Do you think size affects someone's attractiveness?

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  • timmax
    timmax Posts: 3 Member
    Size don't matter. Confidence does. Just my .02 cents.
  • timmax
    timmax Posts: 3 Member
    I lost 1 guy to a girl with a full set of dentures at 22 and another to a girl with a missing front tooth.

    I have nice, straight teeth but something was attractive enough about those girls that the men dropped me for them. I can't base my own worth on douche bags like that and I've went on about my life while those girls worry about their poligrip failing.

    (However, I assume they could do tricks with their mouths that I couldn't so I have stepped up my head game)

    Good attitude and funny.
  • I read a study someone did awhile back that I personally like to console myself with. :bigsmile: It stated that the majority of the time men cheat with someone vastly less attractive than their own woman. It's probably more about boobs, I can't compete there. :ohwell:
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member

    However, because we are on a forum where there are a lot of larger people, anyone posting should walk on eggshells, and not say anything about weight when talking about a situation like mine?

    No, you don't have to walk on eggshells. If you can take the fallout.

    If I went on a forum that I knew attracted a lot of people with differently colored hair, and started a thread saying, "Does blue hair affect someone's attractiveness?" and linked the colored hair with a bad personality and unattractive personality, I should expect a lot of negativity back. Some can handle that for the right to voice their opinions. Some can't. You can have your opinion, but on a forum, people are going to have opinions about your opinions, and that's ok too.

  • However, because we are on a forum where there are a lot of larger people, anyone posting should walk on eggshells, and not say anything about weight when talking about a situation like mine?

    No, you don't have to walk on eggshells. If you can take the fallout.

    If I went on a forum that I knew attracted a lot of people with differently colored hair, and started a thread saying, "Does blue hair affect someone's attractiveness?" and linked the colored hair with a bad personality and unattractive personality, I should expect a lot of negativity back. Some can handle that for the right to voice their opinions. Some can't. You can have your opinion, but on a forum, people are going to have opinions about your opinions, and that's ok too.

    Yeah of course, but in that situation, the hair, it's a bit different. You would have to agree every person on mfp is here to become more healthy, and lose the extra weight they may have, either for health or to like the way they look.

    They obviously don't like their size or they would not be trying to reduce it, right?

    So then, why would it be so offensive if someone stated what I have been saying? I see it as kind of hypocritical almost.

    "How dare you mention large people in the same sentence as unattractiveness, that offends me deeply, even though I am here to lose weight because I am not happy with my body/health"

    Do you see what I mean?

    Yes everyone is entitled to their opinions, and their opinions on my opinions.

    But I did not ever say anything offensive. And most people I have seen on here are losing weight so they can look better/ feel better about how they look, i.e be more attractive to themselves, if not others.

    So therefore I find it strange these people are the people getting so defensive over nothing.

    Do you see what I mean?
    I am happy to take heat, that's fine. But when it doesn't make sense for there to even be heat, due to lack of offense and the circumstances of the people on forums like this about weight loss/ health, it feels like its just for the sake of hate.
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    I think you make good points, but where some are possibly upset is that I don't think all overweight people try to lose to look better. (A lot do, that's true.)

    Or put another way, what about going onto a forum for people trying to obtain clear skin and saying you were cheated on by your partner with an acne faced, ugly, mean woman? Yes, people feel less attractive with acne. No, they don't want to be reminded that others agree that they should.

    But to answer your question, I think size is too variable to try to worry about it being a factor. I think I look my best at a low but healthy weight while others tell me I look awful or am obviously not eating.
  • I think you make good points, but where some are possibly upset is that I don't think all overweight people try to lose to look better. (A lot do, that's true.)

    Or put another way, what about going onto a forum for people trying to obtain clear skin and saying you were cheated on by your partner with an acne faced, ugly, mean woman? Yes, people feel less attractive with acne. No, they don't want to be reminded that others agree that they should.

    But to answer your question, I think size is too variable to try to worry about it being a factor. I think I look my best at a low but healthy weight while others tell me I look awful or am obviously not eating.

    Yeah that actually makes a lot of sense. I Understand. Yeah I know someone like that, though she is lucky and looks great either way haha
  • BunBun85
    BunBun85 Posts: 246 Member
    also, my comment about the people getting up me about everything was directed at bun bun and another lady I had spoken to earlier in the thread, one of which said she was large, the other I checked her profile.

    I'm glad you checked my profile and I hope you're good enough with maths to see that I weigh a whopping 22lbs more than you. I guess that's enough that you can chalk up all my opinions to my super sensitive fat feelings!

    Edited: Because I'm not really sorry.
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    it's all about versatility and variety.

    We may be offered caviar everyday but pursue the fish....
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    I don't think size has anything to do with it. If there is an attraction, it happens. Terrible to read about how many people get cheated on!!
  • In my opinion men go for confidence and sometimes are attracted to a *****y personality (I dunno why) I was cheated on with a girl with rotten teeth who was not all that attractive(I really didnt care at that point the realationship was pretty much over) just saying men can be hard to de-code.
  • TheNewPriceIsLoading
    TheNewPriceIsLoading Posts: 2,135 Member
    @shimmerNsparkle,

    Women can be equally as hard to de-code. I prefer a more equal combination of intelligence/personality and attractiveness, in that order. I personally have been trying to analyze women from afar via friendships and acquaintances and such and oddly enough, through my job. I use to work for an apartment complex in East Lansing MI, literally a block from campus, and down a street with numerous bars and restaurants.. My apartments I worked at we PARTY central on weekends. I had a Central Office by the main access doors, and heard NUMEROUS conversations of ladies walking by and talking about how they play games with guys and such.. Have also been told that women go for the bad boys because good guys don't always have courage to speak up and try and initiate conversation because they may be shy or feel unattractive.. I really hate that fact that there is no even ground for the sex's to align on when it comes to relations.. I personally, am not single, but not taken.. I am committed to someone who has been damaged, and I am trying to work with her on it, and really want to be with her. I am done trying to get a beautiful woman's attention when some douche could just step up and say three words, and she's gone..
  • heysarge13
    heysarge13 Posts: 403 Member
    For.me its all about how a person carries themself. A person with great personality and confidence is.what.make.them attractive... not their size or shape.

    So everyone be.yourself and confident in yourself!
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Sure it does. Not only physical attraction, but, if someone is extremely heavy, their lifestyle comes into question.

    Everybody can make the statement that sense of humor (or insert your term here) is very important in a relationship, but, upon first seeing someone, it's all about their physical attraction.

    Go ahead ad beat me down and make your politically correct statements, but that's the way it is.

    Hey, I'm very confident. I'm smart as hell. I'm funny as a motherfcker. I'm fat, too. No one has hit on me in 20 years.
  • Megan101792
    Megan101792 Posts: 3,194 Member
    For.me its all about how a person carries themself. A person with great personality and confidence is.what.make.them attractive... not their size or shape.

    So everyone be.yourself and confident in yourself!


    That is how I feel.
  • Beautiful/handsome on the outside is nothing without the same on the inside
  • phinphanbill26
    phinphanbill26 Posts: 574 Member
    In my opinion men go for confidence and sometimes are attracted to a *****y personality (I dunno why) I was cheated on with a girl with rotten teeth who was not all that attractive(I really didnt care at that point the realationship was pretty much over) just saying men can be hard to de-code.

    Men are hard to de-code?!?!?!?
  • CharlieMurtagh
    CharlieMurtagh Posts: 1,742 Member
    I think it has alot to do with confidence and how you come across to other people if you "look good you feel good" I strongly believe that however if you are a larger guy or girl then you are also quite self concious and I think people can sense that... ...
  • TheNewPriceIsLoading
    TheNewPriceIsLoading Posts: 2,135 Member
    I think it has alot to do with confidence and how you come across to other people if you "look good you feel good" I strongly believe that however if you are a larger guy or girl then you are also quite self concious and I think people can sense that... ...

    This. So true.

    I also think it has to do with the amount of social interaction you had while growing up. Myself I was a bit of a forced recluse because I never had friends, despite wanting them. I was also bullied constantly, and that hurt my self confidence as well.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
    Of course it does. We're hardwired that way. But for many people, we can find attraction in something other than physical attributes if that initial "spark" isn't there.
  • TheNewPriceIsLoading
    TheNewPriceIsLoading Posts: 2,135 Member
    Of course it does. We're hardwired that way. But for many people, we can find attraction in something other than physical attributes if that initial "spark" isn't there.

    I look more for personality. I am not a shallow person, as I have no grounds to be to begin with.

    Being shallow makes you an a$$hat.
  • CharlieMurtagh
    CharlieMurtagh Posts: 1,742 Member
    Of course it does. We're hardwired that way. But for many people, we can find attraction in something other than physical attributes if that initial "spark" isn't there.

    I think initial attraction can be.. something as simple as liking the way someone smiles or the look in their eye when they glance your way it doesn't necessarily always mean a physical attraction to the body etc

    I think if there is no spark then it wont matter how good looking the person is if its not there its not there!
  • TheNewPriceIsLoading
    TheNewPriceIsLoading Posts: 2,135 Member
    I think if there is no spark then it wont matter how good looking the person is if its not there its not there!

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • splashtree2
    splashtree2 Posts: 277
    definetely it does affect, yiu can't consider sexi the fat!
  • _Lovely77_
    _Lovely77_ Posts: 993 Member
    what size are we talking about though? You have extremely thin, muscular, a little curvy, curvy, then overweight then obese and so on..... size comes in tons of different shapes and sizes. So, it truly all depends on the person and what they find attractive. Some people like heavier set people while others much prefer very petite people. Hence why attractiveness is truly in the eye of the beholder. For me personally, some weight isn't an issue, like Vince Vaughn isn't too heavy for me but Gabriel Iglesias is too heavy for me to be attracted to. But on the flip side, Jay Baruchel is too thin in my opinion. So, really I am just attracted to a happy and healthy medium.
  • TrainingToBePerfect
    TrainingToBePerfect Posts: 1,418 Member
    Okay, personally I don`t think so.

    I`m a 23 year old female, and I'm bigger. I'm currently 259 pounds. I`m curvy, big hips, *kitten*, and I have a chest. I don`t think that being `TINY, or MASSIVÈ" effects anything.

    I know I'm a bigger lady but honestly does size really matter? You can be beautiful with a bigger or small body!
  • WhatAnAss
    WhatAnAss Posts: 1,598 Member
    For me sexy is sexy no matter what the size!

    This! Exactly this!
  • lookin4gains
    lookin4gains Posts: 1,761 Member
    It all depends on the person. Personally, I don't find obese women attractive. I also don't find extremely skinny women attractive either.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    yes