WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2015

Hi Ladies
Welcome to the new people. Glad to see you all.
Ive had my first Edamame (mature soybeans) as part of my try new foods. I must say I really love them. They look like a broad bean, come in short pods. When you remove the pod, they have the same outer shell on the bean as the broad bean. They taste like a nutty sweet pea and are as green as peas. They are delicious and I would recommend them to anyone.
The mosquito bites are looking a bit nasty, going to go get the doctor to check them out. Its probably me and I think I must be allergic to them. I know diabetics have problems healing so its best to get them checked out. Still hasnt put me off my bike rides. Should be a 4 x's bike week.
Kate

Lisa, thanks I'll copy that and give it a try. Until recently I have been able to eat sweets and was disappointed. I kept telling everyone wish they made me sick so I wouldn't eat them. Maybe I'm getting my wish, but it wasn't much fun. Thanks for the tips.

Also woke with a horrible headache, due to eating a ll that sugar I'm not accustomed to. It's going away now, on my second cup of coffee

Nancy, how horrible that you went through the meat grinder like that. I had some similar experiences with my horrible first husband but am now married to a wonderful, kind, gentle man who has never even raised his voice to me in the 23 years I've been with him. I never thought I deserved this kind of man, but apparently he did.

My ex had no interest in his son at all while he was growing up, but years later my son tracked him down and he told him lies about me, and said that I refused to let him visit and moved around so he couldn't find us. Not true. My son believed it for years until he found out for himself what a big liar he was. I didn't see my son or the grandkids for six years. Maybe there is still hope for you too.

Yesterday hubby drove me over to Joplin for a clay club meeting, then we went shopping for some dress shirts, some window blinds, and a computer printer. Got the shirts and the blinds, but not the printer.

Today we have to get the estimate on repairing the van. I hope they can fix it quickly. But to be honest, I'm a little scared to drive. I'm supposed to watch the kids for a while so my son can take care of some legal paperwork, so I'm planning to walk them over to the library. Tonight DGD#2 goes to her first gymnastics class. I think she should enjoy it because she loves to jump around. She is 8 and can't sit still for a minute.

Well, I'm off to walk my steps. Have a great day!

Sylvia

So sad to read of the broken family situations...hugs to all of you! As women we are taught that family is the most important thing and it is heartbreaking to lose any part of our families, whether temporarily or permanently. Also hard to wait out a bad situation till things turn around. I am also doing the waiting game with a situation, and some days are better than others. We all need more kindness in this world!

drkatiebug wrote: »

bwcetc wrote: »

Margaret ... I did not know that about the lions ... We have 1 lion so I guess that means we're half paid off! Which is about right....

Me neither! I have always heard that you paint your front door red when you get the mortgage paid off.

Interesting!

My door is pillar box red,firetruck red,Bus red, red red...trying to think of something that is US and red lol. In the UK we use red a lot. My car is the same colour. Because I love red red. I dont like maroon reds it has to be specifically red red ah I know Tomato red. Sadly my house is still mortgaged.
Kate

morning peeps -

mollywhippet - glad to hear you and the kids are safe after that wreck

godmom- yeah, you don't want to piss a mexican off, least of all this one lolol.

janetr - thanks :0) i don't write much anymore, don't know why. eating 1 potato chip isn't gonna kill you, but when you start hittin on the whole bag, well... uh.. that's another story.

charm4u = you are a strong woman to have survived that. we should swap stories. my #1 husband was my abuser and alcoholic. had a loaded gun (cocked it) to my head while he was driving down a country road while he was royally drunk. all he needed was to hit a bump or "accidentally" pull the trigger. mom dis-owned me for 12 years because of him and the situation. guess it wasn't my time.

gawworth - nice to have support on the food front w/family.

Dana, Central Indiana – Welcome! I was so glad to see that 2 years after your divorce you are the happiest you have ever been. I have a friend who has been married for 26 years, stay-at-home wife the entire time (because her husband wanted it that way), 58 years old and her husband announced 3 months ago that he doesn’t want to be married any more. She didn’t see it coming and is a basket case. I’m trying my best to be supportive. I know she has a long way to go before she realizes she is better off without him, but she is not yet ready to hear that and/or believe it. It is my sincere hope that one day emotionally she will be where you are. Any hints on things you wish your friends had said or had not said when you were first hit with the divorce request?

And yes, you can do this!

DeeDee in gorgeous NC – Once upon a time I was having an asthma attack before it was diagnosed as asthma so I was sitting in my doctor’s office trying to figure out what the heck was wrong with me. I described the feeling as “I feel like my 13lb cat is sitting on my chest.” The doctor just looked at me in a puzzled manner. I totally get how you feel when your dog sits on you.

Grits – Someone a few pages back had a wonderful explanation of calorie deficit. Basically, your DGD would look up her BMR (Basal Metabolic Rate) or her RMR (Resting Metabolic Rate) for her goal weight. That would be the number of calories her body would use if she did no exercise and were that weight. If she sets her calories at that count and continues to exercise, she should lose weight at a reasonable rate. If she exercises a lot she might want to eat some of those exercise calories. I set a calories limit in MFP as well as a percentage of macro nutrients to make sure I eat a balanced diet. She might want to do the same.

Michele in NC – Thanks for your words to Alison. They were exactly what I was thinking when I read her post. For many years I was fat and heathy. Size does not indicate state of health.

Where in NC do you live? If you’d feel better about not giving specifics in a public forum but are willing to chat about specifics one-on-one, kindly send me a friend request and we can chat behind the scenes. I am giving serious consideration to NC as a state to retire to and am curious about your area’s weather, bug status, economic status, medical facilities, etc.

Alison – I was very glad to read that you let DH know he hurt your feelings. He needs to learn that you are his ally and he cannot take his frustrations out on you.

Margaret and Drkatiebug – I had not heard about either the lion or red door. I have the red door. Now to see how DH feels about a lion guarding the front porch.

OK. Page 90 just finished. It was my last page when I started reading it and now I see we’ve hit page 92. I’ll stop here for a bit and come back later.

[ Mia in MI
June goal - log food every day
Word of the month – persevere

Mia - way to go, just keep at it and it will happen.

Janetr OKC

I'm back now, after a very intense week with son and grandchildren visiting. I have tried to keep up with the reading but haven't had a chance to write anything. At the beginning of the week I started a notepad file but later on I didn't always have time even for that. Do please forgive me if I've missed commenting on anything important!

janetr7476 wrote: »

I love looking out over the pecan orchard and back to the llama pasture and seeing nothing but green. We spend most of our time in our Florida room so we can see the outdoors from inside.

JanetR - Nice hearing about the view out your window! I thoroughly enjoy sitting by my own picture window and watching the birds/hares/ptarmigans/weasels and whatever else is out there. It's better than TV! I hope when too I'm old and decrepit to get out of the house I'll still have eyesight good enough to watch the show.

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

The mural goes right around the room, including the doors. It truly is fabulous. It's called, if I remember, An Expedition in Search of Rare Meats. I love it in there because there is NO music and the waiters are good.

Heather - I'm with you 100% on that. A dinner should be uninterrupted! At an intellectual level I can understand this new(ish) trend that the chef descends on the guests and gives a long lecture about each course. Okay, he or she put lots of effort into composing the meal, but come ON, get real! Can't they just leave us alone to talk about our own affairs? We can always ask to talk to the chef if we want to compliment him/her for something particularly delectable.

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Those of you with busy jobs and who travel a lot with little chance of a routine I really admire you if you can even lose an ounce. I would be a mess! I love my good routine days and it really works for me weight wise. If I am alone and kicked out of routine I REALLY struggle. [...] I'm ok with other people around to anchor me.

Heather again - I also need routines. For me, "home" means four different places (not counting my parents' two homes, which also feel like home) and they are all totally different in terms of cooking gear, food availability, stress level, who else is around, and so on. It's a terrific struggle adapting my routines so they work in each home. Like you, I find that other people can help me in the struggle. Unfortunately, my subconscious still believes that calories you consume when nobody is watching don't count.
Speaking of delectable, your shrimp/garlic/chili orgy sounds absolutely divine! I firmly intend to replicate that meal first chance I get! However, living where I do, not far from Norway's prime shrimping grounds, I've become spoiled on FRESH shrimp. Hmm... Maybe I'll make an extra trip in to the nearest fishmonger, even though it's a two-hour drive.

mollywhippet wrote: »

I made orange chicken and brown rice for dinner and they loved it - after they added salt to theirs. And we had the best antelope we've had so far this season.

Sylvia - When I came to this it totally cracked me up. I had just read Heather's post about "An Expedition in Search of Rare Meats". A bit of antelope fit right in!

Joyce - What an awful day you had back on the 24th (and described on the 25th), when your husband walked out on the restaurant where you'd planned what you wanted to eat. I appreciated the retort you thought of when your husband asked "Where do you want to go?" ("HMMM, maybe to court????") I would never be quick-witted enough even to think of something like that. I also admire that you were able to see past all your husband's current nastiness to the tough situation he's up against, and that might be causing it. You're a grown-up!

Lenora - Great to hear that your nurse and MD are happy with your progress. Cutting the fat% and upping the muscle% is exactly what I want to do and I'm probably not the only one on this thread with that ambition... I bought myself a scales that measured BMI, fat%, muscle% and visceral fat. The first time I stepped on it I had the shock of my life: 23% muscle and 46% fat!!?? I thought there must be something wrong with it until my husband tried it and got a much lower fat% and much higher muscle%. Okay, he's a man and different proportions are to be expected, but still, the difference was big enough to convince me that it wasn't just that something wrong with the scales.

Cheri - You wrote about your son "He isn't one to share and I don't want to push him too hard for info." My grown daughter is the same, so I can guess what you're going through. I'd like to know a bit more about what's going on in her life, but it is her life, not mine, and I respect that. So no pushing from me either. I hope you snapped up a few tidbits during your visit to Chicago.

MNMargaret - Your line about standing by some flowers at the Como Park Conservatory in St. Paul threw me straight back into my childhood. I grew up in Minneapolis and one of my favorite excursions was to that conservatory. Ah, the humid scented air when you walked in through the door, the lily pond with goldfish swimming in it, and especially the grotto at the end of one wing, full of greenery dripping moisture down into the little pool with pennies and nickels shining on the bottom... It makes me want to be 8 years old again!

Mary from Minnesota - You chimed in and asked if Margaret remembered the pony ride and the giant tortoise. Thanks for doing that, because I had forgotten! I can see the pony ride now, but only vaguely. My middle sister was the "horsey" one, so the pony ride was her thing. But that tortoise... Yes, yes! I also recollect the vending machines where you could pay a dollar or some other outrageous sum and watch through the glass dome while a plastic animal was molded right before your eyes! And does anyone remember the little roller-coaster there at Como Park? As I've mentioned before, I'm uncomfortable with heights and that tiny kiddy roller-coaster is the only one I've ever truly enjoyed.

Back to MNMargaret - That yellow desk and its matching chair are exactly the same shape as a set my grandmother refurbished - it must be 50 years ago now, before Antiques Road Show made us aware of the value of the original finish. She did them up in black lacquer with gold trim. Beautiful! She also had a lot of other antiques that she left as they were, including a set of Hitchcock chairs with their original paint.

Becca by the beach - Nice to hear about your wildlife - the elk and the eagles. Sounds almost like home!

Sylvia - So sorry to hear about your van being totalled. Thank goodness nobody was hurt! The lives and health of all the people involved are what is most important. Even a brand new van is just "stuff".

pipcd34 wrote: »

An older pic of us when I was bigger

Awww, Poop. Bigger or no, you sure look sweet! And don't think I don't notice the coordinated wardrobe the two of you are wearing...

I'll get back later with an update on the grandkids' visit. Now it's nearly dinnertime ovah heeya.

Penny at the Pole

@Lagopus Cheri - You wrote about your son "He isn't one to share and I don't want to push him too hard for info." My grown daughter is the same, so I can guess what you're going through. I'd like to know a bit more about what's going on in her life, but it is her life, not mine, and I respect that. So no pushing from me either. I hope you snapped up a few tidbits during your visit to Chicago.

Actually I was able to glean some information (in a round about way) about where he is in his health/fitness journey. He had purchased and was wearing a Fitbit Charge HR. I mentioned to him I was thinking of upgrading from my pocket pedometer to something more current and that would sync with MFP. He took out his phone and showed me how the Fitbit Charge HR linked to MFP and all the information I could use from wearing this type of fitness monitor. It was quite informative and he was happy with the results he was getting and seeing. This exchange gave me enough information that he was aware of his weight gain and that he had to do something about it. As a matter of fact we had to do some changes in our eating plans for the weekend do to our delay in arriving in Chicago and the weather. Our daughter does not like change when plans have been laid out for her(this is due to her disabilities). I asked her brother to call her and work something out. Turns out he was concerned that we all had enough calories in our daily amounts left for which type of restaurant we were choosing to go to! My daughter and I who are both MFP losers were like WHAT!? Good information was obtained this weekend and now the 3 of us are healthier weight and fitness journeys.

It is sometimes difficult to remember that they are young adults out on their own now and don't necessarily want you "all up in their business". We call it love and concern for their well-being and they call it something else entirely. Fine line to walk in life.

Cheri (in where else but rainy NE Ohio)