Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

Today I was putting away the clean laundry when my husband came home. He walks in and starts telling me about his day then out of nowhere he throws out there "babe you are really looking good". I don't know the last time I got a compliment like that. It felt great and I'm feeling great about myself!

Confession...sometimes when the baby just won't stop crying I go and just find random things to eat to relieve the stress I start to feel. Probably not a good idea.

Confession: it bugs me to no end when people bash fat people and assume they're unhealthy. ESPECIALLY strangers on the Internet who are just oh-so concerned about my "health" and obviously know a ton about my (perfectly great) physical health.

Briefly back to the doctor discussion (although not the gynecologist as I avoid them like the plague). I have something called dextrocardia. What it is is that my heart is actually on the wrong side of my body. I have known this for years. 2 years ago I had it confirmed that I actually have my whole upper body switched (mirror image). It's pretty rare (usually happens in twins though I am not a twin and there is no history of twins in the family).

Most doctors have never seen it. I think it's really funny to go to the doctor and not tell them. Then they break out the stethoscope and start trying to listen to my heartbeat. They NEVER admit they can't find it. I'll wait a few minutes as they get increasingly frantic then will tell them to try the right side. Often they won't believe me. Until I say I have dextrocardia. Then they all all fascinated and start dragging in everyone in the office to check it out. At that point it gets a bit embarrassing but for a few moments I get a laugh out of it.

shannonbun wrote: »

Confession: it bugs me to no end when people bash fat people and assume they're unhealthy. ESPECIALLY strangers on the Internet who are just oh-so concerned about my "health" and obviously know a ton about my (perfectly great) physical health.

Honestly, I can only hope my weight is the cause of my health issues. You can fix a weight issue, not hereditary issues. I think I'll be super bummed, losing all this weight to find out my cholesterol will be an issue my whole life.

Confession: The reason I don't really like going to the gym too often isn't because I'm self conscious of others seeing me work out, but because some days I'm incredibly GASSY and fear letting one loose really loudly and having it stink up the entire gym >.>
Really guys, my avoidance of the place should be considered a public service. You're welcome.

AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »

ogmomma2012 wrote: »

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

rungirl1973 wrote: »

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

quiksylver296 wrote: »

I confess - I want to rear end this car.



I see it in the parking garage nearly every day and it makes me stabby.

On a related note, "Stork Parking" makes me stabby. So deeply stupid. Especially at hospitals where there are so many people who are actually disabled/ill who are more deserving of those close-in spots.

I've always thought that! It's healthy for a pregnant woman to walk. What about giving those parking spots to families with babies! I remember when I was a single mother of 2 babies under age 2, thinking they should have allowed me a reserved parking spot at the front of the lot.

You chose to have those children--it is your job to figure it out.

Giving people with children so many special privileges in an already overpopulated world is so incredibly irresponsible. It makes me very angry.

It's a courtesy, not a privilege, or all businesses would be required to have them. We get it, you don't have kids. So what?

it's not illegal to park in those spots, just because you ladies like to get baby-capped parking spots. I will use them if I'm in a hurry. I know some of you chubby gals use them too.

Uhh no this chubby gal like to park at distances, thanks? And I've only seen them at Babies R Us. Which makes sense. I don't care. Honestly. And neither should child-free people who wouldn't step foot in a Babies R Us.

ogmomma2012 wrote: »

shannonbun wrote: »

Confession: it bugs me to no end when people bash fat people and assume they're unhealthy. ESPECIALLY strangers on the Internet who are just oh-so concerned about my "health" and obviously know a ton about my (perfectly great) physical health.

Honestly, I can only hope my weight is the cause of my health issues. You can fix a weight issue, not hereditary issues. I think I'll be super bummed, losing all this weight to find out my cholesterol will be an issue my whole life.

I had some of my health issues resolve after losing weight, my PCOS and chronic GERD.

Confession: I've used the stalls for pregnant moms / moms with kids at grocery stores and malls. I have never done it at a hospital or health clinic. How does some know if I am preggers or not? I could be and just not showing yet (I've never been pregnant before).

(edited because I screwed up the quotes)

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pofoster21 wrote: »

Briefly back to the doctor discussion (although not the gynecologist as I avoid them like the plague). I have something called dextrocardia. What it is is that my heart is actually on the wrong side of my body. I have known this for years. 2 years ago I had it confirmed that I actually have my whole upper body switched (mirror image). It's pretty rare (usually happens in twins though I am not a twin and there is no history of twins in the family).

Most doctors have never seen it. I think it's really funny to go to the doctor and not tell them. Then they break out the stethoscope and start trying to listen to my heartbeat. They NEVER admit they can't find it. I'll wait a few minutes as they get increasingly frantic then will tell them to try the right side. Often they won't believe me. Until I say I have dextrocardia. Then they all all fascinated and start dragging in everyone in the office to check it out. At that point it gets a bit embarrassing but for a few moments I get a laugh out of it.

I have systemic mastocystosis with urticaria pigmentosa (a surplus of mast cells in my body and itchy spots head to toe). It requires, amongst other specialist visits, bi-annual trips to the dermatologist. Masto is classified as a rare disease (worldwide it affects about 1/20,000 to 1/40,000 people) and the type of adult form I have isn't usually diagnosed until people hit their 60s, but I got pegged with it in my early 20s. Hence the giant teaching exam room they stick me with on every visit. I'm pretty sure they actually schedule med students to come in on days when I have my appointments. During my last visit, there were literally 11 people in the room with me. I feel your embarrassment on a spiritual level!

I had this happen once. A doctor had a bunch of interns in. He asked one to find my heart rate or something. I took pity on the guy after I could start to feel him panicking. What intern wants to admit they can't find a heartbeat on a very much alive 17 year old (my age at the time).

ogmomma2012 wrote: »

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

marissafit06 wrote: »

Talkradio wrote: »

Re: the vegan thread that was posted earlier... You could probably substitute "child free" for "vegan" and have the exact same conversation.

(Child free meaning the movement of people who are childless by conviction/choice and refer to people who have children as "breeders", not meaning people who are childless in general)

I saw the vegan thread. I don't really the need to argue. I don't really care how other people eat, my MIL is vegan and not the biggest fan of her grandkids chowing down on meat but w/e. She is generally polite about it and we make vegan food for her when she comes.

Same things with childless/child free people. I just don't get the overt hostility and obnoxiousness to strangers over the internet. You be child free and enjoy, no need to be disrespectful.

Because those of us who don't/can't have children get treated like second-class citizens in so many ways, both big and small. It happens to me on this site and it happens to me in real life.

It pisses me off to see people who get to have children taking them for granted, not caring for them properly and expecting other people to watch out for their safety in public...even though parents get tons of positive attention just for being parents, whether they are actually doing their jobs well or not. It's disgusting.

Being pregnant or having small children is not a disability, it is a choice. If you can't figure out how to manage that, don't have children to begin with. Nobody deserves a parade or a designated parking spot. The whole thing with baby-on-board signs and decorating cars with stick families is disgustingly self-congratulatory.

The Baby on board sign USED to be to warn rescue teams that there is someone in the car unable to help themselves. I am sorry you seem bitter about people choosing to have children, and businesses choosing to cater to family.

I am so, SOO sorry for you and your state of mind. I hope you can get help.

Actually, that's an urban legend. They were invented simply for profit, and that story started afterwards. The person who brought them to America has flat out said they started making them after seeing then in Europe, and the Europe ones were just one of a bunch of signs manufactured by the same company.

I remember a conversation about this on a pregnancy forum ages ago, and I asked a friend, who is a paramedic and she said that it would never have occured to her to look for a sign, that it wouldn't make her check the car out any faster, and if they put any stock in it as a signal that there WAS a baby on board, wouldn't they just waste time looking for one which wasn't there, as no one ever takes the sign down just coz they don't have the baby at that particular time.