Would you date someone overweight?

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  • Phoenix__Rising
    Phoenix__Rising Posts: 9,981 Member
    Aside from the fact I'm already married .. supposing I wasn't.
    I must admit unless the heavy person I was in this alter world,
    was dating was actively working on losing their weight .. no.
    If they were trying to become healthy/fit .. yes.
    Fit, healthy people I think do better when they are with like
    minded individuals .. just my opinion ..don't throw any tomatoes.


    Personality and other factors do measure in but healthy, vital
    .. is pretty important.
  • Kazzam33
    Kazzam33 Posts: 210
    In my personal experience chubby chasers are sadly few & far between.

    My partner & I got fat together so technically the answer is yes.
  • cheesevixen_staci
    cheesevixen_staci Posts: 153 Member
    I like my men a little thick, but not "scooter" big. Also, if I can't tell your gender when you take your clothes off. >> js
  • Tara_238
    Tara_238 Posts: 70 Member
    No, but only because I am married and I am sure my husband wouldn't like the idea of me dating anyone. But I have dated bigger guys way back when I was single and thin. wow that was many moons ago.
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
    If you can't pick her up don't take her home.

    My husband can't pick me up? Should he not have taken me home? Think you should clarify. Some have disabilities that render them unable to pick up an adult..No, I am no where close to obese either. I am smaller than he is.
  • mmd575
    mmd575 Posts: 88 Member
    I like my men a little thick, but not "scooter" big. Also, if I can't tell your gender when you take your clothes off. >> js

    I laughed at this! But I know I've been attracted to guys that could be considered overweight and others that are tall and slim. I guess it depends on the person I am talking to. But an obese person that's tough, I know I'm generalizing here but I just want someone who wants to get into better shape and take care of themselves and a lot of the obese men I know (not saying all obese men are this way) just don't give a *kitten*. And I don't want someone to discourage me from my goal.
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
    Yes I would date a teddy bear.. I don't want splinters, not to mention something about being in their arms makes me feel safe.. :)
  • lna_1981
    lna_1981 Posts: 696 Member
    Yes, but not obese. I've been very attracted to bigger men before. It is always about personality and how they treat me. I don't fall in love with looks but who that person is.
  • MissAnjy
    MissAnjy Posts: 2,480 Member
    Yes. My ex-bf is pushing 300 at 5'8.

    You see women say this alot but always about an ex. The current guy they're with, almost never.

    Trust me, I would love to say him and I were still together.
  • littlebutlean
    littlebutlean Posts: 2,159 Member
    I actually wouldn't at this point in my life. I'm too old and too cranky and put too much time into my health, fitness regimen and physique to open up dating to someone I'm probably not attracted to.

    There's the honest answer.
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
    :sad: :sad: :sad:
    *crumples up love note*
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
    Speaking of honestly, I wouldn't either with the exception of one person (my ex). He is a big (like 6'4" pushing 400lbs big) snuggly tattooed Mexican with the most attractive mind ever.

    Oh, back the the honesty part...the sex isn't as fun and gets boring with someone who is very overweight (hence me trying to lose it). He couldn't get position crazy, or go a long time without being tired. Also, it's just not visually appealing. Fat is not attractive to me so it's very understandable how others, male and female alike, could feel the same.

    Then again, when you mentally click with someone like you're sharing a brain, it's hard to let that go due to poor humping. *sigh*
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    Depends, does date include dinner?
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
    Oh, and at this point in my life, it would be helpful to be with someone who had a fitness based (but still sick, witty, twisted, and perverted) mentality. When I'm with someone who shares the same bad habits, it's hard for me to stay on track. My fault really though.
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
    Depends, does date include dinner?
    And more importantly, who's paying for it all?
  • Slendermike
    Slendermike Posts: 1,776 Member
    I am overweight so of course I would date overweight ;)
  • Menix8
    Menix8 Posts: 210 Member
    SO for those of you saying that you would not..... what about if they were skinny to start off with .... you married or got very serious (for years) and they put on a lot of weight? You going to dump or divorce cause of that?

    I hope not cause that makes you shallow....very shallow. So shallow I hope you gain all your weight back & never get anyone again.

    Seriously, straw man much? The word "dating" implies beginning a relationship. The question wasn't "would you leave your SO for being overweight"
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
    I suppose it depends on the amount of overweightness. What's overweight to me may not be to someone else. If it affects aspects of the relationship, it's an issue for me now.
  • moraiwebird
    moraiwebird Posts: 71 Member
    To a point, yes. Overweight, sure. Obese, maybe not.

    What really convinced me to lose the weight in the first place was I hit a point where I wouldn't have dated me if I had the choice, so there's that.
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
    To a point, yes. Overweight, sure. Obese, maybe not.

    What really convinced me to lose the weight in the first place was I hit a point where I wouldn't have dated me if I had the choice, so there's that.
    One of my thought processes as well. I figure if I'm like "eww", then others probably are too.
  • lessbounce
    lessbounce Posts: 250 Member
    Yes, I prefer my blokes and ladies with a bit a meat on them :tongue:

    My husband however was chronically underweight when I met him...... Didn't stop it being love at first sight :heart:
  • nyboer
    nyboer Posts: 346 Member
    My hubby's overweight...does that count?
  • Left4Good
    Left4Good Posts: 304
    Yep, even obese because i don't give a **** about someones weight or looks if i love them.
  • cHaRlIe0411
    cHaRlIe0411 Posts: 137 Member
    I have dated a very overweight guy before. But I would not do it again. His lifestyle and diet kind of grossed me out. The guy never wanted to go outside and do things!
  • jasonmh630
    jasonmh630 Posts: 2,850 Member
    Well... yeah. I'm overweight (technically obese), so I would be a hypocrite if I said I wouldn't.
  • vanillacoffee
    vanillacoffee Posts: 1,024 Member
    Yup. I would.

    Firstly, in a manner of personal preference, I would prefer someone slightly overweight to someone underweight (and that's just what I'm attracted to, not commenting on body image in general!)

    Also, I am on a weight loss journey myself, and I know that it doesn't happen overnight, as well as many other contributing factors. I feel like I would be a hypocrite not to consider someone I otherwise liked just because they were overweight.

    Also, I don't mind when someone is a little cuddly! :)
  • islander_2013
    islander_2013 Posts: 13,378 Member
    yes
  • kittyd7015
    kittyd7015 Posts: 4,546 Member
    I use to but Im not sure I would now. but thats a bit hypocriticil of me lol xxx
  • elprincipito
    elprincipito Posts: 1,200 Member
    yap. thats not what i look for in someone
  • alaynavee
    alaynavee Posts: 148 Member
    Overweight, yes, because most guys around my age are carrying a Molson muscle (Canadian thing :drinker: ). But obese? No, not likely, because I have always been attracted to guys who are at least a little active, like play on a beer league in the winter or kick a ball around in the summer.

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