Would you date someone overweight?

lj5109
lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
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Would you date someone overweight? Why or why not?
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  • Sarahs2576
    Sarahs2576 Posts: 418 Member
    I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.
  • BurnBabyyyBurn
    BurnBabyyyBurn Posts: 79
    I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.

    This! However, my lifestyle might interfere with his. Like if he always wants to go out to eat at unhealthy places and isn't supportive of my goals...then I don't think we could get along very well. If he's sweet, caring, supportive... *sigh* send him my way!! LOL
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    yes , I have and would again
  • the_dude00
    the_dude00 Posts: 1,056 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.

    This! However, my lifestyle might interfere with his. Like if he always wants to go out to eat at unhealthy places and isn't supportive of my goals...then I don't think we could get along very well. If he's sweet, caring, supportive... *sigh* send him my way!! LOL

    Does he have a brother?! Haha I feel like guys like that are so hard to find, especially in college!
  • SrJoben
    SrJoben Posts: 484 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    I didn't know people really used the phrase 'active lifestyle' outside of hair replacement commercials.
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    I've heard this from multiple guys and I always feel really conflicted. I'm a bigger girl but I live a very active lifestyle..
  • Sunbrooke
    Sunbrooke Posts: 632 Member
    I never did and I don't think I would. I just find it really unattractive. It's not a judgement thing; I'm just not attracted to overweight guys. This doesn't mean that I couldn't love someone overweight. It would be different if something happened and my husband gained weight.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    I have dated guys who were overweight. When I met my hubby, he had a little chub on him. Didn't stop me from jumping his bones. lol
  • kristarablue2
    kristarablue2 Posts: 386 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    Interesting assumption to make...totally within your right of course....just very close minded and often untrue...but to each their own

    For me absolutely, I am much more concerned about emotional and intellectual connection as well as their kindness and respect for others than their weight
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    lol yea because overweight/fat people cannot be active ....how silly
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    My SO is overweight and very sedentary. I love him and he love me.
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    I never did and I don't think I would. I just find it really unattractive. It's not a judgement thing; I'm just not attracted to overweight guys. This doesn't mean that I couldn't love someone overweight. It would be different if something happened and my husband gained weight.

    I don't necessarily find it unattractive, but I am certainly more attracted to other body types. Personally, I like guys that are really well built, strong/muscular and that maybe have a little bit of chub--like thick guys lol.
  • raven_ous
    raven_ous Posts: 223
    Well I am spoken for but in theory yeah why not?There are plenty of attractive people who are or considered overweight and unless you are aware of their history or what they are currently doing they maybe in the process of losing the weight.

    You are either attracted to a person or not. Aesthetics obviously play a major role, but people often find themselves attracted to others who they never considered "their type" Have been pleasantly surprised by what lies beneath the exterior on some people and other times disgusted.
  • rowlandsw
    rowlandsw Posts: 1,166 Member
    It's all i have dated up until recently.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Yep, even married one.
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they don't live an active lifestyle.

    What a ridiculous statement and assumption to make.
  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    I just find it really unattractive. It's not a judgement thing.

    You do realise those statements are totally incompatible, right? Finding overweight people unattractive couldn't be more of a judgement thing. I mean what else could it possibly be?
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common.

    Fat =/= inactive. I know lots of overweight or fat people who are very active. Certainly more active than many of the skinny people I know.

    To answer the OP, yes I have and yes I would.
    Yep, even married one.

    Me too!
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.

    How YOU doin?? :bigsmile:

    As to the question....it's not the weight that is the deciding factor for me. I want someone who cares about their health and stays fit. I'm not the guy that's going to have a six-pack and 10% body fat so I don't expect it of my wife/girlfriend either. But I want someone who is willing to be active, help me set a good example for my kids and if she's willing to go to Crossfit with me.....:love:
  • Amandawith3kids
    Amandawith3kids Posts: 367 Member
    i've dated them. my hubby though is very trim. i like a man who can keep up with me. LOL

    he's 6'2", 170 pounds, and LEAN. there is like no fat on him. i'm a lucky lucky girl. he's also all kinds of awesome, and soo funny. :)
  • raven_ous
    raven_ous Posts: 223
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they don't live an active lifestyle.

    What a ridiculous statement and assumption to make.
    To be fair he was just giving his opinion as is everybody else, he did also mention the word probably.

    Yes overweight people can lead very active lives (I know plenty) but you can not deny that there is some truth in the statement, where some overweight individuals live very inactive lifestyles (as do some people who are not overweight) which may make difficult for the guy to have a compatible relationship.

    I personally don't follow his train of thought but he is entitled to decide what he finds attractive/compatible.

    Different strokes people!
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    No









    My wife frowns on me dating . . .
  • Sunbrooke
    Sunbrooke Posts: 632 Member
    I just find it really unattractive. It's not a judgement thing.

    You do realise those statements are totally incompatible, right? Finding overweight people unattractive couldn't be more of a judgement thing. I mean what else could it possibly be?
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common.


    Fat =/= inactive. I know lots of overweight or fat people who are very active. Certainly more active than many of the skinny people I know.

    To answer the OP, yes I have and yes I would.
    Yep, even married one.

    Me too!


    It means I don't think any less of someone who is overweight as a person. It's like how alot of women aren't attracted to men who are shorted than them. I almost didn't reply here since I figured someone would find a way to twist what I said.
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.

    +1000000
  • raven_ous
    raven_ous Posts: 223
    No









    My wife frowns on me dating . . .
    Afternoon at the bathhouse is acceptable than? How you doin'?
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.

    Fit people are all meanies who treat their SOs poorly?
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    No









    My wife frowns on me dating . . .
    Afternoon at the bathhouse is acceptable than? How you doin'?

    Hummmm. You sound familiar. Could it be?
  • redwoodkestrel
    redwoodkestrel Posts: 339 Member
    Yes, of course, especially since how hypocritical would that be if I wouldn't since I've been overweight for almost my entire life? I know the sadness of realizing someone I like is not giving me a chance just because I'm overweight, even though (imho) I'm a pretty awesome person.

    My partner of 5 years is overweight but is still willing to go hiking with me when I want him to. He's smart, funny, loyal, and sweet, which are all qualities I care much more about than looks. Those qualities make him attractive to me. He treats me better than anyone I have ever met.
  • I_Will_End_You
    I_Will_End_You Posts: 4,397 Member
    My SO is overweight and very sedentary. I love him and he love me.


    Same here.
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.

    +1000000

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