My spouse is sabotaging my diet!

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  • arathena720
    arathena720 Posts: 449 Member
    Lol, I hear ha! My husband brought home a blueberry coffee cake which looks AWESOME! He keeps saying "you should really try a little piece, just one little piece?" NOPE! I told him he wasn't being supportive, too. Twit.
  • raregem99
    raregem99 Posts: 88 Member
    moesis wrote: »
    Thankfully the only edible things that my wife can cook are healthy. For me the challenge is leaving her at home when I go grocery shopping. If she comes with it's potato chips, sweet tea and other empty calorie laiden foods. I may as well throw my healthy menu and shopping list out the window.

    haha
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Ugh, my husband does this sort of thing.....What's worse, he'll even refuse to eat unless I do too (and the same thing in the same amount). I've tried explaining that a 6' man cannot eat the same as a 5'2" woman (or vice versa), but he refuses to listen. He also moans when he catches me weighing and logging my foods (I have to sneak around). I think he does it because he likes sharing food as much as eating it and also he doesn't want me to lose weight (he's just like your wife--likes me fatter, but losing the boobs is his fear! lol). It's really frustrating, though. I totally feel your pain.

    I don't really have a solution (and talking about it really hasn't helped), just that some days I do better than others. And, if I know he's wanting to eat out or cook me something, I plan ahead by minimally eating the rest of the day (like a packet of tuna and some lettuce for lunch). That helps me fit in the "shares". I also try to take over the cooking and dishing of food so that I can sneak in weighing everything and sneak him larger (size appropriate) portions by piling them differently. I get called "controlling" but it's worth it! lol

    Sooo...your husband is refusing to eat anything but what you eat in order to attempt to control what/how much you eat...but YOU are controlling?

    Hahaha very good point! I think I'll have to take a screen shot of this comment and send it to him. We have an ongoing debate over who is the most controlling out of the two of us.....this outside opinion might be just the edge I need! Thanks, Jennifer. :wink:

    I would not do this. A little snippet of your life in the forums is only going to start an argument if you bring that to your husband. Outside opinion what does that even mean. Does this outside opinion know you both?
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    My fiance just bought a bunch of klondike bars and hot dogs. Fitness gods be w me.
    Sabotage his sabotage and make castles and little turtles out of them. Use glue and other inedibles to hold them together.

    Haha mean! I like it.
  • paris458
    paris458 Posts: 229 Member
    It took me a lot to realize that my bf and I CAN eat different dinners. It's the only way I will lose weight. He eats pizza and chinese food like its his job. I can't do that every day and stay within my calorie goals.

    Last night, he made a pizza and I had 1 slice. Just one. And I made sure to weigh it.

    Tonight, I made my own dinner of veggies and fish. He ordered Chinese food.

    No reason for him to change his eating habits as he is thin and fit. I'm the one that needs to change MY ways, so I'm going to take personal responsibility!

    Good job!! We get free food at work all the time. I hate when its pizza. Last time I had a single slice too (hard right?). Thats good for me too cuz im the type to eat like 5 slices. Then headed to chik fil a for some chicken for protein. Chik fil a has surprising low calorie (if you do it right)food and thier buffalo sauce is low as well

    pizza and free are my biggest weakness. so when there is free pizza I just eat it. there is always tomorrow and the gym later
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    show her skinnytaste. good desserts that you can almost feel good about eating
  • LeslieB042812
    LeslieB042812 Posts: 1,799 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Ugh, my husband does this sort of thing.....What's worse, he'll even refuse to eat unless I do too (and the same thing in the same amount). I've tried explaining that a 6' man cannot eat the same as a 5'2" woman (or vice versa), but he refuses to listen. He also moans when he catches me weighing and logging my foods (I have to sneak around). I think he does it because he likes sharing food as much as eating it and also he doesn't want me to lose weight (he's just like your wife--likes me fatter, but losing the boobs is his fear! lol). It's really frustrating, though. I totally feel your pain.

    I don't really have a solution (and talking about it really hasn't helped), just that some days I do better than others. And, if I know he's wanting to eat out or cook me something, I plan ahead by minimally eating the rest of the day (like a packet of tuna and some lettuce for lunch). That helps me fit in the "shares". I also try to take over the cooking and dishing of food so that I can sneak in weighing everything and sneak him larger (size appropriate) portions by piling them differently. I get called "controlling" but it's worth it! lol

    Sooo...your husband is refusing to eat anything but what you eat in order to attempt to control what/how much you eat...but YOU are controlling?

    Hahaha very good point! I think I'll have to take a screen shot of this comment and send it to him. We have an ongoing debate over who is the most controlling out of the two of us.....this outside opinion might be just the edge I need! Thanks, Jennifer. :wink:

    I would not do this. A little snippet of your life in the forums is only going to start an argument if you bring that to your husband. Outside opinion what does that even mean. Does this outside opinion know you both?

    Of course the outside opinion doesn't know us--but I do and this would be hilarious! I think you might be taking life (especially "life in the forums") too seriously if that's your reaction. :wink:
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Ugh, my husband does this sort of thing.....What's worse, he'll even refuse to eat unless I do too (and the same thing in the same amount). I've tried explaining that a 6' man cannot eat the same as a 5'2" woman (or vice versa), but he refuses to listen. He also moans when he catches me weighing and logging my foods (I have to sneak around). I think he does it because he likes sharing food as much as eating it and also he doesn't want me to lose weight (he's just like your wife--likes me fatter, but losing the boobs is his fear! lol). It's really frustrating, though. I totally feel your pain.

    I don't really have a solution (and talking about it really hasn't helped), just that some days I do better than others. And, if I know he's wanting to eat out or cook me something, I plan ahead by minimally eating the rest of the day (like a packet of tuna and some lettuce for lunch). That helps me fit in the "shares". I also try to take over the cooking and dishing of food so that I can sneak in weighing everything and sneak him larger (size appropriate) portions by piling them differently. I get called "controlling" but it's worth it! lol

    Sooo...your husband is refusing to eat anything but what you eat in order to attempt to control what/how much you eat...but YOU are controlling?

    Hahaha very good point! I think I'll have to take a screen shot of this comment and send it to him. We have an ongoing debate over who is the most controlling out of the two of us.....this outside opinion might be just the edge I need! Thanks, Jennifer. :wink:

    I would not do this. A little snippet of your life in the forums is only going to start an argument if you bring that to your husband. Outside opinion what does that even mean. Does this outside opinion know you both?

    Of course the outside opinion doesn't know us--but I do and this would be hilarious! I think you might be taking life (especially "life in the forums") too seriously if that's your reaction. :wink:

    Life in the forums takes place during work hours. After that I rarely look at the forums.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    moyer566 wrote: »
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    show her skinnytaste. good desserts that you can almost feel good about eating

    Ill look that up thanks!
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    paris458 wrote: »
    It took me a lot to realize that my bf and I CAN eat different dinners. It's the only way I will lose weight. He eats pizza and chinese food like its his job. I can't do that every day and stay within my calorie goals.

    Last night, he made a pizza and I had 1 slice. Just one. And I made sure to weigh it.

    Tonight, I made my own dinner of veggies and fish. He ordered Chinese food.

    No reason for him to change his eating habits as he is thin and fit. I'm the one that needs to change MY ways, so I'm going to take personal responsibility!

    Good job!! We get free food at work all the time. I hate when its pizza. Last time I had a single slice too (hard right?). Thats good for me too cuz im the type to eat like 5 slices. Then headed to chik fil a for some chicken for protein. Chik fil a has surprising low calorie (if you do it right)food and thier buffalo sauce is low as well

    pizza and free are my biggest weakness. so when there is free pizza I just eat it. there is always tomorrow and the gym later

    I agree! Free stuff at our office all of the time. Yes gym helps, but 5 slices of pizza would probably be 10 miles of running for good pizza. I shudder to think of how much lifting it would require. Although there was a blog against it I was considering a cheat day on the major holidays.
  • adriaticsea
    adriaticsea Posts: 20 Member
    My fiance just bought a bunch of klondike bars and hot dogs. Fitness gods be w me.
    Sabotage his sabotage and make castles and little turtles out of them. Use glue and other inedibles to hold them together.

    Haha mean! I like it.

    So I told him I was going to do this and he got excited over the idea of combining klondike bars and hotdogs... I am so jealous of his beastly metabolism.

  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    My fiance just bought a bunch of klondike bars and hot dogs. Fitness gods be w me.
    Sabotage his sabotage and make castles and little turtles out of them. Use glue and other inedibles to hold them together.

    Haha mean! I like it.

    So I told him I was going to do this and he got excited over the idea of combining klondike bars and hotdogs... I am so jealous of his beastly metabolism.

    Ewww klondike and hotdogs? Seriously? Hmmm, a new fair food, battered hotdogs (funnel cake batter) drenched in butter, wrapped in ice cream dipped in chocolate. I had a coworker show me videos of of battered/fried watermelon and that stuff looked goooood.
  • adriaticsea
    adriaticsea Posts: 20 Member
    My fiance just bought a bunch of klondike bars and hot dogs. Fitness gods be w me.
    Sabotage his sabotage and make castles and little turtles out of them. Use glue and other inedibles to hold them together.

    Haha mean! I like it.

    So I told him I was going to do this and he got excited over the idea of combining klondike bars and hotdogs... I am so jealous of his beastly metabolism.

    Ewww klondike and hotdogs? Seriously? Hmmm, a new fair food, battered hotdogs (funnel cake batter) drenched in butter, wrapped in ice cream dipped in chocolate. I had a coworker show me videos of of battered/fried watermelon and that stuff looked goooood.

    Yeah, his ache for junk food knows no bounds.
    You should patent that! & then never allow it into public sphere!
  • VioletHaz
    VioletHaz Posts: 44 Member
    CSARdiver wrote: »
    VioletHaz wrote: »
    I get an attitude with the hubs when I see all the cookies and ice cream after he has gone grocery shopping but in fairness he went grocery shopping and has heard me say I wish I had some oreos/ice cream.
    Now if he could just want to put both feet into the fitness wagon instead of just a pinkie finger and join me in wanting a potentially healthy middle age I would really like that.

    Where I see a real problem is with a friend. She seems to make lots of desserts and such meanwhile her husband has had amputations due to being diabetic. She even brought up one time that he was mad at her for making the desserts. Can only shake your head and be glad its not you.

    Yikes!

    I do the same whenever I do the groceries - swear that's genetic - picking up the richest, most decedent ice cream.

    Now the wife and I have a healthy joking relationship with food and will toss candy at one another saying "Eat it fatty!"

    LMAO! Love it! Yah, I have to work on the cutesy friendly banter stuff. I bring up an issue and I see him shut down. Ce la vie
  • iamrosiegirl
    iamrosiegirl Posts: 24 Member
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    She must be related to my husband! What I really want to know it's how you stopped at half a brownie?
  • flamingblades
    flamingblades Posts: 311 Member
    I like to buy "banded" bananas at the grocery store, take them home and let them turn all mushy and over ripe. Then I make 7 or 8 loaves of banana bread and donate them to the local food bank. Sometimes I will take 4 or 5 thin slices off of a loaf and give the rest to my kids. This is how I got rid of all of the white flour and granulated sugar in my house. I also had 2 cans of butter Crisco that went into the bread. My cupboards are clean and green now...
  • flamingblades
    flamingblades Posts: 311 Member
    It took several months to get through the Crisco, NOT 7 or 8 loaves (I felt a need to clarify that)...
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    She must be related to my husband! What I really want to know it's how you stopped at half a brownie?

    Cold brownies...no problem. Hot brownies very difficult, I had good willpower that day.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    It took several months to get through the Crisco, NOT 7 or 8 loaves (I felt a need to clarify that)...

    Great job!!
  • demoiselle2014
    demoiselle2014 Posts: 474 Member
    Ugh, my husband does this sort of thing.....What's worse, he'll even refuse to eat unless I do too (and the same thing in the same amount). I've tried explaining that a 6' man cannot eat the same as a 5'2" woman (or vice versa), but he refuses to listen. He also moans when he catches me weighing and logging my foods (I have to sneak around). I think he does it because he likes sharing food as much as eating it and also he doesn't want me to lose weight (he's just like your wife--likes me fatter, but losing the boobs is his fear! lol). It's really frustrating, though. I totally feel your pain.

    I don't really have a solution (and talking about it really hasn't helped), just that some days I do better than others. And, if I know he's wanting to eat out or cook me something, I plan ahead by minimally eating the rest of the day (like a packet of tuna and some lettuce for lunch). That helps me fit in the "shares". I also try to take over the cooking and dishing of food so that I can sneak in weighing everything and sneak him larger (size appropriate) portions by piling them differently. I get called "controlling" but it's worth it! lol

    Sooo...your husband is refusing to eat anything but what you eat in order to attempt to control what/how much you eat...but YOU are controlling?

    Hahaha very good point! I think I'll have to take a screen shot of this comment and send it to him. We have an ongoing debate over who is the most controlling out of the two of us.....this outside opinion might be just the edge I need! Thanks, Jennifer. :wink:

    I'd say let him be hungry. If he refuses to eat unless you do, its on him if it isn't enough. I'm concerned he'd place responsibility for his hunger on your shoulders.
  • gothchiq
    gothchiq Posts: 4,590 Member
    I'd ask her to store them in opaque containers so that they are hidden from your view.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    You're joking right?
  • gracielynn1011
    gracielynn1011 Posts: 726 Member
    Ask her to make mini desserts. my husband loves sweets, so instead of a cake, I make cupcakes. I eat one, he eats 6, I take the rest to work. Same with other things, make mini brownies, mini cheesecakes. If its something I cant make smaller, then I cut it up before serving it and pack half of it away.
  • jen48135
    jen48135 Posts: 13 Member
    My husband cooks our dinner cause he gets home first with the kids. He rarely cooks healthy dinner and what he thinks is healthy is coated with calories. Otherwise half of what he cooks he in a frying pan with butter. It is frustrating
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
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    *want*
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    It took several months to get through the Crisco, NOT 7 or 8 loaves (I felt a need to clarify that)...

    Great job!!
    Ask her to make mini desserts. my husband loves sweets, so instead of a cake, I make cupcakes. I eat one, he eats 6, I take the rest to work. Same with other things, make mini brownies, mini cheesecakes. If its something I cant make smaller, then I cut it up before serving it and pack half of it away.

    Good ideas!
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