What nobody tells you about losing weight
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No no, that's not an effect of losing weight; that's an effect of being a female who lost weightlemonsurprise wrote: »especially when strangers start treating you like royalty all of a sudden!
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My skin looks amazing. I didn't think that I'd be able to actually have clear skin! ^_^ (That's more of an effect of eating healthier things and drinking water, though...)22
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That I can eat a lot more than I ever thought I could and still lose weight. I love the Eat More 2 Weigh Less group!6
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Wiseandcurious wrote: »easiest is if you have a partner going in it together with you, without support its really hard to start and keeping it.
Perhaps that's true for some, but for me personally, that's not true. I have always been self-motivated so if I didn't get myself to do it, you can bet nobody else could. A partner can't keep you in it if you can't yourself - just look at all those couples of girls starting running together each spring for motivation and much more often than not, when one's gone, soon the other's gone too.
The only moral support you really need comes from loving and accepting yourself. (I know it's cheesy but that unforgettable scene in "Penelope" comes to mind
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well for me, the biggest motivation at a start was my co-worker who was in a simillar shape but me and also people around started noticing her change without even telling us and it went quite fast , if you bite hard and hold, weight goes down, she was my 1st big motivation, i asked her how what she did , well its just a died no any magic thing ofc.. i started too she gave me a plan (this one http://bit.ly/1vn9rHm ) and after few months she wasnt my number one motivation but me, i was motivating myself with my progress and response from others... and i keep going, im almost there6 -
* I've noticed how wonderful the human body is! Different shapes, structures, sizes, builds, etc. Sometimes your desired scale weight is not always ur best weight (the weight in which u look ur best).
*increased sex drive...I like watching them..watching me
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kazaargrandcru wrote: »For some reason now whenever I see a very overweight young woman I just want to burst into tears. Because I know how she feels inside. I want to help her but I can't. The truth is its a cruel world and for some reason it's still fair game to abuse fat people. It hurts like hell.
Me too, it's that feeling of helplessness that gets me. I try so hard not to pity them and look for their strengths instead because I just can't help but think that at one time people saw me like that and probably felt the same way. Even though I was overweight & out of shape, there was so much more to me than just that.
I have the same feelings when I see someone (especially someone I know) struggling. I've been overweight my whole life and I really hate it when people are judged for their size. Since my husband joined the military, I see the judgement every time we get together with his coworkers and it makes me so mad. I try to stand up for people when I get the chance.4 -
So there was a big pile of jeans in the laundry this morning and I couldn't pick out mine right away because a) they're new and b) they're a lot closer in size to the other adult/young adult jeans in the house. How inconvenient!
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cakegoddess1 wrote: »Being ACTUALLY handicapped, I get really annoyed when large girls take the handicapped stall. It's NOY for you...it's for us who really need it. Please...a little respect.
Seriously? This is a thread about their celebrations, not your pet peeves. Please... a little respect.
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I think we are talking about the same thing after all... Having someone to inspire and help you definitely helps, but in the long run it was your internal motivation that counted. Well done for your journey!...and after few months she wasnt my number one motivation but me, i was motivating myself with my progress and response from others... and i keep going, im almost there
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tryingtogetbigger2015 wrote: »
No no, that's not an effect of losing weight; that's an effect of being a female who lost weightlemonsurprise wrote: »especially when strangers start treating you like royalty all of a sudden!
I think that's an effect of having increased confidence and projecting it around you. I have seen males on this site mention how much better they feel they are treated after weight loss, too.14 -
kazaargrandcru wrote: »For some reason now whenever I see a very overweight young woman I just want to burst into tears. Because I know how she feels inside. I want to help her but I can't. The truth is its a cruel world and for some reason it's still fair game to abuse fat people. It hurts like hell.
Me too, it's that feeling of helplessness that gets me. I try so hard not to pity them and look for their strengths instead because I just can't help but think that at one time people saw me like that and probably felt the same way. Even though I was overweight & out of shape, there was so much more to me than just that.
I don't know what I feel or why. Maybe I see myself in them? Basically I see someone who doesn't value herself and it is such a personal tragedy. This is all in my head of course. Maybe she is a very happy person.
I wish I had studied psychology in college. My life would probably be easier.
If you don't know them, then you don't know what is going on. She may have lost 200 lbs and counting and knows exactly what she is doing, values herself just fine, and isn't in need of any help or pity.
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Wiseandcurious wrote: »tryingtogetbigger2015 wrote: »
No no, that's not an effect of losing weight; that's an effect of being a female who lost weightlemonsurprise wrote: »especially when strangers start treating you like royalty all of a sudden!
I think that's an effect of having increased confidence and projecting it around you. I have seen males on this site mention how much better they feel they are treated after weight loss, too.
yeah but i was specifically talking about the "being treated like royalty" part. the confidence definitely comes in both sexes1 -
The reason I posted that second thought was because some of the earlier posts in this thread talk about how they have discovered bones that they did not know existed. I am saying it is wrong to love and joke about how you can't sit in a bathtub because your back bones are sticking out.Wiseandcurious wrote: »- You don't always gain confidence unless you had a significant amount of fat to lose.
- You might "love" how your bones feel, but you will soon learn how distorted that is.
- You may someday realize that no one notices/cares about your weight loss.
This post is slightly disturbing in a sad way. Perhaps I am reading it wrong, but if you really have confidence issues that losing weight can't resolve, the word "bones" triggers something distorted beyon a healthy human body ( people at the top of healthy BMI also have ankles and wristbones showing) and want to make people care through weight loss... Then my heart goes out to you
but you should definitely seek help. Most people do not have all those experiences together, particularly #2.
I don't feel this way, but I have known people with eating disorders that have experienced all of these things that "nobody tells you about losing weight" and I would really like people to know that weight loss will not solve all of their problems (this is assuming you are not morbidly obese).
Don't worry I personally have a great relationship with my body and food!8 -
stormyview wrote: »How irritating it would be to see overweight and obese people insist that being overweight has nothing to do with food choices, CICO, and activity levels. It drives me nuts to see folks online or in person insist that CICO isn't true because they're overweight despite not eating too much.
What is CICO?4 -
I think mine is that I didn't expect to feel the positive effects of losing weight in such a small amount of time. If I could talk to myself last year, I'd say "don't think about the 100 odd pounds that you need to lose, think about the improved digestion, better skin and overall improved feeling of general improved health and within a week you'll start to feel better."13
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What is CICO?
Calories in, Calories out!
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Sometimes the constipation is so bad you get cramps, the next day it is the opposite so you get cramps.
Like I said...it's all in my head. I need to figure it out for myself.Lourdesong wrote: »kazaargrandcru wrote: »For some reason now whenever I see a very overweight young woman I just want to burst into tears. Because I know how she feels inside. I want to help her but I can't. The truth is its a cruel world and for some reason it's still fair game to abuse fat people. It hurts like hell.
Me too, it's that feeling of helplessness that gets me. I try so hard not to pity them and look for their strengths instead because I just can't help but think that at one time people saw me like that and probably felt the same way. Even though I was overweight & out of shape, there was so much more to me than just that.
I don't know what I feel or why. Maybe I see myself in them? Basically I see someone who doesn't value herself and it is such a personal tragedy. This is all in my head of course. Maybe she is a very happy person.
I wish I had studied psychology in college. My life would probably be easier.
If you don't know them, then you don't know what is going on. She may have lost 200 lbs and counting and knows exactly what she is doing, values herself just fine, and isn't in need of any help or pity.
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The reason I posted that second thought was because some of the earlier posts in this thread talk about how they have discovered bones that they did not know existed. I am saying it is wrong to love and joke about how you can't sit in a bathtub because your back bones are sticking out.Wiseandcurious wrote: »- You don't always gain confidence unless you had a significant amount of fat to lose.
- You might "love" how your bones feel, but you will soon learn how distorted that is.
- You may someday realize that no one notices/cares about your weight loss.
This post is slightly disturbing in a sad way. Perhaps I am reading it wrong, but if you really have confidence issues that losing weight can't resolve, the word "bones" triggers something distorted beyon a healthy human body ( people at the top of healthy BMI also have ankles and wristbones showing) and want to make people care through weight loss... Then my heart goes out to you but you should definitely seek help. Most people do not have all those experiences together, particularly #2.
I don't feel this way, but I have known people with eating disorders that have experienced all of these things that "nobody tells you about losing weight" and I would really like people to know that weight loss will not solve all of their problems (this is assuming you are not morbidly obese).
Don't worry I personally have a great relationship with my body and food!
I see now! It was definitely very effective because it did put me in mind of someone with an ED. I am very glad that's not your case. Most people speak from experience on this thread so I made an assumption, very happy to be wrong.3 -
^penelopepittstopsmam wrote: »I think mine is that I didn't expect to feel the positive effects of losing weight in such a small amount of time. If I could talk to myself last year, I'd say "don't think about the 100 odd pounds that you need to lose, think about the improved digestion, better skin and overall improved feeling of general improved health and within a week you'll start to feel better."
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SkinnyGirlFatBody wrote: »What is CICO?
Just to expand on the previous answer a bit.
CICO stands for Calories In, Calories Out
It is a basic philosophy of weight loss that says that if your Calories IN (how much you eat) are less than your Calories OUT (how much your body needs to function daily + exercise), then you will lose weight...
No magic pills, detoxes, fad diets, "jump starts" or any of that nonsense is required.20 -
Bending at the waist, and not to the side.13
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I've lost 70 lbs. Yes, some friends get envious of attention you get. They get over it or you move on.
Age makes a big difference! I'm 68 and I fit in some things I couldn't before at this weight. Strange, but true.
Family and friends support is important. My daughter led me to Fitness Pal and is my main cheerleader!
Glad others mentioned new mattress --- my hip bones hurt since I'm a side sleeper. Any type of mattress anyone recommends?
I'm always cold, but I was when I was heavy too. Thin and cold is better.
It's fun wearing clothes I only hoped to wear again. Even more fun buying new ones in a small rather than 2x!
Also helps to have a husband that says, "buy it!"
I have both kinds of arthritis and the weight loss has tremendous benefits. My rheumatologist is thrilled!
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This is great stuff to read! I'm not there yet and pretty much beat up on myself because I only lost 2lbs and I feel like I'm working hard... It's so nice to see there's hope down the road if I keep going. Always accepting motivating friends.13
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inchwormbyinchworm wrote: »So there was a big pile of jeans in the laundry this morning and I couldn't pick out mine right away because a) they're new and b) they're a lot closer in size to the other adult/young adult jeans in the house. How inconvenient!
(Nice problem)
I cut the tags out of my underwear and my 15 yr old daughter keeps her tags in or I have trouble telling mine and hers apart!
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My ta-ta's have gotten smaller....that kind of blew my mind because I thought I was genetically "set for life" in that department.
Worrying about my wedding ring falling off...whenever I clap my hands I feel it inch up my finger!
I still am in awe of the fact that my commitment to fitness has inspired SO MANY people...people I haven't seen in 10+ years are watching my transformation on Facebook and joining in on monthly challenges or letting me know how much I inspire them....this only reinforces the importance to not loose faith in myself or give up!
Feeling sexy! I've had times where I've felt good about how I looked, but now more than ever I feel SO INCREDIBLE that I have more confidence in how I come across and enjoy really showing off my hard work.11 -
I agree that this is great! I had lost weight and gained it back and then some. I look forward to seeing my collar bone again!2
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Your shoes may no longer fit.
Don't be too quick to resize your wedding bands, most jewelers won't do it more than twice.
Find and make friends with your local consignment shop, don't splurge too much on clothes until you reach (and have stayed for a while at) goal.
Some of your friends and family members will not be supportive.
It's not a linear process (especially for us girls)! Some days/weeks you will not lose anything and that's okay. Stick to your plan.
nice one!4
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