one...run from relationships until you want one...instead of need one.

    I read this quote at 12...and have remembered it for 28 years...love readers digest..

    Men and woman get married, the men hoping the women never change and the women hoping the men do....they both get disappointed

    When I got married I made sure this wasn't me...

    ETA: glad the OP is happy again and in a good spot in her life....and I am glad that she had the option to leave...
  • Posts: 2,925 Member
    You DO look absolutely amazing! His loss forever! Eat your heart out buddy. Go on girl, and I hope you find or have found a man who appreciates you for YOU, regardless of your appearance!
    Strong thread comprehension............You know how I know people don't read all the responses in a thread
  • Posts: 129 Member

    But she has to be the winner!! That's where her smug sense or superiority comes from ;)

    Well, I think that's BS leaving a bad relationship should mean that you have LEFT that person behind and DON'T feel the need to look back.
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    Good for you. Be beautiful!
  • I wish there were a "like" button.
  • Posts: 2,850 Member
    OP, I think you tugged on some heartstrings... Six pages of replies in about an hour? That's an accomplishment of it's own. ;)
  • Posts: 9,377 Member

    This is a pretty ignorant statement. :noway:


    Agreed. I'm glad you found your happy, OP. :flowerforyou:
  • Posts: 299 Member
    Who needs daytime tv?
  • Posts: 2,850 Member
    I wish there were a "like" button.

    *LIKE*
  • Posts: 150 Member
    Wow !! That was so beautiful :)
  • Posts: 2,545 Member
    Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

    I agree 100%!

    This is why I just didn't ever bother getting married ;)
  • Posts: 3,886 Member
    OP, thanks for sharing your happiness, even if some people felt the need to hijack your thread and make it all about them! The fact that you're in a happier, healthier place now is the only thing that matters.

    P.S. It's been my experience that the people who are quick to criticize others for leaving unhealthy or abusive relationships are the people who have never been in one themselves. I usually just want to pat them on the head and tell them to go back to their crayons because the grown-ups are talking.
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    Agreed. I'm glad you found your happy, OP. :flowerforyou:

    Agreed...

    I might have issues with divorce for myself but I am glad you did and found your partner..sometimes we have to stumble before we reach our ultimate destination.
  • Posts: 8,927 Member
    I'm happy for you Op! And also to others that shared their experiences, wisdom and insight. I'm happy you are with a women also. Nothing wrong with having love, appreciation, attraction for both genders. I'm bisexual also. I have also had this type of loving relationship with my husband for 16 years. And some people in this thread maybe need some therapy or something.
  • Posts: 22,281 Member
    To be honest the statement is actually backwards.

    You left him first and THEN you lost weight. Don't bother correcting him, he was mean enough to you that he deserves to see it this way.
  • Posts: 1,404 Member

    Ahh...the plot thickens!!

    Whatever, OP. I'm happy you're happy. :flowerforyou:

    Uh, hold the phone!

    You couldn't live with an inattentive man, so you hooked up with a woman? Are you aware that your periods will probably synch up with each other, and the TOM attitude will be double? And woman are very opinionated on interior design. You gonna live with that orange throw pillow she spent $100 on that you wanted to spend on a lamp?
  • Posts: 2,545 Member

    Maybe I'm just too nice or something, but I actually think this person didn't "get" it.
  • Posts: 2,545 Member

    Uh, hold the phone!

    You couldn't live with an inattentive man, so you hooked up with a woman? Are you aware that your periods will probably synch up with each other, and the TOM attitude will be double? And woman are very opinionated on interior design. You gonna live with that orange throw pillow she spent $100 on that you wanted to spend on a lamp?

    THAT was an ignorant statement! LOL!
  • Posts: 1,217 Member

    Uh, hold the phone!

    You couldn't live with an inattentive man, so you hooked up with a woman? Are you aware that your periods will probably synch up with each other, and the TOM attitude will be double? And woman are very opinionated on interior design. You gonna live with that orange throw pillow she spent $100 on that you wanted to spend on a lamp?

    I LMFAO at this as I assumed/hoped this was a joke
  • Posts: 7,010 Member
    OP, thanks for sharing your happiness, even if some people felt the need to hijack your thread and make it all about them! The fact that you're in a happier, healthier place now is the only thing that matters.

    P.S. It's been my experience that the people who are quick to criticize others for leaving unhealthy or abusive relationships are the people who have never been in one themselves. I usually just want to pat them on the head and tell them to go back to their crayons because the grown-ups are talking.

    P.P.S. It's been my experience that people who are in unhealthy or abusive relationships had lots of warning signs up front and still continued in those relationships......Many times rushing into them to meet some "standard" of when they should be married.
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