Significant other and their habits..Break up or Suck it up??
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Hmmm...12 posts...The gist of this thread is "My crap doesn't stink because I'm a vegetarian." If I were cynical I might think this was a troll.
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Hmmm...12 posts...The gist of this thread is "My crap doesn't stink because I'm a vegetarian." If I were cynical I might think this was a troll.
It's sometimes hard to tell if trolling, but some people really believe this, and that starch makes your poop like glue, that pork is full of urine etc.0 -
sounds like you're going in different directions, and he might be feeling the same about you, and posting questions on forums about his 'crazy vegetarian so' who's trying to get him to follow her. No one on the internet really knows enough about your situation to be giving advice. But if one or both of you are miserable in this relationship then why continue it?0
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you cant expect someone to change just because you have. I don't mean to be mean but I feel bad for your SO that you expect so much of him. if it's really that big of a deal, do him a favor and leave. relationships are about compromises but that's a big thing to ask of someone. I started eating healthy and I kind of pushed it on my boyfriend but I realized something.... it's not all about me. Just because I want to eat differently doesn't mean I have to force him to do it too.You need to discuss this with a therapist. Decision to leave a partner is not related to food or eating habits. It is very unlikely this has anything to do with what he eats or does not eat, even if it seems right now this way to you.
and I agree with what they said....it sounds like there might be an underlying issue and you are trying to find a "scapegoat" instead of being honest about the actual reason you want to leave him.
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15 years + kids, but not living together? Lot more going on than who's poop stinks.PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?
Either way, it's a terrible reason to break up. Get some Poo-pourri.
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This is pretty harsh.. There must be another reason surely after 15yrs that you would want to break up other than he still eats meat?? Some crazy people on MFP lol0
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My question is... How the hell did this guy put up with a self absorbed moron for 15yrs. Do him a favour and leave the bloke, he deserves someone better if your biggest issue is his habbit.0
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I have tried to read all of the responses but the BIG question is being ignored. Do vegetarians poop smell better than meat eaters????0
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It sounds like he would be better off without you.0
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Dr. John Harvey Kellogg:
My own stools, Sir, are gigantic and have no more odor than a hot biscuit.0 -
UltimateRBF wrote: »
15 years + kids, but not living together? Lot more going on than who's poop stinks.PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?
Impossible. It has to be a man. Girls don't poop.
Girls poop, but it never smells.0 -
You're the one that wants to be vegan. Don't punish someone because they're not doing the same things you are.0
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i truly hope that either this is a troll, she leaves him and does him the favor, or she gets counseling.0
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kathrynjean_ wrote: »I am a vegan and my long-term partner is an omnivore. In fact, he loves meat. He doesn't just like it - he loves it. And cheese. And eggs.
There was a period of time when we first started dating that people would ask me if I was hoping/thinking/trying to get him to "go vegan". My response has always been no. From my perspective, if he had some sort of a hidden agenda and was trying to get me to eat meat again, I would find it hurtful. And I would be upset and wouldn't put up with it. So why would I think it's okay for me to do that to him? Being vegan is something that works well for me and has for a long time. It's important to me. On the flip side, his diet works well for him and it's not my place to try to change him in that way. I don't care if he eats meat.
What I do care about is that he cares about ME. And how he shows me that is by being respectful of my dietary choices and restrictions by not pressuring me to eat in a way that I am uncomfortable with.
It's okay to have boundaries and to talk about those as a couple. I don't like cooking meat so he cooks it himself. He doesn't use my cast iron cookware for meat (because you never really wash it) and although it doesn't really make a difference, we have separate cutting boards. If we go out to eat together as a couple, we tend to go to a lot of Asian/Vietnamese places because they are often great for vegan options but have a ton of stuff with meat in them too. That's it. It's never been an issue.
I *personally* think that if you are wanting to end your relationship over this, there are some bigger issues at play. That's fine. But it might be helpful to reflect on that and figure out what they are ... Just my 2 cents.
You're a unicorn, you know that right?0 -
I haven't read most of the replies but in my experience if asking "should I break up" is even an option then you should step back and look at the relationship overall. People change, and sometimes those changes lead in directions that aren't compatible. You might consider couples therapy, but if switching to vegetarianism is a requirement for continuing the relationship it might already be over. Best of luck to you whatever you decide.0
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I would say there is something else going on. If I was you I would go talk to a councler, before I walked away from 15 yrs. good luck to you0
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OP, what happens if your kids decide they want to eat meat when they are old enough to make their own decisions? Will you refuse to kiss them or have them in the house?0
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Abby_C2014 wrote: »I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. <b>My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately. </b>Anyway, go for what you think is the best for your relationship. As for my husband, he may have things I hate. For example! Leaving the bathroom floors wet, snoring really loud at night, hoarding all three blankets in our bed, farts in the car without notifying me, and I can go on forever. However, I love him. All the good things he does outweighs everything else I hate.
I don't think he agree because he agrees. He might just want to shut you up.
OP: you made up your mind, why are you posting this?0 -
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My heart breaks for your partner. Breaking up over dietary differences is absurd, unless you were deathly allergic to a food he eats and your very life is in danger as a result.
But this... this is strange. I'm sure your confidence level is up due to weight loss and you're feeling a bit high and mighty. Step back and realize love is bigger than you've trivialized it to be.0 -
Poor guy. Sounds like the best thing for him would be for you to just let him go. You've clearly moved on already and have no regards for him anyway.0
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i havent had time to go through all 4 pages, but im curious, has she come back and said anything?0
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if i look at this post**juuuuust so** it almost resembles an actual real thing
What the heck is that supposed to mean?? Fake?? I think not!0 -
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kalynbreann357 wrote: »This is very off putting... How can you be with someone for 15 years and decide to leave all because they don't follow the same diet as you? You need a reality check, tell your SO how you're feeling and I'm sure they'll give you one.
I have told him...Several times..It's is way more than JUST his eating habits.It's many things.Fast food 2-3x a day,lying about losing weight and then when he comes home he is bigger than he was the last time he was home..He is an over the road truck driver, and regardless of what people think there are ways to eat healthier.It's all about choices.He chooses to eat junk, he chooses to lie about his weight ( not just to me) He chooses to not do anything about it.When I mention to him the fact that he may end up with health problems that may be fatal one day he says he has lived a full life (at 45) This tells me that he's rather be a lazy unhealthy person than to change his unhealthy ways so he can be there for his family.We are married, and we do have kids. He has told me several times he will not allow me to divorce him, so yeah...There's a reality check. And it wouldn't be for the "same diet as me" reason...it would be for ALL the reasons..Not to mention he's gone for a long amount of time.0 -
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Kissimmee_Disney wrote: »kalynbreann357 wrote: »This is very off putting... How can you be with someone for 15 years and decide to leave all because they don't follow the same diet as you? You need a reality check, tell your SO how you're feeling and I'm sure they'll give you one.
I have told him...Several times..It's is way more than JUST his eating habits.It's many things.Fast food 2-3x a day,lying about losing weight and then when he comes home he is bigger than he was the last time he was home..He is an over the road truck driver, and regardless of what people think there are ways to eat healthier.It's all about choices.He chooses to eat junk, he chooses to lie about his weight ( not just to me) He chooses to not do anything about it.When I mention to him the fact that he may end up with health problems that may be fatal one day he says he has lived a full life (at 45) This tells me that he's rather be a lazy unhealthy person than to change his unhealthy ways so he can be there for his family.We are married, and we do have kids. He has told me several times he will not allow me to divorce him, so yeah...There's a reality check. And it wouldn't be for the "same diet as me" reason...it would be for ALL the reasons..Not to mention he's gone for a long amount of time.
So like a lot of people predicted - there's more than just vegetarian issues.
I'd be pretty concerned about someone that uses language like they "won't let you divorce them".0
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