WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2014

I write with sadness......Gin died this evening; she left this earth quietly. She was a woman of kindness and grace, always polite, pleasant, and always impeccably dressed and groomed. It was a privilege to have known her and I will miss her. Most of my evening has been spent making phone calls to the rest of our exercise group.

Sylvia........my heart is with you; how awful and stressful........didn't any of the neighbors call the police on her, she sounds like she could be dangerous. How terrible for all involved. I echo the advice to involve a lawyer if he will. Moving away from the support he has (namely you) and his health team does not seem especially well thought out and he will realize this, I hope.

Heather......Congrats on finding your LBD!!!!

Donna........Wonderful loss, WTG!!!

Kataniki.........I certainly agree that boring is often a good thing. Hope your Indian food was better tonight!

Renny.......I bought a new washer about a year ago......got a top loader, a Speed Queen, and so far very happy with it. Have heard several of my friends who got front loaders speak of being quite disenchanted with them.....not sure of the exact reasons though.

Spoke with both cousins who are in nursing homes this afternoon and my cousin in Philly; he's getting ready for a long weekend in NYC and full of plans! He did ask how my friend (Heather) enjoyed her stay and I was able to give him a glowing report!!!

G'nite all,
yanniejannie

Did one segment of "The 10 Minute Solution Butt Lift", then held my plank for 2 min 35 sec (maybe next time I'll try adding another 5 seconds -- I'll see how I feel), then took the extreme pump class. Tomorrow's plan is to do a Step and Tone DVD.

barbie - I've always been able to log my breakfast and dinner for the next day. Also, around holiday time when I know that I'm not going to be logging in, I log my breakfast the day(s) before and MFP always counted that as my having logged in. Is there any way to find out how long you've been here? Isn't there some way to see all of your posts (not all of the groups', what I mean is all of the ones that I did)

Kim - I also find it helpful to prelog food (if I can). Then I can usually see if I'll be over and perhaps there's something that I really don't need to have and can elimiate that.

MarleyJoe - I'm sorry, I can't help you with the tracker. But I'm sure someone else on here can. Hey, at 50 you're a baby!

Viv - sorry your hubby still isn't well. But on the bright side....your post reminded me that I needed to call to schedule my colonoscopy. On second thought...maybe that wasn't such a good idea

Cynthia - I have an android phone. Yes, I have these mini blending cups (4 cups) and put the banana and cocoa in it and blend away. The banana has a hint of sweetness, but not so much that it makes me crave sugars. For the next few days I'm going to have the tofu/cocoa mixture, mainly because I have two tubs of tofu that have an expiration date of Friday

fit_abbey - welcome! Where are you from?

Joyce - two out of three ain't bad -- Michelle is nicotene free, has a new guy, pretty soon she'll be back. Doesn't it just kill you when you know that someone is wrong for your child but you can't do anything about it? I'm just so sad that Pete's family isn't encouraging Denise to further her career (just like they're not encouraging Pete) but handing them everything. What's going to happen when they're no longer here to hand them everything? Those kids will have no idea how to take care of themselves. I'm so glad in a way that I'm in NC and not around that situation every day. I'd get an ulcer

Heather - I'm sorry your lower back hurts. I know that sometimes mine will hurt but that's because my hamstrings are the tightest on the planet.

Alison - what a trip you had! I don't blame you for not wanting to go back

drkatiebug - happy birthday!

Carol - I always have to use lighter weights when doing lateral raises, too. The shoulder muscles are smaller than, say, biceps, so it's not surprising. What you don't want to do is injur yourself. I'll keep your daughter in my prayers. So sorry to hear that the townhouse might not happen

Sylvia - Is there a reason why your son puts up with this? What if something had happened to one of the children, how could he have called for help? How nice of you to let him and the kids stay at your house! My heart bleeds for your son and especially the kids

Heather - your LBD and accessories sound just gorgeous

Terri - was the twisted knee serious? Hope not

kataniki - I'm much better right now. Just as I suspected, it was a reaction to the flu shot. I swear, being retired is hard work, there seems to be something that I'm always doing! I need to learn "no" also. I remember when the kids were little someone saying "oh, she can do that, she's not working". I got pulled into so many things it wasn't even funny. And, unfortunately, it isn't stopping.

Yesterday we got a letter from the managing association for the condo that our a/c needs to be replaced. Seems 4 people at the condo received them. Right now Vince is trying to get everyone together and hopefully if we all use the same guy, we can get a lower price. Another expense!

Lesley - what a loss! Congrats! All good things come to those who wait!!!!

Jan - oh, I am so so sorry to hear about Gin

Went to mahjongg tonight, didn't maj even once. Oh well....

Michele in NC

We still don't have the floor completely dry, just a little moist but I don't know what more we can do to finish it. Michelle came over after work and she said she has a dehumidifier and will bring it over tomorrow. Charlie doesn't think that will work but yet he didn't want to do half of what I read from research on the internet. One site said to take up a small bit of the carpet to see if the pad is wet and dry from above the carpet and again between the two layers and the pad also. I know what the best solution is but it would be major hit to the savings account. Have a professional come out, we would have to completely empty the laundry room, remove the dry wall behind the washer and dryer and then actually paint it! What a unique idea!!! Also dry wall all around the laundry room instead of just having the studs. We sued to have an old console tape player/record player unit, huge thing. So I completely took it apart except the frame, and bottom. I wanted to use the top for folding clothes and the lower base to store things like blankets. Well now all of it just stores junk. I am not sure if that got wet or not. aS I have said, I just stayed out of the way until I knew he was calm. But if it is damaged, throw it away and get a proper cabinet or just a table for folding and then actually have a small shelf for hanging instead of the cheap rolling thing I got at a yard sale. It does the trick but I would like a proper painted laundry room, with cheerful pictures and everything. I never liked out family room carpet, it is a light tan and that is where we eat all our Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners. Last year there were 4 babies plus my 6 year old grand child. This year we have added 2 more babies. Well one won't be born until December 10th. So I would like new carpet and all of our base board and trim professionally installed. Charlie doesn't believe in doing it 'right'. He just wants to get ti done.

Michelle came over after work in order to give us some leftovers from work. They had a potluck supper tonight and she made to many deviled eggs. Charlie had told me that he would like to tell her to watch 'Guess who's coming to dinner'. I told him that that is not a good idea and that he needs to show her the same kind of support and acceptance that he showed her Saturday night when she told us about her new boyfriend. He did anyway. Her response was 'I've never heard of it.' Then they got onto politics which is his favorite subject and he would like to make everyone think the same way. We found out that this guy is of a different political view than he is and that Michelle has voted the other view when she likes that person. I can see trouble in the future

Happy birthday Katie bug. Carol how is your son doing in college

joyce, Indiana

Hi everyone
I'm a little worried this morning, DH got a call yesterday afternoon asking him to go to the hospital for the results of his CT scan (he had the scan last week) When we were at the doctors yesterday I asked her about the results and they hadn't come in yet, she said it could take up to 3 weeks.
At least we'll know what is wrong with him - he's been unwell since July and it seems one thing gets a little better and he gets something else (he's got a mouth infection at the moment)
I must admit though I am quite nervous about getting the results.

Michele sorry for reminding you your colonosopy is due

Belated Happy Birthday Drkatiebug

YannieJannie sorry for your loss.

Well I'd better get a move on - I have to let work know that I need the morning off - luckily our new boss has been very understanding when I've had to leave at short notice and go in later, as long as he knows what's going on.

Take care

Viv (aka Wizzy) York UK

morning ladies~
feel sort of rested today.. woke up and was awake for almost 2 hrs early morning.
I did not eat well yesterday. i have gained about 10 lbs in the last month, as I havent done a blessed thing except run run run,.
I said a prayer last night that i get back on the weight loss path..
I did call Ruth yesterday to tell her I got home alright, she had left a message on my phone sunday just checking on me..
It is sad that people have to be the way they are.. she told me that Doris was just jealous that I was spending so much time on her..well anyway there furnace or thermostat went south, so maybe when they come to fix it they will see the black mold and get that taken care of without me saying anything,,
Ruth started crying on the phone yesterday saying she couldnt thank me enough for all I did and that I am the only friend she has left ..
I will call and check that they got the heat back on at the end of the week..
I have a full day of work ahead of me so will probably not be able to check in tonight... going to try and get out for a walk this morning....

Yanniejannie ... so sorry to hear that you've lost Gin ... you were a good friend to her. Praying good memories bring you comfort.

Yanniejannie...sorry for your unexpected loss.

YannieJannie, I'm so sorry, too, about Gin. You were a wonderful friend to her and you will miss her.

Thanks everybody for your kind words about my son's situation. His wife is still finding ways to mess with him. She had access to his passwords and went online as him and signed him up for a bunch of gay/transvestite dating services and then e-mailed his ex-wife (the kids mom) telling her what a degenerate he is. She also accused him of stealing her rent money. He didn't, but of course, he can't prove it. What a horrible person! I cannot believe what all she has done, but the worst by far is how she treated the kids. She called them lots of names they didn't understand, but the one they did was "diseased". She told her son he couldn't talk to them because they were diseased. She called my phone last night and when I answered she launched into a big rant. I tried to stop her, but she just kept going, so I hung up and blocked her number. Then she started e-mailing me. We're saving it all for the lawyer. Today our two biggest goals are to meet with the lawyer and to get car insurance for his car.

Last night I worked harder than I have in my life. Tending to three kids is really hard work! I took them to WalMart to get each a new outfit so they didn't have to go back to the apartment and risk running into her. Then we played outside for a good long time, since it was so nice. Then made dinner and nobody wanted the same things. I felt like a short order cook. And then I had to clean the bathtubs so they could take a bath. (I am not a great housekeeper, so they needed cleaning really bad. On the plus side, the bathrooms are cleaner than they have ever been.) Then doing their laundry. Helping with homework. Then getting beds ready. We only have one spare bed, which the girls are using, so we had to make up the sofas for my son and grandson. I was exhausted by 8:30, and in bed sound asleep by 9:30.

The kids are having a blast with Bruno though. He's such a funny little dog. An endless source of amusement. Yesterday Molly BIT my son on the upper thigh. Didn't draw blood but left a bruise. She she has to be locked in her crate while they are there. Poor thing.

Well, I have to get busy looking up car insurance. I hope you have a great day!

Sylvia

Sylvia, Jan, all suffering or worrying. prayers to all ! ! ! I hope you find the peace, strength, and options needed for yourselves and your loved ones.

Between the RA and OA, my knees still hurt, but the twist was not damaging, just painful. It's odd that the RA pain can be more or less tolerable depending on which joints are having a flare, but I'm just too stubborn to take anything stronger than tylenol or alleve. I will get on that exercise bike anyway today, and aim for 10 minutes again. I will also do my hip and shoulder exercises between patients and phone calls.

I "sort-of" understand the frustrations of adult children making bad choices. My DD had a terrible boyfriend a few years ago, and it took every ounce of my being to keep my mouth shut and just be as supportive as possible (I offered suggestions, but walked on egg shells with my words). Now I tell DS (14 y.o.) "make good choices" every day.

This diet thing can be so hard. DH doesn't care how much either of us weighs, and he just eats whatever whenever he wants. (At least this hubby doesn't bring home my favorites that he hates in an attempt to sabotage like my ex used to do.) He also refuses to exercise. I just keep telling him to get more Life Insurance so I can mourn in Maui.

DS is in every sport possible, so he eats like a growing active teenage boy. I used to be like that, several decades ago. Now, I seem to be the only person in the house who buys or eats fresh food.

I also believe in this food/sleep/stress association. Wednesdays and Fridays are extra-hard to NOT overeat. My DS has basketball practice until 10:00pm every Tuesday and Thursday evening, then we have to get up at 4:00am to start our early days Wednesdays and Fridays. I feel bad for him, too, since it must be hard to concentrate and stay awake in school after only getting 6 hours of sleep.

Wow, this got too rambling.

Wishing everyone a great day from Terri in cold yet sunny Milwaukee.

Have a great Tues~~
hugs

Sylvia: I would never think of you as a self-absorbed person. You are the best possible mom and grandma. I hope you won’t wear yourself out. You really can’t make up for the bad actions of others, but you can provide safety and a good environment, and those are things that you do very well. :flowerforyou:

Terri: “Get more life insurance so I can mourn in Hawaii” is a nice way to let your DH know you worry about him without nagging. You have a wonderful sense of humor. :laugh: :laugh:



DD and the grandbabies are here! They are currently upstairs napping. I have a few errands to run, and then I’m home for a while. :bigsmile:

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

October Goals:
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!

Sylvia - Thanks for sharing. I will keep your entire family in my thoughts and prayers. I really wish everyone the best of luck. And I agree with Kat that knowledge is power. If you all start understanding her illness, you can get closure sooner. I like to donate the items I crochet, so the next time I do, I will choose a safehouse and think of your family.

Kat - it's rough getting myself up so early, so I'm sure you can imagine what it is like getting a teenager out of bed so early, too. Luckily, DH gets up at 3:30am every day, so if I'm not up at 4:20am when he leaves, he finds a (mean) way to wake me (shake the bed, turn on the light or TV, tickle my feet, etc).

Congrats to everyone who is having good days/weeks. Keep up the good work.

And thank you to everyone here ! ! ! I feel so supported, even though I am so new.

Good early evening beautiful ladies :flowerforyou:

I so wish I had time to respond to everyone, know that I'm wishing everyone well !

Yanniejannie So very sorry to hear about Gin's passing, you are such a wonderful friend!

Jane Martin Hope you're feeling better!!!

Sylvia Sending you a big hug my friend ❤️! Hope things work out well for your son, I hope this time he will refuse to even talk to her, your grandchildren are so very lucky to have you❤️!

Viki Congrats on getting 1.5 off, you'll have the other pounds gone soon!!! Good for you taking a break from your volunteering job, I find that when I get burnt out I don't feel like I give all I can to the job, a break for a bit gives you time to recharge!

Katla

Sorry, somehow a duplicate post.

Hugs to Sylvia and Yanniejannie, and any others.
Only managed 3533 steps yesterday with food cals at 1987. It was shopping day but made a good choice at cafe for a change. It rained HARD all day with high winds. Stan lit the wood fire for last night and so cosy. Weight this morning same as Tuesday so no problems there.
Raining again and will have to walk on Wii, only thing for it. back to salad and egg for breakfast and salad and salmon for lunch again. Used to the salad now. Food cals at 1435 for the day and have posted and printed out. Only need to keep to this until next Wednesday, but will keep the salad and fish for lunches and Jeannette Jenkin' breakfasts. Hoping the scales, BF% and tape are kind again for the next week.
I have been using Katch McArdle for calories but chemist said to switch the Harris Benedict due to my age !?! as cals are lower.
Lesley in Tasmania