Do you think size affects someone's attractiveness?

I lost 1 guy to a girl with a full set of dentures at 22 and another to a girl with a missing front tooth.

I have nice, straight teeth but something was attractive enough about those girls that the men dropped me for them. I can't base my own worth on douche bags like that and I've went on about my life while those girls worry about their poligrip failing.

(However, I assume they could do tricks with their mouths that I couldn't so I have stepped up my head game)

Absolutely. No question.

For a starter if you think that you are an amazing GF then I really hope that you have given this guy the flick! He sounds like a real douche & you sound like you have a lot to offer someone so I think you should be with someone that appreciates that.

I don't think this has anything to do with you & they way you look or behave. Its his greed & lust getting the better of his seemingly small amount of good judgement.

Don't stay in relationships that are unhealthy sweetheart!

PS: I hope this doesn't leave you judging all big blondes as bad people too.

It's all a matter of taste, people like what they like. My tates change, my soon to be x husband was thin and lean. However I find men who are on the heavier side attractive too. I think "attractive" however is the whole package, not just one aspect or the other. You could be hot as hell but if your attitude is shiittastic I will lose interest in a heartbeat.

Attraction is such an individual thing that I don't think it's fair to come up with some sort of blanket statement about that. I've been attracted to people at a size that would *not* have been attractive to me if it was somebody else. In other words, I have dated people in the past who were quite large and have been totally attracted to them in very physical ways - but there have been other people who just wouldn't have been attractive to me at all at that size (even if they were attractive at smaller sizes - for example, I have an ex who I was SUPER into, physically, and who gained a fair amount after we split up and I don't even have a sliver of physical attraction for that person. It's just totally gone......).

Of course this is PHYSICAL attraction only that I'm talking about. Even in people that I haven't been *physically* attracted to, I've been so attracted to them in OTHER ways that I had was totally besotted. *shrug*

TLDR - human attraction is such a weird thing that I don't think you will get a good answer.

I believe so to a degree. If one can see beyond it and give the person a chance though i think they may be pleasantly surprised.

My fiancée me me from online so he got to know a bit of my personality before meeting me. He liked me so much he met me. When we met he was shocked by how big i was (Reasonably so). He gave me a chance and fell in love with me despite my weight.

On another note; i find faces beautiful even if bigger

Yes, absolutely size affects your attractiveness to someone. Some are only attracted to slim people, some to only fit bodybuilders, some to plus size people, the point is people are attracted to who they are attracted to. The spark has to be there, so that you even want to get to know the person.

After hearing your story, my personal opinion (for what its worth), is that you are picking the wrong people. You are choosing people that don't respect you or appreciate you for who you are. It is not your fault they cheated that is their own short coming. You need to be confident in what you have to offer as a person, and take time to get to know the potential boyfriend before committing yourself to the relationship.

Good luck

I was cheated on twice (by the same guy) and both times, the girls were considerably larger than me, although their looks weren't really the problem for me, the cheating was, so I never really gave their looks much thought. Sometimes people cheat because they are attracted to someone else, sometimes they fall in love with someone else, sometimes they do it to be cruel, and sometimes purely because they can; I don't think attraction is necessarily always a factor, although it's probably a reasonably big one. My ex cheated because he was a manipulative, mean-spirited person inside who was a friendly smooth-talker on the outside, and women seemed to like him; he was obese and weighed over 300 pounds. It's all a hard area to judge.

Myself, I've never been a 'looks matter' person, and I was never attracted to a certain thing in particular. My first boyfriend was a skinny goth with long hair, my second was obese (the cheater) and dressed very old-fashioned, and my fiancé now is slim, a modern/retro mix regarding style and 14 years older than me. I always considered the 'vibe' of a person if you will rather than their appearance.

You absolutely need to stop wondering what is wrong with you. It wasn't your fault and nothing you were/were not doing to cause them to stray. That is their own issue and I feel bad for whoever they wind up with because that person is going to wonder if they are going to cheat on them too.

Whatever you take from this, stop wondering what you could have done differently. :flowerforyou:

Bit of a strange question, and I know some larger people are totally happy together and the same for skinny and mixed couples.

My question is kind of the opposite of what you my think. Is it likely for a person to go for someone larger and less attractive personality wise and physically, especially when you are already taken?

I have been cheated on twice ( different ex's) with quite large, blonde women (I am brunette and range between slim- skinny fat). Personality wise, I have been told i am very caring and nice, and I know I do a lot to please my partner, but I still maintain independence.
The women I have been cheated on seem very full of themselves and quite rude and mean, and one in particular felt my then partner should droop whatever he was doing to see her, even if he was with me at the time.
So i feel we are nothing alike at all, yet it has happened twice now.

Of course it ruined my self esteem, especially after the second partner did it too, but it has been a bit of a motivation since I never want to look like them, especially since what they did with my partners at the time of the incidents.

I am wondering if anyone out there has had similar experiences, or have some insight into why this ma happen?

Like I know beauty can only be skin deep, but what would make you stray from a partner who is caring and nice, as well as who looked after herself well, to someone who is the complete opposite?

I suppose i am trying to avoid doing whatever i did wrong in the past with my current partner

Cheating has nothing to do with attractiveness. Even an ugly fat woman can make a guy's **** stand up. If you've got the part they've got the mojo. Another thing you need to realize is that beauty is subjective. Just becayse one person may not think you're beautiful doesn't mean someone else won't think you're the prettiest thing he ever saw.

You need to stop and ask yourself if you are going to base your worth on someone else's actions, are you really at a maturity level with your confidence and your body that you should be in a relationship?

No but alcohol does

In reading your post, OP, and the comments/responses, I have to say to you answered the question yourself. When you said about you ex's relationship with each woman (work. friend) his cheating had nothing to do with looks. A lot of cheating is opportunity and looking to get something from someone else that is missing in the current relationship. Since he was interacting with them already, then it was probably one of the two reasons I gave. Or sometimes, like some people said, it is all about that cheater's self esteem, wanting to be the "big man" who thinks he's attractive to all women, etc. And it can also be a weak person - someone who isn't fully committed and when the other person comes on to them, can't or doesn't want to have to resist, and then will cry - "it just happened, I couldn't get out of it".

But attractiveness is about multiple factors, not just appearance. What makes one person who has really good looks not as appealing or someone who isn't as beautiful appear more beautiful is the personality that comes through. This is seen by their attitude, interactions, how they carry themselves, etc. So you can't lump people into skinny=attractive, large=not appealing, etc. As others said on here, we have all been attracted to different "types" of people (onthe surface - appearance) but there were other factors that drew them to us.

I have to say this too - I knew someone who was married and his wife got a little heavier through their marriage. He was happy that she wanted to lose the weight, but as she did, she became very focused on her appearance, weight loss, working out, etc. that she kind of was becoming more vain/self centered, at least he perceived it that way. I have seen people do that too. So when one thinks that they may be trying to keep their bodies well, make themselves look the best they can be - it is a fine line to cross when that becomes obsession and ego and the focus and energy/time is taken away from the relationship/partner. Make sure you are not doing that.

And one more comment - being wary of the "type" of girls he cheated on - your missing the point. Be wary of guys like HIM - HE'S the one who cheated on you!!!

Human nature is predictable yet difficult to frame.