Can your SO access your phone?

My husband locked his phone, kept it on him while sleeping/showering/walkinganywhereawayfrommeforanyamountoftime. He forgot once, and I checked his phone to see if he had some pictures I had wanted upload to Facebook. Nope, entire folders of nudes and calls from his ex girlfriend. We are now going through a divorce.

and this is exactly what every girlfriend is afraid of when he wont leave his phone anywhere even for a minute. the question is, can something like this really be innocent? it seems more like a 99% chance that hes got something to hide.

There's a big difference between locking his phone as a general security precaution and keeping his girlfriend/wife away from his phone at all costs. If he flies across the room out of fear that you might pick it up to so much as check the time then yeah, there may be something more going on here.

I don't find anything suspicious about locking the phone in general, but I do find it kind of suspicious if your s/o won't allow you to go in his/ her phone to get a number you might need, grab a photo,or for some other legit reason. That just wouldn't fly with me.

glad to see that im not the only one who feels this way.

id love to hear from the guys on this subject. do you ever lock your GF/wife out of your phone when you really have nothing to hide?

I do not lock my phone. My GF will use my phone sometimes because her's will die and she does not hide or lock hers either. But when I was married, things were different. Wife at the time locked phone, kept it with her or by her side at all times. I finally was able to see the phone bill and saw how many phone calls and text messages were sent to a certain number. After seeing this I did some more investigating and finally saw the truth. Moved out within two days and now officially divorced. You must have trust in a relationship, or it will never work.

Absolutely. I wouldn't care. And he is the same.

I always lock my phone because I work with *kitten*.

If my SO was suspicious of my behavior, I would expect him to be man enough to ask directly for an explanation. Snooping is for little girls and people who already do not trust. If this guy was annoyed or concerned by her actual behavior around him, why not discuss that with her?

In my case, I WAS suspicious of my exboyrfiend and I resisted the snooping urge for a year and I probed and asked and discussed and each time he denied everything and tried to make me feel guilty for even ASKING such a thing. By the time I snooped, there wasn't any trust left. The snooping and finding the "evidence" was just the confirmation I needed to give myself the peace of mind to move on.

My husband and I have access to all accounts and phones BUT we never snoop or invade the others privacy. He may answer my phone or vice versa but only if the call was expected and its family or friends (cookout at brothers "can you pick up _____?"). 17 years together and we don't read each other's conversations or even feel the need to know beyond a " how are they doing?" Unless it involves the both of us.

We both even have hide it apps on our phones; kids and nudes don't mix so our dirty pics we move to a hidden app.

For those that snoop and call it curiosity, it may be but it also sounds codependent. I love my husband as his own person and have no desire to police him or be privy to every second of his day. Him and I have a right to be our own person and have conversations that don't involve the other. Even just asking "who did you talk to today?" And "what was said?" Seem unhealthy to me. If something is going on with someone that I am aware of I may ask if there has been any news, but on a daily basis I could careless who my husband speaks with...that is his business, he will share if he wants...when we talk.

I also never open his wallet, unless it was an emergency and he stays out of my purse.....it scares him.

We also give and respect our children's privacy.

If one of us felt the need to snoop, that would devastate me because at that point I would know our relationship was in real trouble.

I make sexual jokes and stuff I have no issue telling him these things so there would be nothing to find. We are both adults though and have no need to answer to anyone about every conversation we have.

He has access to mine, although I don't get access to his. :ohwell:

I have to agree with this. But maybe this is why I'm still single. I wouldn't have anything to hide in a relationship and they could look all they want, however, I would say texts between my friends and I are off limits, not because I'm hiding something but my what my friends share is their business to share it NOT mine. What they tell me is in confidence even if it's just what time we're meeting somewhere. Chances are I'd tell my SO where I was meeting someone and who, but any info my friend shares with me in a text/email is their business. If I found out I told my BFF a secret and she let her SO read that info, I'd be kinda pissed off. Even if I like the dude, even if I know he wouldn't do anything with the info. I shared that with my BFF, NOT my BFF and their SO.

Why do people think/want to know every single thing their SO said in the course of a day to someone else? Seriously, I say some pretty boring things all day.

Agree with this 100%

What I don't get are people saying they have personal text conversations with other people - why don't you just delete the conversation afterwards? If you need to protect the other persons privacy or something.

Perhaps I'm missing something because I don't use mobile phones or text messages for this type of conversation. :indifferent:

To me...the question would be why do I have to erase my conversations because someone wants to read them. I am close to my sister in law and she vents about my husbands brother to me. My husband having knowledge of her feelings could put him in an odd position when talking to his brother.

Picture an old house phone.....if every time you wanted to chat with someone and your spouse picked up another line and listened.....that would be creepy..... Would you want them to stop or should you start sneaking around to use the phone so you can't be spied on?

Me and the hubs can access each other's phones. He has better apps than I do, LOL!!!! No reason to put a 'code' unless the kids can use these phones and try to purchase apps, which is what my daughter tried doing!!!:)