WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2015
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{{{Sylvia}}} ... Hang in there.
Rori ... Glad to hear husband's surgery went well.
Joyce ... I would be crazy trying to keep things germ-free regardless of what my husband thought! Coverings on furniture. Separate bathrooms. Separate laundry. Clorox everywhere. But then I'm a little neurotic that way.
I'm thinking of you all.
Beth near BUF0 -
Good Morning - wondering if I could join your group - I've had a life long battle with my weight and once again I'm at the high end of the spectrum I see Kimperry_68's post here and I'm feeling the same - I'm discouraged I feel like I'm doing all the right things but I'm seeing no results. I need to lose 30 lbs again - can use some guidance. Has anyone used the paid version of this program? Is it worth it? why?0
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Silvia -- after reading your post, my heart goes out to you. What stands out to me though is how fortunate those kids are to have you there. As Rosie said, they feel the love. One foot in front of the other.
My intentions for today:
1 hour elliptical
Log all food
I'm going to try and add in another small bit of exercise each day on top of my regularly planned 1 hour. A short walk or a short yoga session. I will try that today through Friday and see how it goes.
I took a 30 minute walk yesterday and listened to some music and it was very nice...don't know why I have a hard time getting away from my computer to do that. Once I get into the day, all bets are off.
Be back tonight.
Kimses in MA0 -
Happy Tuesday!
Sylvia, thinking of you in the very trying time. The whole situation is almost too difficult to comprehend.
Heather, I hope your DS finds a new and better job soon. Wouldn't it be nice if they could move closer to you so you didn't have to travel so far to see the grand kids? My son left a stressful job last year and found another one that makes his life and his families life so much easier. He has always worked in restaurants and the strange hours are tough when you have a family.
Carol - Peach
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Sorry for your loss of your pet. We lost our JRT to old age after 16+ years in April. Did not realize how much we'd miss her until she was gone. We adopted a Rat Jack from a local shelter a month ago; and she is a real 'sweetie'. Long legs like a Rat Terrier; face of a JRT. Very vocal ... but, uses her 'inside' voice to talk to us; rarely barks. Potty trained, crate trained, and to a degree leash trained. She had been at the shelter for 2 weeks, nobody claimed her - so I got her. Their loss is my gain. Great companion.0
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Cracker before she had her cone taken off; she is so different now that she has it off; but, this was the only picture I had of her since we got her that I can post here. White with a slightly light peanut butter stripe down her backside. She loves her toys - duck is her favorite at the moment. She'll pick them out of the basket we have next to her bed. Hopefully, we can train her to put them back in it. We've already been able to teach her many things, she is really smart. Loves going outside to see what DH is doing so she runs around and goes on adventures; but, she loves me more - he says that I have made her spoiled, rotten and 'bad'; but, she minds both of us very much. Last Sunday I was sick (in bed) and she kept getting upset that I was not in my chair, so he let he into our room and she laid down beside my bed. She tries to comfort me when I am upset. So happy that I went to the animal shelter before they had their 'adoption day'. She's a Rat Jack because of the mixture. Rides well in the car, too (in her crate).0
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((((((Sylvia))))))
Rori safe travels. Hope the weather does not get in the way.
We had a great November up until a day ago. Now three solid days of rain and the cold will come after it. I still have some Salvia close to our house. It will go tomorrow due to being in the 20's. This is the latest I can remember having these many flowers. I will harvest the last of the Brussel sprouts today.
Margaret 0 -
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morning my friends~
well long work day today, 9-6 will step out at lunch and come home and get the boys out and then go back to work.. will leave a few lights on felt bad came home and they were in the dark...
made my reservations for Cape Cod , leaving early day after thanksgiving and will be there till sunday morning..
got 2 nights for 118.00 so not bad and they have an indoor pool..0 -
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Power of Attorney ends at the death of the person. You have no power of attorney the minute they die. Not sure if it is the same in Britain. I had a POA and was Representative Payee (for Social Security money) for my mentally retarded cousin who lived with me. When he was dying of brain cancer, I was so overwhelmed with his care that I did not pay bills as soon as they came in and had not yet done his taxes. When he died I had no ability to take care of those loose ends, and could not access his funds in his bank account. Since it was less than $2000 and hiring a lawyer would eat all of that up, I just left it in the account which eventually got turned over to the state, which is the only entity he owed taxes to. I just wanted to make sure that no one else here gets caught by that legality.
Sylvia, I am so sorry that you have all those worries. I can add from my experience of having my girls for the last two and a half years, that it is not as hard as we think it will be beforehand. It is DEFINITELY not the same as being a grandmother. The kids develop routines, and get to know the rules and expectations so caring for kids in our situations is more about being there for them, letting them talk, guiding them in the right direction, etc. The hardest thing for me was preparing regular meals again. I had been living on my own for so long that I rarely made a meal with entree, vegetables, etc. I would just nuke a bag of veggies in the microwave and that was my "meal". Or I would make some fish fillets. In your situation, with a husband, you are already making regular meals so you won't even have that hurdle. My girls are so aware of my limitations and offer to jump in and help when they notice I am tired or in pain. I have discovered that it is too much for me to chaperon field trips, retreats, etc. and also too physically painful to do four hours of Halloween walking and standing. But other parents are more than willing to jump in and help with those activities. Also, even though the loss of your son will be devastating for you, psychologically it will take less energy since the uncertainty of your situation now is very draining. Not knowing what the future holds and being unable to make definitive plans is extremely stressful. So you will find that you have the emotional energy to care for your grandkids. I am here to support you through all this (you can PM me for my phone number if you like) and I am sure Gloria would also jump in. There are also probably other grandparents in your community that are raising their grandkids, whether because of death or drugs, and they may be able to guide you to supports. In my community of 1500 people, I know of five others, and there are probably ones I don't know about. Your grandkids will also get survivor benefits from his Social Security insurance, that will help with the costs. The most important thing is that those kids live in a secure environment surrounded by love. And I KNOW you can do that.0 -
Welcome njsousa, I have only been using mfp (the free version) for 3 months and it has made a difference, can't speak to the premium version, I think it will allow you to track more nutrients among other features.
I have been up and down over the course of the last 17 years and am feeling so much better now that some of the weight has come off. It is reinforcing to check in with this group every day, imo. Also, losing the weight isn't really the hardest part for me, it is maintaining without giving in to the sedentary lifestyle and bingeing I fall into. I am hoping that this time around, the lifestyle habits are more manageable because I am not going too fast, too soon.
I am making small choices, small bites, small steps and this seems to be the way to go for me. Good luck, keep checking in with everyone, it works!
Karen from NY0 -
Sylvia, oh Sylvia, my heart goes out to you!!! I am in awe of the amount of things you continue to do in the midst of all the uncertainty. I recently found this and it is so true that we humans wrack our brains with "forethought of grief". I hope you can manage to take one day at a time while wisely researching your legal options.
The Peace of Wild Things
By Wendell Berry
When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
Betty ROC
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Joyce – no, you weren’t mistaken. That was definitely one of the reasons we wanted the warehouse, to have someplace to stay when we’re too tired to make it back to the ranch. In fact, since I had writer’s group at the library last night, which starts at 6 p.m., and it’s full dark by then, I stayed at the warehouse last night. Dragged a foam mattress pad that we’re not using in with me in the morning, just in case I decided to stay, and made myself up a pallet to sleep on last night in what will be my craft/writing studio. Overall, it wasn’t bad! The hard part is getting up when you’re basically sleeping on the floor. My knees don’t want to support my weight that way, so I was kinda like a turtle on my back a couple of times when I had to get up and go potty or get a drink! I figured it out, finally, but was glad no one was around to see.
Also, on the C-dif thing. Yes, I’ve had it, and no, Charlie is not respecting the fact that it’s very contagious. Here’s a link that talks more about it—http://www.webmd.com/digestive-disorders/clostridium-difficile-colitis. I had the worst level, with diarrhea more than 20 times a day and extreme stomach pain. I was in the hospital for eight days while they worked to get it under control, and everyone who came in had to basically follow quarantine procedures—I came closer to death than I care to think about. While it doesn’t sound as if he has the worst version, he is endangering you by not working to keep the infectious matter under control.
The reason we went the business route on the warehouse, opening up the RV storage lot piece of it, was a discussion with my best friend, who is also my bookkeeper. We’ve spent more than $4,000 now on repairs that had to be made just to make it usable, and to have enough repairs done at the insurance moved out of the “high-risk” category and down to something reasonable. To recoup some part of that, we had to establish it as a business. Even if we don’t make a dime, we can write all the maintenance and repair expense off on our taxes. And, if we do make money, it can go to defray the mortgage. One never knows…
Lisa in chilly West Texas
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I just found this and am excited for my journey of losing 30 lbs.
FitBarbara from New York.0 -
Good morning ladies! I woke up about two hours ago and the room was spinning. I could not get it to stop and I had a bad headache and felt nauseous. So I stayed in bed and fell back to sleep. I woke up about a half hour ago and the room was still spinning. I closed my eyes again and woke up at 9 o'clock and finally it had stopped spinning. I am still in bed with a headache and I feel nauseous. Not sure what this is all about. I am going to attempt to get up and do my kettle bell swings and finish painting. We decided not to tear the floor up until after Thanksgiving since we are having company this weekend and that weekend. So after we get done painting and put the trim back up we will be able to relax a little while. My DH also routered the trim board.
Rori - I will be praying for your husband. I hope you have a safe trip. (((hugs)))
Have a great day everyone!
Mary from Minnesota who still cannot get out of bed!0 -
Allison, have fun at the Cape, it's one of my favorite places to go to. I'm toying with the idea of going there that weekend myself. I find it very resorative.grandmallie wrote: »morning my friends~
well long work day today, 9-6 will step out at lunch and come home and get the boys out and then go back to work.. will leave a few lights on felt bad came home and they were in the dark...
made my reservations for Cape Cod , leaving early day after thanksgiving and will be there till sunday morning..
got 2 nights for 118.00 so not bad and they have an indoor pool..
Chris in MA
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So sorry you're not feeling well. Maybe you can take a day off and take care of yourself, you've been working so hard lately.fanncy0626 wrote: »Good morning ladies! I woke up about two hours ago and the room was spinning. I could not get it to stop and I had a bad headache and felt nauseous. So I stayed in bed and fell back to sleep. I woke up about a half hour ago and the room was still spinning. I closed my eyes again and woke up at 9 o'clock and finally it had stopped spinning. I am still in bed with a headache and I feel nauseous. Not sure what this is all about. I am going to attempt to get up and do my kettle bell swings and finish painting. We decided not to tear the floor up until after Thanksgiving since we are having company this weekend and that weekend. So after we get done painting and put the trim back up we will be able to relax a little while. My DH also routered the trim board.
Rori - I will be praying for your husband. I hope you have a safe trip. (((hugs)))
Have a great day everyone!
Mary from Minnesota who still cannot get out of bed!
Chris in MA
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morning peeps -
whippet -so sorry to hear about your son, we are here for you. you are stronger than you think. I didn't think I could ever leave the home of such a mean mother back in the day (a gun carrying mother no doubt) but I did. didn't think I could leave my husband that I loved so much but that was hitting me, but I did, didn't think I could quit drugs and leave the 2nd husband, but I did. I didn't think I could survive or live after loosing my 3rd husband but I did. I thought about what if Kirby died and the thought of living after loosing another husband, but I think I could, actually I know I could. it would be seriously hard but I could. trust me, we are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for.0 -
mikesmom1983 wrote: »
So sorry you're not feeling well. Maybe you can take a day off and take care of yourself, you've been working so hard lately.fanncy0626 wrote: »Good morning ladies! I woke up about two hours ago and the room was spinning. I could not get it to stop and I had a bad headache and felt nauseous. So I stayed in bed and fell back to sleep. I woke up about a half hour ago and the room was still spinning. I closed my eyes again and woke up at 9 o'clock and finally it had stopped spinning. I am still in bed with a headache and I feel nauseous. Not sure what this is all about. I am going to attempt to get up and do my kettle bell swings and finish painting. We decided not to tear the floor up until after Thanksgiving since we are having company this weekend and that weekend. So after we get done painting and put the trim back up we will be able to relax a little while. My DH also routered the trim board.
Rori - I will be praying for your husband. I hope you have a safe trip. (((hugs)))
Have a great day everyone!
Mary from Minnesota who still cannot get out of bed!
Chris in MA
I think I might have to! I am still unable to get out of bed.
Mary from Minnesota0 -
Mary - hope you get feeling better quickly. It sounds pretty much like what I did, unfortunately it lasted 3-4 weeks. Hope that's not the case with you.
Janetr OKC0 -
janetr - Thanks! I'm thinking that I have just been overdoing it. My DH thinks that my sinuses are clogged which could be the cause of the dizziness. I just realized that I have been painting with latex paint and I am allergic to latex so that could be stuffing me up until it dries. It is a good thing we are staying out in the cabin at nighttime.
Mary from Minnesota0 -
Michele: We traditionally decorate for Christmas starting the day after Thanksgiving. We're travelling this Thanksgiving, so we'll start when we get home. I think this year's decorations will be simpler than in the past, but am not sure yet. For now, I'm all set for Pilgrims and turkeys. :flowerforyou:
Pip: Kirby looks like he is healing well. Thank goodness.
njsousa: I have not used the paid version of this site because I lost all my weight before the company was sold to the people who want to make us pay. I wouldn't have been willing to pay in the beginning, and don't want to pay now. The keys to success are to log every bite and swallow, count every calorie and get more exercise. My personal best strategy is portion control because I was already eating healthy foods but I was eating too much before I started seriously trying to lose. I used measurement tools to verify how much I was eating. (I bought a food scale and measured serving scoops called dishers.) I also deliberately increased my exercise. For the first long while I walked, took yoga, and rode a stationary bike in the garage so that I could move more even in bad weather. In January I joined a gym because my yoga teacher had a career change. I pretty much still do the same activities but I have a new yoga class and some athletic equipment at my disposal. The weight came off but it was a slow process. I'm planning to continue to log my food for the long term. Stick with us and be patient. You can succeed. Good luck with your decision. Perhaps you will hear from someone who uses the paid version. :flowerforyou:
Margaret: The rain has arrived here, too. I'm glad I joined a gym last January because I sure don't want to go out in this! :noway:
Sylvia: Miriam's comments to you touched my heart. She is among those who have genuine experience and wisdom to share. I'm only able to keep you and your family in my prayers. All of you are there. :flowerforyou:
Mary from MN: I hope your headache passes quickly & you are feeling better soon. :flowerforyou:
I found just the right Christmas gifts for the grandkids online, and plan to order them today. I fear they'll be sold out if I don't get right on it. They're a cross between slippers and boots, and they have animal faces. I gave DGD a pair two years ago and she has loved them and worn them constantly. She needs newer and bigger. DGS will get a different animal face.
I'm struggling to manage SAD at the moment. It is a seasonal reality for me, and understand it is common for people with summer birthdays to feel a bit depressed when the days are shorter. So I'm taking my vitamins, getting exercise, and have the solar temperature lights working hard on my behalf. I think my upset about DD's move further away is a factor, but the season itself has always been a challenge. :ohwell:
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
November Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.
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Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Morning Ladies,
Allison, Homer is a cutie. Our Pepper is gray but much lighter. I’ll bet they would love a play date if we were close to each other.
Pip, I know you have a lot to handle but know we are all with you in spirit. I’m glad Kirby is doing well enough to go home soon. Remember to take one day at a time. ((((Hugs))))
Mindy, what an honor to be asked to sit on the panel at work. You know you are doing something right!! Way to go, girl!
Katla, your Christmas shopping for the grands sound so cute. You are right about our pets being gifts from heaven that are just on loan and my Max was a gift from God. I just wasn’t ready to give him back yet.
I’m greedy like that.
Rori, sending healing thoughts for your DH. That stuff is so scary! I’m happy for you both that he is being such a trooper about it. (some men can be such babies.)
Joyce, I pray that Charlie will get better and better able to handle his accidents. I know you can only do so much if he is not willing to cooperate. I pray no one else gets the C diff. Maybe you need to keep some type of cover over the sofas like we do with the dogs. At least it could be washed. Hang in there. ((((Hugs)))
Heather, you and DH could also add each other to the accounts just for simplicity of finances if something happened to one of you. A POA is good for everything and not just the bank accounts, so that is still a good idea.
Njsousa, welcome. This is a great place for support and information. Please tell us a little more about yourself to help us get to know you. We also request that you sign each post with the name you want to be called and a location, general or specific. It’s not always easy but MFP really works. If you log everything that goes in your mouth and keep your calorie intake correct, you should lose. Exercise really helps the process. I don’t have the paid version and doing fine without it, but will be anxious to hear from those that do and see what benefit it has.
Carol GA, how nice that your DS found a new job that causes less stress on him and likewise on his family. It can make such a difference.
Margaret, so sorry you are getting this really cold weather so early. I hope it warms up for you for a while.
Miriam, when we planned our wills and all, the attorney suggested a Durable POA. I’m guessing at least in SC, that is one that will work even after death. As you said, each state is different so that needs to be checked into.
FitBarbara. Welcome. This is a great group of women to support you in your journey. Please tell us a bit more about yourself. Come often and join right in.
Mary, I hope you get better real soon. It doesn’t sound like a day for painting and exercising, so please take it easy.
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
I’m trying to keep up with the posts but to be honest, DH and I are both walking around with heavy hearts over the sudden loss of Max. It is just strange how the human body reacts to things with a physical pain. But through this sad day I still think of all of you and your sweet supportive messages to me. I pray that your burdens get lighter and your days are filled with happiness and love.
I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Hope your day is going well. I am working 7-3 today and the new surpervisor and I are to work on the new schedule together this afternoon. Could be interesting, but I have made up my mind that if she doesn't want to listen I am going to the big boss as he told her to let me do it. I just want my hours without a lot of split shifts and I know the other people feel the same.
Our weather is sure strange. Last evening they were having tornado's west of us and we had thunder storms with a lot of rain. Was 51 when I came to work and that is the high for today, to go down to 30's this afternoon. After work I have to go home and finish the cake to take to our neighbor across the street as his wife passed away Sunday during the night. She had cancer and was only 59. Then when DH gets off work we will go up to the funeral home for visitation. Nice family.
Pip--Sorry to hear about the blood clot. Glad they found it before there were more problems. Sounds like he is doing better everyday.
Janetr--Glad to hear you are feeling better. I pray all goes well with your visit and DBIL's surgery. DH does sound handie. hope all goes well with your trip.
Penny--Hope you are doing better with the computer.
Glowomin--Sounds like you had a very Blessed day. Job offer sounds like a gift also. Hope it all keeps going your way. Reminded me my tags are due on my car by end of the month. Thanks,
DJ--So sorry to hear about Max. Sending hugs and prayers.
Heather--What a cute picture of afternoon tea. Glad your visit is going well. Sorry about DS and the job, but I know it is not easy not to worry. If they move would it be closer or farther away?
Lisa--Congrates on all going well with your new opening. Glad you can now not feel so pushed for time.
Sylvia--So sorry to hear about DS. I pray for comfort and peace for all of you.
rori--Glad to hear DH surgery went well.
Allison--Sounds like a good price to me. I hope you have a great time.
Mary--Please take care of yourself and rest. You have been so busy you need to take sometime for yourself.
Katla--Hope you feel better soon, I have started my Christmas shopping and think I am going to finish the rest ordering on line.
It sure doesn't look very nice outside, so glad I am inside for the most part. I love Fall, just wish it could stay in the 50-60's longer and getting dark so early doesn't help. Hugs and prayers to each of you.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND-NE
November Goals
1. Weigh less at the end of the month then at the beginning.
2. Log every bite.
3. Stress less--Pray more
4. Write down something each day I am Thankful for
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Here's what my daughter is dealing with today in Colorado.
Sorry can't get the picture to post.
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fanncy - hope you feel better soon
damnit - trust me i feel your pain, when we lost rocky, it took awhile for me to stop crying and thinking about him. i still think about him alot.0 -
fanncy0626 wrote: »janetr - Thanks! I'm thinking that I have just been overdoing it. My DH thinks that my sinuses are clogged which could be the cause of the dizziness. I just realized that I have been painting with latex paint and I am allergic to latex so that could be stuffing me up until it dries. It is a good thing we are staying out in the cabin at nighttime.
Mary from Minnesota
It does sound like sinus. Hope some time off helps.
Janetr OKC0 -
Mary - it could just be a virus, or it could be a reaction to fumes from the paint. My ex was really ill once from inhaling paint stripper. It was odourless, so we didn't realise. A break is a good thing.
Alison - Cape Cod is on my bucket list!
Katla - until the last couple of days my mood was low too, but I have improved. I hope it continues. Worry about our children is the worst.
My money from the flat sale appeared in my bank account today. I have been anxiously checking! :laugh: I paid the last water invoice today and have a couple more invoices to settle before I am FREE! While the money is still in my current account, (I'm going to put most of it into savings paying out monthly), I will make the last couple of my Christmas charity donations. I'm not a huge charity giver and I don't often volunteer like many of you, apart from a bit of baking, so Christmas is a reminder to me of my good fortune.
DH said to me today that he had reappraised some of my arguments around the Paris attacks and admitted I had made some good points. My arguing with him in my dreams must have done the trick! We are very similar politically, which is one of the reasons we were attracted to each other, but I have a somewhat more unconventional take on things which he can find exasperating. I do tend to bring out the same arguments I admit, which he must be tired of, but I was pleased that he seemed to have listened this time. I do have an MA in Philosophy, one paper of which was political philosophy. I am good at dissecting arguments and looking for the flaws. "If I say so myself". 
Love to all. Heather UK0
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