WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2016

Annr wrote: »

I wish to walk thru this world with grace. To move through my world with a willowy sense about me. I wish there to be less of me and more of living. Looking back to how I felt when I was bigger, I made it a point to take up space. It mattered that I was a large obese woman with ideas, and opinions. Now, I would just love to enter a room and have someone say, "wow, that is a really nice sweater". It's not so much about changing societies opinion of how obese people acclimate. It's not so much about making a statement, its about living whole and at peace with myself. Having typed what I just typed, maybe I'm not as content as I let on....

Becca
Oregon

Awe, Becca, what a break thru. I just want to hug you. Fat people are usually either at one end or the other of the "wanting to be accepted socially" scale. You say you were "in your face", I on the other hand tried to "hide" in the crowd. I wanted to not be seen at all. Upon entering a room I always looked to see if there was some one there fatter than me, I felt better if there was. We do a lot of hiding our feelings from others, but even worse is hiding them from ourselves.

You are truly an honest and insightful lady and make a wonderful contribution to our group. Love you, girl friend. Feel better.

Janetr okc

morning friends~
Pip~ will keep Bullwinkle in my prayers today...
having an apple with natural peanut butter for breakfast and a cup of tea.. trying to stay away from dairy, and wheat but still have a splash of 1/2 and 1/2 in my tea.. also trying to stay away from sugar and processed foods.
we shall see , but will take it a day at a time....

Read all the posts.
Working on taxes.
Later, dear hearts.

I am trying to be mindful of what I am eating.. I have wraps that I am using up that do have wheat in them but once they are done, I wont buy more... I bought the minute rice cups of the medley , trying to stay away from carbs, took a look holy heavens to betsy 45 grams of carbs... wow... and one of those little cups is 2 servings and 500 calories....
well that is a shocker....
having some carmel apple tea,will hop in the shower and take the puppies for a walk, then go feed DFIL and a full day of work..

morning peeps -
poerava - they ARE as cute, well mannered and cuddly as they look. training from day one so lots of work tho.

poor winkle, no food or water this morning

Hi Everyone!

I'm new to MFP and hope I'll be able to stick with it ... I'm going to take one day at a time and see how it goes. My problem is that when a week or two goes by and I don't lose anything I get discouraged and just give up. I could really use some encouragement!

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Miriam - My daughter has a cat with a tiny head and they did something different with the cone to keep it on. I'll try to call her when I think she might be awake and see if she remembers.

Becca - Hope your illness passes quickly so that you can go back to being your perky self. Thanks for the hugs!

The saga of the boy child continues. He finally got in touch with someone at the community college and managed to get in to registration but now he says all the classes he needs are full. I made him call his dad last night and ask for a ride to the school so that he can tackle it in person. The child was almost in tears when I got home. He is so discouraged and frustrated. Hopefully, it will be life lesson for him. He's really afraid he can't do the school work, too, which tells me how much his self-confidence is lacking. He's a SMART kid and was in accelerated classes beginning in first grade so the ability is definitely there. If he does manage to get registered and still struggles, I will step in and figure out how to get him tested for a learning disability although I think it is a matter of him being challenged for one of the first times in his life.

I am horribly discouraged, too, because it looks like right now that he will be living with me for a while. If he gets into the school, I am going to meet with his dad because it is ridiculous for Andrew to live with me and have a 30 minute commute when he could live with his dad and have a 10 minute commute. Oh, and to add to all of the saga drama, he still hasn't found another vehicle, so I don't know how he's going to get to classes anyway!

On the bright side, I have a "date" tonight with the guy I've been sorta seeing. I'm not looking for a great romance or anything but it is nice to have a male presence in my life that is not my son. He lives way out in the country (27 miles --I'm going there) so he is going to pick up a pizza or wings on his way home from work and we will reheat them for dinner. (And, yes, I have allowed for the calories!) He won't let me pay for anything so I can at least save him the gas money of driving to town by taking a turn at going out to his home.

I also go for my pre-op appointment this afternoon. I'm getting ready to call the doctor that will be doing the surgery because I didn't think to ask him about wearing my contact while using the prophylactic antibiotic drops. I hope I can wear it because I sure to like being able to have some degree of vision in that eye!

Well, I just heard the pastor come in the door. I hope he just failed to send me the bulletin yesterday and is not just now beginning to work on it. **insert mean face** I am off to watch a You-Tube on how to get material into a widget for the website. Fun times!!

Have a great day!

Carol in NC

janetr7476 wrote: »

Annr wrote: »

I wish to walk thru this world with grace. To move through my world with a willowy sense about me. I wish there to be less of me and more of living. Looking back to how I felt when I was bigger, I made it a point to take up space. It mattered that I was a large obese woman with ideas, and opinions. Now, I would just love to enter a room and have someone say, "wow, that is a really nice sweater". It's not so much about changing societies opinion of how obese people acclimate. It's not so much about making a statement, its about living whole and at peace with myself. Having typed what I just typed, maybe I'm not as content as I let on....

Becca
Oregon

Awe, Becca, what a break thru. I just want to hug you. Fat people are usually either at one end or the other of the "wanting to be accepted socially" scale. You say you were "in your face", I on the other hand tried to "hide" in the crowd. I wanted to not be seen at all. Upon entering a room I always looked to see if there was some one there fatter than me, I felt better if there was. We do a lot of hiding our feelings from others, but even worse is hiding them from ourselves.

You are truly an honest and insightful lady and make a wonderful contribution to our group. Love you, girl friend. Feel better.

Janetr okc

Janet, I felt like you --always checking the room for a larger person!
Becca, you also show a great deal of truth and honesty when you write about living whole and at peace with yourself. And my heart jumped at the word "willowy". In the fall even though I have not lost much weight compared to some of you ladies and am still at the high end of overweight, for the first time in decades I felt almost willowy. It is a great feeling and let's not give up on trying to accomplish that dream. We have all lived long enough that having it all sounds a bit ridiculous, and the older we get the more we care about health rather than looks, but I bet we could could get closer to achieving wholeness, peace and "willowy-ness". Yet sometimes we have to acknowledge that good enough can be a great place to be and perfection is an unrealistic goal.
I have been aiming for contentment over happiness--not there yet by a long shot but I'm getting better. Just like everything else you have to work at contentment and there are obstacles at every turn. If it helps to know you are not alone in the struggle...
Betty ROC
Also, Michele, I think you are doing the right thing with Bryan. Let me know if you get to the nail-biting stage with waiting for the ball to come back and need a friend -- I know the feeling very well and some days the waiting is very tough. Sometimes I falter after just a couple of weeks. But I did have two Skypes and a Christmas card...my reward for not going over the edge I guess. Honestly I feel something's gotta get shaken up for both of us this year in this department. The years are flying by, aren't they?

We had a lot or run watching Cracker throw up her toys and catching them. As for the vet; I'd write the vet to tell him about the rudeness of the brown haired woman and put confidential on the front of the envelope and tell him you are not coming back do long she is still there; that way the girl will get remanded and she will not know who told him that. Put "confidential" on the letter so that whoever gets them maybe she is not authorized to open his personal mail. Tell him that you won't be back so long as she is still working name and make sure you add your name to the letter and suggest that he call you to further discuss it. You can also put up with the vet if you liked him and take him in yourself and not allow her to take the dog with you and not turn him over to anybody take him from you. And tell him that you will return to the office if you like him or not.

Puppy proof your house so that he wont' chew on your plants (most of them are poisons). Dogs/puppies can't eat chocolate, grapes, or raisin, or human yogurt - they will get into them into their system and you probably won't even get him to the vet. Also important ask him how their service will handle emergencies as well. Do they keep a buzzer on them and is someone on call 24/7. We started taking our JRT to a local vet; and Shorty got bitten by snake and none of the would answer their messages - if they got them immediately (they called the person in charge when I called; telling the lady that it was a emergency and she still would not page him; so when went back to our regular vet because they have beepers to wear whenever there was a message for them. Not an answering service. She was wobbly; when I got there he treated her with the upmost care. Finding a good vet is like finding a good MD. We have a vet in town that does not like cats at all, so since we have both a cat and a dog that loves all animals.

Get a crate that has solid sides and a handle on it with a wire door and put a bed inside it; we use special treats for when she gets in it on her own. You might have to give the a little push if she is not ready to be crate trained. This will give her a dark place where she can go during the day. Those wire cages are not very comfortable and you'd need to put a towel or blanket in the to not hurt their feed; get one that is made for a dog that will be expected to grow into; but, that he will grow into. They won't $#*T where they sleep. I've left Cracker all day long and she hasn't made an wet spot. Put her in and take him out every 10 minutes and praise him a lot and then let him out into the yard. "Good Dog" you went into your kennel on your own. Try to give one word directions to them; say 'sit' not 'sit down' it confuses them if you say things. If you add two word that each have a specific command like 'sit' and 'down' - 'down' means you want them to stop jumping on things or somebody. Don't give a rawhide treat to them; they can be chewed and swallowed and choke on them. There are many other kinds of other treats you can give them. Even a deer antler without meat on it will do. Ask your vet what types of food or plants that might poison them. Then put the up high so he can't get to them. You can give them a chewable baby aspirin; but don't give them any other human medications unless your vet gives you permission to do so, not even Tylenol, Aleve, or any ibuprofen.

On a leash, tell him to 'heal' and make sure he stays on your left heel - use the lack of the leash out to show him you want him to walk beside you. He will probably balk at it; but, give him a sense you are giving that you are teaching him something; when he does it correctly. We broke Cracker from pooping on the deck because we'd say 'bad dog, pooping n my deck'. She doesn't do it much as often. Been close to a week. She knows what I mean when I tell her to 'go get in the bed, and 'now'. She thinks is she has her 'feet' in the bed - she us is actually in the bed. Ahh-huhh is a way of telling her to get her entire bed. She has started talking to us, like if either one goes out and she wants to go out - because she wants to go with me or Louis. She rarely barks; but, when she does that she is told that she has to 'use her inside voice - which is a most her whining.