Over 200 New Year New Me Part 48

Afternoon ladies,

Thanks Sherry for your email..it really means so much

I have been extreamly busy with mother's duties (home life, family, and children's education) and I have neglected this thread ( and many others) and it so hard to get back to losing weight and doing everything else. I am trying to balance everything out, I am a Libra, but it's getting very hard. I hate the way I feel, my clothing still feel the same so I haven't gain (or I hope I haven't).

I have been trying to get back to exercising so I would take walks in the park with my music and in the evening we (my family) go back to the park and take a 1.5 mile nature walk per lap...I go twice, the first time with my kids and hubby the second time I go with one of my older kids or sometimes both..hubby doesn't like to go twice so he usually watches our younger son while he plays on the swings and stuff. My second lap I usually do my running/walking thing. I am really starting to LOVE running/jogging thing..my kids and I do an interval thing (walk 3 minutes jog 1.5 minutes).

I am just trying to focus on one thing at a time so I don't overwhelm myself with too many things and give up, again. So I will be doing some form of exercise every single day. then take it to the next level and start eating 1200 calories, currently I am eating 1600 and I am losing weight. I think it becasue I am exercising again. I am hoping I keep this up!!! I really want to feel great in the dress I plan on buying for my brother's hinna and wedding. SO I have 5 months to get 40+ pounds off of me...

love ya all and hope to stay connected
Laila

Laila! I've MISSED YOU!!!!

Teresa.......-0.0.........0.0%
deebra......+0.9 ,,,,,,,.0.0%
lstpaul......-1.6...........0.69%
Julie...........+/-0
Renea.......-4
Heather....-0.6...........0.34%
MStahl.....-2.0..............1%

FINALLY got those two pounds back off - Whoot!

Renea - when you go to that web page you enter the amount you lost (4) into the first box on the second line, and the weight you started at (current weight plus the four you just lost) into the second box. OR if you're like me, pop up your computer's calculator and devide your starting weight by the pounds you lost then multiply by 100.

Checking in

Calories - under
Water - 98oz
Exercise -2 1.5hr walks pushing my munchkins in their stroller
Proud - I drank my water AND exercised :noway: fabulous when you normally don't lol

Back from vacation! It was awesome. I ate and drank like a crazy person and put on 4.5 lbs (as of today - yesterday it was 6.5 lbs). I'm confident I can relose that soon though! Gotta get my water on!

Vacation check-in:
Cals - Over, always
Water - Under, usually
Exercise - Walked 40-60 min on the beach everyday
Proud - Had a great time with my family!

Yesterday check-in:
Cals - UNDER!! 1554
Water - Not enough :-(
Exercise - Walked about 60 min
Proud - Made good choices and was UNDER my cals for the first time in awhile.

Headed off to a dentist appointment, then back to clean up our house to get ready for a dinner party tonight.

Hey ladies,

I’ve missed everyone too !!!

I'm gonna try to be onboard (loggin everything) every day this week.

I am trying not to eat my feeling, I have to mentions 3 incidences (one good 2 bad) that happened to me or a family member over the weekend. it's eaten me inside till today it's still on my mind...beware last 2 paragraphs might make you sick. you don't have to read, if you don't want to - you can stop reading where it says "venting begins"


First, My father, who I haven’t seen in a month or so, says to me…what have you been doing? You are looking a lot skinnier? I looked surprised and said, I haven’t lost any weight for about 4 months..still bouncing 5 pounds (gain and lose). Well, he starts to say, “what you’ve been doing keep doing it because it does look like you’ve lost weight.” I was happy to hear his positive remarks and for my own daughter to tell my dad that she keeps telling me I am losing weight and that I am not satisfied because the scale doesn’t show me the numbers I want to see. My wonderful daughter is my motivator and the biggest cheerleader (in my household) because she sees my daily struggles and because she is a female she has a better understanding then my dh and ds.


WARNING PERSONAL INFORMATION (below) !!!!!

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Second, That night, my brothers in-law came out to visit (one lives in Maryland and the other one {the shallow one – you’ll know why I say this once you finish reading} is on a business trip but is staying with the one that lives in Maryland). They came by around, our house, 8pm, holding a box of dunkin donuts (my 5 y/o demanded if they are coming over to bring donuts – he loves donuts). The one that came over on a business trip says (while holding the box of donuts ) as he places the donuts on the table that it is ok for my son(s) to have a donut but it’s not OK for my daughter to have one because it’s OK for a boy to gain a little weight..but it’s discussing for a girl to gain weight. My first response was “excuse me, what do you mean by that comment?” how dare you to come into this house and say a shallow comment like that. It’s bad enough she feels insure about her body because she is a teen and is a high school student. I told him it’s not his right to say what she can or can’t eat. And the last thing on her mind should be dieting…she doesn’t need to lose any weight, for GOD sake she only 15 years old, 5’2” and is 135lbs. she is trying to eat better, more fruits and veggies, but she surely doesn’t need to hear those shallow comments – especially when they are coming out of her uncle’s mouth. Then he responds by saying, “well all my nieces overseas are skinny because they take care of their bodies” and my response was “ what makes you think she is not taking care of her body? She doesn’t have to listen to you or prove to you what she eats or doesn’t eat! Then he goes by says, “you are taking this way out of proportion” saying this comment with limited English! He goes by saying “ I just don’t want her to be fat and fat girls – no one wants to be their friend or be associate with a fat chick. My response “OK, let me tell you this again, she doesn’t need to be on a diet she is perfect the way she is – so please stop with you non-sense talking!!!!” and we dropped the subject after that… and I was left trying to make her see that if you want to eat it – go ahead..don’t let anyone tell you that you are not beautiful or need to lose weight. My daughter and I had a heart-to-heart conversation and at that point she was telling me how she dislikes her uncle and how can he be so rude..I gave her a hug and told her to ignore everything that happened and don’t let his words bother you…he is a shallow man that is very insure with his own body and he probably get some kinda satisfaction out of hurting others..

The next day, my daughter enters the door, after coming home from religious school, he makes another comment. This time it’s about make-up. He goes by telling her, “ why don’t you put on some make-up? And You know you would look so much prettier if you put on some blush, eye shadow, or lipstick.” My response “are you FU$$ing kidded me..who are you to tell her to put make –up on. I don’t want her to put anything on but eyeliner and mascara. And on special evens she can put on the rest. I just want her nature beauty to shine and she doesn’t need the rest to make her look beautiful..which she is w/o makeup. OMG, the more I sat with him the more he made my skin crawl. I couldn’t wait until he left and we get back to a normal life.
I was never put in a position like this, I had to get out of my comfort zone and fight for what I believed in (that my daughter is beautiful the way she is. She doesn’t need to lose weight or doll herself up to be attractive). I am not a confrontational person and you had to really push my buttons to get a reaction from me..especially when you are talking about my family.

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How would YOU handle the situation(s)? Do you think I handled it in the correct manner?

Laila - you ROCK! You were one serious Mama Bear and I love you for that! You were 100% right!

I would have confronted him too. I confronted my son-in-law when he made comments on my grand daugter's weight back when she was 5. Yes FIVE- he said "oh don't let her have a second piece of pizza! She'll get FAT!" I said "I don't EVER want to hear you talk that way to her or about her again" about a year later he made some snide comment to his wife when Meghan was asking for a glass of milk (2%) and I told him he couldn't talk to his kids that way when in our home.

Yesterday I was encouraging Meghan to eat a spoon full of peanut butter before she dashed out the door, and she took the spoon paused and said "I wonder if I make myself feel sick when I look at high calorie foods because I know how much my dad hates fate people?" (or something like that). It sticks in their brain for years!!!:explode:

Checking in for the weekend-
Friday -
Calories - Under
Exercsie - thought about it
Water - good
Proud - I stayed under my calories to partially make up for a bad Thursday. It didn't totally make up for it but I liked that I could stop myself from eating anything in the evening!

Saturday -
Calories - just over
Exercise - none
Proud - Meghan and I went down to my parents farm and there was a lot of great food available! I was able to control myself and came in (guessing at the time) pretty close to my calorie goal! (and I didn't open the second bottle of wine!)

Sunday -
Calories - Over
Exercise - none (hey - it was really cold and rainy here!)
Proud - I knew I was at or over my calorie goal when I got home, and I refused my husband's offer of a grilled cheese which sounded AMAZING at the time!

Laila - you ROCK! You were one serious Mama Bear and I love you for that! You were 100% right!

I would have confronted him too. I confronted my son-in-law when he made comments on my grand daugter's weight back when she was 5. Yes FIVE- he said "oh don't let her have a second piece of pizza! She'll get FAT!" I said "I don't EVER want to hear you talk that way to her or about her again" about a year later he made some snide comment to his wife when Meghan was asking for a glass of milk (2%) and I told him he couldn't talk to his kids that way when in our home.

Yesterday I was encouraging Meghan to eat a spoon full of peanut butter before she dashed out the door, and she took the spoon paused and said "I wonder if I make myself feel sick when I look at high calorie foods because I know how much my dad hates fate people?" (or something like that). It sticks in their brain for years!!!:explode:

Checking in for the weekend-
Friday -
Calories - Under
Exercsie - thought about it
Water - good
Proud - I stayed under my calories to partially make up for a bad Thursday. It didn't totally make up for it but I liked that I could stop myself from eating anything in the evening!

Saturday -
Calories - just over
Exercise - none
Proud - Meghan and I went down to my parents farm and there was a lot of great food available! I was able to control myself and came in (guessing at the time) pretty close to my calorie goal! (and I didn't open the second bottle of wine!)

Sunday -
Calories - Over
Exercise - none (hey - it was really cold and rainy here!)
Proud - I knew I was at or over my calorie goal when I got home, and I refused my husband's offer of a grilled cheese which sounded AMAZING at the time!

I missed you and this thread so much...I had to come back to my MFP family:blushing:

Laila -- I'm feeling fine, thanks for asking. I haven't really even been feeling pregnant (relatively!) for the last few weeks but it's getting to me again this week, especially with the nausea creeping back and my belly growing out of control. :laugh: I haven't been too irritable/hormonal lately, thank goodness. I can't stand myself when I'm like that.

Good morning ladies! :flowerforyou:

jess - that is awesome about the bl competion at work, hopefully that will help

Doing good so far this week, getting back in my groove of working out everday at lunch. Eating good, i have only been eating some of my exercise, but have had the last 2 days 150+ cals left.

Still working on some of the sodium bloat , but getting close to my lowest weight (well when i say my lowest weight i mean my recent lowest weight hopefully i can get out of these 270's soon!!

Tuesday:

Calories: about on
Water: over
Exercise: 15 minute walk at lunch, 1 hour with PT
Proud: I went through most of my clothes and am donating most of them to a group that outfits women coming out of treatment centers, jail and abusive relationships with business clothes for interviewing and starting out at a job.

good morning gals

Hope everyone is doing great.

I was soo happy i was right around back to my weight 2 weeks ago, i am hoping it sticks and i can show some loss this week...would be awesome to see a 26# again ....

I am very proud i am drinking water !! I have to be in this right mindset i guess. yesterday i had about 60 oz, and alrady had about 40 oz this morning and about to go filler up!

work is soooo duper stressful right now but i am soo proud of myself cause i haven't been snacking due to that.

Good morning girls! I missed you the last couple of days - I was at a very boring seminar.
checking in for yesterday:
calories: good - but too many carbs, not enough protein
exercise: only a 20 minute walk - but that's ok because I've been over-doing it a bit with exercise the last couple of weeks
water: good
proud: that I threw away half of the bagel that I took at the seminar - I shouldn't have taken any, but at least I didn't eat it all
proud#2: week 2 no casino trip ... I can't say I wasn't tempted at various times over the weekend

Positively: Your story about your BIL made me mad ... I really hate men (and women) with attitudes like that. Especially when they are talking about children! We have enough negative body image influences on our girls! Good for you for standing up to him!

lildebbie: weekends are my hardest times too, I didn't do all that great last weekend either. Didn't track at all (which is usually a sign of how I'm doing)

Renae_Kay: I am SO proud of you! You really seem to be in a good groove with your weightloss!

Once again I forgot about everything else I was going to comment on ... old age ... :embarassed:

I'm not happy with the scale the last couple of days. I know I probably shouldn't be weighing every day - and I also shouldn't let it get to me if I am weighing every day. My weight fluctuates all the time ... usually my lowest weight is Friday morning (just in time for our official weigh-in :happy: ), and my highest weight is Monday mornings (probably after eating too much salty food over the weekend). But for some reason this week I am really worried about the 2.5 pound gain that is stubbornly staying on my scale. It is bugging me because it has thrown me back into the 23#'s and I was soooo happy to get into the 22#'s, and I am really paranoid that my progress is going to stop. I have never had as much success as I have since starting my nutrition class and I really want to keep it going. People are just starting to notice and compliment me on my weight loss and it is exciting, but I have a long way to go. I know I just need to keep plugging away and not let the scale get to me, but I'm still hoping by Friday the scale will have gone back down into the 22#'s.

lstpaul - That is very interesting regarding sugary foods. Thank you for sharing.

Got a little cookie crazy today...will DEFINITELY need to spend some time at the gym for that!!