Gentlemen, its perfectly ok to comment on my weight loss!
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Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
:laugh:
This conversation is priceless. If you guys need a judge on who is more attractive, just let me know.
At this point, I just need u to educate me. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cause apparently I am pretty stinking dense in this area.
I blame the women. If a man started talking strong lifts and macros, I'd probably tell him to hush and look pretty.
But first lesson for next time: "Thanks ladies. You two are so beautiful that this might be the best compliment I've ever gotten."
Happy ending isn't guaranteed, but the odds go way up.
Rgr that.
Will remember that.
But she did say something along the lines of "Not trying to hit on you, but you look really good, and well proportioned, not big up top and small down bottom like most guys"
or something to that affect.....
So that I just assumed is what she meant.....am I wrong for assuming that?0 -
Knew a guy whose job included verifying identity via ID cards. Upon seeing the dramatic weight loss the stranger in front of him had undergone since the ID photo was taken, the guy said: "You've lost a lot of weight, congratulations." The stranger's response?
'I was bitten by a tsetse fly and lost almost half my brain to infection. Thanks.'
Just food for thought.
To which I would respond, "whoa, sorry. well, you don't have half your brain, but at least you're not fat anymore."
Sometimes when I show my ID's (both work and state issued) people (especially by what I perceive to be immigrants, strong accents and perhaps not used to the subtle nuances of the appearances of a southern fat lady and how they can change over time) don't believe that it's me.
I've been accused of not being the person to whom the ID was issued multiple times. Yes, that is my nose, those are my eyes, they're just in a fat head in the picture and a slimmer head now. >.< grumble grumble grumble
I'm 31 ****ing years old. Ring it up.0 -
Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
:laugh:
This conversation is priceless. If you guys need a judge on who is more attractive, just let me know.
At this point, I just need u to educate me. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cause apparently I am pretty stinking dense in this area.
I blame the women. If a man started talking strong lifts and macros, I'd probably tell him to hush and look pretty.
But first lesson for next time: "Thanks ladies. You two are so beautiful that this might be the best compliment I've ever gotten."
Happy ending isn't guaranteed, but the odds go way up.
Rgr that.
Will remember that.
But she did say something along the lines of "Not trying to hit on you, but you look really good, and well proportioned, not big up top and small down bottom like most guys"
or something to that affect.....
So that I just assumed is what she meant.....am I wrong for assuming that?
LOL!
"I'm not hitting on you, but...."
Seriously, I used that line when I was single. I might have even used it on my husband.0 -
After reading the first few post. I got out of this, women are different. Some like a compliment about an achievement. Some don't, even if its positive. Check.0
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LOL!
"I'm not hitting on you, but...."
Seriously, I used that line when I was single. I might have even used it on my husband.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
So then she was??0 -
One of my regular customers told me, "You look way better now, Brittany. You look a lot more lovelier than you used to."
I could have done without his comment. However, I do appreciate the sweet comments.0 -
LOL!
"I'm not hitting on you, but...."
Seriously, I used that line when I was single. I might have even used it on my husband.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
So then she was??
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
You're still asking this question? Do I have to actually say it?
Yes, Max. Yes. She was hitting on you but thought that she would say she wasn't in case you told her to go away or were arrogant.0 -
LOL!
"I'm not hitting on you, but...."
Seriously, I used that line when I was single. I might have even used it on my husband.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
So then she was??
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
You're still asking this question? Do I have to actually say it?
Yes, Max. Yes. She was hitting on you but thought that she would say she wasn't in case you told her to go away or were arrogant.
Damnit.....
So that is why women say that.....good to know.
So stupid....I am.:grumble: :grumble:
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USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.
Okay? So you only wanted to hear from people who agreed with you, on a forum with tons of different people? That's a bit strange.
Myself, I can see both sides, I have never been great with accepting compliments (well it's not like I get many, lol!) so I can understand feeling awkward if someone comments on weight loss. But I try to see it as, they're trying to be nice, so just try to accept it and go onwards. But the whole thing of it making you think "Wow, did I look that ****ty before?" - yep, I get that too, heh. But that is more a personal failing of mine than the fault of someone trying to pay a compliment.
edit: I've only just started losing weight, and it's going to be a long journey, and one I HAVE to take for health reasons... and I'm not looking forward to constant reprimands from my mum saying I look skinny, half the size, you name it. Maybe I'm wrong, but when I was a more normal weight, and then lost a bit due to ill health, she'd always comment on it. So perhaps people should remember that "commenting" on weight loss does not equal "complimenting" weight loss!! 0 -
USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.
Okay? So you only wanted to hear from people who agreed with you, on a forum with tons of different people? That's a bit strange.
Myself, I can see both sides, I have never been great with accepting compliments (well it's not like I get many, lol!) so I can understand feeling awkward if someone comments on weight loss. But I try to see it as, they're trying to be nice, so just try to accept it and go onwards. But the whole thing of it making you think "Wow, did I look that ****ty before?" - yep, I get that too, heh. But that is more a personal failing of mine than the fault of someone trying to pay a compliment.
In a perfect world, why yes! That would be great!! Thanks for the comment!!
crossing my fingers nobody ever disagrees with me on future posts
hey, I can only hope for the best 0 -
Wow. Ok...
One of my reasons for losing weight is for vain reasons. For the compliments. I've spent years and years hiding. Using my kids to take the attention off of me (aww look how big -my daughter- has gotten, so cute!!) ... so I would distract from the 'wow look how big Krista's gotten' ...
The "so much weight lost" argument.. yes, I have lost a lot, because I weighed a lot. I know this, they know this.. why dance around it? That's what you're here for, isn't it?
I do agree though, there's been an increase of people asking if I am losing intentionally. But it's not done in an insensitive way. "hey, you've lost weight. Are you trying?" "you betcha!" "well great, congratulations!" .. typical conversation.
Life is too short to be annoyed by compliments!
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Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
:laugh:
This conversation is priceless. If you guys need a judge on who is more attractive, just let me know.
At this point, I just need u to educate me. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cause apparently I am pretty stinking dense in this area.
I blame the women. If a man started talking strong lifts and macros, I'd probably tell him to hush and look pretty.
But first lesson for next time: "Thanks ladies. You two are so beautiful that this might be the best compliment I've ever gotten."
Happy ending isn't guaranteed, but the odds go way up.
Rgr that.
Will remember that.
But she did say something along the lines of "Not trying to hit on you, but you look really good, and well proportioned, not big up top and small down bottom like most guys"
or something to that affect.....
So that I just assumed is what she meant.....am I wrong for assuming that?
LOL!
"I'm not hitting on you, but...."
Seriously, I used that line when I was single. I might have even used it on my husband.
^ This right here made this thread (Sorry to OP). And yes, I copied the entire thing on purpose.
To the OP: NO! I shouldn't have to tell you this being you are one, but Women are complex creatures. A perfect example: The woman I am married to doesn't even like compliments from me or anyone. It's best to simply keep your mouth shut and do as you're told! :ohwell:0 -
Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.
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I hate it when people comment on my weight or my body in general. I don't mind it on this site, because it's a fitness site, but in real life....STFU.0
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*Looks at ticker. . . studiously avoids comment on it*Making comments about other people's weight loss or gain is inappropriate. Period.
I think it is sad that some people need compliments to validate their self-worth.0 -
#rektMaking comments about other people's weight loss or gain is inappropriate. Period.
I think it is sad that some people need compliments to validate their self-worth.0 -
Ohhh the finicky and complicated female mind. Being that I have a vagina permanently attached, I can safely and confidently say that we ladies are all unique little butterflies, some more prone to bouts of crazypants than others.
And being that each little ray of estrogen-filled sunshine is different than the next, it's like a minefield when trying to talk to us (unless you know the female you're speaking with, in which case congratulations and still proceed with caution).
Hell, half of the time I don't even know whether or not I should compliment another woman and I AM one. It's all very confusing.
Personally, I'm proud of my efforts. I understand that even one short month ago, I looked different than I do now. I also understand that doing squats for the last 30 days is making my *kitten* look MUCH better in a pair of yoga pants. Compliment away.
But I digress and I also understand that not all women feel the same way as I do.
Perhaps I'm repeating a very common sentiment; however, I think it's just best to use your own judgement when speaking to someone. If you know them and you know that they won't be offended when you tell them that their calves are looking so good you could crack walnuts, by all means...do it to it.
But if you think you risk a concussion by complimenting someone, or you might offend them, best to use a more PC way of a compliment ("You look good" as opposed to "DAAAYUMMM Honey - look at dat *kitten*. Have you lost weight?").
Ok. That was rambling. And confusing. And I should probably lay off the pre-workout drink. I'm pretty wired right now.
My bad. Carry on.0 -
People feel the need to comment either way. I certainly prefer comments about my weight loss over comments about how much weight I had gained.0
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I don't mind comments when I actively mention I'm trying to lose weight.
But... a few times in my life, I have had to get treatments, and those treatments have made me pretty sick, so I lost my appetite. It's kinda awkward to have people say:
"Oh! You look so good! What have you been doing?!"
"Oh, chemo. NBD. It's all the rage at the hospital."0 -
A lady at work told me "great job on the weight loss, your patience and meticulous logging is really paying off"
...I punched the ***** in the mouth. Some nerve she had.0 -
Actually, I know I am in the minority, but I hate when someone comments on my weight loss. People commenting on how much weight I had loss was the reason I stopped losing weight the first time around. In a time of weakness I actually contemplated intentionally regaining the weight to get people to get off my back and leave me alone.
I'm in the minority, too. But that's because I have an ED, and so the way I lost the weight wasn't exactly ideal. It's like losing weight because you have the flu. "Oh, you look great. What have you been doing?" "Surviving off chicken noodle soup when I can hold it down," Yeah. Like that.
Also, I take some offense to the post rambling about all women being different, and some being more finicky or whatever. No, dear. It saddens me that that comes from a woman. The truth is, all people are different. Men are, too.0 -
I am kinda mixed on my feelings.....I've lost around 60 pounds and yes it was nice people noticing, but then that's all they wanted to talk about, and there are better things to talk about than myself. yes I am proud of myself, but also still insecure.
SO MUCH THIS.
And for many of you saying you enjoy it, it might reach this point for you, too. People start pretty much defining you as "the one who used to be fat but lost a lot of weight". Reach for a cupcake? "Aren't you still on a diet?" Put the cupcake back "You look great! Eat the cupcake!" Every time you turn around "How'd you do it?" You won't be able to go anywhere without the same ten people complimenting you... again. All anyone who knows me ever wants to talk about is my weight, my body, my diet. It grows very, very tiring. I am a person. I have other things going on in my life.
Then again, once again, I have an ed. So I'm sensitive toward it. And in recovery, the last thing you want people talking to you about is food and weight. Even when it's a compliment.0 -
pretty sure that when someone says that it's meant as a compliment. take it as such.0
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For those who don't want the comments you can just tell them you're on the "Meth & Cheetos diet." That'll get around quick and shut 'em up fast.0
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Someone at work complimented me on my weight lose. Something like, "You look good" or "Weight loss looks good."
I looked at her and said, "Hey, I took that training. You're not allowed to say that to me."
We had a good laugh at HR's expense and talked about calories in/out and MFP.
Sorry to hurt anyone's feelings, but lighten up and take the damn compliment.0 -
I am kinda mixed on my feelings.....I've lost around 60 pounds and yes it was nice people noticing, but then that's all they wanted to talk about, and there are better things to talk about than myself. yes I am proud of myself, but also still insecure.
SO MUCH THIS.
And for many of you saying you enjoy it, it might reach this point for you, too. People start pretty much defining you as "the one who used to be fat but lost a lot of weight". Reach for a cupcake? "Aren't you still on a diet?" Put the cupcake back "You look great! Eat the cupcake!" Every time you turn around "How'd you do it?" You won't be able to go anywhere without the same ten people complimenting you... again. All anyone who knows me ever wants to talk about is my weight, my body, my diet. It grows very, very tiring. I am a person. I have other things going on in my life.
Then again, once again, I have an ed. So I'm sensitive toward it. And in recovery, the last thing you want people talking to you about is food and weight. Even when it's a compliment.
I have no idea what it's like to deal with an ed, so I cannot relate with those that do when it comes to weight loss comments. I do however take the opportunities to tell those that inquire about my loss that it doesn't have to be a painful process, difficult...at times, yes, but not painful, and most of the things they see on tv and magazines are total Bull. Real people can lose real weight with sensible choices and facing their "demons" when it comes to food.0 -
Some people complain because no one is noticing their weight loss. Other's complain because everyone is noticing their weight loss. There's really no happy medium. There's no right way to handle anything . . . and that makes me sad. We have become a society we're we are so afraid to say or to not say something so we don't offend someone else.
Why can't we just talk to each other like normal human beings? Why can't we find out what is best to say to that person and best not to say to another? Why do we have to get all up in arms because someone is different them ourselves?0 -
this thread makes me sad.. people now a days are too damn sensitive .. if youre losing weight youre losing weight and people are going to notice I love to get compliments about it cuz i have worked my *kitten* off to get there but the fact that everything has to be politically correct and everyone has to worry about offending somebody is just ridiculous. If you don't want people to notice your weight lose well then maybe you have other issues you need to work out... JUST SAYING0
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A Man said to me " Damn girl you are looking mighty fine today" I just worked it. I mean people need to relax and not be so sensitive. There's a difference between "you have lost weight, you look great or beautiful " to 'Nice rack "0
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