Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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kelly_c_77 wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »@kelly_c_77 I said 'I really L' not 'I'm really in L' so that's good clarification wise.
My mommy and I were sharing the wine at 8 o'clock in the morning. Because we're cool like that.
I don't think she ever anticipated I would pick up my phone and text someone...let alone SSP.@lilaclovebird If it were me I would not bring it up again. Just let it sit for now. It has been said and an explanation given. Give it time (a month or two or three or more) and see. If this is love and this is mutual love then there is no hurry and waiting *can* make it better if either side has any issues. When I realized I loved SO I almost said it so many times but I held myself back and really examined my motives. When I realized and was sure that I wanted to say it no matter what the response or result, well that was when I said it. I told SO that I have really enjoyed my time with him, how fun and warm and caring he is. I told him that I wanted him to know that I have realized for awhile that I love him and that I felt he should know it. I told him I was not saying it to hear it back, that I didn't need to hear it back. I also at the same time told him that if he realized at some point that he could "never" say it back that he needed to let me know so that I could move on because I deserve to have a man who loves me in my life. It was probably 6 weeks later that when I told him goodnight and I love you that he said, I love you too. I know others here have shared similar stories. For me personally in this relationship it was important to wait. For SO, too, he pondered and thought about it for a long time before he said it. He was thinking about it before I said anything.
Hugs to you. Follow your heart. Take the advice that makes sense to you or take non at all.
@nonoelmo I will be taking this advice. I'll probably bring it up again in several months after he's back from New York. He leaves in November and comes back December 10th.
Now that I'm looking back, I realized there were times where I almost said it and held it back. I guess when I got the wine in me I couldn't hold it back.
ETA: For now, things will stay playful and fun. I will continue to take it day by day and if he brings it up, I might talk about it. If not, then I wont stress or worry about it.
There is an app that will lock out your phone from sending texts/making calls until you solve a math problem or something. I once considered getting it when I sent some gibberish texts whilst drinking over the course of a few weeks. But, I'm really good at math, so I figured I'd just have to figure something else out. LOL
Haha, that's awesome!
Congrats on no ice cream, Laura!!
Oh Patriciaaaaa, guess what I'm making for dinner toniiiight???? SPAGHETTI SQUASH! Muahahahhaa!!!!!
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girldownsouth wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.
I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.
Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!
They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.
Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?
Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.
Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!
Will do!
(Who's jealous?!)
Me!!!
I have 4 work days left before I go on holiday, including a day in meetings in central London, or I'd so be scheduling a meet with @girldownsouth
I'm going to start getting some running practice in ready for once you're back!
Hint... I sent Nicci a 1/2 marathon training plan.
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orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Friends in the UK are you off today? My calendar says its a Summer Bank holiday?
Yes, day off today!
Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).
Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.
I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.
Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!
They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.
Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?
Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.
Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!
Will do!
(Who's jealous?!)
Excellent. When its gets closer let me know and I'll send you my cell number.
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pofoster21 wrote: »
Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).
Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?
Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much
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pofoster21 wrote: »I really really don't want to work today. Can you tell?
Ugh. Me either. Mondays are the worst!0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).
Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?
Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much
Wow THREE weeks! Post pics! (if you have to wait til you come back okay...but we will miss you! I will miss saying Good Morning when I wake up super early! I laugh at myself every time I do that!)0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »girldownsouth wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.
I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.
Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!
They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.
Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?
Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.
Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!
Will do!
(Who's jealous?!)
Me!!!
I have 4 work days left before I go on holiday, including a day in meetings in central London, or I'd so be scheduling a meet with @girldownsouth
I'm going to start getting some running practice in ready for once you're back!
Hint... I sent Nicci a 1/2 marathon training plan.
I have tons of training plans! I basically collect them, lol. I have so many books on getting started in running. I think tomorrow I will go out and i'm not going to do run/walk this time, just going to go and run as slowly as I need to for as long as I can, even if I only get to 10 mins, I'll get more next time!0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).
Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?
Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much
More awesome vacation plans... have a blast! And you'll be missed!0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).
Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?
Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much
Wow THREE weeks! Post pics! (if you have to wait til you come back okay...but we will miss you! I will miss saying Good Morning when I wake up super early! I laugh at myself every time I do that!)
*ahem* Aren't you supposed to be working?0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »Guys, I appreciate extra marital affairs are a hot button issue, but can we tone down the judging please? We have a lot of people on the thread and we don't know their circumstances. We can't judge until we've walked a mile in their shoes. Then we're a mile away, with new shoes
FWIW, I've been both the other woman and been cheated on (different men, both before I was age 20). Believe me when I say I know karma kicked my butt for choices I made. I could put it down to immaturity. Sometimes, despite having a moral compass, emotions can lead to terrible decisions. I don't excuse what I did in the past, but look at it as an experience that brings me here today.
And now, I practice ethical non monogamy, everything is open, there is no need to lie or go behind anyone's back. That said the smarties and I are closed, which means none if us want or are looking for any other partner or playmate, but if anyone did, it would be openly discussed.
But given social norms and pressure to conform, most people will do the underhand thing and hope they don't get caught, because the idea that you can be with, or love more than one person at a time is not yet acceptable. No one person should be under pressure to meet all the need, wants and desires of another person.
Agree with all of this, and it was getting a bit judgy in here.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).
Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?
Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much
Wow THREE weeks! Post pics! (if you have to wait til you come back okay...but we will miss you! I will miss saying Good Morning when I wake up super early! I laugh at myself every time I do that!)
*ahem* Aren't you supposed to be working?
I'm supposed to be slacking off work by doing homework, and I've gone so far as slacking off homework to browse the ridiculous other threads on the boards. So far, underwhelming.0 -
Hi everyone! I missed you guys.
I just got caught up and wanted to write a quick note before I get back to work.
I had a blast on my vacation. Camping from Mon-Weds. Weather was amazing and we saw a bunch of deer and moose. My sister and her husband were with us the first night and then they had to leave. My boyfriend and I had time to talk and bond while hiking, sitting by the fire etc (no cell service yay). We talked a lot about things and I think he finally is realizing how bad things were and we are both working on improving ourselves and the relationship. There were only about 3 other sites taken at the campgrounds so we had the whole section we were at to ourselves. It was so quiet (I purposely tried to find something after kids returned to school but before labor day weekend so it would be quiet). I'm so sad to be back. We also went to see his mom and we went to the zoo on Friday too. I had 25,000 steps Monday and Tuesday and about 15,000 Weds so I walked a lot which was good. I think I still gained a lot of weight back though (too much yummy food). :-P I'll try to post pictures later today in the cave. The week was amazing and relaxing.
As for candy corn-I love it and I think it smells so good! I'm also in the, 'nothing is too sweet' for me group. Sweets are definitely my downfall.
@ShibaEars -I hope that the bat didn't have rabies (poor bat) and that your dog is cleared. I love the new avatar picture. Such a great picture.
@rungirl1973 -I like your new picture as well.
@Italian_buju -I laughed at your cat food story. I do the same thing too. I like stocking up on food so I don't have to go as often and they always ask me how many cats I have. I have one...
@jthurman3 -I'm sorry your vacation wasn't as good as you were hoping. I hope the smoke clears out soon. It makes me so sad that the fires are bad there this year (my favorite part of the country
). We've had smoke from your fires in our state too so I can't imagine how bad it is where you are. Hope you had an awesome birthday though.
Ok, time to go to work for a while. Hope everyone else is doing well.
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quiksylver296 wrote: »*post date update*
first date #14
interacting online and via text, things were pretty cool.
good, fun interactions, actual conversations that moved past the "hi, how's your day going?" type thing.
but despite fun convo, dude kinda seemed like he was never going to actually ask me out, so on friday, i was like hey, if you wanna hang out let me know! so then we ended up going to a local place that evening.
in person, it was....awkward?
he was really quiet and withdrawn. which, i get the whole nervous first date type thing, but usually after a few hours, that lightens up a little. only it didn't. he just didn't seem very interested, and that's totally fine. but it still feels weird. so after a few hours, a few beverages, my filter ceases to exist, and upon saying good night (no attempt at a kiss or even a hug), the phrase "you poor boy" slipped out. eep.
que the ensuing text argument wherein any chance of a second date was destroyed. so despite what appeared to be a total lack of all interest, dude says he had a good time. but of course at this point, i'm all angsty and annoyed and say as much in regards to his stand-offishness, to which he does the fine, it's all me whatever, thing.
done and done.
i miss mr.jerkface more than i care to admit
Stupid frogs. I wish I could just conjure up Mr. Right-for-you and send him your way!
hehehehe, i wish you could too!
i just want to come home from work one day and have a cute dude sitting on my front porch, he knows all my weird quirks, likes to clean, can make me laugh, and wants to love me forevers.
is that too much to ask for?
Yes, because I don't believe anyone actually likes to clean. We just all know we need to get it done anyway. (see my previous post wantIng Rosie the Robot).0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »girldownsouth wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.
I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.
Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!
They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.
Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?
Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.
Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!
Will do!
(Who's jealous?!)
Me!!!
I have 4 work days left before I go on holiday, including a day in meetings in central London, or I'd so be scheduling a meet with @girldownsouth
I'm going to start getting some running practice in ready for once you're back!
Hint... I sent Nicci a 1/2 marathon training plan.
Mind throwing one of those my way? You know, in case I do decide to try lol? 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Friday night ball game was great!! Son's team won!! We hope to get to the state finals again this year. They are off to a good start so far. Thanks for all the well wishes on my fall. Hate to be so absorbed in what I am doing that I can't see things, but this thing really wasn't very visible. My hand looks better, but I don't think I will be able to do squats until next week. My knee is a bit twingy when I bend it, so I am taking it easy on that. I can walk pretty well, so my fitbit people, I am after you this week!!
You are on! I have to check if we are in the same group, I just accepted. I'll go look!
I did not get any invite this week : (
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*post date update*
first date #14
interacting online and via text, things were pretty cool.
good, fun interactions, actual conversations that moved past the "hi, how's your day going?" type thing.
but despite fun convo, dude kinda seemed like he was never going to actually ask me out, so on friday, i was like hey, if you wanna hang out let me know! so then we ended up going to a local place that evening.
in person, it was....awkward?
he was really quiet and withdrawn. which, i get the whole nervous first date type thing, but usually after a few hours, that lightens up a little. only it didn't. he just didn't seem very interested, and that's totally fine. but it still feels weird. so after a few hours, a few beverages, my filter ceases to exist, and upon saying good night (no attempt at a kiss or even a hug), the phrase "you poor boy" slipped out. eep.
que the ensuing text argument wherein any chance of a second date was destroyed. so despite what appeared to be a total lack of all interest, dude says he had a good time. but of course at this point, i'm all angsty and annoyed and say as much in regards to his stand-offishness, to which he does the fine, it's all me whatever, thing.
done and done.
i miss mr.jerkface more than i care to admit
ETA: i fully realize now that the poor dude is just introverted and my lame butt should be a bit more understanding. i couldn't relate the very fluid texting interactions with the in person differences. i really should try a bit harder....
I keep hoping that Mr. Jerkface realizes his big whopping mistake and shows up suitably grovelling and begging.
My father (76) is much more witty and amusing via text than in person, he's the stereotypical socially awkward scientist guy. I get along much better with him after buying him a cell and teaching him how to text.
i think that might be part of my problem....i'm really hoping he does too. 0 -
We leave for Peru on Saturday!
I think I posted this on my feed as well, but I think I'm more excited about not having to run stairs anymore than I am about travelling right now
2 more stair runs and 5 more sleeps until we go!!
Our den has been my staging area for weeks already, where I've got all our gear and everything stored/laid out, and I'm starting to get it all organized and double-checked and into our bags now. I'm a fairly meticulous packer and organizer, so I've got each of our bags packed with extra-large Ziplocs storing everything (one for socks, one for cold-weather tops, one for rain gear, one for first aid, etc etc.) with spares for stuff that can be worn again and stuff that is dirty.
Because of this, my husband doesn't have a clue what he's bringing (nor does he intend to find out until we're already travelling)...I'll wake him up on Saturday morning, hand him his duffle and his daypack, and tell him to make sure he has his wallet and his phone and charger. Then all the way to the airport he'll say "Do I have a water bottle? Do I have some Benadryl? Do I have my Swiss Army knife? Did you pack my flip-flops? What about Kleenex? Where did you put my iPad? Do I have a toque? How many pairs of socks did you bring me? What time do we get back again?" Invariably, because he's a creature of habit and I can pack him a bag in five minutes flat if necessary, he's got everything he needs...but there is a part of me that is shocked that he doesn't do it himself. I could NEVER let him pack for me, I can't even imagine what I would end up with. Yet he just blithely assumes everything is fine (ETA : until it's too late and we're already on the way.) It's exactly like when you have a four-year-old and you get everything ready and then tell them to pick out one toy to bring (except the one toy is his phone.)
This happens every time we travel, lol.
He also has no idea what I've booked or even what cities we'll be in, I'm pretty sure, although I keep telling him and have sent him copies of all my bookings. I'm kind of terrified security is going to ask him questions and he's going to be like "Uhhhhhh...hiking....somewhere....?" and they're going to think he's hiding something because he hasn't got a clue what he's doing in Peru. We went to see his mom over the weekend and she was asking us questions about what we've got planned and he kept just looking at me helplessly.
The man is a ton of fun and a good travel buddy and all and he's obviously very go-with-the-flow and trusts me and all (and I was a travel agent so I guess he assumes I always just know what I'm doing) but sometimes I just have to laugh at him a bit.
Fun!!!! I hope it is a great trip.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Friday night ball game was great!! Son's team won!! We hope to get to the state finals again this year. They are off to a good start so far. Thanks for all the well wishes on my fall. Hate to be so absorbed in what I am doing that I can't see things, but this thing really wasn't very visible. My hand looks better, but I don't think I will be able to do squats until next week. My knee is a bit twingy when I bend it, so I am taking it easy on that. I can walk pretty well, so my fitbit people, I am after you this week!!
You are on! I have to check if we are in the same group, I just accepted. I'll go look!
I did not get any invite this week : (
I didn't either. I figured people got busy 0 -
Welcome back @FroggyBug ! Glad you had a great time and are still making progress with your boyfriend.0
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