WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2105

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  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,315 Member
    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Evening Ladies,

    Katla, enjoy that breakfast and Kudos for learning how to order it the way you want and need.

    Cheri, fingers crossed for your hubby. Hope there are new adventures ahead for you. And yep, we’ll be with you wherever you go.

    Meg, you are probably the only one that noticed the year on this month’s thread. Very observant. Gosh, my problem is I love my G&T. I do think the lime makes it though. Do you put lime in yours? If you don’t like it, stop drinking it. It’s not like that vodka is calorie free. Lol

    Allison, my heart goes out to you. I have often wondered why ya’ll were doing the renovations with things the way they are. I will keep you both in my prayers and hope that you just concentrate on you. Hopefully he will find some peace and resolution. (((((((Hugs)))))))

    Jane, what precious children. How can you keep your hands off of them? smiley-char090.gif

    Fiddle, I agree that some body parts are just hard to adjust the way we want. My tummy is actually flatter than I expected it to ever be, but that roll of loose skin below it, is pretty upsetting. Not that I would do it, but I was surprised to hear that a bariatric doctor said he wouldn’t do skin removal surgery on someone over 65. I’ll be anxious to hear how you like Windows 10. I can’t decide if I want to upgrade or not. Such decisions.

    Monday is our anniversary and DH was going to take me out to a new restaurant for dinner. I have a Women of the Moose meeting so we decided to go out on Tuesday. I did look up the menu and didn’t find it to my liking. Just too gourmet and upscale. So we have decided on a steak place that I really like. Since it’s one thing we’ve never done on our Anniversary, we decided to go to the beach that morning. smiley-love007.gif I like making a celebration last longer than one day.

    I hope each of you has a wonderful and successful month. rose.gif

    Words I live by:
    Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
    and
    Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
    I Love you, smiley-love013.gif
    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,980 Member
    Well, DS is looking at a place tomorrow. It is a really nice place, but comes with a price tag to match. It does include all appliances, washer/dryer, electricity, water, trash pickup, and a one car garage with opener. It is a guest house/in-law suite on a fancy place. I think it's a little far from work, but it's interstate driving the whole way. He thinks it is affordable, but is a little concerned about privacy. He will know more after he sees it.

    Allison, it may do your DH good to go off by himself and think things through. Maybe he will appreciate you more.

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
    janetr7476 wrote: »
    Alison - our thots are with you. I know this is a very hard time. You have LOTS of shoulders here to cry on and/or vent or whatever. (((Hugs)))

    yeah
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,556 Member
    Did an hour of an Extreme Cardio DVD today. The plan for tomorrow is to do Michelle Dozos Shape Up (Low Impact) DVD

    When we were leaving the pontoon party yesterday, I realized that my head was hurting. By the time I got home my teeth were hurting. What is this? Then I realized that it's my sinuses. Not sure why they were acting up, they usually act up when there's a change in the barometric pressure. So last night I took a Sudafed. Now on the box it says "may cause drowsiness". Well, in me it has the direct opposite effect. I got up at 3:30. Now I know that I'll be real hot and then real cold. And I'll be wide awake and then suddenly real tired. Always, without fail, happens.

    fiddle - welcome to plateau-land. Ahhh, I know it only too well. Sometimes I think it's my body's way of saying that it doesn't want to go to any lower weight.

    Chris in MA - congrats on reaching so many of your goals

    pip - so glad you're here. Where WOULD we be without you???? you, too, Becca

    Welcome everyone new!

    Cheryl - I didn't realize that someone with Hahimoto's had to be on a low carb, high protien, and gluten free diet. Removing gluten, I would think, wouldn't be real hard since you've already gone low carb. Am I right?

    Sylvia - when you use the multi cookier, does it brown the meat or do you have to prebrown it before you cook it?

    Joyce - Vince calls me "the eternal optimist" because I'm always looking on the bright side of things. You sound like me, when I get a load of laundry in, I usually strip down to get as many of the whites/dark in as possible. There have been many times when I've sat at my computer, not naked but very close to it.

    Before I went to that pontoon party yesterday, I made myself a (albeit small) salad, cucumbers, avacado, egg whites. Mainly because I knew that there would be "yuk" food there. And there mostly was, there was fried chicken, these finger sandwiches, someone made some sort of broccoli slaw (I would be afraid of the mayo in it going bad in the heat which is why I put my vege dip in an insulated container. Fortunately, there was lots of fruits, but there were also lots of cakes (which I avoided)

    Lisa - when are you going to Montana and how long will you be gone?

    mamenat - I used to use the chip up machine all the time. I think that's one of machines worth using. The others you sit while you work biceps/triceps/etc. They just isolate the muscle. Good for rehab, tho. I'm going to have to go back to the chin up machine. I usually used about 110lbs assisted.

    Chris is MA - big woo hoo

    Off to the farmer's market now. Just bought some red potatoes, that's all. The guy said that he didn't water the golden beets so we won't have any this year (boo), he couldn't get the seed for the cantaloupe that I like (boo), I got the corn that I want, no one seems to have red okra.

    barbie - I hear ya on the potlucks. That's one of the reasons I had a salad before I went to the pontoon party. Unfortunately, it's many times what I bring that I eat, and doesn't really get finished (probably because it doesn't have all sorts of dressings on it). But at least I bring it home and have the leftovers. Like tonight I'm having the leftover broccoli from yesterday.

    Linda/IA - yea for the inches lost!!!!

    pip - I'm so glad you have less pain. We have aetna, too!

    Meg - have a wonderful dinner. I love seafood places. Oh, I think I know exactly what you all are saying about the abs. I know that you should also work the opposing muscle group. Guess I just needed to vent. Oh, you had me ROTFLMAO about that knife.

    With the sinus problems (taking Sudafed for them), I'm just not hungry at all. Dry mouth (natch), but that's about it

    Alison - (((HUGS))))

    Becca - I didn't realize that once you downloaded Windows 10 they can make updates without informing you. I know that will never ever fly with Vince. He gets upset at Apple because they don't let you have total control over your system

    drkatiebug - I think you have a wonderful goal! I don't think any of my kids would like living with their parents, either. Especially after having been on their own.

    Anamika - you're sure a sight for sore eyes!

    DJ - knowing how you feel about the carpeting in your bathroom (and that's just your family in there), can you imagine what it must be like at the Y? We do have carpeting here, even in the locker room. Don't know why, but they do. Don't have a clue about Windows 10. I do know that Vince has said he won't get it when it first comes out, he'd wait until they got the bugs worked out. I'm running 7 and if we could get the support, Vince would have us on XP still. Happy Anniversary

    katla - I enjoy the social part of going to a gym, too. It's also motivating in a sense "if she can do it, so can I". But then there are times when either they don't have the equipment I need or the classes just don't work into my schedule.

    Cheri - how wonderful for your hubby! You know, Staunton isn't all that far from Newton <hint, hint>

    Went to the farmer's market. This one guy had purple potatoes. Wish I could get Vince to eat them. They taste the same as white potatoes, only they are purple. Made some key lime cupcakes today. Actually, they are for when we have Rummikub here in about 2 weeks, I just put them in the freezer uniced. Then went in the pool. Got dinner ready, went to church, came home and had dinner, now on here. Will take a shower in a few then it's beddybye time.

    janetr - I had a friend who had surgery to remove excess skin after she'd lost over 100 pounds. Her main reason for doing it? Because she'd sweat and it would start to stink being trapped in the folds. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you stink. I know that some people emit certain smells. Lynette does. Beth (the lady who lost the weight) might just have been overly-conscious.

    Michele in NC
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,251 Member
    1056287i3zmwzup2m.gif Stats for today:
    28,000 steps
    three and a half hours of dog walking
    an hour on the exercise bike
    an hour walk with a friend
    18 minutes puttering in the garden
    laundry
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,708 Member
    Oh Alison, hang in there - hopefully he will be willing to talk to you or to a minister/therapist….

    Well it is almost bed time… take care gals. See ya in the am.

    August Goals:
    Walk everyday –try to hit 180 miles
    1 plank every day and log here – goal more then 19
    Log everyday –
    Eat mindfully-
    Weekly fun things –
    W1 –
    W2 –
    W3 –
    W4 –
    Kim from N. California
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  • jmkmomm
    jmkmomm Posts: 3,247 Member
    Allison, do you really think Tom would go with you to the new swanky gym? It might back fire on you. U[date, I am glad at least he could verbalize his feelings with you. They must have been stewing in his heart for a long time and just boiled up more and more each day. I agree with the others. He now has to make a decision and you can only give it up to God that Tom will make the best decision for himself. I am glad he is going to stay long enough to get the kitchen finished. Although it sounds like since he has broken down, he may not have the desire to finish it now.

    Chris, over what period of time have you lost the 40 pounds? Congrats on it. I tried to set 20 pound increments and soon realized that I needed smaller ones.

    Janetr, have they thought of Hospice care? It is not a death sentence but a celebration of life. You can not be on any life saving treatment in hospice though. Is there anyone you can call to get an update? I know when my Mom was so ill and in hospice, I started a family list on my facebook personal messaging. I would update everyone a couple of times a day and it really helped people who lived out of town keep up to date and it saved a lot of phone calls that the story can get changed as it is passed along. My brother is a chaplain in a inpatient hospice and he said it was such a lifesaver to him top have my messages twice a day that he had his hospice buy computers for the lounge area for the families to use.

    Heather, you have carpet in your bathroom???? Yech! Yes, it needs to be changed. I have seen the vinyl tiles that look like hardwood and they look very nice. Oh, there is that cute little boy again. I see he gets his good lucks from his Dad! Only 2 a little over 2 hours to get to Paris!!!! It takes us over 3 hours to get to our oldest daughters house. and we drive down and back in one day. It would be so wonderful to take one day trips to all those beautiful areas.

    Gayle, my niece married a man who has been blind since birth. He has a Masters in communication but has been unable to get anyone who will hire him. So he works very part time at home on a computer taking calls from companies needing freight hauled and he arranges semi transportation. He has a wonderful speaking andsinging voice and did a lot of radio work in college.

    Gilly, you know we need some pictures of that baby!

    Carol NC, my usual steps for this past year have been in the 1500 range. Yep, you read that right. And I wonder why I have gained weight. So I am very glad to say I got close to 7000 in today.

    Kibbly, glad you finally decided to chime in and write about yourself. Welcome.

    Miriam, it must e chaos in your house. Not all of the kids and animals live in your house at one time do they???? I know you have your adopted youngsters. Are the grown ups still living at home?

    Penny, I know it is nice to have traditions, especially when it involves Grandparents. But how would your family thin if you had a measuring cup at your plate and measured an appropriate portion after Grandfather put it on your plate. Plus, you don't have to eat it all.

    DJ, whe I am at a picnic that is having smores, I have one and use half the chocolate and am fortunate enough that so far no one has used those ginormous marshmellows. A pessimistic husband isn't a little tiring, It is a lot of tiring. But I do love him and tell him I love his. I compliment him when he is dressed especially nice or suggest that he wear a particular pair of pants that I know look really good and at least gives a little hint that his butt isn't that flat. He is very thoughtful at times, maybe a bit to much. He loves for people to agree with him and is very insulted when they don't and works real hard to try to change your mind. Like the other night we went to Denny's. Usually we are a little chilly when we eat out and bring a sweater. Well I forgot one but I know he keeps 3 levels of heaviness in the car at all times. So he said he would go out and get one for me. I told him that the temp was OK. Again I said OK and he again told me tht it wasn't anything or him to get it. He got upset that I wouldn't take him up on the offer. He did that to his Mom a lot. He might like to go to a different place than she did or want a Three Muskateer instead of a Snickers, But he would ask her 4 times if she didn't want to change her mind. Us females do have a mind and we do have the right to our own opinion. About the Windows 10. I belong to another forum, I admit it yes I do. But they have the same close knit family atmosphere like we do except there are a couple of men. So I asked this exact question and it was mainly a negative response. Some were willing to try it but wanting everyone else to work out the bugs first. I will keep what I have.

    Chris, exciting about your husbands potential new job and a move. I do not like packing up a house though. Mary in Minnesota could help you!

    Pip, what kind of job does Kirby have? You know sometimes pain does serve a purpose to let us know when to cut back on what we are doing.

    Meg, Oh the visual of the steak knife boinging back and forth in your cleavage. Was that poor waiter so embarrassed he couldn't wait on you anymore?

    Barbie, Meg was probably reading so carefuly after she wrote she had walked 20 inches. I just saw what you wrote. I don't think I will be around to post in 2105. I wonder what kind of technology we will be using in 2105?

    Well tonight I made myself get up and walk the circuit in the upstairs everytime there was a commercial. Do you know how often there are commercials during Wheel of Fortune??? I was so glad to get a 1 hour show after that. made me exhausted. But also made me drink a lot of water. I can really tell how out of shape I am as far as exercising. It's going to take a bit but I really need to get back to the Y. I will continue to walk here in the house and riding my bike here. But I need to get back to somewhere that I am part of a group and it gives me more accountability.

    Well tomorrow is the day I sing a duet in our choir special and then sing in a ladies trio. The music committee sets the calendar up 3 months in advance. This ladies trio was supposed to be a duet but the song they chose didn't sound right without the third voice. And it was supposed to be for last week but the soprano had to be out of town and we traded with some one so we could do it this week. And the song with the duo I volunteered to do it. I have been wanting to start back in doing a solo but the kind of music the choir does as a group usually calls for a different voice than mine. So this song is just right for me. We are a small church with about 15 people in the choir and I feel conspicuous 'hogging' the special music.

    Can I freeze Greek Yogurt???? A regular size carton is 4 cups and I use 1 cup a night. I don't like my yogurt sitting in the fridge. I think it looses its thickness.

    Joyce, Indiana
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    edited August 2015
    Joyce - Thank you, yes you are right we do use messaging on FB with all the family included. Today I was just anxious and no one had posted anything new. Tonight their youngest daughter said my BiL seemed to be holding his own so they are gong to take the ventilator off tomorrow and see how he does. Thank you for your concern.

    Michele - wrote "janetr - I had a friend who had surgery to remove excess skin after she'd lost over 100 pounds. Her main reason for doing it? Because she'd sweat and it would start to stink being trapped in the folds. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you stink. I know that some people emit certain smells. Lynette does. Beth (the lady who lost the weight) might just have been overly-conscious."

    Thanks, I think, for saying I don't stink :) Let me clarify a bit here, my bariatric surgeon does nothing but weight loss procedures, he does not do skin removal surgery on anyone. Therefore he brings in a plastic surgeon to the discussion group to explain what procedures are available and a range of his charges, etc. The plastic surgeon is the one that said he personally will not do skin removal on patients over 65. Like I said earlier, if it were a problem for me, I'm sure I could find a surgeon that would do it. I don't really have "folds of skin" hanging nor have I ever had a problem with body order so that is not a problem for me. If I were younger and wanted to wear two piece swimsuits or shorts, etc. I'm sure I'd consider a skin removal procedure.

    Janetr OKC
  • JanetMMcC
    JanetMMcC Posts: 410 Member
    Walked to the library, sat and read for a while, then to the gym, where I read on the recumbent bike for 40 minutes, and on the treadmill for 30. And, dangit, didn't write down the recumbent stats from the machine. Got credited for a bit over 600 calories. Had KFC grilled breast, big size green beans, regular coleslaw, a biscuit and a cookie, and was still under 1200 calories.

    Recumbent bike weirdness - after a while, a couple of toes on my left foot went numb.

    Why does Fitbit think I should be walking 5 miles a day? Is that the average mileage for 10k steps? I've got short legs - my height's all in my back. 11,795 steps got me 3.64 miles.

    My weight's been stoogin' around this week. I hit 152 on July 20, then moved up to 154.5 and just crept back down to 152.5.
    BUT it's 15 lbs since May 22. That's 3" less at waist and hips, down to 33 and 39. Thigh down 1.3", to 19.2. Which all translates into size 16 to size 12. It's 2.5" less at shoulders, to 40, and 3" less at chest, to 35. I wore a blouse yesterday that didn't button last year. (Though a bit of shopping today forced me to realize that I'm still a L top, rather than medium. Butat least no longer XL.) Even my neck is down, though only 3/8 of an inch.

    July resolutions:
    EXERCISE
    --Walking: at least 7,500 steps a day - um, nope. Made it 4 days each of the past 2 weeks, 5 days week before that, 3 days the week of july 5-11.
    At least 10,000 steps at least 4 days a week. Er, no. Managed that one week of the 4.
    Hit 15,000 steps at some point in the month. Did it.
    --Jogging: Get from a max of 6 minutes to a max of 10 minutes at a time. (Donno if I'll hit this one, but it's worth trying.) - didn't make it. Developed my first shin splints and went to walking.
    --Get up early enough to get in some walking outside before the mirror steps. (This one is HARD.) - very rarely.
    FOOD
    --Keep logging (Fitbit's doing the steps). - check.
    Stay within calorie budget. Ummmm, mostly. Went slightly over 4 days, waaaay over one.
    Watch sodium and sugar. went over sodium 5x, over sugar, um, lots. 18 days.
    NON-WEIGHT:
    --Freewrite 15 minutes first thing on waking. (I've got the notebook. Put it in the headboard last night. Forgot this morning.) did well for a few weeks, not well past 2 weeks.
    --Get in more time at OEDILF and Books & Writers. Got in a bit more.

    August resolutions: Since I clearly need more work on them, I'll go with a repeat of the above
    EXERCISE
    --Walking:
    At least 7,500 steps a day
    At least 10,000 steps at least 4 days a week. Hit 15,000 steps at least one day.
    --Jogging: Get from a max of 8 minutes to a max of 10 minutes at a time.
    --Get up early enough to get in some walking outside before the mirror steps.
    --Strength training: at least 2x a week.
    FOOD
    --Keep logging (Fitbit's doing the steps). - Stay within calorie budget.
    Watch sodium and sugar.
    WATER
    Try to remember only to sip after 8 pm, and see if that'll keep my bladder from waking me up at odd hours. Even ones, too.
    NON-WEIGHT:
    --Freewrite 15 minutes first thing on waking.
    --Get in more time at OEDILF and Books & Writers.

    Barbie - thanks again!
    Cool about the pot luck companion!
    (I've been known to bring raw veggie platters to pot lucks. Or strawberries with vanilla Greek yogurt for dipping.
    Proofreading reminds me of the resume received by an online acquaintance who was an editor for a megacorp. Experience inclulded "poofreading."
    28thousand steps! That's astounding! <doffing hat>

    JanetR - I'm so sorry about your sister and brother-in-law. They're in my thoughts.

    Sylvia - very cool about the multicooker!

    FPJ - Which weightloss goal did you choose that got you the 1200 calorie cap?

    Curly girl - Your goals look good, and congratss on being so close to goal! What's your job, if you don't mid answering? (If you do, just ignore me.) Do you commute by car, bus or train?

    Joan- Congrats on the 13 pounds! Yeah, I got moving (and tracking) after a long plateau.

    Joyce - aaargh. Charlie does have some good points, right? <wry smle>
    Larry's a pessimist and depressive, but tells me and others that he's proud of me.
    Well done on the stepping!
    You can freeze greek yogurt, but the texture will change.
    http://canyoufreeze.com/greek-yogurt/
    I've never noticed it thinning out over 4 days. Or even a week. If anything, it thickens a bit, with a little pool of whey at the top.
    If it's flavored, you could make Greek yogurt popsicles. :)

    Michele in NC: I got in about 1200 of Thursday's 13,150 steps walking in place while brushing, flossing and showering. Did another 400 and 600 walking around the hall during a few off-minutes at work. another 2000 to 3000 during my lunch half-hour. Walking from the office to the ferry landing was another 2500 or so, and I had Larry drop me off at the gym for the rest. Spent 30 minutes on the recumbent bike and 30-plus on the treadmill.
    Sounds like you're going top-drawer on the caricaturist. :)
    Do you really want big ceramics near the pool? I'd be worried about them breaking. IIRC, Sylvia's are some distance away.

    peep - what Michele said, both about the marathon and the pain pills. Glad Kirby had something that helped.

    JoniCalif - way to go! And welcome!

    Chris in MA - you've done great! Especially "another year older but feel 2 decades younger." Yaaay!
    AND 40 POUNDS! <cartwheels>

    Karen OK - welcome! Your goals look excellent.

    Katla - you're doing really well!

    Shani - welcome! Does your husband usually get home at the same time? You could walk around the neighborhood and time it to that. Or if his arrival home varies, could he call your cell when he's 15 minutes out?

    Cheryl in TX = welcome! Could you become the break room veggie supplier? :)

    Lisa - 3/31 over is great! So is 3ounds down,nad teh running. I think all the restaurant work is a reasonable reason for crunchlessness.

    Allison - I hoe the parking lot's safe at 3:30a. Hoep things calm down at work.
    Just read about Tom. Oh, dear.

    Heather - Yay for the vinyl order.
    Boy, 1 degree C in July is a reminder of just how much farther north y'all are.
    Well done on your cheese abstention!
    Anent end of life, Larry knows I want to be a cadaver. And yeah, I know med students make jokes. If I could, I'd have a limerick implanted somewhere they'd find it. Perhaps

    Coffin up for an urn? Jeeze Louise!
    Perennial care? Waste of fees.
    Can the solemn palaver —
    Ship out my cadaver,
    A cut-up for future MDs.


    Gayle - way to go on the van food!

    Miriam - <doffing hat>

    NCCarol - Congratulations on the safeafter-darkwalking.And it's not at all ridiculous to be proudof the highest total since surgery.

    Kibbly - welcome, and congrats on increasing your walks!

    Linda IA - well dne on the goals, AND on the 3 inches off your hips!

    Char316 - good start! Logging food helped me a lot.

    DrKatie - good luck on the apartment!

    Anamika - even though I wasn't around for you earlier, welcome back!

    Penny - way to go on the veggies and exercise! About taking what you get at the table - could you save part of the serving for lunch the next day?

    Terri - goals without dates makes all hte sense in hte world.

    Katla - yaay on figuring a breakfast out that fits your health!

    Cheri - best of luck on the job offer! Keep up those PT headache exercises!

    Meg Blair - I lived in Santa Rosa when it and I were both much smaller. I still remember the address: 3015 McGowan Drive. There was a huge black walnut tree in the back yard.
    If you really don't like G&T with sugar-free tonic, drink something else for the same number of calories. If you don't like it, why bother?





  • iemchico14
    iemchico14 Posts: 10 Member
    Good evening ladies.Ina here in hot, sultry and litterally on fire California. I love the goals for August. Its like a mix of eating healthy, exercising and the Fly Lady for staying on task with house cleaning. I admit to having a tough time keeping up with poats on my phone.

    I have a knee injury on right and bone spur on left foot in Achilles tendon, so exercise has been zero. I have our Wii Fit out and some DVDs I want to try, and can use my hubby's hand weights.

    Your posts are inspiring and I am staying motivated to count what I'm eating and make changes that will be long term.
  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Posts: 610 Member
    Feeling exhausted. Catch you later.
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    We're having a great time here in Las Vegas! We saw Jay Leno tonight. I was crying I laughed so hard! I'll post pictures Tuesday. I'm reading the posts but no time to respond. Take care everyone!

    Mary from Minnesota
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,787 Member
    edited August 2015
    Go Mary! ! ! ! ! !

    My friend texted me to say she has a voucher for Loch Fyne, a seafood chain. I like it and usually have oysters and mussels there so it's lowcal. :) Outside seating under umbrellas. :D

    JanetM - that was a record temp for a July night. EVER. I wouldn't like you to think we were normally that cold! :noway:

    Nice outside today. I will take my sunhat.

    Hugs for ALISON and janetr.

    Sharon - ouuufff! I can imagine! You have been doing so much. :*

    Love Heather, putting on her face and her bright pants for Portsmouth. :D

    Heather UK

    Back in before I dash to say I am back at target weight. Now to lose my "safety pound". I have had NO cheese for two days! :drinker:
  • lhannon062709
    lhannon062709 Posts: 1,140 Member
    edited August 2015
    Allie - time apart from someone who is verbally abusive (no matter what's going on on their head) is a good thing. Never believed that my own inner turmoil was an excuse for hurting others. I don't believe it of anyone else, either. On another note, I think I've said in this space before that I didn't leave my ex until I looked at him and thought "I'd rather die alone than live with you for the rest of my life." Not in a harsh way, just that I was done and dusted. His "thinking time" gives you some time to decide if you want him back, should he choose to return. We'll all be thinking about you, hoping that, however things turn out, you make sure that you're OK.

    _________

    Got a two-hour nap in yesterday while the kids went swimming at the pool up at the big house, played with the baby while the big ones went hunting rabbits and rattlesnakes last night (they got one of each) and was in bed by 9:30. Up at 3:30, but six hours of restful sleep has made me feel like I might survive.

    I'm charging the restaurant owners half my usual rate, but high for the area--I knew they wouldn't do it if I went much over that. I always track my hours, even though I'm at a flat rate, because it gives me incentive to get things fixed so I can make a reasonable (for me) hourly wage. I put in 43 hours in the first three days I worked, which put me at $13.95 an hour-then 60 hours my first full week had me at $16.67. This week, I landed at 58 hours, so I'm back over $17 an hour. I'm making progress!

    And everything is improving at the restaurant. When I got there, tensions were high... and there were just kitchen noises. Now they're playing music in the kitchen, there's laughter, people are joking with each other, smiling, making after-work plans together. For my problem kiddos, I've had to issue a few verbal reprimands and a couple written. And I have to issue another for a brand-new dishwasher who was nearly two hours late yesterday.So far, they seem to get that I'm not doing it to set up firing them, I'm doing it to get their attention and help them understand what's OK and what's not. My problem server who got the first two write-ups actually came back, apologized to me in front of the crew chief, said she was leaving her cellphone in her car and would work hard to get her attitude where it needed to be in order to stay. I just about dropped my teeth.

    The owners never showed last week, but at least one is flying in Monday. We'll see what happens. I would imagine that nothing will. I gave them a 4-week minimum, 12-week maximum on consulting for them, because I really don't want to still be doing this by the holidays if I can help it. If they were to offer me the permanent position, I'd consider it, but I don't really want it at a lot of different levels, so am planning to price myself out of the running, up around $62,000 a year. They don't want to pay over 50K, so I know that will be too high. Bluntly, I'm a great consultant, but only fair once I'm in maintenance mode. I like beginnings much better than middles. The Montana trip will be kind of the acid test if the inmates can run the asylum. :)

    Michele in NC - we leave the 21st and are back on the 27th--and hopefully, will be able to see our DS and his new wife that we have yet to meet while we're there, as well as attending the wedding.

    And speaking of the wedding, am trying to get the wedding gift quilt finished today, just some really long seams to run, mostly... got everything spray basted. Will take pictures...

    It's the DD/DSiL/DGK's last day here, they leave at 9 a.m. tomorrow. Mixed blessing. Will miss them, but my husband is past exhausted with the struggle to get the grandson to eat and to go to bed, and the ensuing crying, whining, etc. Our daughter and her husband were, without a doubt, the reason I was able to get so much accomplished in the restaurant. But two weeks of five extra people in the house is hard. Even when you love them dearly. We're ready for a little quiet. :hushed:

    Love y'all dearly, best on everyone's goals, glad to see our walking wounded up and motivating - Pip and Carol in NC, in particular... I do read pretty much everything.

    Lisa in West Texas
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,146 Member
    morning dear friends~
    as you can imagine I didn't sleep wonderfully last night and woke up at 3:30 this morning, messed around on the computer for awhile and got up and started cooking..
    will go see DFIL and then I will probably go over to the gym,have to drop my son off at work at 11, then I dont know what I will do..
    maybe will take a trip to the shore by myself, but Ct beaches arent really were I want to be, would rather be up in Hampton or maybe at the Cape...
    Gave Tom a suggestion weather he follows through is up to him, told him to go speak with his GP and maybe get a mild anti-depressant ,he has had highs and lows as you all know for months now.. told him it would take a month or so but would even him out to where he could make a half way decent decision on what he wants in the future. and left it at that.
    thank you all for letting me vent..and I pray that this will work out over time.. I have had enough stress in my life to last me a lifetime and then some :o
  • lhannon062709
    lhannon062709 Posts: 1,140 Member
    Just a couple quick scenes - left is DD with her daughter, sewing on a quilt on my machine... and right is my husband with the grandbaby--Daisy Dog is not sure if she's happy about them or not at this point. Bottom is DD and her son in the pool up at the big house... It's kinda awesome, comes straight out of the aquifer...

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  • mamenat
    mamenat Posts: 19 Member
    Damnit Janit,
    Sure, my name is Mame. Don't have much to say and the format is uncomfortable at first, I will begin to share soon. My daughter is visiting for the next week. She and her fiancé will stay at the cottage on shaw pond and I will take a day to stretch out on the beach. Good thing I have the confidence borne of loosing eight pounds to fortify my composure while wearing a bathing suit all day.
    It seems like there is a reason to look good around every corner. There is a meeting with old friends, a gig, a day on the beach, a party, an interview... You really have to remain ever vigilant with regard to proper diet. Gotta be in shape for that next challenge.
    Heather,
    It's a long shot. I believe in long shots. See if your man will go with you. Do you like the idea of his company? The trip would be better with him on it? Then I am betting on you. Don't let these men fool you. They have hearts, big sloppy hearts. You can touch that heart. It can be done.
    Mame
  • peachstategal
    peachstategal Posts: 398 Member
    Jane Martin and Lisa ~ Love the pics of your grands. Lisa, your daughter is beautiful and your hubby looks like a catch.

    Alison ~ I think your suggestion to your DH about meds is right on. I live on antidepressants and just wish they had been around growing up with two parents who had a love/hate relationship.

    Joyce ~ I know you get aggravated with Charlie but I can also see that you love the man dearly.

    School is starting here tomorrow! DnL's first day with a new group of 6th graders, 5 yr old's first time to catch the bus and go to kindergarten, and first time the 3 yr old will have to go to day care without her beloved brother.

    Carol - Peach
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,146 Member
    It has been a day already :p
    went to see DFIL , and first thing he said was I see the pain in the *kitten* is here and she brought a helper.. well being in the state of mind I am ,couldn't handle that so told Tom to take care of his father and I went out and sat on the front porch..
    i have made mac and cheese,oatmeal butterscotch squares, and cherry nut bread, gonna try and catch a quick nap before picking up my son,
    Tom asked if I wanted to go to the shore with him, dont know if I am up for that today or not..
    will see
  • robinhager3998
    robinhager3998 Posts: 44 Member
    I am going to love myself as I am now. My weight doesn't define me. My goal is mainly to track what I eat, so I can be more aware of my nutritional needs. I know I eat too much sugar, and that is what I am going to concentrate on this month more than anything. :) Very best of luck to all of you reaching your own personal goals!
  • 4mam
    4mam Posts: 9 Member
    Hi All,
    Im enjoying your responses and I fit the qualifications....I'm 63 and need to lose.
    August goals:
    Weight down by 5 lbs
    Sweat with exercise at least 3 times a week
    Get the most out of my Colorado visit with grandchildren
    Go through chest of drawers
    Clean up a third of the basement

    Mary Anne in the Catskills of NY
  • tonithewriter
    tonithewriter Posts: 27 Member
    Oh, boy, I blew it yesterday. Just ate too much. I worked at a trade show and there was just nothing healthy to eat. Then I was starving after so we went out to eat and I never thought a restaurant could make a bad salad, but this one sure did! I need to plan better.

    Really need to get more exercise and set some goals!

    Annr-someone sent me this and I thought of you, hope you get a chuckle out of it!
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  • miriamwithcats
    miriamwithcats Posts: 1,120 Member
    Alison, my thoughts and prayers are with you in your struggles

    Joyce, the adult son is staying with me ONLY until he finds an apartment. It is hard to find apartments that take housing assistance. We looked at one yesterday that would be ideal in many ways but it was not move in ready and so it scared him off- the fear he would be getting in to the same situation of a landlord that did not properly maintain the building (leaking radiator ruining the wall, wet carpet by the bathroom possibly from an overflowing toilet, smoke detector hanging down). I know the landlord and do not think that is the situation but it upset him. Three of my cats are indoor/ outdoor cats since they were older strays that I had neutered and vaccinated but are not happy staying inside. I do have a large Victorian house with many window perches, bookshelves to perch on, etc. so it isn't like the cats are underfoot like dogs would be. And it being summer, the girls and I are outside a lot. If my son is still here this winter it may start to feel a bit snug.

    Sudafed is pseudoephedrine. Ephidrine is a form of speed. So the warning that it may cause drowsiness is that in someone that has ADHD, where a stimulant will actually slow the brain chaos, it will cause drowsiness. In all the rest of us it has the opposite effect, like taking speed, of energizing and lowering appetite BUT the effects do wear off and one is hungrier afterwards. That is why diet pills, usually a stimulant, don't work. The rebound hunger is worse. My middle son has ADHD and as a child, if I gave him a cola, he would take a nap. We didn't drink soda pop normally, but when we went out for lunch I would let them have a cola. Even at 9 or 10, he would fall asleep after drinking it. When he was in his teens the doctor tried him on de><edrine, another form of speed, and he slept constantly for two weeks until we took him off it. I could barely keep him awake to feed him. Luckily it was winter break.
  • miriamwithcats
    miriamwithcats Posts: 1,120 Member
    Oops, forgot that I was going to mention skin folds. The main medical reason for having them removed is that the moist, dark area is prime for fungus growth and some bacteria. So it is really important to keep those areas as clean and dry as possible, especially as we get older and our skin thins. I have had a skin fold since having humongous babies and find that if I put antiperspirant in the fold it stays drier. I keep antifungal cream in my medicine cabinet and at the first sign of redness I use it since it doesn't take long to have a painful infected area. Sometimes it is helpful for people to use a cotton cloth in the fold to absorb the moisture (changing it frequently). I had a patient with diabetes that we did that with. We just tore strips from old tee shirts so it was soft and comfy for her. I can understand the doctor's reluctance to remove folds on older folks. My DIL just had it done and it is a huge incision, from side to side, and as we age, our skin does not heal as readily as younger folks. She has had to wear a girdle type garment, and even had surgical drains (two) in for several weeks. Not the same as a nip and tuck facial surgery at all. Also the risks of going under a general anesthetic are greater the older we get. That said, you could find a doctor to do it, especially since hospitals make their money off of surgery, so they push their surgeons to never turn away a viable patient.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited August 2015
    pipcd34 wrote: »
    thanks for all your concern fellow peeps.

    the pain is really down right now. so i'm good. kinda like an annoying neck ache that you can't get rid of cuz you went to sleep wrong ? i am doing good...

    i wish i had friends that had some cool drugs or i would hit them up. unfortunately, kirby having access to ALL the drugs is too honest and won't share the hospital drugs. :0(.. i guess that's a good thing if he wants to keep his job. :0/

    You live in Washington where marijuana is legal. It is an excellent pain killer, but unwise before driving or riding a bike. It would allow you to rest at night. Probably not a good choice first thing in the morning. :noway: DH has a prescription for medical MJ and rarely needs to use it, but it is a real blessing when needed. :flowerforyou:
  • Kibbly
    Kibbly Posts: 7 Member
    Hi all, well yesterday I exceeded the number of steps set by my vivofit, yay. I'm going to go for a walk this evening as I'm a bit behind with my steps today. We have a lovely park within walking distance of us so I need to use it more.

    I went grocery shopping yesterday so I don't have any excuses for not having healthy low cal food to hand. I planned today's meals last night so that I know what I'm going to have to eat which is working so far.

    I'm enjoying reading everyone's posts.

    Lisa, lovely photos of your grandbaby.

    Kibbly from the Midlands, England.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
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  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,315 Member
    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Morning Ladies,

    DrKatie, are there limited places for DS to look at in his price range? That can sometimes make it much more difficult to find a place with the right location, price and amenities. Good luck to him.

    Michele, I am definitely waiting for the bugs to get worked out on Windows 10, if I ever get it. I don’t worry so much about the Window updates being automatic because it’s not like I know exactly what any of them are for anyway. And ewwwww on carpet in a locker room. I’d have to wear my flip flops in there all the time and I’m not really a germaphobe.(?)

    Joyce
    , that was so good of you to put out messages about your Mom’s condition when she was so ill. People want to know and like you say, it can be so many phone calls. There is a great site called Caring bridge that is made for communicating with friends about the patients’ condition. I’ve had 3 different friends use it and we could all leave messages there. Yes, I do know about the commercials in Wheel of Fortune! OMG. But think of this: you not only got the exercise from the walking you did, but the getting up and down probably burned as many calories as the walks. Good for you!! You enjoy your singing at church. smiley-music025.gif I’m sure you do.

    Janetr
    , you are lucky with the amount of weight you have lost that you don’t have a fold of skin at your tummy. I’ve only lost 59 lbs and I do. It’s not huge and no moisture or odor problem but it is just a clump of skin that shouldn’t be there. I keep thinking, if your body will absorb all that skin after having a baby, why won’t it absorb at least a little of it now??? I guess that’s wishful thinking. oh.gif

    JanetM
    , you are making great progress!!! I have a couple of M size tops but most of them are still too tight for my liking. The thing is, we know it will come. It might be slow, but we will get there. A year ago, I never even considered being able to wear a Medium again in my life.

    Heather, I’m so proud of you for going two whole days without cheese. Isn’t it terrible that something like that is so high in calories. You have a wonderful time lunching with your friend. Congrats on the weight. smiley-happy045.gif

    Lisa, you really are making progress when you can see the attitude difference in the employees. Even an apology from the problem child. Woo hoo. No matter how much you love your family, two weeks is a long visit. I know you will be glad to have your house back to the two of you. Great pictures!!

    Mame, you are right that we can always find a reason to look presentable. Beach, party, old friends, etc. The bottom line is we need to always look good for ourselves. It’s just nice to look in the mirror and not see some fat lady staring back at me. There is no pressure here to post anything. Just share when you feel like it. We’re always here for you.

    RobinHager
    , I believe you are new with us so Welcome. You will find this a great place for support and information. Please tell us a bit about yourself to help us get to know you. We also ask that you end each post with a name that you want us to call you and a location, general or specific.

    MaryAnn, welcome to you as well. As with Robin, please tell us about yourself. I hope you both come often and share when you feel like it.

    Toni, I love your cartoon! That is fer sure true for me. And you hit the nail on the head. I think planning is the key to a successful day of healthy eating, weather we are at home or out and about. Weather you set goals for the month or for just tomorrow, once you meet those, you can always set new ones.

    welcome.gif to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

    Wow wee, I have slept well for three nights in a row. That is with no pain meds and no sleeping pills. Gosh that makes such a difference in the next day. I am getting almost as excited to see my weight go under 170 as I did to see it get under 200. I’m so close, I feel it will happen this month. When I was at the craft fair the other day, I was trying on some scarfs in front of their mirror. I looked so thin that I said, is this mirror for sale? It makes me look skinny. She laughed and said, it’s not a trick mirror, that is just how you look. Well, yes, that did make me feel good! You ladies in your 50’s need to be very proud of yourselves for starting this journey when you did. Unfortunately waiting until late 60’s has it’s disadvantages. Just lots of wrinkles and skin conditions that are better resolved when you are younger. The bottom line is that it is wonderful for all of us at any age. I feel so much better than I have in many years and even though I’ve worked hard, I have to give all of you much of the credit. Your support is so important to me and I can’t thank you enough!! You are all the bomb!! smiley-happy057.gif
    I hope each of you has a happy and healthy day. rose.gif

    Words I live by:
    Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
    and
    Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
    I Love you, smiley-love013.gif
    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • topathemorning
    topathemorning Posts: 346 Member
    Good morning ladies-
    Newbie to this thread. I'm a recently retired teacher, and have decided to shed these pounds that I've put on in my last several years of teaching.

    My goals for August are:
    To prep my meals at home (except for our retired gals' monthly luncheon)
    To swim 4X a week
    To do water aerobics 4x a week
    To rethink, plan, declutter and reorganize my kitchen for easier home meal prepping


    I live within walking distance of so many fabulous restaurants, that's it's tempting to walk to my fav bistro, but...for August, I'm going to take control of my formerly neglected kitchen.
  • Rebamae
    Rebamae Posts: 566 Member
    I would love to join you if possible!
    Do I need to send a message to someone to join?
    Thanks
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