Any young black women looking to get thin?
Replies
-
I am 35 years old and I "was" in your situation, as I went from 240 pounds to 155. Now, I'm trying to get down to 130 or 120, but I have seem to hit a plateau, since I do lift weights, it might be the weights that keep making the scale move up and down on me lately...0
-
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.
Different cultures are different.
Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?
My aunt told me when I was in my hometown a few weeks ago that I've gotten far too tiny and that I'd lost my butt and that I needed to gain weight ASAP because no black man would want a woman built like I am now. We're supposed to have lots of meat on our bones and if a man wanted a twig he'd just date a white woman.
And, so we're clear, the above is racism. People seem confused so I want to make it clear
I remember you mentioning the pressure before, so I asked in the hopes that you would share.
And doesnt your aunt know that you are married? Or did I miss something?0 -
Have you checked what your TDEE is? You likely don't have to go as low as 1400. A lot of women go higher and have success.Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...0 -
Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...
LOL OP, fair warning, this might get you more flaming than the original title.
I hit 2/3 of your characteristics, but I agree, some posters are being a little overly dramatic.0 -
I'm white but I go tanning. Can I join?0
-
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.
Different cultures are different.
Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?
I absolutely do feel pressure to be "thicker" and have a large *kitten* and be curvacious and all of that..........
Not saying that this is right or ethical,, but its reality, so lets face it. And lets also face the reality that BLACKS were torn from their families for hundreds of years during SLAVERY which was facilitated by WHITES and EUROPEANS and still has effects on the way blacks come together nowadays. Dont try to act like it doesnt happen, history is history, you can't sweep 300 years of slavery that built this country and made it what it is today under the rug...... you simply cannot. Yell at me if you want I dont care.
You just want to watch the world burn, don't you?
No boo, I just live in reality....and the reality is...........that we have a lot further to progress in terms of racism....... it is alive and well, but this thread by the OP has nothing to do with it. She had good intentions of wanting to get to know other black women on the site, THATS ALL. I get so irritated when people want to pull the "reverse racism" card..... ya'll majority should have nothing to say at all because you have every advantage in life that we don't from the time we're born.0 -
But seriously, why are we hung up on skin colour at all? I don't get all exclusive about my hair or nails etc...
People do know about reverse racism, right? Segregation has NO PLACE in this world!!! Never was a good thing and still isn't. I don't care if you're purple, black or see-through. I'm colour blind - if I have a problem with someone, it's because they are acting foolish. And Jane Elliott? This is starting to feel like the diversity training episode of the Office...Fellow white people, stop inserting yourselves into spaces where you aren't wanted. If this woman wants to connect with other people she feels may relate to her experience better, that's her business. To comment on this just to express your offense because you don't feel included is just gross. White people, historically and to a large degree currently, dominate just about every space imaginable and have never not done so freely. When a person of color requests their own space not be intruded upon, show a little respect and don't intrude. For anyone who doesn't understand why this is not the same as a white woman doing this, start by looking up Jane Elliott.
OP, forgive me. I just felt compelled to correct the misguided who've hijacked your thread.
Color Blind= A cool way to say "Stop trying to exclude me!!! How dare you be proud of your skin color!"0 -
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.
Different cultures are different.
Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?
My aunt told me when I was in my hometown a few weeks ago that I've gotten far too tiny and that I'd lost my butt and that I needed to gain weight ASAP because no black man would want a woman built like I am now. We're supposed to have lots of meat on our bones and if a man wanted a twig he'd just date a white woman.
And, so we're clear, the above is racism. People seem confused so I want to make it clear
I remember you mentioning the pressure before, so I asked in the hopes that you would share.
And doesnt your aunt know that you are married? Or did I miss something?
My husband is white though. A whole section of my family is just waiting for me to come to my senses and get a divorce.
But we're baptist and don't believe in divorce.
So. It's an odd thing.0 -
33 is considered young?
THIS IS OFFENSIVE! :::runs to delete!:::0 -
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.
Different cultures are different.
Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?
My aunt told me when I was in my hometown a few weeks ago that I've gotten far too tiny and that I'd lost my butt and that I needed to gain weight ASAP because no black man would want a woman built like I am now. We're supposed to have lots of meat on our bones and if a man wanted a twig he'd just date a white woman.
And, so we're clear, the above is racism. People seem confused so I want to make it clear
Omg. Not only racism, but disrespect of you being goddamn married. AND A LIE, YOUR BUTT IS GREAT. :explode: RAGE FOR YOU.
You are white. Her butt is only great from our white perspective.0 -
I know a black girl, am I part of the club now!?
Yes! :laugh:0 -
I have no problem with thatDon't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
And by the way, just because she wants to associate with black women doesn't make the OP racist. If she feels that she can relate better to a black woman's struggle, so be it. Black people should be allowed to come together exclusively without judgment.........and if anybody has a problem with that then he or she has major issues.
your Kate Moss comment, however...:noway:0 -
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
You can't be serious?
I'm one hundred percent serious. THE STANDARDS OF BEAUTY VARY FROM THE WHITE COMMUNITY TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY when it comes to the IDEAL BODY TYPE OF A FEMALE............. its very obvious in our pop culture ARE YOU BLIND? Look at Nicki Minaj, Look at Jennifer Lopez, look at rap music videos......
Maybe you should look in other place besides what's on tv honey? Beauty is everywhere no matter what color you are. And by the way, JLo is not black. The STANDARD of beauty has to do what's inside of every individual, no matter what color you are. I’m sorry whoever made you feel like you have to have a big booty to feel like a standard woman of your color. The point is, this site is about losing weight and all races lose the same way, calories in vs calories out. If any other race would have posted this, it would get the exact reaction.
Well I wish more people as good-hearted as you are would have been around........in America..........Three Hundred years ago..........where Black PEOPLE were considered less than human......and put on par with ANIMALS.0 -
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
You can't be serious?
I'm one hundred percent serious. THE STANDARDS OF BEAUTY VARY FROM THE WHITE COMMUNITY TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY when it comes to the IDEAL BODY TYPE OF A FEMALE............. its very obvious in our pop culture ARE YOU BLIND? Look at Nicki Minaj, Look at Jennifer Lopez, look at rap music videos......
Maybe you should look in other place besides what's on tv honey? Beauty is everywhere no matter what color you are. And by the way, JLo is not black. The STANDARD of beauty has to do what's inside of every individual, no matter what color you are. I’m sorry whoever made you feel like you have to have a big booty to feel like a standard woman of your color. The point is, this site is about losing weight and all races lose the same way, calories in vs calories out. If any other race would have posted this, it would get the exact reaction.
There's a thread about Asian women looking for other Asian women that has existed for well over a year, has multiple pages and has never EVER been attacked like this OP's thread is.
So. No. You're wrong.0 -
I think you have no idea what you are talking about.Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
You can't be serious?
I'm one hundred percent serious. THE STANDARDS OF BEAUTY VARY FROM THE WHITE COMMUNITY TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY when it comes to the IDEAL BODY TYPE OF A FEMALE............. its very obvious in our pop culture ARE YOU BLIND? Look at Nicki Minaj, Look at Jennifer Lopez, look at rap music videos......1 -
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
I actually do take offense to this. Just because someone is white they want to look like they never eat?0 -
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.
Different cultures are different.
Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?
My aunt told me when I was in my hometown a few weeks ago that I've gotten far too tiny and that I'd lost my butt and that I needed to gain weight ASAP because no black man would want a woman built like I am now. We're supposed to have lots of meat on our bones and if a man wanted a twig he'd just date a white woman.
And, so we're clear, the above is racism. People seem confused so I want to make it clear
I remember you mentioning the pressure before, so I asked in the hopes that you would share.
And doesnt your aunt know that you are married? Or did I miss something?
My husband is white though. A whole section of my family is just waiting for me to come to my senses and get a divorce.
But we're baptist and don't believe in divorce.
So. It's an odd thing.
I think that some people in the black community judge harder when a black woman is with a white man than a black man with a white woman.
Guess how I know? :laugh:0 -
Fellow white people, stop inserting yourselves into spaces where you aren't wanted. If this woman wants to connect with other people she feels may relate to her experience better, that's her business. To comment on this just to express your offense because you don't feel included is just gross. White people, historically and to a large degree currently, dominate just about every space imaginable and have never not done so freely. When a person of color requests their own space not be intruded upon, show a little respect and don't intrude. For anyone who doesn't understand why this is not the same as a white woman doing this, start by looking up Jane Elliott.
OP, forgive me. I just felt compelled to correct the misguided who've hijacked your thread.
I agree, I'm 19 years young and black and I just find it easier to relate weight loss with women who share my build. Why did this even launch into a race issue? Why couldn't this just be a place for us black women to talk about our weight loss efforts?0 -
I'm so confused.... The women on here arguing for OP and bringing up History... all date/married white people...but still feel pressured to have a big booty? I think I'll exit the door slowly now....0
-
Uh, I have seen plenty of black women on MFP as well as white.
I've seen aliens.
i see dead people.
(good luck to you, OP. i hope you enjoy the ride here. MFP has great people, men and women, of all "colors" and backgrounds. hopefully you can and will learn some good info from a wide variety).0 -
I think you have no idea what you are talking about.Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
You can't be serious?
I'm one hundred percent serious. THE STANDARDS OF BEAUTY VARY FROM THE WHITE COMMUNITY TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY when it comes to the IDEAL BODY TYPE OF A FEMALE............. its very obvious in our pop culture ARE YOU BLIND? Look at Nicki Minaj, Look at Jennifer Lopez, look at rap music videos......
I think you have no idea what you're talking about either. I don't care what your race is......... you cannot speak for my truth......and from my truth, different cultures have different ideas of beauty........ EVERYWHERE.......and African-American is a sub-culture of America that has beauty standards and ideals of healthy body image dissimilar to those of the White community. PERIOD.0 -
I've been thinking about this in the context of being a guy on MFP (I won't pretend to know what it is like to be a racial minority).
If I were to generalize, I think it would be safe to say the majority of users on this site are women. On more than one occasion I've thought to myself that it would be nice to have more male friends on my friends list.
I'm in a couple male specific groups. Its nice to have guys on my FL since they problems they would have are similar to mine in most instances. That doesn't mean I don't like women or wouldn't welcome them, as others have said its just nice to have others you can more easily relate to.0 -
Every other cultural group sticks together........why should blacks get judged for it?
somebody get me a 10 foot pole so I can not touch that...
word0 -
move more and eat a 'lil more.Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...0 -
I'll give $5 to a pot to the mods to let this thread go on. There's some awesome stuff going on here.
I've got a coke with my popcorn now, so please continue...0 -
Fellow white people, stop inserting yourselves into spaces where you aren't wanted. If this woman wants to connect with other people she feels may relate to her experience better, that's her business. To comment on this just to express your offense because you don't feel included is just gross. White people, historically and to a large degree currently, dominate just about every space imaginable and have never not done so freely. When a person of color requests their own space not be intruded upon, show a little respect and don't intrude. For anyone who doesn't understand why this is not the same as a white woman doing this, start by looking up Jane Elliott.
OP, forgive me. I just felt compelled to correct the misguided who've hijacked your thread.
I agree, I'm 19 years young and black and I just find it easier to relate weight loss with women who share my build. Why did this even launch into a race issue? Why couldn't this just be a place for us black women to talk about our weight loss efforts?
Well, I'm white, but according to the posts I have seen I'm built like black woman. And I am.0 -
LOL this thread0
-
Don't judge the OP...........
its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.
So video vixons are black women idea of beauty???...uh no!!! Maybe yours but not mine. Don't speak for us all please.
Edit cause I can't spell today0 -
I've been thinking about this in the context of being a guy on MFP (I won't pretend to know what it is like to be a racial minority).
If I were to generalize, I think it would be safe to say the majority of users on this site are women. On more than one occasion I've thought to myself that it would be nice to have more male friends on my friends list.
I'm in a couple male specific groups. Its nice to have guys on my FL since they problems they would have are similar to mine in most instances. That doesn't mean I don't like women or wouldn't welcome them, as others have said its just nice to have others you can more easily relate to.
This, I really like this.0 -
LOL this thread
Best thread of the day. Srsly.0
This discussion has been closed.
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.4K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.2K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.4K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 426 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.7K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions