You're about to buy a doughnut .......................

Do they have chocolate glazed? If yes buy one ♡.♡

ThePhoenixIsRising wrote: »

blktngldhrt wrote: »

KrazyKenny1967 wrote: »

good strategies, my only thought is to avoid it completely, I guess thats why I have guilt after I do buy it !!

Then think about the guilt you would feel. I always think about how something like that would make me feel if I ate it. I guess it's easier to avoid foods that you know will make you feel bad.

Guilt is not a natural feeling, but a learned!
Guilt is a destructive feeling not a constructive one!
Why would you encourage someone to actively seek out a feeling of guilt? Why must a donut make you feel guilty?
Only an *kitten* hat would turn to guilt to control the way others choose to eat!

Thinking about the possibility of feeling guilty is not the same as seeking out guilt. I generally try to avoid doing things that I know will make me feel bad. And I also generally try to avoid making others feel bad as well..especially for something as trivial as a personal opinion taken out of context.

He asked how to avoid eating a donut. Maybe he has issues with them? Even if he doesn't, he's trying not to eat a donut. I would really like to eat a donut, too. Maybe a lot of donuts. I cannot. I wouldn't appreciate being told that I should just have the donut since I can't have one..even if it fits into my calorie allowance.

I don't buy donuts but if one is offered........... I think yum!

If it has sprinkles, I'll eat it and go for an extra run after work!!!!

If it doesn't have sprinkles, it's not worth it.

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ThePhoenixIsRising wrote: »

blktngldhrt wrote: »

ThePhoenixIsRising wrote: »

blktngldhrt wrote: »

KrazyKenny1967 wrote: »

good strategies, my only thought is to avoid it completely, I guess thats why I have guilt after I do buy it !!

Then think about the guilt you would feel. I always think about how something like that would make me feel if I ate it. I guess it's easier to avoid foods that you know will make you feel bad.

Guilt is not a natural feeling, but a learned!
Guilt is a destructive feeling not a constructive one!
Why would you encourage someone to actively seek out a feeling of guilt? Why must a donut make you feel guilty?
Only an *kitten* hat would turn to guilt to control the way others choose to eat!

Thinking about the possibility of feeling guilty is not the same as seeking out guilt. I generally try to avoid doing things that I know will make me feel bad. And I also generally try to avoid making others feel bad as well..especially for something as trivial as a personal opinion taken out of context.

He asked how to avoid eating a donut. Maybe he has issues with them? Even if he doesn't, he's trying not to eat a donut. I would really like to eat a donut, too. Maybe a lot of donuts. I cannot. I wouldn't appreciate being told that I should just have the donut since I can't have one..even if it fits into my calorie allowance.

It's fine not being able to indulge, but using guilt to dissuade you isn't healthy! Guilt isn't a productive feeling. Thinking about feeling guilty strengthens it's hold over you, so just thinking about is absolutely seeking it out!

Guilt is unnecessary! Replace it with pride or joy in your choices and you are on step closer to positive control over yourself! True lasting healthy change comes when your motivation comes from a positive place not a negative one!

I guess that's on me for putting my cynical spin on things. I'm not going to have a donut today..yay me I chose to eat something healthier with my calories..is the same to me as a quick thought of, oh well I'll feel better if I don't have a donut because of how it made me feel in the past. It's still choosing positive feelings over negative ones.

I'm not saying it's bad to be positive..I just think people are driven by both positive and negative forces. Sometimes you can't do things because of the negative effects they may have. I guess if I saw things in black and white it would be easy to spin everything as positive all the time. My world is different shades of grey..and I feel positives and negatives need to be balanced.

I appreciate your personal take on things. I don't, however, think I should be called an a**hat for having different views. It's very close-minded.

KrazyKenny1967 wrote: »

You're about to buy a doughnut, do you have a mental strategy to shut down your craving ? What do you think of or visualize?

Doughnuts and donuts are two different things. I chose the latter, the former tends to be filled with lots of jams and heavy stuff.

Btw a new place opened near my work that does 'baked donuts', really cool and taste great. He says its 40% less fat, he might be right...

blktngldhrt wrote: »

ThePhoenixIsRising wrote: »

blktngldhrt wrote: »

ThePhoenixIsRising wrote: »

blktngldhrt wrote: »

KrazyKenny1967 wrote: »

good strategies, my only thought is to avoid it completely, I guess thats why I have guilt after I do buy it !!

Then think about the guilt you would feel. I always think about how something like that would make me feel if I ate it. I guess it's easier to avoid foods that you know will make you feel bad.

Guilt is not a natural feeling, but a learned!
Guilt is a destructive feeling not a constructive one!
Why would you encourage someone to actively seek out a feeling of guilt? Why must a donut make you feel guilty?
Only an *kitten* hat would turn to guilt to control the way others choose to eat!

Thinking about the possibility of feeling guilty is not the same as seeking out guilt. I generally try to avoid doing things that I know will make me feel bad. And I also generally try to avoid making others feel bad as well..especially for something as trivial as a personal opinion taken out of context.

He asked how to avoid eating a donut. Maybe he has issues with them? Even if he doesn't, he's trying not to eat a donut. I would really like to eat a donut, too. Maybe a lot of donuts. I cannot. I wouldn't appreciate being told that I should just have the donut since I can't have one..even if it fits into my calorie allowance.

It's fine not being able to indulge, but using guilt to dissuade you isn't healthy! Guilt isn't a productive feeling. Thinking about feeling guilty strengthens it's hold over you, so just thinking about is absolutely seeking it out!

Guilt is unnecessary! Replace it with pride or joy in your choices and you are on step closer to positive control over yourself! True lasting healthy change comes when your motivation comes from a positive place not a negative one!

I guess that's on me for putting my cynical spin on things. I'm not going to have a donut today..yay me I chose to eat something healthier with my calories..is the same to me as a quick thought of, oh well I'll feel better if I don't have a donut because of how it made me feel in the past. It's still choosing positive feelings over negative ones.

I'm not saying it's bad to be positive..I just think people are driven by both positive and negative forces. Sometimes you can't do things because of the negative effects they may have. I guess if I saw things in black and white it would be easy to spin everything as positive all the time. My world is different shades of grey..and I feel positives and negatives need to be balanced.

I appreciate your personal take on things. I don't, however, think I should be called an a**hat for having different views. It's very close-minded.

I understand focusing on the negative or using the punishment as the reason you can't do something is a common way to control people, but just like in children if your focus is on the "can't" there will always be feelings of deprivation. It's when the focus is on the "can" or positive then people truly find joy in their choices.

I'd see if it fits in my calories for the day!

That it wouldn't be worth it. I'd rather have a glass of wine if I want a 'treat'

I can probably count on one hand how many times I've randomly bought a doughnut for myself. Non-issue.

I am a sweets-lover, so I don't allow myself any sort of sugary treat unless it's for cheat meal once a week. If I had my way, I would just eat all of my daily calories in ice cream and cookies, which is a slippery slope to gaining back my weight. The three minutes of bliss is not worth the weight gain to me. But, if you are one of those people who can control sweets cravings, I would definitely just add it in to your calories for the day!

MerMadeInTheShade wrote: »

I had doughnuts for breakfast today. Bacon for lunch today. White rice for dinner today. And cookies for dessert today. I eat what I want, when I want it. I just don't OVER indulge, I simply satisfy myself. Depriving sets you up for binges.

It may set you up for binges. Other people can eliminate things like that.

People do switch to eating healthy food and succeed! It happens.

If you need bacon, donuts and cookies every day in order to lose weight, that is GREAT for you. But it isn't great for every single person.

Some people have to eliminate certain foods in order to avoid binging.

Some people don't view skipping the donut as depriving themselves. They think of it as giving themselves a healthier lifestyle. It's a gift and a gain, not a deprivation.

Everyone has to follow their own path.