WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2016
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Mikesmom - my lovely DH was 57 when I met him and UTTERLY reliable re dates, ringing when he said he would etc. That was one of my criteria. Can't be doing with guys who mess you about. :noway:
Re the music thing. I left my health club because they played ambient music everywhere in the building. Plus, music in the gym, in the YOGA class :noway: , and far too loud in the pool for the aqua aerobics. What is wrong with peace and quiet? Thank goodness my yoga teacher doesn't play music, except sometimes a bit at the end for a relaxation exercise. :ohwell:
Yesterday I was really proud of myself for putting up with ghastly loud music at the pub. A couple of years ago I would have had a panic attack and had to leave. I still don't like it, but I was OK. I just find it so sad that we are assailed on all sides by music we haven't chosen and would not have in our house. To me it is an assault. As bad as a physical assault. But somehow losing weight has helped me feel more in control of my life and I can deal with it better. I still cannot understand why people think THEIR choice of c#×p music should be an acceptable choice to accompany a meal. Usually I am successful in getting them to turn it down, and generally choose to go to places that don't have music. Yesterday I didn't feel it was my place to do so and also I wanted to test myself to put up with it. But why should I ? These days people can stick any nonsense in their ears if they want to and not annoy other people.
I survived. I managed. That is a major achievement for me.
Heather UK0 -
MightyLolo wrote: »mikesmom1983 wrote: »
No date tonight, he never called like he said he would to finalize plans. What is it about men in their 50's???!!!
They're men! :laugh:
I finally went out with a man who'd been asking me for a year; by our second date, he had designed our dream home in his head...we made plans for a few days later, but he never finalized. I still get texts from him; he still acts interested, but he hasn't asked me out again. Who knows?
Your dog is adorable BTW
Larisa in Seattle
Larisa, so you know what I'm talking about. They give such conflicting messages. I'm too old to be playing these games, either you want to go out with me or you don't, simple. Times a wastin' and I'm not getting any younger!!
I'm trying online dating, they express interest, they wink, or send an email and I'll respond, and then POOF! they're gone. I love my dog but he's not an ideal date!
Those of you who have had success with online dating, what were your experiences? I agree Heather, if they're not reliable in the beginning, they are not for me because they are not going to change. How many frogs did you have to kiss before you met your DH?
Chris in MA0 -
Just signing on for the day and 80 new messages! Phew...I will wade my way thru.
Left my daughter's downtown apt. this morning way early to take her to a hospital in the suburbs for her knee surgery. Everything went well. A repaired meniscus and some inflamed tissue issues. She is home now and resting. Sent the hubs out in search of a bag of ice and some laxatives. The ice for the ice compression thingy on her knee for 48 hours and the laxatives cause the pain killers ... well...you know.
Hopefully this will be the end of the pain she has been in since last December. Physical therapy for several weeks. Then back on full with her scheduled move out of Chicago early summer.
We are both MFPs so eating shouldn't be a problem. As soon as I can leave her alone I will make use of walking around the city and / or her gym in the building. Staying a week or 2 for recuperation and pack some stuff for the future move. Hubs goes home in a few days and will come back to fetch me. Gonna miss him!
All for now. Going to try and get some food into my girl.
Cheri
Sunny Chicago, Il0 -
Sweet little baby, Heather. My son looked awful when he was born - even his own mother admits it! My pelvic bones had squeezed his head into the shape of a rugby ball. :noway: I remember looking other babies in the ward - babies born by C-section - and thinking how beautiful they were. Beatrice is no exception!
You seem to be finding lots of programs about Svalbard, but it doesn't surprise me. There's usually a film team or two hanging around town. BBC has been here on and off for months making an entire series about a selection of residents. Obviously they've chosen some of the town's more colorful characters.
Everyone cringed a bit when they heard some of the names. 
As it happens, reality has taken some unexpected turns for weirdest of all their protagonists, and much of his plight and the town's reaction to it has been caught on film. It will be interesting seeing what they make of it all in the cutting room.
I really got my exercise in today. In the morning I ran 5 km. In the afternoon I walked down to do some shopping. By then we were having a blizzard. Not very cold or windy, so it was no problem, but a blizzard nonetheless. When I'd gathered up the groceries, I realized I'd forgotten all my money - both cash and plastic. I asked Esther at the check-out counter if she could ring up the stuff so I could take it home and come back and pay later, but she was going off her shift in 10-15 minutes and couldn't accommodate me. So I walked home again through the blizzard (incidentally passing a film team on the way), grabbed my charge card walked back again (passing the same team in another location), got my stuff and paid for it, then walked home once more. Still in a blizzard. The tracks I made through the snowdrifts had been obliterated every time. Ah, well. I burned plenty of calories
/Penny at the
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mikesmom1983 wrote: »Larisa, so you know what I'm talking about. They give such conflicting messages. I'm too old to be playing these games, either you want to go out with me or you don't, simple.
Those of you who have had success with online dating, what were your experiences?
Chris in MA
I do indeed. Funny thing is, I don't think they think they're playing games.
I tried online dating very briefly. I got a whole slew of, "I like your picture. Write me back."
Um, yeah...of course you did; I posted the good ones. Thanks for letting me know you're unwilling to put in any effort.
I'm thinking online dating isn't quite for me.
Larisa in Seattle0 -
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Janetr OKC0 -
Another pic!
Each child has had a comforter since birth. Obviously Beatrice's is a monkey! ! The eldest has an elephant (Nellie) and my granddaughter has a rabbit (Rabbit) to which she is surgically attached!
My DDIL 's child rearing method, which has worked perfectly, is to give them a cloth comforter, feed them a lot and put them to bed a lot. Strict routine. They are excellent sleepers!
Can't wait for my cuddles!
Heather UK0 -
New here too !! Thanks0
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mikesmom1983 wrote: »MightyLolo wrote: »mikesmom1983 wrote: »
No date tonight, he never called like he said he would to finalize plans. What is it about men in their 50's???!!!
They're men! :laugh:
I finally went out with a man who'd been asking me for a year; by our second date, he had designed our dream home in his head...we made plans for a few days later, but he never finalized. I still get texts from him; he still acts interested, but he hasn't asked me out again. Who knows?
Your dog is adorable BTW
Larisa in Seattle
Larisa, so you know what I'm talking about. They give such conflicting messages. I'm too old to be playing these games, either you want to go out with me or you don't, simple. Times a wastin' and I'm not getting any younger!!
I'm trying online dating, they express interest, they wink, or send an email and I'll respond, and then POOF! they're gone. I love my dog but he's not an ideal date!
Those of you who have had success with online dating, what were your experiences? I agree Heather, if they're not reliable in the beginning, they are not for me because they are not going to change. How many frogs did you have to kiss before you met your DH?
Chris in MA
I'm not going to begin to tell you all my horror stories with online dating, oh my goodness. Some fun ones too, but fewer. I met a guy in Dallas talked to him for 3 months, I finally went to meet him. He met my kids and grandkids, we all liked each other. He eventually proposed to me. I moved to Dallas, left my condo in So. Calif. (which I eventualy sold) sold all my furniture and brought just a few treasures with me. I was there about 3-4 months when I knew it was not what I thot it was. I moved out after 7 months. Bedroom furniture only, a TV and one recliner chair, not even a toaster or a coffee pot. But I survived. Then I met Jack, he was polite and nice and funny and called me every single night while he was flying all over the world, unless he was in a remote place with no service or overseas where it was to expensive. We talked for several weeks and I finally agreed to go out with him. We have been together ever since. Moved in together in about 6 months and married a year later. The best thing that has ever happened to me, besides my girls. He's my third husband and LAST It happens. There are several of us here who met our husbands online.
Janetr OKC0 -
Penny - wow, I'm impressed. I don't think I could do that once, let alone three times.
Janetr OKC0 -
Chris - It's a numbers game. You are ruling people out rather than in. Next! Next!
You are watching to see if they shape up on every level. I must have seen around a hundred men for a cup of coffee. Any little niggling doubts and OUT! Never develop a relationship on line - you need to see them as soon as possible and for the least commitment of time and money. You can tell a lot on the phone - I used to have a set of questions to ask them. One of the most important and revealing things is how they get on with their exes, children, family members etc.
You are in control. Just keep moving on and through them.
I knew DH was a good guy from the start. Transparent, reliable, kind, thoughtful, generous and with integrity. It helped that he had been in a committed and loving relationship for 25 years. She had died of cancer.
Good luck! As I say, it is a numbers game.0 -
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Mary from Minnesota0 -
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only at page 42 - but got to jet!
Hi gals,
I’m in the tree lover group!!! But trees Penny’s size would let you have more in a yard than I can have here in CA - my yard is the traditional ¼ acre (or a bit smaller) and I have a Japanese maple, a regular sugar maple (that doesn’t sugar in this climate), a red oak, a CA sycamore, a pomegranate, a lemon and a peach….. I’d have more if I could figure out where! LOL
KJL – we have issue with the city “owning” parts of our yards too, it is legally an easement, which means you own it you pay taxes on it and you maintain it, but the city can do anything they want with or to it if it is for the greater good…. Drives me a bit batty, but no politics here…just the facts jack.
So my dog is other dog aggressive and while I am super careful about him – yard is double fenced and he is walked early on a full harness – I did get a trainer to teach me how to break up a dog fight…or specifically how to control my dog - so you might need someone else to grab the other dog… you do NOT go for head or face as they might bite you (in the heat of the moment) but you grab the hip area and lift the back feet off the ground (if you can) and if it is a male dog grab its penis (balls if it is intact) and squeeze that will completely distract them and you can then pull the other dog away. I have needed to do this once when an un-leased dog came at Levi, and it works! He is not interested in his penis being squeezed. I have heard pepper spray will work too, but no personal experience
Wendy – welcome – thanks for the great introduction to you! You have your hands full, but sound like you are handling it with grace.
Bibia – planning! Fit in as many steps as you can, get your friends to walk with you – even if it is around the block, and look ahead at the menus of places on line to make good choices…
Pip - Hip Hip Hooray for Kirby on the running and what is that man crazy for mowing in the rain!!! LOLOLOL
Chris – sorry to hear you got stood up! Jake is adorable!
Gayle – sending good thoughts!!!
Heather – Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kim from N. California
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what a day this has been~ I forgot I was supposed to be at work at 9 instead of 10:30 when I got there.. then I get home and Tom says I see you have an appt at Yale~ on August 11th, I said yes that is where the new nephrologist is.. and he gave me the face.. I said what the h$ll do you want me to do? I changed because of the insurance, and now it might be more down there, but I said sorry can't live without my kidneys..0
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Happy Monday and I have over 400 posts since last Thursday. We are a very active group. I will do my best to get caught up. I had a nice weekend, we went to the zoo on Saturday with the kids and grandkids. I am not happy about the way the adults acted. Grandkids were great. Just know trying to get them all in the same place will not happen again anytime soon. I did get over 12000 steps in that day. Legs can still feel it. Got some interesting news when I got to work this morning. Our "boss" put out a message that she is stepping down. I think it was not her idea. So be interesting to see what happens now.
Mary--Shep is growing up so fast and he does look so happy.
Well I am to the top of page 37 so will sign off for tonight and be back tomorrow. Not alot to say just feeling punk.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE0 -
Larisa and Chris - I've been on the online dating sites since October, I guess. I have actually been out with four guys.
One of the things I'm picky about is that they have to live close to me. I had a guy get upset when I didn't want to date him when he lived 80 miles away. I calmly explained to him that I needed someone close enough to give me a hug after a bad day or to spontaneously go for a walk on an unexpected gorgeous day. Living nearly two hours away is not going to allow that. (I'm not looking to get married, so I want someone close enough to see when I want to.)
I have no clue if this will all work out, but I've just made up my mind to enjoy it. I don't NEED a man in my life so I can choose to be picky about when and if I let someone in. Believe it or not, I've had more than one guy tell me that I'm too smart for him. Granted, I'd rather know that up front, but it still kinda stung. I've had guys who have "ghosted" me--messaging, texting, etc. then POOF! The one guy who pursued me that I wasn't interested in seeing again, I told him that that it wasn't going to work (gently, of course).
I'm seeing someone now who has expressed an interest in seeing where our relationship will go. We've talked about what is crucial to us in a relationship (integrity, honesty, trust) and we really enjoy talking to each other and lose track of time. So, we'll see! The biggest negative for me is that he has an 11-year-old daughter. I'm kinda done raising kids! But she keeps him youthful.
I don't have any advice other than be picky and don't look "beneath" you. BTW, if you haven't done it already, make a list of ten things (character traits) that you want in a man and measure each guy up to those standards.
Carol in NC0 -
SugarDarlin1959 wrote: »Noticed that it seemed no one was using their real names as their user names so I decided to change my username to SugarDarlin1959. It just feels nice to fit in Sorry for any confusion.
We all have weird names for our user names but we all try to end our threads with our real name and where we are from (It's easier to remember a Betty from Baltimore, than a Bet62tiLoser...right? lol
Becca
in Oregon
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Heather, isn't Beatrice a royal name?
Janetr, I was there when both of my grand daughters were born. Being the generation we are and when we were having our babies, they were just starting to have husbands in the delivery room, I was shocked when Christina wanted me there. Maybe it's just me but I thought the birth process is an intimate affair. So i told her that I would be there to help her and Paul during labor. But when it came to delivery, it was just natural that I stayed. And am I glad. It was such an experience, no words to describe watching your daughter have a child. When Ellie was born, she was well into labor while I was driving and I got there just as she started pushing.
Just got back from dentist. A tooth I have a crown on is involved in the pain and the one adjoining. The blister I have above it is an absess, Charlie warned me a good while ago and I even think some of you did. Then the discomfort in my lower jaw is due to me getting food between my teeth and making the whole jaw inflamed. So I see a guy Thursday to see if it is another root canal or maybe even 2 root canals. It's only money and we can't take it with us. Charlie had teeth removed instead of root canals so he had many gaps in his mouth for many years and had to have a partial.
Joyce, Indiana0 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »Mikesmom - my lovely DH was 57 when I met him and UTTERLY reliable re dates, ringing when he said he would etc. That was one of my criteria. Can't be doing with guys who mess you about. :noway:
Re the music thing. I left my health club because they played ambient music everywhere in the building. Plus, music in the gym, in the YOGA class :noway: , and far too loud in the pool for the aqua aerobics. What is wrong with peace and quiet? Thank goodness my yoga teacher doesn't play music, except sometimes a bit at the end for a relaxation exercise. :ohwell:
Yesterday I was really proud of myself for putting up with ghastly loud music at the pub. A couple of years ago I would have had a panic attack and had to leave. I still don't like it, but I was OK. I just find it so sad that we are assailed on all sides by music we haven't chosen and would not have in our house. To me it is an assault. As bad as a physical assault. But somehow losing weight has helped me feel more in control of my life and I can deal with it better. I still cannot understand why people think THEIR choice of c#×p music should be an acceptable choice to accompany a meal. Usually I am successful in getting them to turn it down, and generally choose to go to places that don't have music. Yesterday I didn't feel it was my place to do so and also I wanted to test myself to put up with it. But why should I ? These days people can stick any nonsense in their ears if they want to and not annoy other people.
I survived. I managed. That is a major achievement for me.
Heather UK
I agree with you on peoples musical assault on one another. My husband says there are people that will position their musical devices at the gym, then walk away from them to lift weights somewhere else... So he is listening to his Itunes (recorded old radio broadcasting shows) and he can't hear what the actors are saying. He has no qualms about saying they need to either take it with them and put their earbuds in, or turn the things off.
My pet peeve is when people step into the hot tub in the pool area, they turn on the bubbles without having the courtesy to ask if the people already IN the tub if they wish them. Then they stay in about 2 minutes and leave. I am not much of a bubble person, so I tell them in a semi-annoyed tone to please turn them off when they are stepping out.
Becca
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Kim - I love the way you explained how to get an aggressive dog off your dog. I would have done something completely different.
Vicki - I am shocked at how fast Shep has grown. I'm glad you enjoyed the zoo. It's hard to miss here because we are so chatty!
Carol NC- great online dating advice!
Mary from Minnesota0 -
Off and on rain/hail/sun today. Living on the coast is a cornucopia of weather systems! Had to call the manager because our oven top burner element had a malfunction and a part of the burner got so hot that it "welded" to the tea pot! I would've freaked out if I had been the one to see it, so I am glad my husband handled it! Already got a new heating element.
I have been playing with my military medical insurance co. (Tricare) because I am trying to see a dermatologist in my area. So my primary doctors office tried to get a authorization to see one they know. I had to call Tricare and request them as my specialist. They had no record of that doctor. So I called left message at my primary docs office about that. Then I rec'd in the mail a authorization of approval letter for a doc near me. Cool, I thought and called that office getting a new patient appointment. They had no doctor by that name. Aaack! So I called Tricare and told them that, and got a listing of some doctors within my treatment area. Some were at the same address as the authorization of approval doc....and that office stated they had no dermatologist doctors. So I knew Tricare's doctors listings are so un-maintained. Well I still had one doctor that Tricare gave me, so I left a message. The answering machine stated their name was Silver Falls Dermatology. That is the same medical office that the FIRST doctor from my primary doctor was at! Sheeeesh! Over the years I have done so much phone work dealing with stuff like incorrect codes, etc, that I think I could be a Coding Assistant! All I know is that I hope that the doctors office I have left a message with is taking new patients!
Thanks for letting me rant.
carry on and CONQUER
Becca
Oregon0 -
Hi! I'm new to the group! I am on Weight Watchers and have lost 30 lbs so far. I have 22 lbs to go to reach my goal. I have gained the past three weeks and it is time to get serious again!
I was married for 26 years to my high school sweetheart until he died of cancer in 2009. I met my current husband on Christian Mingle in 2014. We talked for a couple of months on the phone before we met in person. By the time we met, we already had a spiritual connection. Of course, there were quite a few that were less than desirable. I was very choosy about who I even talked to on the phone much less agreed to meet in person. I was looking more for a friend rather than a husband but I found the perfect man for me. I have been blessed with two wonderful husbands. Don't settle! The perfect man is out there!
Janet from Alabama0 -
Oh my goodness! I just realized that I posted under my husband's account! My next post will be from jgrebidue! Silly me!0
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Becca - just wait until you are on Medicare and go to Tricare for Life. Double trouble.
Janetr OKC0 -
Heather: Congratulations on the birth of Beatrice! :flowerforyou:
Becca: I hope you're able to navigate your way through the tri-care system and get the doctor you need.
I enjoyed yoga this morning . One of my favorite instructors was there. :bigsmile: Mondays we usually have someone who isn't my favorite instructor. She is a nice person, but not actually into yoga so her class feels like calisthenics instead of yoga.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon0 -
janetr7476 wrote: »Becca - just wait until you are on Medicare and go to Tricare for Life. Double trouble.
Janetr OKC
My husband is on Medicade #1 and Tricare for Life as secondary insurance. Son and I are on Tricare regular.
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Oh my goodness! I just realized that I posted under my husband's account! My next post will be from jgrebidue! Silly me!
heehee....sometimes I forget to log out completely and my husband is always threatening to post raunchy things on my account. If I suddenly do a Jekyll/Hyde mental thing...its just HIM!!
Becca
Oregon0 -
I did online dating after my divorce and met a few what I would consider decent guys. Most were only out for one thing. Dated one for awhile he was very nice and I enjoyed my time with him with the exception of his daughter and grand daughter. They lived with him and his daughter did nothing including not taking care of her daughter. His grand daughter was always getting in trouble at school (1st grade) It was always the excuse that the teacher or kids were the problem. When I tried to discussing it with him he made up every excuse in the world. Realized it would probably always be an issue.
What I learned is as we get older we come with more baggage and issues. Seems to make thing harder. For me my exhusband abandoned me out of nowhere. Got in his truck one day said nothing and I had no idea where he was for several days. Left me to pay all the bills and try and figure out where he went and why he left. Only answer for him leaving is he thought he should be happier than he was. We did not argue about stuff so was blind sided always talked things out and did everything together. My major issue is ABANDONMENT. Always waiting for them to leave.
Anne from Wisconsin0
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