"I knew you'd lose weight and leave me."

I married my ex-wife when she was significantly overweight, constantly complimented her and supported her eventual weight loss, and she still changed so much for the worse after the weight came off and the attention came from others that the marriage ended.

Maybe if I hadn't been so complimentary all the time, she wouldn't have gotten used to it and gotten her head swelled by the compliments of others. Who knows. One thing's for sure, with women, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Yay, a bitter!

Perfect illustration of how the female mind works. Bashing your ex-wife = bitter. Bashing your ex-husband = you go girl!

Not all female minds work the same thank you very much. But yeh why is there a difference?!

I saw a video of an experiment where a man getting violent with a woman in public was responded to by the public and when the woman was violent to the man the public were laughing!? What the hell?!

For those of you that happen to give a f:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2638752/Shocking-video-shows-members-public-intervene-man-attacking-girlfriend.html

Congratulations OP.

I don't believe she was advocating divorce... More like advocating self empowerment

Awesome! You should feel so proud!!:drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

I left a similar toxic situation. And am doing great! And I think it pisses him off!! :laugh:

I don't get why you'd care if it pissed him off. If he was toxic forget him! Stop caring about what does and doesn't piss him off :-)

Jus' saying :-)

Like I said earlier, I don't criticize people for getting divorced. Relationships are hard. My issue was the message sounded like "I did and so can you!" People, at various times, advocated for my marriage when we were fed up with each other. I read somewhere that a bad marriage and a good marriage are often the same marriage at different points in time. Sometimes people need to give their marriage some time and give that time some time. That's all.

I agree

Cheers to you and your newfound happiness! Well said, good lookin! :drinker:

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

Some of us aren't religious, therefore have no issue with divorce.

I am not religious and have issues with it...mainly due to the fact that marriage is taken so lightly now and people jump in without considering the consequences...

NOt saying the OP did the wrong thing...sometimes it is the only answer...I mean my own parents are divorced...

But I know this...it is up to no man to make me happy or make me feel fulfilled I do that on my own and if that is why you are getting married...you know the old "you complete me" bull crap then take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship.

Goes for men too...

If you "need" a partner in your life...as opposed to wanting one...run from relationships until you want one...instead of need one.

I read this quote at 12...and have remembered it for 28 years...love readers digest..

Men and woman get married, the men hoping the women never change and the women hoping the men do....they both get disappointed

When I got married I made sure this wasn't me...

ETA: glad the OP is happy again and in a good spot in her life....and I am glad that she had the option to leave...

Awesome! You should feel so proud!!:drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

I left a similar toxic situation. And am doing great! And I think it pisses him off!! :laugh:

I don't get why you'd care if it pissed him off. If he was toxic forget him! Stop caring about what does and doesn't piss him off :-)

Jus' saying :-)

But she has to be the winner!! That's where her smug sense or superiority comes from

Well, I think that's BS leaving a bad relationship should mean that you have LEFT that person behind and DON'T feel the need to look back.

I wish there were a "like" button.

And she's a woman.

Oh my! I've got girlfriends who cheer me on through thick & thin and support me whether I deserve it or not - that's what girlfriends are for! Doesn't mean I'm gonna leave my hubby for them... just sayin'.

This is a pretty ignorant statement. :noway:

Agreed. I'm glad you found your happy, OP. :flowerforyou:

I wish there were a "like" button.

*LIKE*

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

I agree 100%!

This is why I just didn't ever bother getting married

OP, thanks for sharing your happiness, even if some people felt the need to hijack your thread and make it all about them! The fact that you're in a happier, healthier place now is the only thing that matters.

P.S. It's been my experience that the people who are quick to criticize others for leaving unhealthy or abusive relationships are the people who have never been in one themselves. I usually just want to pat them on the head and tell them to go back to their crayons because the grown-ups are talking.

I'm happy for you Op! And also to others that shared their experiences, wisdom and insight. I'm happy you are with a women also. Nothing wrong with having love, appreciation, attraction for both genders. I'm bisexual also. I have also had this type of loving relationship with my husband for 16 years. And some people in this thread maybe need some therapy or something.

Thank you everyone for your support! It is embarrassing saying that I'm divorced, but at the same time no one knows the extent of the situation. I never said it was all him. There were problematic attributes on both sides. Just because I put a few quotes of what was said didn't mean that was ALL.
We wanted completely different things out if life and were two completely different people.
I'm just happy that I'm no longer "settled" but sharing my loves and passions for life with someone who wants the same.
Just that alone makes everything worth it.

And she's a woman.
Go ahead and pick me apart some more
But I've found the meaning of happiness, love, peace and so much more.
People say they are happy, but to feel happiness every day... just enjoy life and find one who enjoys it the same way you do

Ahh...the plot thickens!!

Whatever, OP. I'm happy you're happy. :flowerforyou:

Uh, hold the phone!

You couldn't live with an inattentive man, so you hooked up with a woman? Are you aware that your periods will probably synch up with each other, and the TOM attitude will be double? And woman are very opinionated on interior design. You gonna live with that orange throw pillow she spent $100 on that you wanted to spend on a lamp?

Thank you everyone for your support! It is embarrassing saying that I'm divorced, but at the same time no one knows the extent of the situation. I never said it was all him. There were problematic attributes on both sides. Just because I put a few quotes of what was said didn't mean that was ALL.
We wanted completely different things out if life and were two completely different people.
I'm just happy that I'm no longer "settled" but sharing my loves and passions for life with someone who wants the same.
Just that alone makes everything worth it.

And she's a woman.
Go ahead and pick me apart some more
But I've found the meaning of happiness, love, peace and so much more.
People say they are happy, but to feel happiness every day... just enjoy life and find one who enjoys it the same way you do

Ahh...the plot thickens!!

Whatever, OP. I'm happy you're happy. :flowerforyou:

Uh, hold the phone!

You couldn't live with an inattentive man, so you hooked up with a woman? Are you aware that your periods will probably synch up with each other, and the TOM attitude will be double? And woman are very opinionated on interior design. You gonna live with that orange throw pillow she spent $100 on that you wanted to spend on a lamp?

THAT was an ignorant statement! LOL!

OP, thanks for sharing your happiness, even if some people felt the need to hijack your thread and make it all about them! The fact that you're in a happier, healthier place now is the only thing that matters.

P.S. It's been my experience that the people who are quick to criticize others for leaving unhealthy or abusive relationships are the people who have never been in one themselves. I usually just want to pat them on the head and tell them to go back to their crayons because the grown-ups are talking.

P.P.S. It's been my experience that people who are in unhealthy or abusive relationships had lots of warning signs up front and still continued in those relationships......Many times rushing into them to meet some "standard" of when they should be married.