Congratulating MFP friends who make bad choices

Everyone here is on a different level. A slice of pizza or whatever doesn't mean they failed. Some people are here simply to log their food. Other's may include fast food in their daily amounts. Most people can't go cold turkey like you. You don't know the whole story so you should not judge. I've lost over 63 pounds and I did it being honest about what I was eating. I praise God I was able to eat 5 Oreo's and log it rather than the whole pack of Oreo's and hide it. In all things remember the golden rule: if you cant say anything nice then don't say anything at all.

Speaking of the OP, where'd that MuthaFuggah go?

He went to his friend's list, noticed over half do not come to the site regularly, so the OP is at Wendy's scarfing down bad bad bad food! Maybe the OP's friend list grew tired of being 'reminded' of their diary. . . .hmmm. . . . .

This is a bit of a problem around here.

Too many times I see a diary full of McDonalds, and other junk, sweeties and pastries and so called "friends" like the diary and say things like "Great Logging!", "Well done!", or "Yummy day!".

We are all here to encourage each other to become healthier. If your MFP friend is falling off the wagon, it is your job to remind them that they are making a choice that is bad for them. Maybe they are letting old ways creep back in without realising it?

Do your friends a favour and let them know that they are going wrong. I would expect the same for the rest of my friends on MFP. Be hard on me if you see a slice of Pizza or a McDonalds happy meal on my diary!

It's time to stop blindly congratulating people on making bad choices that can ultimately lead to lower quality of life and ultimately, death!

Edit: I know I sound grumpy and normally I am not. Just concerned that's all

lololololol wind your neck in my love

Not everyone eats the same way. Some people are low carb, while others are not. I eat low carb, but I still occasionally have something from a fast food place, as long as it's low carb. That doesn't make me a bad person, and it doesn't make anyone else who partakes in fast food a bad person. We are all on different paths to health...

I just ate a McDouble w/ cheese. No bun or ketchup, of course, cuz I'm one of those low-carb people. WUZ GOOD. I'll do it again, too.

Ok, but what if I only have one slice of pizza, but it's....




INFINITE PIZZA!!!!!!!!!

What if it's a reward day? Or what if I use to eat 2 Big Macs a large fries and a large coke maybe the kids meal is a healthier choice for ME. It's not my place to judge my friends my idea of healthy May be different from theirs.

Wow. You'd hate my friends list, we eat cake, pizza and OMG we also sometimes drink alcohol too!!! :devil:

P.S. I make my pizza from scratch, using flour, yeast and salt for the base, crushed tomatoes for the sauce and then whatever topping I choose (usually reduced fat mozzarella with chicken or tuna). Tell me what's bad about that?!

An honest mistake.

When those ingredients are combined, organic compounds that are toxic to the human body are formed. These toxins are carcinogenic and can cause the formation of tumors.

I congratulate people on their logging even if I don't agree with it because

1. The are in better shape than me
2. Don't do it all the time
3. Its not my place to say whats good and bad
4. I'm scared I may hurt their feelings or get them upset...I'm introverted like that
5. They're being accountable for what they eats

If I see that a friend managed to fit pizza into their goal, HECK YES I'm congratulating them! & if they fall off the wagon a bit? ya it's still great that they logged. Most do fall off once in awhile. Maybe you could tell YOUR friends how or when YOU want congrats. As for the rest of us, if we have a problem, we'll let our friends know.

The only response to OP:

Bwahahahahaha! ^^^ This

This is why my diary is closed.

Bingo. I get "You're too skinny!" enough in real life without people critiquing my food choices lol

I LONG for that day! lol It'll prob get annoying but right now I LONG to be called too skinny! BTW I think you look great.

My diary is always full of junk, fast food and starbucks. I'm a college kid who works in fast food and if my manger offers to buy me lunch, I'm not arguing even if a sausage egg mcmuffin isn't the healthiest choice. Eating right is hard between school and a full time job sometimes an easy fast meal wins over cooking.

Others have basically made these points, but for me it's helpful to log everything honestly, no matter what, so I think logging is a good thing. Unless someone has shown an interest in comments on his or her diary or I'm just feeling curious that day, I might not even look at what's logged. And when I do, if something looks especially tasty or someone has said she wants a treat day or is taking a break or celebrating something, I see no reason to censor that, and in fact think it's something to be celebrated if it makes him or her feel good and is a way of making this sustainable, whether or not the person's particular choice is the same as mind. Because I'm human, I'm more likely to comment positively on a particular food item that I also would want to have as a treat, however.

Underlying all of this is the fact that my friends are adults and I trust them to monitor their own goals. I want to support them in the ways they indicate will be helpful, but I'm not interested in playing food cop or hall monitor, unsolicited. So if someone says they want to be encouraged to keep carbs low or calories below their goal or to stay away from fast food or some such, I'm happy to participate (although usually then people have "yeah, I know, I know" post, so I think encouragement, don't beat yourself up, is generally more called for that "do you know what's in a Big Mac?!" or whatever the OP is hoping for. (Related to this is that I'm a big girl and while I'd be happy to engage in a discussion of sugar with someone who called me on my ice cream or some such, and not be inclined to unfriend them, I mean, who cares? I'd also think it was a little weird to do in that context, and I'd certainly explain that they were misunderstanding my goals and plan to get there. This tedious loquacity I assume would prevent the issue from arising in the future!)

It's true that some logs make me uncomfortable, but those are the consistently very low calorie ones, and those I don't encourage. Other than that and when it's requested, the only time I would make a comment about food choice on a diary is probably when other comments make it relevant--like if someone says she is constantly hungry and I have a possibly helpful comment about food selection based on personal experience.

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