Fit For Future Families - May 2011

Wow I get so behind on the weekends and I was super busy at work on Friday. So here is my story...

I'm Kim, from Michigan. I married my best friend in August 2009, and we decided to start TTC January 2010. Yeah, I'm a "newbie" to TTC. I was on the depo shot for 5 years ,and 5 years before taking a year off, totally 10 years. Yes, doctors suggest not to be on it longer than 2 years... Thanks plan parenthood... I did not get my period back until November 2010, which was a long wait! Now I am waiting to start ovulating. I have been temping since November and there has been no change since. Additionally, the clear blue easy fertility monitor has said nothing but "low" for the past 3 months. My Dr has suggested we start clomid next month. I'm a bit nervous, but excited to take the next step. I was at my heaviest weight on my wedding day topping out at 169. Since finding MFP I'm down to 147-145. (got down to 139, before taking a cruise around Hawaii. Too much food and too much relaxing!) I'm a Zumba-aholic! Currently working to tone up and get back to my 140-130s goal. Baby Dust to all trying and Motivation Dust to everyone!

Yeah - I'm a huge fan of Subway too....I'll have to do a search for it. I know the last time I was down there we did a lot of Chick-fil-a, Sonic. I don't want to get in too many groceries since it's just me and we did that last time and we just didn't eat anything.....maybe I'll do snacks in the hotel and get food out most nights....

Carina - LOL I know right - we're right between Lake Simcoe and Newmarket. I actually live right on the lake (well I don't back onto it, but my street does).

Jalara - great attitude. I weighed in this morning for HP too and it's up 1.3lbs from last week...which is better than the 3lbs it started as......good luck on your test

@ Luki - Congrats on your student. good luck! My BFF from highschool was an exchange student. She went to France, and had a student from France come stay with her, after. it was neat!

@ Pam - That's cool! I LOVE water!

@ Jalara - We're behind you. You can do it! Healthy is more important that skinny. Have you measured yourself? I haven't yet, but I've heard that even though your weight doesn't change, your body is changing.

@ Katy - Good job! Keep it up!

Pam, I’ve actually heard of Keswick before but don’t know too much about it other than it’s a lakeshore town.
Good luck on your trip, it’s always hard to eat healthy while traveling, but I’m sure you’ll make the best choices you can.

Jodi, you just scared the crap out of me! DH & I too have “unexplained infertility”, it sucks. Sometime I wish there was something wrong so we’d know what to fix! I’m onto my second IUI, the first we used Ovidrel only and this time I’m on Femera & will be using the Ovidrel again too. I really hope this next round of IVF works for you guys, they say that loosing a certain amount of body fat can jump start your fertility, so I hope this is what happens for you. Oh… and Welcome

Luki, congrats on the student! Very exciting!

Good luck on your test Jalara!

AFM, I’ve been bad at weighing in more than just the once a week, and have been down all week except this morning where I weighed in at exactly the same as last Monday. I know its cause DH and I splurged last night and had Thai food, so today I’m trying to flush all the sodium out and will officially weigh in tomorrow instead. On the TTC front, I had a U/S this morning and have two follies on my right at 12mm (I’m on CD7 btw) so I go in again on Wednesday to monitor them.

Luki, congratulations on the foreign exchange student! I've always wanted to do that and have thought about hiring an au pair for a year when we have our first baby too (haha, like we could afford that...nope!). But we thought the cultural experience would be fun

Jalara, hang in there! I fluctuate like that sometimes too. I've just started not weighing in for a while so I don't freak out when I gain a little and get discouraged! But I know it will drop again!! And healthy is definately better than skinny

Pam, try chipotle. I loooove chipotle! I always get the three tacos. And its a bonus that its all hormone and antibiotic free!

AFM: I had a loooooong stressful weekend. BUT on a happy note, I weighed in for the first time in like a month and I had lost 6.4lbs!! Woo hoo!!!

Well it's Monday....

Jalara, don't fret. You are very smart and motivated. I know your hard work will pay off! Your goals look good!
MrsH! Yay! What a great loss! Great job.
Stephanie, great loss! LOL a beanbag chair at work... Love the idea.
Ashley, yay right side!! Keep ‘em growing! X Fingers crossed X wishing you the best!
Pam, sorry I can't help you with food choices down there.... just read the labels and ask for nutrition info.
Katy, down 4? Great job!!! I'm jealous of your workout list! keep up the GREAT work!

AFM, I'm down .2lbs...that makes me laugh, but I guess its going down... time to stay on track!
**VENT ALERT (and major pity party)**Also, this has been the worse start to a week ever!! my 3 (used to be) best friends from high school have completely written me off. One just got engaged on Saturday and I found out on Facebook. Then yesterday I see that they had a surprise party for her with a few of our other friends that I haven't had much contact with and family, but not me. :sad: I have never felt so hurt in my life!!! I haven't stopped sobbing since I saw the pictures of everyone together and so happy. I know I haven't been extremely active in their life, but I would have never thought that I would be forgotten and abandoned. This is the worse feeling in the world! They were my only friends and now I am left with nothing but family and my virtual friends, not that that is a bad thing, it just hurts. Everyone needs people that they can go to and now here I am in a dark room alone. If there was something that I did that was THAT bad, why didn't they call me out on it? I would rather someone tell me what I am doing wrong than just disowning me! AHHH I just want to scream!! :sad: Oh and did I mention that I just saw 2 of them on Thursday at zumba and they didn't act like anything was wrong? Well they weren't overly friendly, but they didn't ignore me either...
So I have decided to take this sadness and frustration to zumba tonight. And I will have to try my hardest to stay away from the chocolates (at least they are dark chocolate; the "healthy chocolate") my hubby brought home for me because I was feeling bad. (Yeah, thanks babe!)
*Wipe the tears and get back to work*
I might think about goals… maybe later…

**VENT ALERT (and major pity party)**Also, this has been the worse start to a week ever!! my 3 (used to be) best friends from high school have completely written me off. One just got engaged on Saturday and I found out on Facebook. Then yesterday I see that they had a surprise party for her with a few of our other friends that I haven't had much contact with and family, but not me. :sad: I have never felt so hurt in my life!!! I haven't stopped sobbing since I saw the pictures of everyone together and so happy. I know I haven't been extremely active in their life, but I would have never thought that I would be forgotten and abandoned. This is the worse feeling in the world! They were my only friends and now I am left with nothing but family and my virtual friends, not that that is a bad thing, it just hurts. Everyone needs people that they can go to and now here I am in a dark room alone. If there was something that I did that was THAT bad, why didn't they call me out on it? I would rather someone tell me what I am doing wrong than just disowning me! AHHH I just want to scream!! :sad: Oh and did I mention that I just saw 2 of them on Thursday at zumba and they didn't act like anything was wrong? Well they weren't overly friendly, but they didn't ignore me either...
So I have decided to take this sadness and frustration to zumba tonight. And I will have to try my hardest to stay away from the chocolates (at least they are dark chocolate; the "healthy chocolate") my hubby brought home for me because I was feeling bad. (Yeah, thanks babe!)
*Wipe the tears and get back to work*
I might think about goals… maybe later…

I get it, I really do:brokenheart: I have been dealing with some similar issues for almost two years now. The fact that I met and married my sweet hubby within four months didn't help with the friendships, either. Since they weren't around much to see the relationship, they didn't react well to the speediness of it. Got lots of ugly comments there, including several implying we "HAD" to get married, and when you were raised the way my "friends" and I were that is about as insulting as it gets! Obviously, they now know how wrong they were on that point! But I wouldn't change a thing now. If we ever repair those friendships they won't be the same, but I may be able to value them in a different light. The most important thing is my relationship with my DH and that my conscience is clean.

As you deal with this situation just remember that yours are the only actions you can control and that at the end of the day you want no regrets

Hi all,

Still catching up after a rainy weekend in the North of England (in a tent :frown: )

So sorry about your friends Kim, but I agree that you should try and talk to them and explain how you feel. It may be that there was/is something else going on and that you're all working on a misunderstanding. It sounds as if it couldn't make you feel worse than you feel right now and it might clear the air a bit. At the very least, you'd know where you stand.

Lot's of virtual hugs from your virtual friends in the meantime *hugs*

Good luck with the student Luki, sounds like a fun experience. I used to live with a load of girls from China when I was at uni.

Jalara, don't quit, things will get better. In a few months time when you've lost more weight, this few weeks of slight gain or no loss will feel really insignificant, it's just part of the long haul. I often feel like packing it all in but Ijust have to keep reminding myself that I didn't get this big in a few months so I won't get slim in a few months (although I still feel that this completely sucks).

Welcome to the new people, hope you enjoy all the warmth and suppor t you will find here.

AFM my real name is Fiona, I'm 29 and live in England (Irish by origin but moved around my whole life). I was on the depo shot for about 6-7 years and had no idea that there could be such long term effects. Came off it nearly 18 months ago and still no first period although I had my first spotting about a week or two ago which was the most hopeful sign I've had in ages. Had bloods done but nothing abnormal came up so just hoping that losing the extra weight will help to get it out of my system and also have me fitter and healthier.

Some stuff I've not told you guys about yet - OH has been handling the various issues we've been having around TTC and also work/family problems by drinking quite heavily at times. Obviously this has had something of an impact onthe whole BD scenario! We've finally had a good talk about it now ( I was trying to ignore it and pretend it wasn't happening) and I hope sorted some stuff out so that we can move forward. He's also joining me in getting fitter and healthier so that should make a big difference!

Sorry to get heavy, I just felt I needed to lift a bit of the burden and I don't talk to anyone in my non virtual worldabout TTC as I just can't handle the questions and kindly concern.

And breathe

It's me again. I just found this article for guys who have wives going through infertility. I thought I'd share it, just in case it's a good read for any of you---or your hubbies. I liked it. Too bad we can't upload this into their brains like they did in the Matrix...

What to Expect when your wife is Not Expecting.

http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/05/17/sedaka.infertility.husbands/index.html?hpt=C2

It was soo much fun seeing everyone's wedding pictures. I know I am a little late - but I thought I would share our big day as well below. My DH and I will be married 3 years in July but we have been together for almost thirteen years. We met while working at the same camp while I was serving as a summer missionary in his home town. We both are very active in our church and lead the College Life Group, are on the Youth Leadership Council and sing on the Praise Team (DH also plays guitar and drums). I am from South Carolina and teach 8th grade History and head up the Yearbook. Speaking of the yearbook.. that is part of the reason why I have been MIA for the last couple of days - our yearbook came in! Which is awesome b/c it means one more year is almost down, but it also means that me and my staff get to sort and write the names in 915 yearbooks between now and next friday. Not a lot of free time! We also had two of the college students that were a members of our college life group (a bible study we host in our home every week) got married last weekend. It was a bit of a struggle b/c they left a LOT of things til the last minute - including giving my DH the music he was supposed to play during their ceremony. I found out a week before that I was doing all three bridesmaids hair and makeup. Not only that but she wanted a specific style of hair - did you read the part where I said I was a teacher NOT a hair dresser. Lol.. it turned out well except that her matron of honor had a horrible stomach flu and the poor thing looked like she was going to either throw up or pass out the whole ceremony. Top that off with another girl that is dear to us graduating from high school and the college student who lives with us moving back home for the summer it has been a busy couple of weeks.

I did weigh in yesterday but I am the same weight as last week. I consider that a small victory and I have learned that the numbers on the scale cannot define me. I feel better, I am eating below my target and I have started walking 1 mile a night with my DH and the college student that lives with us. My clothes are feeling looser and my DH says he can tell I am losing - and he is not one to pull my leg. So the skinny jeans in the corner staring at me - can keep on - my happiness won't come from them but from the victory of being healthier.

I went to the GYN for my yearly two weeks ago. Good things are that he feels confident that we should be fine with starting to ttc this summer. He offered me a solution to my fear of migraines in a slow dose estrogen patch to use during my period which makes me feel a LOT better about being off the pill. He also suggested that I have some bloodwork done just b/c I haven't had any done in 5 years. I am waiting til school is over b/c it is in a city 45 mins from home and I would have to fast for 12 hours. The only concern I have is the DH family has cystic fibrosis in their line. He suggested that we could have genetic testing done, but he didn't think it would be necessary if it was not in my line. We are still considering what to do next as far as that goes. So I am finishing up the BC and going to try and get the body regulated again before we start ttc. Anyway... on to the pictures!

Ladies Just wanted to say I miss our "chats"......I'm getting tired of travel - one more day of work then flying home. THEN am going to New York for my sister's grad. Hoping to be in my own bed on Saturday night.....although this bed is mighty comfortable, I didn't really sleep well last night

I feel like i can't get on here enough to stay caught up!

Are we sharing wedding pics? i will have to upload mine sometimes. Which do you want? the courthouse wedding before he left for Iraq or the big fabulous one we had when he got back? lol.

Ashley- that stinks!!! I would tell them you want to cancel or soemthing...!!


mission chick- LOVE LOVE your wedding pictures! cute!

AFM- Spotting a little last few days and I am actuly hoping thats a good sign. I could be around 6-8 DPO and that could be implantation spotting... i hope i hope i hope. I plan on testing around CD 28 which would be in 1 week. I got a super dark OPK... but not sure if it was quite positive on mothers day. however after that they were all ghostly white...Monday was a rough day. My friend just had twin girls and we went to see them and my heart broke for myself.. i know pitty party. but i let it get to me and pigged out. stuck to it all other days... hoping to be down 50 in the next couple weeks.