females lifting heavy get bigger -_-

kateyb94 wrote: »

I have an opposite but similar problem. My mom likes to pick out little things that I'm already insecure about. When I was in high school she constantly pointed out my acne, and if I put on a little weight she always pointed it out, if I was ever upset about something she always asked me if I was on my period (surely, as a woman she should know that you should NEVER ask that!). I'm not sure why she did all of that, but I'm almost sure the weight thing was because she was thin in high school and college and pretty much until a couple years after she had me. I think she's just worried that I'll end up obese and unhappy with myself like she is, which is understandable but I think she could have been nicer and less annoying about it. But the plus side is that she's really supportive when I do lose weight. BUT I don't lose weight because she thinks I should, or because anyone else tells me I should. I work out, eat better, and lift because I love it! A lot of people have mentioned that you probably wont get bulky eating a deficit, which is true, but no matter where you end up it's YOUR body, and it's the one you have to live in for your whole life, not them. Learn to love yourself, inside and out and realize that other people's idea of what you should look like doesn't matter.

kimdbro wrote: »

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Kriistabell wrote: »

Hi. Let me start with I'm 5'8, 176#, about 26% body fat, and enjoy challenging myself with weight lifting. I'm not petite and my family won't let me forget it. My profile pic is from last year when I was 11 pounds lighter and lifting.I'm getting back on track after losing 11 pounds on weight watchers and not liking how my body looked from just cardio and deficit in calories. So, I joined the juice head gym by me because it's cheap and has a lot of great equipment. It's only been a week but I'm really excited and proud of how determined I am and how I feel like I know what I'm doing with my form and what whatever. I'm also following iifym and tracking everything. Ihave already lost 2.2 more pounds in this first week.

That being said, my family is discouraging me because I'm very muscular (with chub on top) and have a larger bone structure (wide shoulders). I have my mother's horrendous arms that run in my family like you wouldn't believe, a naturally xlarge behind, and strong, big, thighs. I've been an athlete through college so I have a lot of strength for a girl. So far I sound gigantic. But, my waist is rather small, and my knees and elbows down are boney. So in short - I'm a bulky girl. I'm not fat but I'm not the kind of girl you say is thin either. I'd like to get smaller overall but keep my proportions for the most part because they make me feel feminine. My family is telling me when regular (petite) girls lift heavy they can look good but not me because I've got a large frame. They are getting in my head and after going to the beach yesterday all I could see were my bulky, non-petite flaws and I need confirmation that I'm doing the right thing. I'd really love (I really need) some insight on this! Thanks mfps

In addition to working out, you should work on your mindset.

What is wrong with being "bulky" or looking/being strong? If it makes YOU happy, then that is all that matters. Your family doesn't understand, so like most people who don't...they just talk. Ignore it, and do what makes you happy regardless of the approval of others.

10, 000 X This ^^ I got half way through reading OPs post, and was just so very stricken with how much self-body shaming was going on. Like, what in the actual eff?? In what world is the girl in the pic "chub"? Stop listening to your family OP, they are clearly deluded.

ramepithecus wrote: »

You sound pretty awesome to me. I'd go for the weights and rock it like a goddess if I were you.