"You MUST send me a message if you want to be my friend"
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alot on here, like to make it a big deal....like they want you beggin to be your friend....................and then they won't say **** to ya.......but they want all the attention.......they want you coming to their page..............too much work for them to come to your page..................as you say....only takes a few seconds..............lmao......so many attention getters on here..............
but there are a couple of handfuls of good people on here..............but mostly the women want to show their *kitten* or tits.....and the dudes want to flex their muscles...............majority of them won't show their face.......lol hiding from their spouse or their that damn ugly
Well aren't you a peach!0 -
LOL....hehehe0
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This isn't real life just so everyone knows.
How is it not real life? I'm real. You're real. Everyone on my friend list is real. The words I type are real. The conversations we have are real. Does the fact that the internet is facilitating our conversations somehow change these facts? Does that mean that telephone calls are also not real life? Emails? When does one cross this fictional boundary between real-life and not real-life?
The things you do and say online are just as real as anywhere else. Arguably more so, since if you do something that garners sufficient attention online it never, ever, goes away.
The people on my friend list are actually friends. Not just random strangers I accepted as entries in a database flagged 'friend'. There's not a one of them I wouldn't meet in person and get a drink with. I like them. I like what they have to say. A quick message with your friend request just helps me decide if you are likely to be someone I'll enjoy interacting with. Likewise when I send a friend request, I'll briefly describe why I think we'll enjoy being friends. Sometimes it doesn't workout, and I'll drop someone from my list, or they'll drop me from their's. No hard feelings, some people just aren't compatible.
If you would like to curate your friend list in a different way, that's fine too. None of my business. I literally couldn't care less. Just don't go around pretending like yours is the one true method and everyone else's ideas are obviously crazy.
It never goes away? Unless you are a mod and just delete the whole thread. Then it is just a rumor.
I'm sure someone screen grabbed it and is keeping it safe for future use.
Lies! It was Photoshoped. That is sooo no real.
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"Hey, I was really inspired by your forum posts, can we be friends?"
"I'd love to see your journey and hopefully motivate each other."
"Your GIF was awesome, got anymore?"
"You're a meanie, and I appreciate your brutal honesty."
It doesn't even have to be something flattering (boo to all of you saying this is about narcissism). If we have a similar sense of humor or life philosophy or heck, I think I sent a FR to someone once because she was an English teacher and I liked her personality and I thought we'd get along.
It's all about, "Are we compatible?" not, "why do you think I'm awesome?"
Seriously, I'd rather hear "I think we share a sense of humor" than "I think you're inspiring." The latter is way too much pressure anyway.
How about the awkward way I propositioned you? "Um, I really like the look of your baked goods and would like to see more of them" or at least that's how I remember it. :flowerforyou:
I used to put cupcakes as my avatar, which I changed based on holiday/season. That got me alot of FR's! haha. Cause seriously... cupcakes!
Today is my husband's birthday and I have Reese's Peanut Butter Cupcakes cooling on the counter before I frost them. :happy:
Can I be your friend too? We have mutual friends! And I love cupcakes!
Edit: I totally just added you. I even included a message in the request :flowersforyou:0 -
I think in short it comes down to respect.
If they ask for a message, send them one.
I have quite a few on my FL.
I would love to add some of the friends they have just because I love their wit and sarcasm.0 -
So I've stumbled on a few profiles of people with similar body type as me or just people around my age and have added a few as a friend. I've also noticed that some people have this *****IF YOU DON'T SEND ME A MESSAGE FIRST I WILL REJECT YOUR FRIEND REQUEST***** notice at the top of their profile. If you're one of those people that only adds users who you know in real life on this site as a friend, I totally understand, but I've always noticed that people have 200+ friends, and all of them are not from the same area. It's the internet. I'm not about to show up on your f*cking door step and creep in your windows, I just wanna look at your diary and check out your snacks. Does anyone else find this a little funny? Like do I really have to explain myself to be your "friend" on a website when I'm probably never going to meet you and just comment "great job" when you have a 500 calorie burn workout and have it motivate me to get up off my butt and walk around the block?
Not that i read all 9 pages, but for me...
Adding me without a peep or any prior interaction in order to look at my diary and check out my snacks is the equivalent of a creepy dude coming in my house and looking in my garbage to see if I'm on the rag or if I ate a twinkie today.
Respectify.0 -
I want to know what we have in common. Are you a runner? Are you funny? Do you think I'm funny? Can we be funny together?
Compliments work too.0 -
"Hey, I was really inspired by your forum posts, can we be friends?"
"I'd love to see your journey and hopefully motivate each other."
"Your GIF was awesome, got anymore?"
"You're a meanie, and I appreciate your brutal honesty."
It doesn't even have to be something flattering (boo to all of you saying this is about narcissism). If we have a similar sense of humor or life philosophy or heck, I think I sent a FR to someone once because she was an English teacher and I liked her personality and I thought we'd get along.
It's all about, "Are we compatible?" not, "why do you think I'm awesome?"
Seriously, I'd rather hear "I think we share a sense of humor" than "I think you're inspiring." The latter is way too much pressure anyway.
How about the awkward way I propositioned you? "Um, I really like the look of your baked goods and would like to see more of them" or at least that's how I remember it. :flowerforyou:
I used to put cupcakes as my avatar, which I changed based on holiday/season. That got me alot of FR's! haha. Cause seriously... cupcakes!
Today is my husband's birthday and I have Reese's Peanut Butter Cupcakes cooling on the counter before I frost them. :happy:
Can I be your friend too? We have mutual friends! And I love cupcakes!
Edit: I totally just added you. I even included a message in the request :flowersforyou:
Totally! Cupcakes are win! Ice cream are win! All the foods (except cauliflower,etc.) are win!0 -
Who cares how someone else wants to filter their friends list?
I don't see how taking 1 minute of your time to write someone a little hi im so and so, is an inconvenience.. don't want to than move on.0 -
I'm fickle. I might add you or I might not. If you want the odds in your favor, type a couple words. Or be really, really hot and funny and NOT creepy.
It's not that I think I'm special, but I have to have some way to decide on friend requests. I send a message or a PM every dang time, even if they don't have a disclaimer. It's not a lot to ask.0 -
I'm picky about who I accept on my FL, primarily because it's too easy to accept everyone and end up with a giant, unmanageable FL. I like to get to know people, so I set criteria. I keep my list small. If you're not mutuals with people on my list I probably won't accept; even if you are mutuals it doesn't mean that I will. If no message is included it doesn't even get considered. And even if you meet the criteria, if I don't feel like we'd be a good personality match I'll probably still decline. That may seem overly picky to some, but there have been weeks when I've gotten 60 or 70 requests. There has to be a limit, at least for me.
^ This. I got to the point where I had an unmanageable list. I had to cut some friends, some of them I didn't want to as they were great people, but I just couldn't keep up with my newsfeed.
I had to do the same and I'm not taking requests right now.
The other thing is that there are a number of sleeper accounts for supplement companies, so if somebody sends a random request with no message and an incomplete or locked down profile, they could be a fake account looking for validation from somebody who's been on here awhile. You usually don't need to write a tome, just prove that you aren't a spam bot. I once got a friend request accepted by including the simple phrase: "duh"
Pro Tip: do not post anything helpful in the forums December to February.0 -
Pro Tip: do not post anything helpful in the forums December to February.
Is it helpful to tell users to eat all the Christmas Cookies? Cause I totally plan on handing out that advice on nearly all the threads.
It could be a topic like "How do I get a flat stomach?" and I'm gonna reply "Eat all the Christmas Cookies!!" That's helpful, right? RIGHT?!!0 -
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So I've stumbled on a few profiles of people with similar body type as me or just people around my age and have added a few as a friend. I've also noticed that some people have this *****IF YOU DON'T SEND ME A MESSAGE FIRST I WILL REJECT YOUR FRIEND REQUEST***** notice at the top of their profile. If you're one of those people that only adds users who you know in real life on this site as a friend, I totally understand, but I've always noticed that people have 200+ friends, and all of them are not from the same area. It's the internet. I'm not about to show up on your f*cking door step and creep in your windows, I just wanna look at your diary and check out your snacks. Does anyone else find this a little funny? Like do I really have to explain myself to be your "friend" on a website when I'm probably never going to meet you and just comment "great job" when you have a 500 calorie burn workout and have it motivate me to get up off my butt and walk around the block?
I have it because I have ended up with a lot of underage kids with eating disorders on my page. Didn't realize they were underage or had an eating disorder at the time and at one point I was just accepting requests of anyone that came along. As I was borderline starving myself at one point and have felt the desire to do it again occasionally (I haven't and won't but the thoughts exist in the back of my head), I didn't want to be triggered by anyone else's disordered eating. So I put a disclaimer in there and requested people give me a reason as to why they're requesting me. Does that mean I deny EVERYONE who requests me? No. Sometimes I can see enough from their profile to let me know whether or not they have similar goals to me. But it does help weed out some of the others. :flowerforyou:0 -
Pro Tip: do not post anything helpful in the forums December to February.
Is it helpful to tell users to eat all the Christmas Cookies? Cause I totally plan on handing out that advice on nearly all the threads.
It could be a topic like "How do I get a flat stomach?" and I'm gonna reply "Eat all the Christmas Cookies!!" That's helpful, right? RIGHT?!!
I feel a new Christmas cookie fad diet coming on... eat nothing but Christmas cookies thanksgiving to New years, and crunch and squat your way to a fab body
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Pro Tip: do not post anything helpful in the forums December to February.
Is it helpful to tell users to eat all the Christmas Cookies? Cause I totally plan on handing out that advice on nearly all the threads.
It could be a topic like "How do I get a flat stomach?" and I'm gonna reply "Eat all the Christmas Cookies!!" That's helpful, right? RIGHT?!!
I feel a new Christmas cookie fad diet coming on... eat nothing but Christmas cookies thanksgiving to New years, and crunch and squat your way to a fab body
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alot on here, like to make it a big deal....like they want you beggin to be your friend....................and then they won't say **** to ya.......but they want all the attention.......they want you coming to their page..............too much work for them to come to your page..................as you say....only takes a few seconds..............lmao......so many attention getters on here..............
but there are a couple of handfuls of good people on here..............but mostly the women want to show their *kitten* or tits.....and the dudes want to flex their muscles...............majority of them won't show their face.......lol hiding from their spouse or their that damn ugly
Exactly. I'm here to show off my lopsided tits and my big fat *kitten*. Duh.
IN for lopsided cupcakes, dammit!
Hi CupcakeDammit! :smooched:
*giggity* Hi Mister Universe! :smooched:
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"Hey, I was really inspired by your forum posts, can we be friends?"
"I'd love to see your journey and hopefully motivate each other."
"Your GIF was awesome, got anymore?"
"You're a meanie, and I appreciate your brutal honesty."
It doesn't even have to be something flattering (boo to all of you saying this is about narcissism). If we have a similar sense of humor or life philosophy or heck, I think I sent a FR to someone once because she was an English teacher and I liked her personality and I thought we'd get along.
It's all about, "Are we compatible?" not, "why do you think I'm awesome?"
Seriously, I'd rather hear "I think we share a sense of humor" than "I think you're inspiring." The latter is way too much pressure anyway.
How about the awkward way I propositioned you? "Um, I really like the look of your baked goods and would like to see more of them" or at least that's how I remember it. :flowerforyou:
That's the best kind. :smooched:0 -
No one ever wants to see my baked good
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