Is it norm to watch porn?

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  • leodru
    leodru Posts: 321 Member
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    Interesting that a thread about excess is so popular on a website dedicated to helping (most people) deal with issues brought on by excess. Not a judgment on either side obviously because I'm on here too - just seems easy to criticize people about excess if it doesn't happen to be your issue.
  • borst13
    borst13 Posts: 1,826 Member
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    I must be a rarity......never watched it:embarassed:
  • Beautiful_disaster40
    Beautiful_disaster40 Posts: 154
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    To each their own. I watch it and don't care if my SO watches it with or without me. I'm not threatened by someone on a screen but I guess it might be a problem if they didn't want to be with me.
  • stuart160
    stuart160 Posts: 1,628 Member
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    Ever or all the time? I think it's probably disingenuous to say that anyone hasn't saw some porn they enjoy
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
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    Ever or all the time? I think it's probably disingenuous to say that anyone hasn't saw some porn they enjoy

    Agree.

    I don't talk about the porn I enjoy, but I do enjoy some porn. But really, it doesn't matter if other people deny that they enjoy it. Maybe part of the enjoyment that they get from it is the guilt. Guilt can trigger sexual arousal just as much as octopus tentacles and pizza delivery boys.
  • dropdeadgreggie_
    dropdeadgreggie_ Posts: 166 Member
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    I was in an LDR for 2.5 years, I watched porn daily, we moved in together 2 weeks ago and I haven't had a chance since because I've been too busy.

    brown chicken, brown cow.
  • lovetoad
    lovetoad Posts: 7 Member
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    There was a TV programme on British TV a few months ago that looked at this issue. It found that young men are finding it very difficult to sustain a healthy and happy sexual relationship as they are expecting their women to act and look like the women in porn movies. They expected certain behaviours and were disappointed that their women either wouldn't do or didn't like those acts.
    Porn does not show "real" sex only women gagging for it and up for anything.
    The prog also got 2 young men to go to a real shoot for a porn movie and meet the porn stars they lusted after. In reality they found the whole business unerotic, that there was something very sordid about the whole process and that the people concerned with making the movies were not happy and were (in some cases) being abused. This changed their views and they resolved to stop watching it, or stop watching it so much (some were spending hours online w******G).

    My personal view is that it isn't normal to watch porn but it has become so and that disturbs me. I hated it when I found out my husband was watching and looking at porn (on tv, online and in books) and our relationship has suffered for this.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
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    viewing live sex i'm sure has a huge impact on the brain and neurochemistry, just like certain other things for which we have strong evolutionarily-programmed responses (e.g. danger, thrill seeking, drugs, food, actually having sex, and nurturance of babies). before the advent of film (when you either had to get permission to watch others do it or turn creep and spy) what segment of the population do you think was regularly brain-drugging themselves in this way by viewing live sex? what segment of the population is regularly doing this now? and no talks about this? porn is a modern drug, just like TV and the internet.
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
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    viewing live sex i'm sure has a huge impact on the brain and neurochemistry, just like certain other things for which we have strong evolutionarily-programmed responses (e.g. danger, thrill seeking, drugs, food, actually having sex, and nurturance of babies). before the advent of film (when you either had to get permission to watch others do it or turn creep and spy) what segment of the population do you think was regularly brain-drugging themselves in this way by viewing live sex? what segment of the population is regularly doing this now? and no talks about this? porn is a modern drug, just like TV and the internet.
    Citation needed on the difference in impact on neurochemistry between viewing porn and fantasizing.
  • BigDougie1211
    BigDougie1211 Posts: 3,530 Member
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    Look, I like naked women! I'm a bloke! I'm supposed to like them! We're born like that. We like naked women as soon as we're pulled out of one. Halfway down the birth canal we're already enjoying the view. Look, it's the four pillars of the male heterosexual psyche. We like: naked women, stockings, lesbians, and Sean Connery best as James Bond. Because that is what being a bloke is. And if you don't like it, darling, join a film collective. I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman at the end of the table here. But that does not stop me wanting to see several thousand more naked bottoms before I die. Because that's what being a bloke is. When Man invented fire, he didn't say "Hey, let's cook!" He said: "Great! Now we can see naked bottoms in the dark!" As soon as Caxton invented the printing press we were using it to make pictures of - hey! - naked bottoms. We've turned the Internet into an enormous international database of... naked bottoms. So, you see, the story of male achievement through the ages, feeble though it may have been, has been the story of our struggle to get a better look at your bottoms. Frankly, girls, I'm not so sure how insulted you really ought to be.

    Coupling - great show.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
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    Look, I like naked women! I'm a bloke! I'm supposed to like them! We're born like that. We like naked women as soon as we're pulled out of one. Halfway down the birth canal we're already enjoying the view. Look, it's the four pillars of the male heterosexual psyche. We like: naked women, stockings, lesbians, and Sean Connery best as James Bond. Because that is what being a bloke is. And if you don't like it, darling, join a film collective. I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman at the end of the table here. But that does not stop me wanting to see several thousand more naked bottoms before I die. Because that's what being a bloke is. When Man invented fire, he didn't say "Hey, let's cook!" He said: "Great! Now we can see naked bottoms in the dark!" As soon as Caxton invented the printing press we were using it to make pictures of - hey! - naked bottoms. We've turned the Internet into an enormous international database of... naked bottoms. So, you see, the story of male achievement through the ages, feeble though it may have been, has been the story of our struggle to get a better look at your bottoms. Frankly, girls, I'm not so sure how insulted you really ought to be.

    Coupling - great show.

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  • ItsMeGee3
    ItsMeGee3 Posts: 13,255 Member
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    This really does have me laughing out loud!
  • Muldactus
    Muldactus Posts: 6,972 Member
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    This really does have me laughing out loud!

    Which part?
  • itodd4019
    itodd4019 Posts: 340 Member
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    me and my girl have talked about it a lot, and neither of us likes the thinking that the other is turned on by someone else

    we even have an agreement not to comment on other people's bodies

    there is no reason for her to hear me say some chick is pretty. And why would I want to say that, knowing it can only make her feel weird at best.

    we are getting married in August, so ubber in love, and I hope it stays that way

    she turns me on, and i turn her on

    we are weird


    THE GREEN MONSTER IS DEADLY = not worth the risk to us.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
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    viewing live sex i'm sure has a huge impact on the brain and neurochemistry, just like certain other things for which we have strong evolutionarily-programmed responses (e.g. danger, thrill seeking, drugs, food, actually having sex, and nurturance of babies). before the advent of film (when you either had to get permission to watch others do it or turn creep and spy) what segment of the population do you think was regularly brain-drugging themselves in this way by viewing live sex? what segment of the population is regularly doing this now? and no talks about this? porn is a modern drug, just like TV and the internet.
    Citation needed on the difference in impact on neurochemistry between viewing porn and fantasizing.

    ooh SNAP got me there :blushing:
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
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    viewing live sex i'm sure has a huge impact on the brain and neurochemistry, just like certain other things for which we have strong evolutionarily-programmed responses (e.g. danger, thrill seeking, drugs, food, actually having sex, and nurturance of babies). before the advent of film (when you either had to get permission to watch others do it or turn creep and spy) what segment of the population do you think was regularly brain-drugging themselves in this way by viewing live sex? what segment of the population is regularly doing this now? and no talks about this? porn is a modern drug, just like TV and the internet.

    let me see..... Neanderthals, Cro-Magnons, Homo heidelbergensis, Homo erectus.... except it wasn't brain drugging. If you and your clan/tribe all live in the same cave or mammoth bone shelter, or just sleep around the campfire each night, you're going to see people having sex. A lot. All the time. Even in modern hunter-gatherer tribes where you have the extended family living in one small dwelling together........ they see each other have sex. Kids see their parents having sex. They grow up viewing sex as a totally normal way for two people to express love and have fun together.

    There are other ways to see other people having sex without having to creep, spy or get permission, like if you all live in a cave together or something. I don't know how on earth you think humans managed to evolve without ever seeing other humans having sex. And I'm sure Australopithecines saw each other having sex a lot too. And ardipithecus. And the common ancestor of chimps, bonobos and humans... etc etc...

    Do chimpanzees and bonobos and other great apes have brain problems (or are somehow drugging their brains) because they see other apes of their species having sex? Bonobos like to watch (although usually they join in) bonobos bred in captivity have been known to deliberately choose to watch porn (i.e. videos of other bonobos having sex).

    The idea that sex should be done in private and kept all hush-hush and taboo is an extremely modern phenomenon invented by modern humans. We evolved in way less prudish societies.
  • tristan299
    tristan299 Posts: 2,537 Member
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    I would say it depends on if your partner satisfies you or not. If they can arouse you with out the aid of some actors acting to a **** story line then no. If you livee your life in a fantasy land where you need porn to get your jiggy on then yep.
  • ThinLizzie0802
    ThinLizzie0802 Posts: 863 Member
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    It becomes annoying when your SO is watching porn and not engaging in sexual activities with you. That's when issues arise-issues that can stem from all sorts of things.

    I had an SO who just thought the blonde trashy porn star look was super hot. It was tough knowing he watched porn with a specific type of female who had nothing in common with me physically. I was never going to look like that. I was never going to behave like that, and I struggled mentally with wondering why he had any interest in me.

    But watching porn can be and is healthy for plenty of people.
  • CoveOps
    CoveOps Posts: 100
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    haha wow!
  • AmbitiousBaby
    AmbitiousBaby Posts: 13
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    I love porn lol
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