Gentlemen, its perfectly ok to comment on my weight loss!

people be like 'nice rack jimmy' and i be like 'you're just jealous i'm bigger than you' and then that's why i don't have any female friends............. jk jk jk

I'm a guy, i don't mind compliments or comments. I do have problems with people asking like 'how's it going' or 'still working out'. Those tend to just translate to as 'I don't see results yet fat boy'... so hmm...

although generally, is someone is commenting on weight loss, or anything of physical appearance, you more than likely know that person, and they know you. you also know, the type of response you want/have for them, etc. My workout partner is female, and a co-worker. If I comment on her progress, she isn't offended, she's just doubtful and doesn't believe so. I guess it all depends. People notice if you cut or color your hair. Several pounds gain or loss, people will notice too i'm sure.

HR has a lot of rules at work, but now days a lot of work places are doing their own kind of 'biggest loser' contest, so i imagine maybe it's okay to talk about someone's weight then?

but the bottom line I think is... if someone goes to comment on you, and give a compliment. They were out to be nice. They weren't purposefully trying to offend you. They may or may not know your circumstances, and certainly not out to ruin your day. They made an observation and made a compliment, or a statement. They don't know if you hate it or not. So you can't blame them. "Hey looking great" "Been working out?" aren't evil. There isn't an agenda. I think most people are general welcoming of compliments, but it depends on who it's from. Parents - you don't want to hear anything about it from them. Close Friends - sure. General Friends - why not, they're missing out on this bundle of fun.. Strangers - wait. how did you know i loss weight... are you a spy?! okay maybe not like that but... you get the idea.

Now granted, I think commenting on a female's weight loss / appearance from a male POV has other certain dangers. Pointing out uneven make-up or smeared eyeliner is much less favorable than complimenting weight loss... I don't know first and or anything, but just saying. lol

this thread makes me sad.. people now a days are too damn sensitive .. if youre losing weight youre losing weight and people are going to notice I love to get compliments about it cuz i have worked my *kitten* off to get there but the fact that everything has to be politically correct and everyone has to worry about offending somebody is just ridiculous. If you don't want people to notice your weight lose well then maybe you have other issues you need to work out... JUST SAYING

Did you ever stop to think maybe it has nothing to do with offending someone, and that some people don't like their bodies to be the focus of other people's unwanted attention?

THIS!!!!! I wish people would keep their comments about my body to themselves.

Your dedication really shows in your profile pic, awesome transformation. Quite inspiring!

Im a complete narcissist, I love it when someone comments on my weight loss. CHECK OUT MAH BODY, PEEPS!

this thread makes me sad.. people now a days are too damn sensitive .. if youre losing weight youre losing weight and people are going to notice I love to get compliments about it cuz i have worked my *kitten* off to get there but the fact that everything has to be politically correct and everyone has to worry about offending somebody is just ridiculous. If you don't want people to notice your weight lose well then maybe you have other issues you need to work out... JUST SAYING

I find it sad that apparently a persons right to make unsolicited comments to a stranger/associate (leaving friends to the side here) about their body apparently now trumps a persons right to not have unsolicited comments made about their body.




*I actually like compliments. I just don't think its 'sad' or something to be 'worked out' that some people don't. I'd rather that I was sad at not getting unsolicited comments than someone else was uncomfortable because they got one.

After losing around 70 pounds, a coworker was following me down the hall. When I turned around, he mentioned how great I was doing and that he didn't even recognize me from behind anymore. My inner teenager giggled. I've since gained back about 25 and would love to get to admiration from behind again. haha.

this thread makes me sad.. people now a days are too damn sensitive .. if youre losing weight youre losing weight and people are going to notice I love to get compliments about it cuz i have worked my *kitten* off to get there but the fact that everything has to be politically correct and everyone has to worry about offending somebody is just ridiculous. If you don't want people to notice your weight lose well then maybe you have other issues you need to work out... JUST SAYING

Did you ever stop to think maybe it has nothing to do with offending someone, and that some people don't like their bodies to be the focus of other people's unwanted attention?

THIS!!!!! I wish people would keep their comments about my body to themselves.

This times two. I don't need random acquaintances to stroke my ego. And I think it is nearly as rude to comment on weight loss as on weight gain--neither are any of my business, and if I don't know the person well, could be due to unfortunate circumstances (like illness) rather than diet/exercise. It is different if it is a close friend that I know is working at weight loss.

Why do people post progress pictures on public forums? Or even post them as a profile picture. Wouldn't it be easy just to keep those to yourself so others don't have to see how great you're doing? It makes the likelihood of getting one of those dreaded compliments even greater.

Compliments on a fitness related website/forum are one thing... random compliments from acquaintances/coworkers are something totally different, to me.

I would prefer people not say anything. Yesterday at the bus stop, one of the dads said "Do you walk everyday? You've lost weight." It was uncomfortable for me, because yes, I do walk everyday. I walk because I have dog who needs to be walked to maintain her weight with a two-year-old in the house constantly giving her treats and tossing her food. But the weight loss came from weighing and logging my food, and getting up every morning at 4:30 to bust my *kitten* working out. So while it was complimentary, it was a bit awkward because it's taken a bit more than walking my fat *kitten* around the block to get where I am.

The only other time people have spoken up about my weight loss was in college. People were telling me I looked great, I had lost weight; my boyfriend's sister bought me an outfit in a size 4 to celebrate my weight loss. None of them saw me few weeks earlier collapsed on the floor in pain, or in ER, or sitting through numerous tests and appts at Johns Hopkins. None of them knew that the reason I was so thin was because the doctors suspected I had inherited the family legacy of Crohn's disease. I was dropping weight because I was put on a diet where I couldn't eat most foods, was taking 21 pills a day, and spent half my day in the bathroom. But yeah, sure, I was skinny.

I'd prefer my male co-workers didn't comment on my weight loss to be honest. I'm pretty shy so I may be in the minority. Doing it for myself so I honestly wish it wasn't noticeable to others. Makes me a bit self concious. Although it's nice to hear it from the hubs though.

Tell that to the woman in my open plan office who shouted "Oi, skinny! How much you lost now?", very, very loudly. Or the four people who called me over to say they'd been talking about how much weight I'd lost and were wondering if I'd tell them how I'd done it.

Tactlessness has no nationality!

I must be so odd, I'm British and I would love it if one of my colleagues said this to me.

I have to admit I did love that they noticed and took the time to ask. A number of my colleagues are actually really upbeat and supportive about the whole weight loss thing. I could have done with out suddenly being the focus of 3 directors and 30 odd other people in a very quiet room though - the "Skinny" comment was a real rabbit in the headlights moment :embarassed:

I meant it more as an illustration that as the UK isn't quite at the level of the US in terms restrictive HR rules yet, people employing "tact" is probably less likely!

I work with mostly men and have known a good number of them for close to 20 years. We're more like a family than co-workers. It's like having a whole bunch of annoying brothers. Many are fitness fiends, some are trainers, some are body builders and one is a former Mr. Olympus. Most have no problem mentioning they have noticed a weight loss,,,or a change in hair style or hair color. One of the guys asked me the other night how much I'd lost and I told him (It was 13 at the time...I lost 10 before joining MFP). He told me "good job!" and then told me that if I needed any help with anything, just let him know. He's a certified trainer. That night he was in the gym the same time I was and when I started slowing down, he jumped onto the elliptical machine next to me, got up to the pace I was going and coached me through another 5 minutes. Then he showed me some core strengthening calisthenics, explaining how to get started and how to build on that.

So it's ok for "my boys," but I might be uncomfortable with people I don't know as well.