The most common mistake women make!

I'm not offened at all. I really like this post.

My question is what would be your advice to someoneke myself. I dont really get hungry ever. I can eat once a day and be fine. I get busy with life and kids. Maybe thats why I'm not hungry or it could be just forgetting to eat. Not really sure. For my height and age and weight and wanting to lose 2lbs per week. It put me at 1200. I try to eat that but no matter what I'm always under. I even try making myself eat. Any help would be great. Oh I should also let you know I'm a very picky eater. Just thought I would ask you because you understand it. Thanks in advance.

When i read some of your topics yesterday, i thought you sounded like you had some good advice , now i'm not so sure !

YOU have just offended 90% of the female population on this site!

For starts "The most common mistake women make" Just as many men, work out to hard and eat to little..

secondly we are not GUYS!

Your welcome to look at my diary , i don't starve myself..

I go to body pump twice a week , i know i don't do cardio , but i think i should do some...

Please if you are going to write post , for or about women , speak to some first!

Where did he call us ( women/people) guys?

I know that this has dragged on way too long, probably. But I 'am itching to reply. I am just flabbergasted at how anyone can continue to take offense. When I first read it, I thought......that's me! I had been wondering why my weight has stalled. Thanks for the reminder. I didn't even notice whether you were male or female until the offended began posting. Then I just kinda went "HuH?" I don't see the offense anywhere or the "unsolicited advice". This is a forum aimed at support and advice, so how is it unsolicited? The fact that it is called "community" means that we are in this together to offer words of wisdom and encouragement.

This makes me think of the people who correct everyone's grammer on forums. The point (which was a valid one) gets lost. I feel like I should be very careful of what I post for fear of offending anyone now....and that's a very sad thing. I probably pissed a few people off with this post.

Had the OP used words like "A shout out to all the Hoes in the house starving themselves!".....well, that might be offensive.

Ok people I decided to write this one for the women as they seem to make this mistake all to often as well as some men, but more so the women.
1) When they join regardless of how much they weigh or their stats they instantly go for that golden 1200 cal/day minimum.
2) They workout as much as possible and eat as little as possible.
3) They totally starve the body for fuel and nutrition this way and either have 0 weight loss or have a great start until the body adapts and then stops them dead in their tracks.

1) Wrong
2) Wrong
3) Went with MFP guided cals, who knew I shouldn't be eating below my BMR and starving myself.

OP You can check my diary to see how much I eat. Just add me.

Ok people I decided to write this one for the women as they seem to make this mistake all to often as well as some men, but more so the women.
1) When they join regardless of how much they weigh or their stats they instantly go for that golden 1200 cal/day minimum.
2) They workout as much as possible and eat as little as possible.
3) They totally starve the body for fuel and nutrition this way and either have 0 weight loss or have a great start until the body adapts and then stops them dead in their tracks.

1) Wrong
2) Wrong
3) Went with MFP guided cals, who knew I shouldn't be eating below my BMR and starving myself.

OP You can check my diary to see how much I eat. Just add me.

Good for you...you're on track and successful on your weight loss journey, which means the post probably didn't apply to you. It did apply to me, however, and I realized that staying at or below 1200 for too long was stalling my progress. He wasn't wrong, this particular advice just didn't apply to you and some of the other posters who are having success at 1200 calories. I, too can have success at that calorie range, but only for awhile. Then I have to up the caloric intake to sort of "reset" my metabolism. Congratulations on your success, but remember this advice when you hit a wall. I've read over and over again in many health magazines and sites that we need to "cheat" every once and awhile and not stay at a low caloric intake for too long in order to continue our weight loss. I kinda like the idea of being able to eat a little more every now and again...it helps me to feel less deprived.

@katschi....lol....I like where your head is now! Mine's finally outta that dark place too!! ♥

My only criticism would be that you suggest that we 'choose' 1200 calories as a goal when in fact for the most part MFP has made that decision.

You do "choose" 1200 calories. It's all in how much weight you "choose" to lose per week. Of course, I fell for the same thing. Who wouldn't want to lose 2 lbs a week? When I put in 2 lbs a week, it automatically gave me 1200 calories. Yikes! I wanted to lose weight, but I DO like to eat and 1200 calories wasn't going to cut it for this girl. I actually turned away the 1400 calorie setting, too, and settled on a much more reasonable 1660 to start. I wanted to be successful at this, not miserable. I know there are plenty of women who set their daily calorie goal for 1200, exercise and burn 300-600 calories or more, then end up consuming 1400-1700 calories if they eat back even some of their exercise calories. I'd be willing to bet those are the women who are more successful at weight loss than the ladies who barely consume 1000 or 1200 net calories every night, and those are the people Dan was addressing, I'm guessing.

I confess that until yesterday I wasn't even aware I had made that 'choice'. I have 20lbs to lose, and of course I put in that I wanted to lose 1lb a week. Despite what is said about calorie deficits and BMI (ie. that the lower the BMI the lower and slower you should lose), MFP recommended 1200. I wish it had told me not to be so stupid, I really did, but then that is trying to put the responsibility on a website which isn't fair.

I am exactly the (not-in-the-least offended) girl in the OP. And I haven't lost a pound. So I went back, started again with MFP with a 1/2 lb a week loss and it gave me a goal of 1300 which is much better. Personally I doubt it is high enough but will give it a go for 6 weeks before UPPING my calories again.

So yes, I did 'choose' 1200, but I sort of thought MFP was recommending that. It takes a good thread like this to help understand.

Still working on the Veyron.......

My only criticism would be that you suggest that we 'choose' 1200 calories as a goal when in fact for the most part MFP has made that decision.

You do "choose" 1200 calories. It's all in how much weight you "choose" to lose per week. Of course, I fell for the same thing. Who wouldn't want to lose 2 lbs a week? When I put in 2 lbs a week, it automatically gave me 1200 calories. Yikes! I wanted to lose weight, but I DO like to eat and 1200 calories wasn't going to cut it for this girl. I actually turned away the 1400 calorie setting, too, and settled on a much more reasonable 1660 to start. I wanted to be successful at this, not miserable. I know there are plenty of women who set their daily calorie goal for 1200, exercise and burn 300-600 calories or more, then end up consuming 1400-1700 calories if they eat back even some of their exercise calories. I'd be willing to bet those are the women who are more successful at weight loss than the ladies who barely consume 1000 or 1200 net calories every night, and those are the people Dan was addressing, I'm guessing.

I am very successful at weight loss and ive barley consumed 1200 net calories in over a year

I'm one of the non-offended women...I've been reading the thread since it was put up and you definitely described me. I chose the 1200 and 2lb a week because I thought that was what I was supposed to do. I lost weight the first 3-4 weeks and have stalled out - even gained so I have since changed my goals(under the guidance of MFP again), and my calorie goal has been upped to 1470 and 1lb a week. This looks and feels more realistic and doable for me. I'm sure that my gain in wght is temporary and due to water retention(I'm used to that) and because I have also upped my weights for strength training. I was still trying to net 1200 after my calorie goal was changed, but since reading this I'm gonna try to be within the 1470 goal and I have actually started on the tips given in the first post and from your blog(like eating breakfast - gonna have to take it one step at a time):indifferent: :ohwell: ...if nothing else works, at least I'm not beating myself up anymore for going over every now and then, so thanks for the info...I appreciate it.

Being shorter than most women, the calculator said I should only eat 1200 calories a day. UGH!

May I add you as friend? You seem to give some excellend advice. I've read alot of your posts and they have helped me!

Thanks Newfiedan, and yes I am open to any help you can offer, such as what is good to eat and how often to eat. Some snacking ideas Please help!!! Summer is right around the corner I really want to put on that bikini!!!!!