To all the MFP MEANIES and know it alls, this is for you
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I think it's confusing bc I don't have a link to my original post. Nutshell.....
Me: I'm not losing weight, working out 6 days a week eating healthy
MFP: open your diary
Me: I don't log consistently
MFP: that's your problem
Me: no I don't think so
MFP: yep, you can work out 60 minutes every day but if you don't have a calorie deficit you won't lose, it's science.
Me: but I do eat at a deficit
MFP: I don't believe you, how do you know that??
Me: meanies: stomping my feet :
MFP: this won't help you're cause. Insert Michael Jackson eating popcorn
Me: you're all jerks and why can't you be helpful? I'm at a low and no one is helping me!!!
MFP: come back when you want help
Me: but I need suggestions, why is everyone ganging up on me?
MFP: insert rainbow farting rainbow, puppies, crying gifs.
Me: DELETE! There I showed them.
Ya know that was the condensed version. But looking back there was nothing really horribly mean about the responses. That's my point. Perception and accountability is half the battle.
I 100% agree with the bolded.
Glad you came back OP0 -
Missy..,
I don't normally chime in on the forums, but I have to say welcome back, and to hell with the jerks.
It is regretful that your original post was full of negativity and mean girl politics.. that sucks and it is inexcusable.
We don't need tough love buttercup motivators here, you might be able to turn that negative experience around and find some positive results in it, but that is something that is intrinsic within you. I applaud you for not giving up, and for finding a way to reframe your thought process.
I have no friends connected on here, and no strangers for that matter. Other opinions mean less to me than how my clothes are fitting and how my energy level is changing. But it doesn't mean that I am resistant to being hurt by other people's unkind words.
Take it one day at a time, and if you need or feel you need validation, don't try to get it through other people's opinions.... they need their own validation and sometimes taking an innocent soul down with them is the form of validation that they crave.
Be well, Be positive, and just
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Good luck!
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@RedRockChic (and a few others)
You need to reread the original post in its entirety. Her point is that people weren't being mean, but that she was interpreting it as mean b/c she wasn't hearing what she wanted to hear. That she's come back to say that is incredible and she will be very successful.
In over six months here, I have literally never seen anyone be what I would call mean to someone else.
What really grinds my gears? The White Knight posts that add absolutely nothing of substance other than vacant positivity, often in support of demonstrably Bad Ideas (R). Those are the real "mean people."0 -
PikaKnight wrote: »Laineymacksmom wrote: »I'm glad you're giving it another shot and I'm sorry you had that experience. I wish mean people would just realize how harmful they truly are. Your post is great.
:huh:
Except they weren't harmful. :huh:
I think you need to reread the post.
And so should you0 -
A couple of weeks ago I posted on this board about my struggles losing weight and asked for insight on why I wasn't losing weight. Well I eagerly waited responses and was floored when I read what was being written in response. I felt I was being ganged up on, people getting a laugh at my expense! I ended up deleting my post, cried and ate an entire sleeve of Oreos. I was literally at rock bottom, looking for help and all I got was responses from mean girls wannabe' s. I wasn't going to write a response to how y'all made me feel. But after two weeks of going over that post in my mind, I just wanna say one thing:
THANK YOU!!! In all sincerity, thank you. I realized something from that post. I was looking for validation and coddling for my bad choices and that wasn't going to do me any good. The only one who didn't realize that was me. So I'm coming back to tell everyone thank you. Thank you for your honesty, thank you for your time, thank you for your suggestions and mostly thank you for responding. I didn't accept your suggestions as anything but mean bc lets face it, what I was doing wasn't working and how could I be wrong!!
So I apologize for being such a jerk to some of you. And I thank you all for kicking my butt into the right direction.... errrrr right road to reaching my goals.
Oh and if this post shows up twice it's because I typed it out and it seemed to disappear. So I'm typing it again.
Welcome back. But I want to tell you something; there is no excuse for people being jerks. Mocking and belittling anyone is not needed here. What's needed is support.
Now, if people post here with every excuse under the sun of why they aren't losing weight- expect to be called out on them. But truly, people don't have to be mean about it.
And a suggestion: stay away from any discussion that is about : Detoxing or very low calorie diets. The big gun comments come out for those, lol.
Wishing you more good experiences on MFP.
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Laineymacksmom wrote: »I'm glad you're giving it another shot and I'm sorry you had that experience. I wish mean people would just realize how harmful they truly are. Your post is great.
epic misread of OP0 -
It's interesting to see how many people are reading into it that people are jerks instead of seeing it as the OP overreacted in the deleted post. She even came back to say that after thinking about it there was nothing mean about what was said.0
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It's interesting to see how many people are reading into it that people are jerks instead of seeing it as the OP overreacted in the deleted post. She even came back to say that after thinking about it there was nothing mean about what was said.
Totally this. The irony is that what these people are reading into her post, is what her initial reaction was to the comments in the original thread. Not understanding the difference between honesty and negativity. That not sugar coating something does not equal meanness.
The fact that the OP recognized the mistake that she made, came back and admitted it, and thanked the mean people is so refreshing.
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PikaKnight wrote: »Laineymacksmom wrote: »I'm glad you're giving it another shot and I'm sorry you had that experience. I wish mean people would just realize how harmful they truly are. Your post is great.
:huh:
Except they weren't harmful. :huh:
I think you need to reread the post.
And so should you
How so? The post was saying that the people she thought were being mean weren't. So how can they be harmful when they weren't?0 -
It's interesting to see how many people are reading into it that people are jerks instead of seeing it as the OP overreacted in the deleted post. She even came back to say that after thinking about it there was nothing mean about what was said.
Maybe @AmillB should read the above.0 -
I don't like meanies either! Maybe WW or TOPS?0
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SarahG0408 wrote: »I don't like meanies either! Maybe WW or TOPS?
Did you read the original post, or any of her subsequent posts? She is thanking the mean people. Saying she needed the wake up call but originally wasn't ready to hear it.0 -
herrspoons wrote: »See, you get it. That is why you will succeed.
Welcome to the rational side, where the winners are.
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I did not expect this. I'm glad that you emerged with clarity!0
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To OP: LOVE this! It takes guts to admit fault and to take responsibility. But that is indeed the first step toward success. You'll be fine if you can remember this new mindset of yours!
And God bless the MFP "meanies." Sure, there are probably a few genuine jerks on here. But by and large the "meanies" are the ones who genuinely help people (assuming they actually want help are willing to take responsibility for themselves).0 -
Great post0
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Wow! Thanks for all the responses. Crazy busy at work so I just logged on. Shaking my head at a few but it's the internet.
Love ya MFP meanies0 -
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