Dating age difference

kshadows
kshadows Posts: 1,315 Member
edited November 8 in Chit-Chat
Friend and I were having this debate and I was surprised at how much our opinions differed...

How much older or younger than you would someone have to be for you to consider them un-dateable?

I'm female, 25 and I wouldn't really have much interest in dating anyone younger than me but as far as older...I think 36-37 would be the limit that way.
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  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,832 Member
    I think that if there is mutual attraction and common interests between two adults there should be no age requirement and it is nobody else's business as long as no one is being used or taken advantage of!
  • SGM_Adonis
    SGM_Adonis Posts: 1,565 Member
    kshadows wrote: »
    Friend and I were having this debate and I was surprised at how much our opinions differed...

    How much older or younger than you would someone have to be for you to consider them un-dateable?

    I'm female, 25 and I wouldn't really have much interest in dating anyone younger than me but as far as older...I think 36-37 would be the limit that way.

    That means I'm out of the race! : (

    This is age shaming. OP reported.

  • kshadows
    kshadows Posts: 1,315 Member
    I'm not saying there's anything wrong with an age difference! My friend who was talking with me about it said he wouldn't date anyone more than 5 years older than him and I thought that was a little weird.

    And SGM - I'm sorry you feel that way. I wasn't shaming anybody. For the record, I'm already married or I'd totally take you on a date to make you feel better. I was just curious if it had so much bearing with others.
  • lunalee84
    lunalee84 Posts: 372 Member
    FabulousFantasticFifty wrote: »
    I think that if there is mutual attraction and common interests between two adults there should be no age requirement and it is nobody else's business as long as no one is being used or taken advantage of!

    I agree 100%
  • SGM_Adonis
    SGM_Adonis Posts: 1,565 Member
    kshadows wrote: »
    I'm not saying there's anything wrong with an age difference! My friend who was talking with me about it said he wouldn't date anyone more than 5 years older than him and I thought that was a little weird.

    And SGM - I'm sorry you feel that way. I wasn't shaming anybody. For the record, I'm already married or I'd totally take you on a date to make you feel better. I was just curious if it had so much bearing with others.

    So now you're giving me a pity date? Well now, aren't you just a smooth seductress

    ; )

    Just messing with you. You may proceed, my job here is done.

  • kshadows
    kshadows Posts: 1,315 Member
    SGM_Adonis wrote: »
    kshadows wrote: »
    I'm not saying there's anything wrong with an age difference! My friend who was talking with me about it said he wouldn't date anyone more than 5 years older than him and I thought that was a little weird.

    And SGM - I'm sorry you feel that way. I wasn't shaming anybody. For the record, I'm already married or I'd totally take you on a date to make you feel better. I was just curious if it had so much bearing with others.

    So now you're giving me a pity date? Well now, aren't you just a smooth seductress

    ; )

    Just messing with you. You may proceed, my job here is done.

    I'm really not...I'm incredibly socially awkward, especially with such attractive gentlemen as yourself. :p
  • MaxPower0102
    MaxPower0102 Posts: 2,654 Member
    I've gone +20 years in either direction. If there is mutual attraction, age (like weight) is just a number.
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    I had a range. I think it was 5 younger to 10 older.

    My husband is 12 years younger.
  • KylaDenay
    KylaDenay Posts: 1,585 Member
    It would depend on their maturity level, common interests, goals and attraction. I am 32 and normally do not like younger than me. Unless my first sentence applies. I would probably never go younger than 28 though. I mean well unless its a bootycall ;)
  • LynneW1983
    LynneW1983 Posts: 1,161 Member
    When I was 22 I went out with a 37 year old. The father of my children is 10 years older. He didn't look his age. It really depends on the person. I don't know if I could do more than, a couple of years younger.
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    KylaDenay wrote: »
    It would depend on their maturity level, common interests, goals and attraction. I am 32 and normally do not like younger than me. Unless my first sentence applies. I would probably never go younger than 28 though. I mean well unless its a bootycall ;)


    Oh, yeah, I meant to add that my younger husband is the most emotionally mature man I know and he has a handful of "old fuddy duddy" tendencies.
  • kshadows
    kshadows Posts: 1,315 Member
    I never saw much issue with someone older...my mom and dad are 11 years apart and started dating when she was 17 and he was 28. It sounds a LITTLE weird to me but now at 55 and 66, (and 27 years of marriage) it doesn't even make a difference.
  • SGM_Adonis
    SGM_Adonis Posts: 1,565 Member
    kshadows wrote: »
    I never saw much issue with someone older...my mom and dad are 11 years apart and started dating when she was 17 and he was 28. It sounds a LITTLE weird to me but now at 55 and 66, (and 27 years of marriage) it doesn't even make a difference.

    Why does 19 and 30 sound more acceptable...or 21 and 32, but not 17 and 28? It's still the same age difference.

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  • Spnneil06
    Spnneil06 Posts: 18,745 Member
    im 34, I don't think I would go over 50 and not under 25. However who knows..sometimes attraction is undeniable!
  • p8liwag
    p8liwag Posts: 919 Member
    I dated someone younger then me and that turn out to be a hug mistake. . Lets see I'm 32 so i prefer my man to be in his mid or late 30's
  • fobs13
    fobs13 Posts: 1,080 Member
    I am 2.5 years older than my husband. I think 10 years would be a limit if I was single.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I think it depends a lot on your age. When you're younger, a five year age difference can be rather substantial. When you're older, not so much.
  • Evelyn_IRV
    Evelyn_IRV Posts: 237 Member
    The youngest I’ve dated is 3 years younger than me and the oldest is 10 years older than me.
    I´m 29 and my rules are: not younger than my brother, he is 25 and not older than my dad he is 51.
  • Lasmartchika
    Lasmartchika Posts: 3,440 Member
    Personally, my age max always was a man 10 years older than me. Never younger. And I ended up with someone 6 years older than me. :smile:
  • fobs13
    fobs13 Posts: 1,080 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    I think it depends a lot on your age. When you're younger, a five year age difference can be rather substantial. When you're older, not so much.

    Think this is it but a large gap as you get older can mean becoming a carer to your partner.
  • JazzFischer1989
    JazzFischer1989 Posts: 531 Member
    My boyfriend is a little less than a year younger than I am and he's the youngest I'm willing to date. As far as older, well, I went through a phase where I dated men who were ten, twenty and even thirty years my senior, but none of those relationships were serious (I was 21 at the time).

    I'm 24 now and I think ten years older would be the cut off for a long term relationship, but I'm open to older than that if it's nothing too serious. I am attracted to older men. But honestly, I don't think someone my age can have a serious relationship with someone that much older 9/10 times. Very obvious discrepancy in maturity, life experience, etc.
  • ilfaith
    ilfaith Posts: 16,769 Member
    When I was 27, I dated a man who was 43 (and, I later discovered, married...but that's another story). That would be the largest age gap. I only ever dated one man younger than me...by just over a year.

    My husband is three years, three months older than I am. Which seems about right (my dad is three years, three months older than my mom).
  • sm1zzle
    sm1zzle Posts: 920 Member
    kshadows wrote: »
    Friend and I were having this debate and I was surprised at how much our opinions differed...

    How much older or younger than you would someone have to be for you to consider them un-dateable?

    I'm female, 25 and I wouldn't really have much interest in dating anyone younger than me but as far as older...I think 36-37 would be the limit that way.

    If I were single I would not date anyone under 25 and would probably not date anyone older than 34.

  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
    I am 20 (not far off 21) and if i was single i don't think id date anyone younger than me just cause i prefer older men. With older males my cut offline would be 30 just cause of the different points in our lives, in next couple of years I will have finished uni and be starting my career and a 30 year old maybe considering marriage and having children within the next couple of years. Don't get me wrong i want marriage and children there's just things i want to do before that stage in my life
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    SGM_Adonis wrote: »
    kshadows wrote: »
    I never saw much issue with someone older...my mom and dad are 11 years apart and started dating when she was 17 and he was 28. It sounds a LITTLE weird to me but now at 55 and 66, (and 27 years of marriage) it doesn't even make a difference.

    Why does 19 and 30 sound more acceptable...or 21 and 32, but not 17 and 28? It's still the same age difference.

    Because a 17 and 28 year old are experiencing different worlds. And the 17 year old can't get into a bar.
  • sm1zzle
    sm1zzle Posts: 920 Member
    arditarose wrote: »
    SGM_Adonis wrote: »
    kshadows wrote: »
    I never saw much issue with someone older...my mom and dad are 11 years apart and started dating when she was 17 and he was 28. It sounds a LITTLE weird to me but now at 55 and 66, (and 27 years of marriage) it doesn't even make a difference.

    Why does 19 and 30 sound more acceptable...or 21 and 32, but not 17 and 28? It's still the same age difference.

    Because a 17 and 28 year old are experiencing different worlds. And the 17 year old can't get into a bar.

    17 will get you 15 around here.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    sm1zzle wrote: »
    arditarose wrote: »
    SGM_Adonis wrote: »
    kshadows wrote: »
    I never saw much issue with someone older...my mom and dad are 11 years apart and started dating when she was 17 and he was 28. It sounds a LITTLE weird to me but now at 55 and 66, (and 27 years of marriage) it doesn't even make a difference.

    Why does 19 and 30 sound more acceptable...or 21 and 32, but not 17 and 28? It's still the same age difference.

    Because a 17 and 28 year old are experiencing different worlds. And the 17 year old can't get into a bar.

    17 will get you 15 around here.

    And that
  • Mitzimum
    Mitzimum Posts: 163 Member
    hubby is 4 years older than me. I like it that way but have been out with/attracted older guys before, I found them much more attractive when I was dating, something to do with being big and strong and mature lol any way I wouldn't go younger as I'm only 22 now :-o and have been with hubby since I was 19. If I went too much younger I'd be a cradle snatcher haha
  • Missjulesdid
    Missjulesdid Posts: 1,444 Member
    I'm six years older than my husband He's 36 and I'm 42 and we don't really consider it an age difference. I've gone 15 years younger and got along great with him but difference in life stages prevented it from going anywhere. I've also gone 19 years older no big deal. The older you are the larger age range of "dateables" What matters most is that you both have the same relationship goals. IF you both are ready to settle down and start a family or if you both are looking to keep it casual then great, you're on the same page and age should not be an obstacle.
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