What nobody tells you about losing weight
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theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
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sashayoung72 wrote: »theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
Yes, the "eat less, move more" answer doesn't satisfy many people.2 -
sashayoung72 wrote: »theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
Yes, the "eat less, move more" answer doesn't satisfy many people.
My husband actually gave me *kitten* for giving this answer. "Why didn't you tell her (his grandma) that you're lifting weights and counting calories?" I did. . . I eat less and move more. . .4 -
Angelfire365 wrote: »sashayoung72 wrote: »theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
Yes, the "eat less, move more" answer doesn't satisfy many people.
My husband actually gave me *kitten* for giving this answer. "Why didn't you tell her (his grandma) that you're lifting weights and counting calories?" I did. . . I eat less and move more. . .
Exactly, it's pretty simple...if I could just stick with the "eat less" part better I used to tell people in more detail what I was doing, but they got the glazed over look in their eyes because they really wanted to hear that I took a magic pill, so I shortened it to the "I eat less and move more"4 -
Angelfire365 wrote: »sashayoung72 wrote: »theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
Yes, the "eat less, move more" answer doesn't satisfy many people.
My husband actually gave me *kitten* for giving this answer. "Why didn't you tell her (his grandma) that you're lifting weights and counting calories?" I did. . . I eat less and move more. . .
Exactly, it's pretty simple...if I could just stick with the "eat less" part better I used to tell people in more detail what I was doing, but they got the glazed over look in their eyes because they really wanted to hear that I took a magic pill, so I shortened it to the "I eat less and move more"
LOL. I finally quit saying "I'm eating less and moving more." Now, I just say "I'm using a program called myfitnesspal.com." Then they're happy and say they should give it a try. And I hope that they do!5 -
pearso21123 wrote: »Angelfire365 wrote: »sashayoung72 wrote: »theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
Yes, the "eat less, move more" answer doesn't satisfy many people.
My husband actually gave me *kitten* for giving this answer. "Why didn't you tell her (his grandma) that you're lifting weights and counting calories?" I did. . . I eat less and move more. . .
Exactly, it's pretty simple...if I could just stick with the "eat less" part better I used to tell people in more detail what I was doing, but they got the glazed over look in their eyes because they really wanted to hear that I took a magic pill, so I shortened it to the "I eat less and move more"
LOL. I finally quit saying "I'm eating less and moving more." Now, I just say "I'm using a program called myfitnesspal.com." Then they're happy and say they should give it a try. And I hope that they do!
I love your obfuscation.
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Similar here. I have never weighed myself since starting this journey. For me personally it is a de-motivator. So when I get this question I just say, "not quite as much as I want to" and leave it at that1 -
I didn't expect that sleeping on trains and planes would get easier and less painful. I don't know how much is the weight loss (less back fat and using up less of the seat) and how much is the weight lifting (stronger back and neck) but I can now fall asleep sitting semi-upright without having my head fall forward or sideways (which is so uncomfortable), and without having lumbar pain after 4-5 hours.
That said, only works if the seat is well cushioned, because I'm not carrying much of a cushion anymore...2 -
That the tears that can well up in a dressing room can be happy ones. I just fit into a size 8 pair of jeans. I was wearing 24 when I started this (and not jeans). And that reaching for smalls and mediums on the racks is strange. So very strange12
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kazaargrandcru wrote: »kazaargrandcru wrote: »For some reason now whenever I see a very overweight young woman I just want to burst into tears. Because I know how she feels inside. I want to help her but I can't. The truth is its a cruel world and for some reason it's still fair game to abuse fat people. It hurts like hell.
Me too, it's that feeling of helplessness that gets me. I try so hard not to pity them and look for their strengths instead because I just can't help but think that at one time people saw me like that and probably felt the same way. Even though I was overweight & out of shape, there was so much more to me than just that.
I don't know what I feel or why. Maybe I see myself in them? Basically I see someone who doesn't value herself and it is such a personal tragedy. This is all in my head of course. Maybe she is a very happy person.
I wish I had studied psychology in college. My life would probably be easier.
In my case that's exactly it, I see myself in them and remember how my life was. Even though I had a lot of happy times & things were generally good, some part of me was missing or lost somehow. The extra weight was just a reflection of that. It's like I was filling a hole in my soul with the temporary pleasure of eating. One day I just realized that I was craving a feeling of fulfillment in my life and that food and inactivity was not satisfying it and I had to start doing something to take things down a different path.
I think it stemmed from me not being sure of my life's purpose so I stagnated because I didn't know what I should be working towards and didn't want to waste my efforts working on something that was not my destiny.
I now realize that my destiny is whatever I happen to be doing at any given moment and I am actually creating it as I go along. I don't have to know what my purpose is anymore because I am living it everyday. Now instead of waiting until my purpose is revealed before I can do something, I know that by the act of doing, it is revealing itself. Funny that
That is interesting. That was somewhat my problem as well. After my kids got older and didn't need me so much anymore it really did a number on my head. What am I suppose to do now? I felt very lost and confused. Also sad. Those baby days were over. I gained like 20 pounds in 2 years, mostly drinking mom's glass - then bottle - of wine. I stopped the drinking and am trying to climb out of this hole. I am sorta scared because I don't know what the future brings, but I know it is brighter than before.
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This resonates with me so much....my only child is a senior now and planning for college. She has a boyfriend, lots of other friends, and is a confident, smart girl. She does not need me as much as when she was a baby. As I go thru our pictures, I cry a little at that chubby sweet girl...as I am now single too, it feels even worse sometimes...what am I gonna do now....and that the glass of wine is now the bottle of wine. I have the thin arms wrists, thighs of the thin person I use to be, but a big chest, stomache and butt. I can hardly stand to look at myself in the mirror....so I've embarked on this journey to find out who I am and can be. Glad I'm doing it with you all who have been where I am.12 -
This is an amazing thread! I will be coming back to read it often!2
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I didn't expect to deflate my boobs as badly as they have, at 26 it's a bit depressing BUT it's my own fault for allowing them to get fat in the first place. I'll trade boobs for a smoking bod! (plus I just got married so they don't need to attract anyone new!)5
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I never knew it would be so satisfying to buy - then wear out - a new pair of trainers.5
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That the tears that can well up in a dressing room can be happy ones. I just fit into a size 8 pair of jeans. I was wearing 24 when I started this (and not jeans). And that reaching for smalls and mediums on the racks is strange. So very strange
Wow! Such an inspiring post! Congratulations!!
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That trying to keep up with the boys when you're 60 pounds lighter results in you getting embarrassingly plastered.3
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Angelfire365 wrote: »sashayoung72 wrote: »theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
Yes, the "eat less, move more" answer doesn't satisfy many people.
My husband actually gave me *kitten* for giving this answer. "Why didn't you tell her (his grandma) that you're lifting weights and counting calories?" I did. . . I eat less and move more. . .
Whenever I tell people that, they don't believe me. There MUST be something else you're doing. One of my wife's relatives assumed I lost all this weight solely because I "must have started lifting weights". It always has to be something.2 -
Having someone check you out, and in disbelief you look around to see if there is anyone else next to you; then you realize they're staring at you.5
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theawill519 wrote: »That people won't believe you don't have a "secret weapon" for weight loss.
When people ask me how I'm losing the weight, I tell them I use MFP and exercise. They then INSIST I must have a "secret." That I must be taking pills or using wraps or something like that.
I've literally overheard someone say "people don't lose that much weight without help. She must be taking Plexus or something and just doesn't want to admit it."
Jealous, much?
OMGooooshhh! This is the most frustrating to me! I hate it when the first thing they ask is "What are you taking?"0 -
luvwords1996 wrote: »That the tears that can well up in a dressing room can be happy ones. I just fit into a size 8 pair of jeans. I was wearing 24 when I started this (and not jeans). And that reaching for smalls and mediums on the racks is strange. So very strange
Wow! Such an inspiring post! Congratulations!!luvwords1996 wrote: »That the tears that can well up in a dressing room can be happy ones. I just fit into a size 8 pair of jeans. I was wearing 24 when I started this (and not jeans). And that reaching for smalls and mediums on the racks is strange. So very strange
Wow! Such an inspiring post! Congratulations!!
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Haha that was totally me all the time and then one day all of a sudden my hubs was like whoa! That's a real muscle!3 -
How some insecure friends start to avoid you because you've always been ''the fat friend'' and now you're ''magically'' skinny.6
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Having that problem now......very overweight friend is massively jealous of my weight loss....gets pissed at my new food and drink choices and is always passive agressive about how i look....im still the same person there's just less of me.5
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This is a great post! I remember reading some of it in March when I started my path to healthy hoping to have these issues....53 lbs down (and more to go) and love having some of these issues. I cannot get over my mind set of shopping for clothes- having shopped in the plus or Woman's section for so many years, I feel like I'm an intruder and out of place in regular size sections. Not to mention how overwhelmed I was with the amount and selection of clothes! Holy cow! I left with nothing the first day because I didn't know where to start! Getting easier!7
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If they order it for THEM it's really tempting and kind of demoralizing to me. But then they say, "But we're not dieting"
"No, you are on a diet--the 'I often eat more food than I need' diet."
If somebody eats the same way on a regular basis, then that is their diet. What they really mean to say is, "But, we don't want to think about or change our diet."
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Yesterday my boss threatened my job.
No one told me how hard it was going to be to feel the feelings, but only eat the food.10 -
Yesterday my boss threatened my job.
No one told me how hard it was going to be to feel the feelings, but only eat the food.
As an outsider, look at how you've handled that negative situation at work and managed to summon the strength to create a positive reaction. I hope your work matter sorts itself out (it's a tough position to be in) but whenever you have any self doubt just think of what you achieved yesterday! ❤
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How everybody thinks they own your body if you ever mention that you are losing weight. They start giving you advice, telling you what to eat, how much to exercise, what weight you should aim for... and they absolutely CANNOT believe when you tell them you are not on "a diet", you are just more careful about what you eat and you write it all down! I can see their doubts; like 'you've never been slim why do you think you'll ever be'5
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That when you get less back fat you get sore points on your back from some of the yoga moves, however thick your mat is.
I also recently got asked by a colleague how I lost the weight and when I said with calorie counting she said oh I could never do that it sounds like so much effort. It didn't surprise me and i actually chuckled inside because i have read on here so often that that is the usual response.2
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