Cougar or MILF?

If you hook up with a MILF (or any mother, for that matter), doesn't that make you a Mother F*cker?

If that's the case, why is that phrase insulting? I'd personally find it as a compliment.

Heck every single father is technically a "MoFo".

Been quietly reading all this back and forth, but when I got to this, I chuckled out loud. Good point!

puma

I think both cougars and milfs are hot as *kitten* haha

I still prefer Hellcat!!!

I guess the way I look at it is, if I heard some 20 year-old kid calling my 40-something daughter a "MILF", I'd need bail money and an attorney.

But knowing my daughter, she would probably take care of business herself.

Moral?:

Never call a woman something you wouldn't call you own daughter.

JMHO.

Ah. Ok. I call my wife plenty of things I wouldn't call my daughters. It's a bit different. Does this really need to be explained?

*Clarification*

Never call a woman you do not know something you wouldn't call your daughter.

Is that more palatable?

My thought here was the term "MILF", at least as I have come to understand it, was originally intended to describe a 20 something's myopic view of older women. However, over the years it has become a more accepted practice to widen the scope and target group to any older woman who is hot by any male-aged group.

What you call your wife/girlfriend/SO within the confines of your relationship does not concern me, as that was not who I was referring to in my original post that you responded to. That's why I said, "20 year-old kid calling my 40-something daughter a "MILF"."

We can debate ad-nauseam about the *politically correctness* of the term, and it's application/use, but that tree will bear no fruit...

Enjoy your discussion.

No worries. I got a chuckle out of that though. I think it's entirely possible that none of us are taking this thread even the slightest bit seriously. Never sure on the Internet though. The rape culture comments, for example, always raise my eyebrows, as I'm sure that treating women that poorly would result in an *kitten* kicking in my culture. Then prison.

I guess the way I look at it is, if I heard some 20 year-old kid calling my 40-something daughter a "MILF", I'd need bail money and an attorney.

But knowing my daughter, she would probably take care of business herself.

Moral?:

Never call a woman something you wouldn't call you own daughter.

JMHO.

Ah. Ok. I call my wife plenty of things I wouldn't call my daughters. It's a bit different. Does this really need to be explained?

*Clarification*

Never call a woman you do not know something you wouldn't call your daughter.

Is that more palatable?

My thought here was the term "MILF", at least as I have come to understand it, was originally intended to describe a 20 something's myopic view of older women. However, over the years it has become a more accepted practice to widen the scope and target group to any older woman who is hot by any male-aged group.

What you call your wife/girlfriend/SO within the confines of your relationship does not concern me, as that was not who I was referring to in my original post that you responded to. That's why I said, "20 year-old kid calling my 40-something daughter a "MILF"."

We can debate ad-nauseam about the *politically correctness* of the term, and it's application/use, but that tree will bear no fruit...

Enjoy your discussion.

No worries. I got a chuckle out of that though. I think it's entirely possible that none of us are taking this thread even the slightest bit seriously. Never sure on the Internet though. The rape culture comments, for example, always raise my eyebrows, as I'm sure that treating women that poorly would result in an *kitten* kicking in my culture. Then prison.

Werd....

Can I get back the 6 minutes of my life it took to read these posts?!?!

Did rape culture come up in this thread? Perhaps I should read it...

I don't even know what this means. It gets thrown around so much.

I'm a survivor (for lack of a way to explain this without getting too personal and sad). I've worked in sexual assault and domestic violence centers.

Rape is serious. And throwing around rape culture sometimes seems to diminish the seriousness of it.

I am in the camp that consensual sex needs to be separate from forced violence. In my own experience consensual sex is empowering and healing from sexual violence. Reclaim sexuality from the people that stole it. I went through it as a very young child. I never got to wait and find sexuality on my own terms and that was a huge loss and very damaging and I carried that with me at every stage of my development (that is a pleasant description).

I'm an adult now. And I have been for decades. My sexuality was stolen from me as a child. I'm not a child anymore. And I'm not letting anyone define my sexuality for me as an adult. No one can enter my bedroom without my consent. And I am enjoying sex as an adult, without intervention. It's a personal choice. My sexuality is not fear based. I face my fears.

Throwing the word rape around casually is upsetting at times.

Binary, I seem to have conflated my daily MILF threads with that comment

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1336250-turning-30-and-am-a-fat-milf-oh-wow-i-need-help?hl=rape+culture&page=11#posts-20529650

You'd waste your time wading through these to find that anyway.

And I have absolutely no idea how to interpret that phrase. It's always hit me as something people say who have nothing better to say. Hence my comment. In the wrong thread.

Ok, Thank you for explaining that.

:flowerforyou:

I think both are disgusting and would prefer not to be reffered to as any one.

If you want to compliment me than open doors for me, pull out my chair, notice my eyes....... I dont like being hooted at or reffered to as sexualized nicknames due to my age and gender.

I just want my BF to think I am pretty, this here isnt for anyone else but him

Agree 100% with all of this...very well said.

Both are pretty derogatory towards women really.

Indeed. MILF more so. When a woman says they're MILF I wonder if they've thought through what the letters stand for.

Indeed. LOL

Mmmmm, hi sexy hot milf

I milfed on a cougar once at the zoo, but it was hot out and I ate too many eggs for breakfast... it was not pretty...

MILF offends you but your "nickname" is hooker...

actually if she is a MILF...wouldnt you want her to be a cougar???