I prefer not get weight loss comments

Are you talking about IRL or on MFP? On MFP, you can remove the option of having your weight loss posted after weigh ins. In real life, you cannot remove the option of what people say, unfortunately.

I never turn down a compliment.

I also hate comments about my weight. Whether it's up or down I just wish people would keep it to themselves. Especially since most of the time they are wrong and think i've lost when i have gained :S

I think we all agree that comments that are meant to be flattering about our weight loss progress can go South if taken in the wrong way. People were really caught off guard when I lost 46 pounds. I had only gained 15 pounds as the weight I carried around most of my adult life was about 20-30 above where I am now. So on my body frame (small / long) it really is a big difference and most people in my new home town since 2005 never saw me any thinner. So for the first two years, I gave everyone a pass. Now that I am in my third year of maintenance, and am working on strength and endurance, I get the obnoxious questions of "Why are you doing that? You look great!" Seriously, this process has taught me to never, never, never, make a comment based on weight. Actually, my stock comment is "great to see you".

On the other hand, I have decided to make a point of telling people I know have lost weight, working out, to tell them they look great. No comment on noticeably weight loss.

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"Sounds like you are just way to sensitive.
If a simple comment is going to cause you so much pain then you may need to work on your confidence. Simple words should not have such a great impact on you.

And if someone complimenting your weight loss is going to cause you to develop an eating disorder then you might have deeper issues."
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There are lots of people with eating disorders, or who are on the verge of one (who have disordered eating. And dieting is considered disordered eating by many health professionals in the eating disorder community.) Hopefully you would not want to add fuel to that fire, yes?

I share the perspective that there is no such thing as over-sensitivity, just insensitivity

We can all benefit from learning ways to be more sensitive of others in various ways.

I would encourage you to visit the National Eating Disorder Association web site, and the ANAD eating disorder web site. They include discussion of how common it is for eating disorders to be set off by just one comment. it is actually quite common.

Also, please check out the story of Andrea Smeltzer, a young woman who died in the early stages of bulimia, as her story is relevant here. Her mother, Doris Smeltzer, has worked tirelessly to educate about eating disorders, ever since, and encourages weight neutrality. She has a beautiful web site and has written a book called "Andrea's Voice."

People with eating disorders frequently recall one thing someone said to them that stuck with them, that set off their eating disorder (something that added fuel to the fire within our already eating-disordered culture). That is why these national eating disorder organizations and other e.d. educators encourage people to not make comments about others' weight: and to be weight-neutral.

Also, years ago, Ann Landers addressed this from an etiquette standpoint, writing it is not polite or appropriate to comment on other peoples' weights: it really is no one else's business how much another person weighs, unless that person brings it up. One never knows why a person lost (or gained) weight, or how the comment might affect them.

It's just a way of being considerate and to avoid doing needless, even if unintended, harm.

If it's a sincere compliment, accept it with grace. If it's a backhanded compliment, tell 'em to f' off. Why would you put any more thought into it than that?

I accept compliments with gratitude, but definitely perfer comments not be made on my weight. I'm focusing on my health for me and having others weigh in (no pun intended) on it is just extra pressure to me.

The gym I go to asked me for before and after pictures to use in marketing materials. I nearly perished at the thought - LOL!

If it's someone I am close to that we talk about things such as work out programs and healthy eating, then I'm okay with it. Also just a simple you look good or really fit is nice. They only time I really HATE it is when someone says "you're too skinny" "you need to eat more" "you need some protein" "eat some meat" (I'm a vegetarian). "Look at you, you're too thin". I am within normal weight and BMI for my height (at the low end). I have someone at work who has been making daily comments. I have had other people say similar things.
So compliments are okay, but opinions and commentary are not okay in my opinion.

If you're talking about in real life, I agree, it is extremely rude for people to comment on another person's weight.

Saying, "Hey, you look great. You look like you've lost weight!" is very insulting. It implies that the person didn't look as good at a higher weight.

Yeah I sometimes felt that way like, "oh geez! Did I look like some sort of cow before, I haven't even dropped but 15 lbs!" But those are nothing in frequency compared to now. The main reason I wanted to comment here is I just don't understand how complimenting me on achieving or getting closer to a goal I very intentionally worked on, and that cost me blood, sweat, and tears could be considered insulting. Just like the MFP friend list they can see you getting closer to a goal and feel the need to encourage and congratulate you. Finally , I don't think we should be held to the standard of relating to everyone as though they could be sick. Au contraire, sick people are encouraged to get help so that they may interact normally with the rest of society