WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY2015

@lhannon062709 - who now has 'physical' custody of your DGS? Is the 'joint' custody issue due to a 'new' person in the life/lives of one or the other of the parents? I think it is a shame to use a innocent child as a 'pawn'. My DnL has joint custody of her daughter and they live in the same town; so swapping child out so that each have her 1/2 of the year does not pose much of an issue; and he also still has to pay her C/S because he makes a lot of money. All of it is either put into child's savings account or used for things like dancing lessons or things needed for her to be a cheerleader at school; or playing some sort of sport. She gets all excited when my son picks her up after school; because she knows he will then do something with her that she finds as fun to do. Such as riding around, looking for deer sheds. She doesn't mind saying that they do things 'for fun' when he picks her up. He'll take her hunting or fishing or just riding around in the lake behind their house or checking the cameras to see where the deer are feeding (as a part of his job as a Wildlife Biologist for a hunting preserve.

Please pray for my DYS and his 'new' wife - that she'll get pregnant soon. They called last night and they are leaving for the beach with another couple and a total of 5 children. I know they'll have a whole lot of fun. We're taking the 3 other DGD to the beach the end of this month. I wish they did not live so far away from us.

GRITSandSLUTS wrote: »

@lhannon062709 - who now has 'physical' custody of your DGS? Is the 'joint' custody issue due to a 'new' person in the life/lives of one or the other of the parents? I think it is a shame to use a innocent child as a 'pawn'.

My DD has primary custody, but the ex was supposed to pick up the DGS for the summer. He sent a text to my daughter, taunting her that he was picking up the DGS, was going to move out of state, and would not be letting her know where he was taking him.

She used the text to get a temporary restraining order, and, due to a number of other issues, is suing for permanent custody and child support she's never received.

JanetMM love the Limerick. Thank you.

MNMargaret

Arrived in Chicago area waiting in line for registration. They are expecting more than 3000 kids this year

Lisa- green peppers is one of the veggies I don't like it. I do like the new little colored sweet peppers. I have to watch eating certain foods I get kidney stones have very bad acid reflux.
I changed my eating habits on Apr 21st and have lost 32 lbs - now have 100 lbs to lose.

@Z - welcome and glad to see you've made the decision to just do it. Do what exercise you can and log, log, log your food and beverage intake. There are many things you can do besides just water. Add no calorie flavor drops to it, try the Sparkling Ice they have been discussing on here, if caffeine doesn't bother you, drink iced tea.

Becca made the tree that lites up, I made the smaller framed one. Thanks for the cudos. I now have some really cool "old" jewelry my niece sent home with me to make her a tree. She wants it on red velvet so I'm going to give that a try.

Again, welcome and best of luck.

Good Morning Ladies!

Just got back from Tai Chi and I hit up a garage sale on the way. Bought a couple of large mugs especially for use by my DDIL.. now I can throw away the ones that have a chip that she insists on using!

There is a lot of smoke here today, not sure where we're getting smoke from probably either Saskatchewan or from the fires in Jasper. We need rain desperately... hopefully without any lightening!

Thought for the day: "The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it." - Arnold Glasow

Carey-Edmonton

July Goals:

1. Do menu planning for July - Increasing protein to 130g per day. Do one week at a time so that can adjust as I go.

2. Log all meals - try to pre-log to get a better handle on calories for the day

3.Plan and Do - 2 fun things every week

• W1: Family reunion - 3 days of fun and hard work
• W2: Tai Chi with friend who will start beginners and needs some company. Hot Stone Massage
• W3: Lunch with cousins, surprise Dad for his birthday

4. Ride stationary bike 3 times a week for at least 30 minutes.

Jane - aren't they just amazing! :flowerforyou:

Back from London. Phew! It was BUSY up there and very warm, but it was wonderful to meet our old friends. We hadn't seen them for two years and during that time they have been living in Colombia, but the minute we saw them it was as if we saw them last week! ! ! ! DH did his amazing "thing" with the two children, aged 5 and 2, and our friends were amazed and grateful. I rarely use the word "genius", but it truly does apply to DH and his way with kids. You just have to see their faces and hear their laughter - they don't give their parents a backward glance. The wife's Colombian mother was with them, so I even got a chance to practice my rusty Spanish. :bigsmile:
Did a lot of walking and did my strength training before we set off, but my feast on the train coming home was over generous and I finished off the evening with a large piece of cheese while DH was watching England beat Australia in the Ashes. (Cricket) That meant he was upstairs so I cracked the cheese safe open. :ohwell: Tomorrow is another day.

Hope to get some rain tonight for the garden.

Love to all from a very tired Heather in Hampshire UK

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Will post photo soon.

Here it is. Our friends with St Paul's Cathedral behind them. Lovely day and a lovely young couple. Nice that a friendship can cross generations.

margaretturk wrote: »

Carol thought of you made a refrigerator oatmeal recipe from our paper: I made half of this recipe.
2 cups old-fashioned oats( do not use steel cut)
1 and one half cups milk
one-half cup Greek yogurt
pinch of salt
2 tsp. pumpkin spice
1 tsp vanilla
2 tbsp maple syrup
1 large carrot
one-fourth cup raisins
2 tbsp unsweetened coconut

one-fourth chopped walnuts optional
Mix cover put in frig at least 2 hours. Keeps 2-3 days. Yum!

Glad you are on the road to recovery!

MNMargaret

That looks yummy except, what do you do with the carrot? Seems like it would taste a bit like carrot cake...

@Margaret - The oatmeal recipe sounds yummy to me.

Janetr OKC

lhannon062709 wrote: »

GRITSandSLUTS wrote: »

@lhannon062709 - who now has 'physical' custody of your DGS? Is the 'joint' custody issue due to a 'new' person in the life/lives of one or the other of the parents? I think it is a shame to use a innocent child as a 'pawn'.

My DD has primary custody, but the ex was supposed to pick up the DGS for the summer. He sent a text to my daughter, taunting her that he was picking up the DGS, was going to move out of state, and would not be letting her know where he was taking him.

She used the text to get a temporary restraining order, and, due to a number of other issues, is suing for permanent custody and child support she's never received.

Oh, yeah - I'd be doing the same, too. Make sure she keeps current pictures of her and any distinguishing marks, scars, moles, etc. I think I would go so far as to have her 'fingerprinted' (but, that would put her into the 'system' which later on, she might not like). My boys were fingerprinted by the police at their school. Go to the school and ask if she can stay in the office until your DD (or a particular person only) came to pick her up. Use a password so that the school would know that the person had the right to pick her up. So many things you can do to make it difficult to take her without your knowledge. Bad thing is that unless there is an order from the Judge that the child is not to be with him - police won't get involved. Sounds like he is a real MF and using the child as a pawn for some reason, if maybe because she has moved on (new boyfriend of husband). If he does kidnap her (which he could well do) you'd have ways to identify her if he changes her hair style and/or color. Don't know how old she is - but she should be taught her address, telephone number; and shown how to call home, collect. Make sure she knows that she can go to her 'new' school or child care (if he enrolls her) and tell the principal or owner that her Daddy is not supposed to get her/have her. One of the things you can do to keep up with her - if for you to have the school ordered to advise you of any requests for school records and to tell the school that they are NOT to be released. Then contact the police about him not supposed to be having her. That way you'd know, at least, where he has attempted to enroll her in a school district. They have to be 'sent' by the school to the new school - they cannot just give them to anyone, not even a custodial parent (at least in the state where I live).

I worked for an attorney and we sometimes had the same sort of situation. Daddy got custody and mother picked them up after school and did not take them back. They were old enough to know how to contact him and he got the police involved in order to get them back from her and to keep them away with supervised visitation. She was pretty mean and unstable. Kids did NOT want to be with her. But, child support and visitation are 2 totally different things in any settlement agreement or order. He does not have to visit with the child(ren); but, he still owes child support. If he never pays child support most courts will still allow him to visit with the kids. You can't hold one thing (visitation) over his head (even if he is not current with his child support) ... in most states.

Some states make the party pay child support through a child support department instead of directly to a party; but most states do require they pay it directly to the custodial parent. This helps with parents who argue over whether or not they are current making child support payments. If DD is paid in cash, she should give him a receipt (best with a carbon copy to keep for herself). Even giving a receipt if he pays by check. These receipt books are good evidence if a parent is not paying or if they are paying sporactically. In this sort of he said/she said lets the judge know if he paying he or paying her only sporactically. You get a receipt anytime you buy something, whether in cash, by check, debit card, or money order. Write down the check #, amount and day paid - write down the number on the MO if he pays her that way (he is getting a receipt for it, for sure). Keep everything in the same drawer, locked, and documented.

My former D-n-L got my present D-n-L to cash the child support check and give her cash (without getting her to sign either the back of the check or write down that she had given her the cash for the check - she'd call her and give some song and dance about not being able to get a bank to cash them for her and present D-n-L would just cash a check in that amount and give her cash. Ex-D-n-L was 'crazy like a fox'; but, she had learned from some of her friends that doing this would make it so that my son could probably not prove he was current. Present D-n-L was paying C/S out of her checkbook. She did it, saying she felt 'sorry for the 'ex' because she did not have a banking account' and was just 'helping her out'. Yeah, she was helping - prove that DOS wasn't paying. After she learned what she was doing - she stopped. In the child custody change, the Judge wiped out any arrearages that she attempted to say that DOS had not paid and applied it over the next 4 years as child support she would have paid him - if he had pressed the issue. He had to come up with a way to prove that he had. Even then, he could not prove his present wife had given her cash. Couldn't do it with his wife giving his ex cash; but, over the period of time he got custody of DGD it ended up that before she turned 18 he would have gotten to be paid for 2 months C/S from his 'ex'. It wasn't worth it for him to fight it. Good records make for good evidence. She was not 'served' with the papers until they had her (DGD) 'physically' for a period of visitation because they knew she'd get up and go see her Dad in another state and just would not come home. They went for a 10 visit with him; but, they did come home. DGD had already signed the petition for the custody change (she was of age to do so, in this State it is 14 years old). Ex would call and tell me to bring her home; and I had to do so (especially if the visitation period had been agreed on between the parties) to be different. She did it to 'jerk everybody's chain' including the child's. She was downright 'hateful' - with all 3 of her children (which she has not lost to DFACS and they have been placed with a paternal grandmother and the other's biological parent). She'll never comply with the Order from the criminal court; but, she writes letters to them telling them she is going to do this, that or the other. She doesn't fool the DGD that is our granddaughter; and she has told the middle child that her mother is only lying to her.

He probably won't pay child support even if visitation is granted ... but, I think I would try for supervised visitation (this was done with my DGD's mother where the other 2 were concerned because of DFACS). Parents are so cruel and they don't realize what they do to the child. It certainly messes with their minds. Sometimes it is necessary to get a guidance counselor involved and/or make sure that the child is not picked up by anybody other than the custodial parent (even if they have to sit in the office for it to be done). Most important this is something that is between you DD and her 'ex' and should never be something that the child is told. If her Dad is the type of @$$-O he sounds to be - she will soon learn that.

And you never heard this from me.

Good early evening beautiful ladies :flowerforyou:

DJ I think it was you that asked if I went to the track everyday and walked 5 miles, If not, just skip the answer. I go to the track at least 3 days a week and walk anywhere from 3 miles to 5 miles, just depending on how much time I have. Sometimes I`m there at 5:30 in the morning, surprisingly enough there are other people there too. I enjoy walking in the mornings; I think it sets me up for a wonderful day! How are things at the beach? Have you had any shark sightings there? Love your fur babies, they are so cute !!!

Rosie Congrats to your daughter!!! Your fridge looks delicious! Glad to hear you`re home and your sons missed you .

Pip Happy belated birthday to Kirby! Hope you`re having a fab time!

Vicki You are a great friend to Lee, I`m sure she appreciates you being there for her! How are things going at work? Hope your mom is doing better, and that DH feels better too!

Lesley Keeping your daughter in my thoughts and prayers! I love hearing about Blaize and his adventures :laugh:!

Becca by the beach I just had to laugh at you being a Gemini and you`re REALLY happy or really HORRID, my dog is a Gemini too, she is the same way :laugh:!

Carol in NC I hope you`re feeling better soon :flowerforyou:!

Michele When I was working, I was always on my computer during the day, so I could check in a couple times. Now I am very rarely on my computer, I have so many other things I`ve been doing (that doesn`t include housework, which I desperately need to do :blushing:!), I think I`ve spent one day in a month and half at home…I`m having fun :bigsmile:!!!

Chris in MA Congrats on starting the C25K! I did that a few years ago, in the winter, it was cold and we had training in rain, snow and wind. I loved it, although I did come down with a bout of pneumonia :sick: (that was not fun). Congrats on being in a size 8 now, woo hoo!!!

Joyce Your “strawberry ice cream” sounds yummy! So sorry to hear about the moderator!

Carey I want to thank you again for your quotes!!! I love all them!

Katiebug I`m waiting to hear how you like the Baby Foot cream! I go every 2 weeks or so to get a pedicure because my feel are so dry. The little girl who does my pedi fusses at me if I wait too long !

Janet R I sure hope you feel better soon!!! Let us know how you like the waterproof FitBit. I have an old one, the FitBit ultra…I love it, and it`s still working just fine. I think I`ve had it for at least 3 years and never once had a problem with it! The one you have, do you wear it on your wrist?

Toni in TN Hope you feel better soon :flowerforyou:!!!

Lillian I hope you get rain soon!!! It`s such a shame about all the fires, so very sad! I think it was one day last week, it was hazy here in NC and they said it was from the fires in Canada. Oh my, your number called your number , I wouldn`t answer it either! I`m knocking on wood now, I don`t get many telemarketer calls, just a few on my cell phone, none on my home number.

Heather Beautiful couple! Step away from cheese!

Lisa So glad your DD got a restraining order. Wishing her well on the full custody! I love reading your posts!

Katla Glad the bike shorts added another layer of protection!!!

Terri Have a great time!!! Good luck to your son!

Yanniejannie Lucky you, having temps in the 70`s. It`s been hot here today, lots of wind but still hot!

Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend!!!

Hugs,
DeeDee in NC

Arrived safely in New Hampshire without any hitches in the flight connections or luggage or catching the bus from Boston. I logged my food today, though without the degree of accuracy I usually strive for. I also managed to get my butt out jogging in the early morning so I think I probably broke even calorie-wise.

But boy is it hectic here! The plane had internet and I read a bit of the thread somewhere over Labrador, but haven't been able to read anything since. I'll just wish you all well and hope to be back in the community soon!

/Penny, currently nowhere near the Pole

Yesterday it rained all day, dog refused to go for a walk. We stayed near fire, watched TV and I cleaned. Glad I did training early
NO she cannot have a wig of her own hair, she says she is not too proud to wear a beanie if she needs to. The wigs are for people who lose hair during chemo.
Sunday and rest and Re-feed day, Stan is making Sunday Brunch and I am keeping cals LOW as not sure what we will do. Lunch is "Almond on a date smoothie"
Washing clothes, drying towels by fire
Lesley in Tasmania

@DeeDee in NC wrote - "Janet R I sure hope you feel better soon!!! Let us know how you like the waterproof FitBit. I have an old one, the FitBit ultra…I love it, and it`s still working just fine. I think I`ve had it for at least 3 years and never once had a problem with it! The one you have, do you wear it on your wrist?"

Thanks DeeDee, I am feeling better my blood pressure is still low up to 78/65 now.

Yes its a fitbit Flex, but has been waterproofed. I hope it works well too. I'm new at all this syncing stuff. Taxing my brain. lol I'll let you know how it goes.

Janetr OKC