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Am I the only person who was morbidly obese and didn't stress out the cost of health care? Maybe because I don't go to the doctor unless I'm actually sick and even then it's pretty desperate. Hells, I feel guilty going in for my annual swab job.
No, I don't think you are. I think a lot of people are purposefully overestimating for the sake of argument and justification. Does being obese increase your risk of disease? Yes, absolutely. But I think it is equally wrong to assume that the obese all are uninsured or not paying for their own medical expenses. Are there some? Of course, and no one is saying otherwise.
Uh...insured medical care isn't free. It's paid for by all of the insureds.7 -
midwesterner85 wrote: »mommarnurse wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »My question to those who say people should take responsibility for themselves, is, "what business is it of yours?"
Why does it matter to you what someone else does or doesn't do? How does it concern you?
Like others have said above, "mind your own business".
Kind of ironic that this is a web site mostly about getting healthier. Try a little compassion for people that have not found this site, or can not make it work for them. Walk a mile in their shoes. Cuz I have been there, done that, lost a lot of weight and have kept it off for over 2 years, thanks to MFP, my fitbit, and a lot of compassionate, helpful people here.
Look up how much obesity costs in healthcare dollars.
Research the effect on not just mortality but possibly more importantly, morbidity. That is to say - decreased quality of life. It all effects society in so many ways just like any other disease. Disability alone that is created by obesity draws a whole heck of a lot of money from Social Security/Disability.
It clogs up the hospitals and first responders also.
IT IS 100% PREVENTABLE in every single case just as it is cigarette smoking. Think of the huge campaigns that were totally accepted by society on anti-tobacco. I'm all for an anti-obesity campaign alike.
I also busted my *kitten* to lose almost 100 lbs and I did it on my own because of some deep-rooted self-drive. No medication, no surgery. The way that taught me to never get obese again and I accept that I have that power to choose. But it was preventable in the first place if I understood and respected the principle of Calorie input/output.
Not everybody is like you. This might be hard for you to understand since it doesn't apply to you personally: For some of us, becoming overweight was not preventable. Keep that in mind. Unless you personally know that the person you are judging was able to prevent becoming overweight, don't judge.
It is preventable.that does not mean it is the obese persons fault. I did not say nor imply that. A child is not responsible for their reasons of becoming obese - their parents are. That is the preventable part.2 -
MommyL2015 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »jofjltncb6 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »mommarnurse wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »My question to those who say people should take responsibility for themselves, is, "what business is it of yours?"
Why does it matter to you what someone else does or doesn't do? How does it concern you?
Like others have said above, "mind your own business".
Kind of ironic that this is a web site mostly about getting healthier. Try a little compassion for people that have not found this site, or can not make it work for them. Walk a mile in their shoes. Cuz I have been there, done that, lost a lot of weight and have kept it off for over 2 years, thanks to MFP, my fitbit, and a lot of compassionate, helpful people here.
Look up how much obesity costs in healthcare dollars.
Research the effect on not just mortality but possibly more importantly, morbidity. That is to say - decreased quality of life. It all effects society in so many ways just like any other disease. Disability alone that is created by obesity draws a whole heck of a lot of money from Social Security/Disability.
It clogs up the hospitals and first responders also.
IT IS 100% PREVENTABLE in every single case just as it is cigarette smoking. Think of the huge campaigns that were totally accepted by society on anti-tobacco. I'm all for an anti-obesity campaign alike.
I also busted my *kitten* to lose almost 100 lbs and I did it on my own because of some deep-rooted self-drive. No medication, no surgery. The way that taught me to never get obese again and I accept that I have that power to choose. But it was preventable in the first place if I understood and respected the principle of Calorie input/output.
Not everybody is like you. This might be hard for you to understand since it doesn't apply to you personally: For some of us, becoming overweight was not preventable. Keep that in mind. Unless you personally know that the person you are judging was able to prevent becoming overweight, don't judge.
Wait.
Time out.
How is becoming overweight not preventable? I can't even think of an extreme example...and I'm usually very creative at coming up with extreme examples.
When I was 9 years old, less than 1 month before I turned 10, I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. At that time, treatment methods were not as advanced as they are today. At the time, I was underweight about 10 lbs. to where I should have been based on height. As a new type 1, the CDE put together a plan based on the exchange diet (each meal was consistent for the same number of each food type - grains, dairy, fruit, etc.). Every day for each meal and snacks, I had the same number of each exchange type. So if I had 2 fruit exchanges for dinner, for example, that was true every single dinner of every single day. Most new type 1's gain weight because once diagnosed and treated, they stop losing weight rapidly from DKA and regain some of the weight lost from that issue. In my case, I also gained weight because of the diet plan I was put on. In the first month, I gained 20 lbs. The rate of gain slowed down, but I had doubled my weight in the first year and continued to gain weight, just at a slower pace over time up until about age 20.
In today's world, the treatment is different, including diet plans. There are no stringent diet plans and nobody is put on a static insulin dose at a set time. We now calculate insulin to match what we eat rather than eating the same things at the same times every single day and taking the same amount of insulin at the same times. We have flexibility now.
I couldn't help becoming fat. Now that treatment methods have changed enough to allow me the flexibility to lose weight. 10-15 years ago, I could not help being fat. It is very easy to pretend that everyone can avoid being fat, but what is easy isn't automatically right. Technically, I could have avoided getting fat by taking bigger medical risks and not following medical professional's directions. I also might not have lived to tell about it... not a good compromise.
Just to raise your anecdote with one from me, my maternal grandfather was also diagnosed with T1 as a child. He was never overweight, and for most of his life, was very healthy and active and managed it well. Ultimately, it did kill him. He died when he was in his late 60s from mismanaging it and he had lost his legs. He was not overweight when he died, if anything, he was underweight. I was 12 when he passed away and I am now 44. Being diagnosed as a child with T1 diabetes is not a mandatory ticket to obesity at all.
Type one is most definitely not the same. That type is not based on being obese.1 -
coreyreichle wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »mommarnurse wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »My question to those who say people should take responsibility for themselves, is, "what business is it of yours?"
Why does it matter to you what someone else does or doesn't do? How does it concern you?
Like others have said above, "mind your own business".
Kind of ironic that this is a web site mostly about getting healthier. Try a little compassion for people that have not found this site, or can not make it work for them. Walk a mile in their shoes. Cuz I have been there, done that, lost a lot of weight and have kept it off for over 2 years, thanks to MFP, my fitbit, and a lot of compassionate, helpful people here.
Look up how much obesity costs in healthcare dollars.
Research the effect on not just mortality but possibly more importantly, morbidity. That is to say - decreased quality of life. It all effects society in so many ways just like any other disease. Disability alone that is created by obesity draws a whole heck of a lot of money from Social Security/Disability.
It clogs up the hospitals and first responders also.
IT IS 100% PREVENTABLE in every single case just as it is cigarette smoking. Think of the huge campaigns that were totally accepted by society on anti-tobacco. I'm all for an anti-obesity campaign alike.
I also busted my *kitten* to lose almost 100 lbs and I did it on my own because of some deep-rooted self-drive. No medication, no surgery. The way that taught me to never get obese again and I accept that I have that power to choose. But it was preventable in the first place if I understood and respected the principle of Calorie input/output.
Not everybody is like you. This might be hard for you to understand since it doesn't apply to you personally: For some of us, becoming overweight was not preventable. Keep that in mind. Unless you personally know that the person you are judging was able to prevent becoming overweight, don't judge.
Becoming overweight might not have been preventable (Think childhood obesity) by the individual, but staying that way as an adult is.
Yep. And we are talking about fat acceptance & making (keeping?) obesity socially acceptable.2 -
mommarnurse wrote: »MommyL2015 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »jofjltncb6 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »mommarnurse wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »My question to those who say people should take responsibility for themselves, is, "what business is it of yours?"
Why does it matter to you what someone else does or doesn't do? How does it concern you?
Like others have said above, "mind your own business".
Kind of ironic that this is a web site mostly about getting healthier. Try a little compassion for people that have not found this site, or can not make it work for them. Walk a mile in their shoes. Cuz I have been there, done that, lost a lot of weight and have kept it off for over 2 years, thanks to MFP, my fitbit, and a lot of compassionate, helpful people here.
Look up how much obesity costs in healthcare dollars.
Research the effect on not just mortality but possibly more importantly, morbidity. That is to say - decreased quality of life. It all effects society in so many ways just like any other disease. Disability alone that is created by obesity draws a whole heck of a lot of money from Social Security/Disability.
It clogs up the hospitals and first responders also.
IT IS 100% PREVENTABLE in every single case just as it is cigarette smoking. Think of the huge campaigns that were totally accepted by society on anti-tobacco. I'm all for an anti-obesity campaign alike.
I also busted my *kitten* to lose almost 100 lbs and I did it on my own because of some deep-rooted self-drive. No medication, no surgery. The way that taught me to never get obese again and I accept that I have that power to choose. But it was preventable in the first place if I understood and respected the principle of Calorie input/output.
Not everybody is like you. This might be hard for you to understand since it doesn't apply to you personally: For some of us, becoming overweight was not preventable. Keep that in mind. Unless you personally know that the person you are judging was able to prevent becoming overweight, don't judge.
Wait.
Time out.
How is becoming overweight not preventable? I can't even think of an extreme example...and I'm usually very creative at coming up with extreme examples.
When I was 9 years old, less than 1 month before I turned 10, I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. At that time, treatment methods were not as advanced as they are today. At the time, I was underweight about 10 lbs. to where I should have been based on height. As a new type 1, the CDE put together a plan based on the exchange diet (each meal was consistent for the same number of each food type - grains, dairy, fruit, etc.). Every day for each meal and snacks, I had the same number of each exchange type. So if I had 2 fruit exchanges for dinner, for example, that was true every single dinner of every single day. Most new type 1's gain weight because once diagnosed and treated, they stop losing weight rapidly from DKA and regain some of the weight lost from that issue. In my case, I also gained weight because of the diet plan I was put on. In the first month, I gained 20 lbs. The rate of gain slowed down, but I had doubled my weight in the first year and continued to gain weight, just at a slower pace over time up until about age 20.
In today's world, the treatment is different, including diet plans. There are no stringent diet plans and nobody is put on a static insulin dose at a set time. We now calculate insulin to match what we eat rather than eating the same things at the same times every single day and taking the same amount of insulin at the same times. We have flexibility now.
I couldn't help becoming fat. Now that treatment methods have changed enough to allow me the flexibility to lose weight. 10-15 years ago, I could not help being fat. It is very easy to pretend that everyone can avoid being fat, but what is easy isn't automatically right. Technically, I could have avoided getting fat by taking bigger medical risks and not following medical professional's directions. I also might not have lived to tell about it... not a good compromise.
Just to raise your anecdote with one from me, my maternal grandfather was also diagnosed with T1 as a child. He was never overweight, and for most of his life, was very healthy and active and managed it well. Ultimately, it did kill him. He died when he was in his late 60s from mismanaging it and he had lost his legs. He was not overweight when he died, if anything, he was underweight. I was 12 when he passed away and I am now 44. Being diagnosed as a child with T1 diabetes is not a mandatory ticket to obesity at all.
Type one is most definitely not the same. That type is not based on being obese.
Type 1 is not caused by obesity like type 2 often is, but old treatment methods for type 1 led to rapid weight gain.0 -
midwesterner85 wrote: »mommarnurse wrote: »MommyL2015 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »jofjltncb6 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »mommarnurse wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »My question to those who say people should take responsibility for themselves, is, "what business is it of yours?"
Why does it matter to you what someone else does or doesn't do? How does it concern you?
Like others have said above, "mind your own business".
Kind of ironic that this is a web site mostly about getting healthier. Try a little compassion for people that have not found this site, or can not make it work for them. Walk a mile in their shoes. Cuz I have been there, done that, lost a lot of weight and have kept it off for over 2 years, thanks to MFP, my fitbit, and a lot of compassionate, helpful people here.
Look up how much obesity costs in healthcare dollars.
Research the effect on not just mortality but possibly more importantly, morbidity. That is to say - decreased quality of life. It all effects society in so many ways just like any other disease. Disability alone that is created by obesity draws a whole heck of a lot of money from Social Security/Disability.
It clogs up the hospitals and first responders also.
IT IS 100% PREVENTABLE in every single case just as it is cigarette smoking. Think of the huge campaigns that were totally accepted by society on anti-tobacco. I'm all for an anti-obesity campaign alike.
I also busted my *kitten* to lose almost 100 lbs and I did it on my own because of some deep-rooted self-drive. No medication, no surgery. The way that taught me to never get obese again and I accept that I have that power to choose. But it was preventable in the first place if I understood and respected the principle of Calorie input/output.
Not everybody is like you. This might be hard for you to understand since it doesn't apply to you personally: For some of us, becoming overweight was not preventable. Keep that in mind. Unless you personally know that the person you are judging was able to prevent becoming overweight, don't judge.
Wait.
Time out.
How is becoming overweight not preventable? I can't even think of an extreme example...and I'm usually very creative at coming up with extreme examples.
When I was 9 years old, less than 1 month before I turned 10, I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. At that time, treatment methods were not as advanced as they are today. At the time, I was underweight about 10 lbs. to where I should have been based on height. As a new type 1, the CDE put together a plan based on the exchange diet (each meal was consistent for the same number of each food type - grains, dairy, fruit, etc.). Every day for each meal and snacks, I had the same number of each exchange type. So if I had 2 fruit exchanges for dinner, for example, that was true every single dinner of every single day. Most new type 1's gain weight because once diagnosed and treated, they stop losing weight rapidly from DKA and regain some of the weight lost from that issue. In my case, I also gained weight because of the diet plan I was put on. In the first month, I gained 20 lbs. The rate of gain slowed down, but I had doubled my weight in the first year and continued to gain weight, just at a slower pace over time up until about age 20.
In today's world, the treatment is different, including diet plans. There are no stringent diet plans and nobody is put on a static insulin dose at a set time. We now calculate insulin to match what we eat rather than eating the same things at the same times every single day and taking the same amount of insulin at the same times. We have flexibility now.
I couldn't help becoming fat. Now that treatment methods have changed enough to allow me the flexibility to lose weight. 10-15 years ago, I could not help being fat. It is very easy to pretend that everyone can avoid being fat, but what is easy isn't automatically right. Technically, I could have avoided getting fat by taking bigger medical risks and not following medical professional's directions. I also might not have lived to tell about it... not a good compromise.
Just to raise your anecdote with one from me, my maternal grandfather was also diagnosed with T1 as a child. He was never overweight, and for most of his life, was very healthy and active and managed it well. Ultimately, it did kill him. He died when he was in his late 60s from mismanaging it and he had lost his legs. He was not overweight when he died, if anything, he was underweight. I was 12 when he passed away and I am now 44. Being diagnosed as a child with T1 diabetes is not a mandatory ticket to obesity at all.
Type one is most definitely not the same. That type is not based on being obese.
Type 1 is not caused by obesity like type 2 often is, but old treatment methods for type 1 led to rapid weight gain.
These are even more recent... published after weight gain became less common with type 1 diabetics:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16776747
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3129711/0 -
I don't think the author is trying to promote fat-shaming I just think she's saying "let's get real" and stop trying to normalize obesity. As she points out, you wouldn't try to normalize anorexia so why this pretense with the other extreme? Both are detrimental to one's health. Furthermore, I've yet to hear of too many formerly obese people who have shed weight and become fit who are saddened by their new image or think back on their obese lifestyle with fondness, most probably with dread.9
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midwesterner85 wrote: »MommyL2015 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »jofjltncb6 wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »mommarnurse wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »My question to those who say people should take responsibility for themselves, is, "what business is it of yours?"
Why does it matter to you what someone else does or doesn't do? How does it concern you?
Like others have said above, "mind your own business".
Kind of ironic that this is a web site mostly about getting healthier. Try a little compassion for people that have not found this site, or can not make it work for them. Walk a mile in their shoes. Cuz I have been there, done that, lost a lot of weight and have kept it off for over 2 years, thanks to MFP, my fitbit, and a lot of compassionate, helpful people here.
Look up how much obesity costs in healthcare dollars.
Research the effect on not just mortality but possibly more importantly, morbidity. That is to say - decreased quality of life. It all effects society in so many ways just like any other disease. Disability alone that is created by obesity draws a whole heck of a lot of money from Social Security/Disability.
It clogs up the hospitals and first responders also.
IT IS 100% PREVENTABLE in every single case just as it is cigarette smoking. Think of the huge campaigns that were totally accepted by society on anti-tobacco. I'm all for an anti-obesity campaign alike.
I also busted my *kitten* to lose almost 100 lbs and I did it on my own because of some deep-rooted self-drive. No medication, no surgery. The way that taught me to never get obese again and I accept that I have that power to choose. But it was preventable in the first place if I understood and respected the principle of Calorie input/output.
Not everybody is like you. This might be hard for you to understand since it doesn't apply to you personally: For some of us, becoming overweight was not preventable. Keep that in mind. Unless you personally know that the person you are judging was able to prevent becoming overweight, don't judge.
Wait.
Time out.
How is becoming overweight not preventable? I can't even think of an extreme example...and I'm usually very creative at coming up with extreme examples.
When I was 9 years old, less than 1 month before I turned 10, I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. At that time, treatment methods were not as advanced as they are today. At the time, I was underweight about 10 lbs. to where I should have been based on height. As a new type 1, the CDE put together a plan based on the exchange diet (each meal was consistent for the same number of each food type - grains, dairy, fruit, etc.). Every day for each meal and snacks, I had the same number of each exchange type. So if I had 2 fruit exchanges for dinner, for example, that was true every single dinner of every single day. Most new type 1's gain weight because once diagnosed and treated, they stop losing weight rapidly from DKA and regain some of the weight lost from that issue. In my case, I also gained weight because of the diet plan I was put on. In the first month, I gained 20 lbs. The rate of gain slowed down, but I had doubled my weight in the first year and continued to gain weight, just at a slower pace over time up until about age 20.
In today's world, the treatment is different, including diet plans. There are no stringent diet plans and nobody is put on a static insulin dose at a set time. We now calculate insulin to match what we eat rather than eating the same things at the same times every single day and taking the same amount of insulin at the same times. We have flexibility now.
I couldn't help becoming fat. Now that treatment methods have changed enough to allow me the flexibility to lose weight. 10-15 years ago, I could not help being fat. It is very easy to pretend that everyone can avoid being fat, but what is easy isn't automatically right. Technically, I could have avoided getting fat by taking bigger medical risks and not following medical professional's directions. I also might not have lived to tell about it... not a good compromise.
Just to raise your anecdote with one from me, my maternal grandfather was also diagnosed with T1 as a child. He was never overweight, and for most of his life, was very healthy and active and managed it well. Ultimately, it did kill him. He died when he was in his late 60s from mismanaging it and he had lost his legs. He was not overweight when he died, if anything, he was underweight. I was 12 when he passed away and I am now 44. Being diagnosed as a child with T1 diabetes is not a mandatory ticket to obesity at all.
Good for him and bravo to you for remembering whether your grandfather was overweight as a child and into his adult life. I honestly don't even remember what any of my grandparents looked like when they were my age because I wasn't even born until they were much older (in fact, one of my grandparents died before I was even born).
I'm lucky enough to have photos of my family.2 -
jofjltncb6 wrote: »Am I the only person who was morbidly obese and didn't stress out the cost of health care? Maybe because I don't go to the doctor unless I'm actually sick and even then it's pretty desperate. Hells, I feel guilty going in for my annual swab job.
No, I don't think you are. I think a lot of people are purposefully overestimating for the sake of argument and justification. Does being obese increase your risk of disease? Yes, absolutely. But I think it is equally wrong to assume that the obese all are uninsured or not paying for their own medical expenses. Are there some? Of course, and no one is saying otherwise.
Uh...insured medical care isn't free. It's paid for by all of the insureds.
I didn't say it was free?
What I'm saying is that the price you pay for insurance is not determined by anyone else's health but your own, so I think it's a bit disingenuous to act like every person who is obese is costing us all money. If they're on Medicare/Medicaid in the US, then yes, I guess you can make that argument, but I'm going to guess unhealthy people of all size are using these programs.
It also looks like insurance companies are leaning towards having risky people pay more for insurance since they will be more likely to use it. I don't have a problem with this.0 -
coreyreichle wrote: »Am I the only person who was morbidly obese and didn't stress out the cost of health care? Maybe because I don't go to the doctor unless I'm actually sick and even then it's pretty desperate. Hells, I feel guilty going in for my annual swab job.
You're one of the few then. However, as age progresses, that won't continue. How long do you think knees last with double their design load?
It's that most people are arguing that fat people are costing them so much money paying for the fat person's health care which seems to be this stereotype that fat people will always have mobility issues because they're fat. I had no physical problems due to me being fat. Curious if I was the "special snowflake".
I'd say you probably are. Pay attention to people in the electric scooters when you're at the supercenter, theme park, etc. If they are under 70 they are most likely obese (not including the ones that have a big cast on a leg)5 -
jofjltncb6 wrote: »Am I the only person who was morbidly obese and didn't stress out the cost of health care? Maybe because I don't go to the doctor unless I'm actually sick and even then it's pretty desperate. Hells, I feel guilty going in for my annual swab job.
No, I don't think you are. I think a lot of people are purposefully overestimating for the sake of argument and justification. Does being obese increase your risk of disease? Yes, absolutely. But I think it is equally wrong to assume that the obese all are uninsured or not paying for their own medical expenses. Are there some? Of course, and no one is saying otherwise.
Uh...insured medical care isn't free. It's paid for by all of the insureds.
I didn't say it was free?
What I'm saying is that the price you pay for insurance is not determined by anyone else's health but your own, so I think it's a bit disingenuous to act like every person who is obese is costing us all money. If they're on Medicare/Medicaid in the US, then yes, I guess you can make that argument, but I'm going to guess unhealthy people of all size are using these programs.
It also looks like insurance companies are leaning towards having risky people pay more for insurance since they will be more likely to use it. I don't have a problem with this.
You may want to read up on how insurance works. Unless you are on a Lloyds of London type thing, you are a member of a group plan. The premium is based on the expected healthcare costs of the group. If members of the group start to develop "bad habits", causing costs to rise, premiums for the group will rise, and/or there will be a surcharge for those that engage in the "bad habit, smoking or excess weight for example. You will pay a higher premium for your insurance even if you did nothing or even improved your health status.
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jofjltncb6 wrote: »Am I the only person who was morbidly obese and didn't stress out the cost of health care? Maybe because I don't go to the doctor unless I'm actually sick and even then it's pretty desperate. Hells, I feel guilty going in for my annual swab job.
No, I don't think you are. I think a lot of people are purposefully overestimating for the sake of argument and justification. Does being obese increase your risk of disease? Yes, absolutely. But I think it is equally wrong to assume that the obese all are uninsured or not paying for their own medical expenses. Are there some? Of course, and no one is saying otherwise.
Uh...insured medical care isn't free. It's paid for by all of the insureds.
I didn't say it was free?
What I'm saying is that the price you pay for insurance is not determined by anyone else's health but your own, so I think it's a bit disingenuous to act like every person who is obese is costing us all money. If they're on Medicare/Medicaid in the US, then yes, I guess you can make that argument, but I'm going to guess unhealthy people of all size are using these programs.
It also looks like insurance companies are leaning towards having risky people pay more for insurance since they will be more likely to use it. I don't have a problem with this.
That's not how group health insurance works and if you have insurance through your job, it's group health insurance. Pricing is based on the group risk so yes, the higher risk folks are subsidized by the lower risk folks.2 -
I dont think fat shaming is usefull in any way. What is usefull is calling the fat acceptance movement a very harmful negative influence and downright idiotic. The reason i say this is because i believe 99% of people have the capacity to change their situation. If you ask someone who is fat if they would rather be fat or a healthy weight what do you think they would say? Unless they are totally delusional they would say a healthy weight. So knowing that this is true in almost all cases why would anyone accept that being fat is ok (with the exception of those who have serious diseases for which there is no treatment).
Having lost a lot of weight myself i can say that i was stupid and did not see the fundamental truth which i see now. The truth as i see it now is that weight loss is easy. Staying fat is hard because when you are that heavy everything sucks 24/7. Well atleast it did for me. So if you recognize that what you are doing is actually much more difficult than what you are not doing ie. Getting up and going to the gym etc...then it becomes very easy.
Working out 1 or 2 hours a day and taking an hour to prepare healthier food is simple compared to constant suffering. You must ask yourself do i want to suffer or do i want to not suffer.
Not only does this mind trick work for weight loss it can work for anything. If something is within your genetic potential and one of your goals then why would you not want to do it.
For example say you wanted to become a doctor. If you truly are not smart enough then find another goal that is within your genetic potential. But if you are and you think it is hard work ...you must realize that it is not.....it is actually easy because not doing it would be far harder given that is what you truly wanted to do. When you see things like this almost anything becomes possible7 -
I don't think the author is trying to promote fat-shaming I just think she's saying "let's get real" and stop trying to normalize obesity. As she points out, you wouldn't try to normalize anorexia so why this pretense with the other extreme? Both are detrimental to one's health. Furthermore, I've yet to hear of too many formerly obese people who have shed weight and become fit who are saddened by their new image or think back on their obese lifestyle with fondness, most probably with dread.
*waves*
You can add me to that list.
I'm sure I'm far from "fit", though "fitter" than I used to be. I'm kind of "meh" about how I look because I still look the same as I did at 320# albeit the flab hangs down rather than sticks out. I do miss how I used to eat. Why? Because I was much, much happier and less stressed. When I wanted a certain food to eat, I went and got it. I didn't have to bring out my diary and do fiddling to make it fit into my day, then go weigh it and learn "Oh shizzle, it's 150% heavier than stated! I don't have room for 100 extra calories!" Going out to socialize was fun. No one commented on my eating aka no Food Police.
FA/HAES did help me to "accept" how I look - that it's the other people projecting their issues on me; I'm not as ugly or as stupid as I've been told. When the people I knew in HAES shunned me for losing weight, I left and went back to being alone knowing they were just as bad as everyone else.9 -
I see a difference between accepting obesity and accepting obese people. All human beings are worthy of acceptance. No one deserves to be mocked, ridiculed, or shamed.15
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MommyL2015 wrote: »My mom told me stories about him and showed me pictures. I barely remember him, except that he was pretty crotchety after he lost his legs. And I never said you intentionally did anything to yourself, I simply stated that T1 diabetes is not a mandatory obesity sentence, which is true.
We have a cousin who has type 1 and she's not overweight. She's in her 20s now.0 -
People are deserving of respect and dignity regardless of their size. Period. Most people do not choose to be obese, and considering how often people try desperate crash diets, cleanses, and gimmicky programs and products, it's clear it's not easy for many people to drop and maintain weight. So many people give up after years of trying things that don't work.
The HAES group dynamic is something that I disagree with, but I understand what is driving it. When you have people who come together because they have been isolated from mainstream society, some people start enforcing the norm within the group and discouraging others from breaking with that norm. You can see it among many subcultures within society. I'm not saying it's a good thing with HAES, but I understand what is driving the behavior.
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I don't think the author is trying to promote fat-shaming I just think she's saying "let's get real" and stop trying to normalize obesity. As she points out, you wouldn't try to normalize anorexia so why this pretense with the other extreme? Both are detrimental to one's health. Furthermore, I've yet to hear of too many formerly obese people who have shed weight and become fit who are saddened by their new image or think back on their obese lifestyle with fondness, most probably with dread.
Because I was much, much happier and less stressed. When I wanted a certain food to eat, I went and got it. I didn't have to bring out my diary and do fiddling to make it fit into my day
I have to ask, why do you want to lose weight? (since you're on MFP)
- Every new venture with an objective demands some sort of sacrifice. Eg. you want to get muscular, you have to put in the time and the exercises and then eat a certain diet. You want to be an opera singer, you have to put in the time, you have to give up family outings or social events with friends for example. You have to be present and accountable for your own success. And along the way you will meet all sorts of people, people who'll tell you you're doing it wrong, people who encourage you, people who will ridicule what you're doing, people who are judgemental, people who will be guides, people trying to be helpful but piss you off, the list goes on. Ultimately, you have to follow your own path and decide who and what you are or want to be. You can't stop people from judging, it's human nature.
When the people I knew in HAES shunned me for losing weight, I left and went back to being alone knowing they were just as bad as everyone else.
Interesting. Sounds like you hang with the wrong crowd(s), whether it's FA or the Diet people or diet buddies. Sounds like you feel better when you are on your own. I would guess that it's because you are listening to yourself, and not to what you think society wants. But it also sounds like your life revolves around your weight, make your life about something else and don't bring up your weight (ever).
Tools like MFP and support groups are just there to attain an objective. You have to glean what you find important from the information that is out there. You may have been happier eating the way you wanted but you have to ask yourself did you feel comfortable in your own skin?
Regardless of how you think society sees you. Do you honestly feel good on all levels? Physically, emotionally, mentally (there's more I'm sure). Only you know. Ultimately, you're allowed to be the size you want.
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I don't think the author is trying to promote fat-shaming I just think she's saying "let's get real" and stop trying to normalize obesity. As she points out, you wouldn't try to normalize anorexia so why this pretense with the other extreme? Both are detrimental to one's health. Furthermore, I've yet to hear of too many formerly obese people who have shed weight and become fit who are saddened by their new image or think back on their obese lifestyle with fondness, most probably with dread.
Because I was much, much happier and less stressed. When I wanted a certain food to eat, I went and got it. I didn't have to bring out my diary and do fiddling to make it fit into my day
I have to ask, why do you want to lose weight? (since you're on MFP)
- Every new venture with an objective demands some sort of sacrifice. Eg. you want to get muscular, you have to put in the time and the exercises and then eat a certain diet. You want to be an opera singer, you have to put in the time, you have to give up family outings or social events with friends for example. You have to be present and accountable for your own success. And along the way you will meet all sorts of people, people who'll tell you you're doing it wrong, people who encourage you, people who will ridicule what you're doing, people who are judgemental, people who will be guides, people trying to be helpful but piss you off, the list goes on. Ultimately, you have to follow your own path and decide who and what you are or want to be. You can't stop people from judging, it's human nature.
When the people I knew in HAES shunned me for losing weight, I left and went back to being alone knowing they were just as bad as everyone else.
Interesting. Sounds like you hang with the wrong crowd(s), whether it's FA or the Diet people or diet buddies. Sounds like you feel better when you are on your own. I would guess that it's because you are listening to yourself, and not to what you think society wants. But it also sounds like your life revolves around your weight, make your life about something else and don't bring up your weight (ever).
Tools like MFP and support groups are just there to attain an objective. You have to glean what you find important from the information that is out there. You may have been happier eating the way you wanted but you have to ask yourself did you feel comfortable in your own skin?
Regardless of how you think society sees you. Do you honestly feel good on all levels? Physically, emotionally, mentally (there's more I'm sure). Only you know. Ultimately, you're allowed to be the size you want.
The last 4 years have been about my weight because it's in the forefront of me losing it. Before this, only doctors harped about my weight and that I should lose, though they offered no advice or alternative such as WLS (which should've been something they'd push because I was so close to dying because FAT = UNHEALTHY/DEATH). What I found completely ironic (?) when dealing with HAES/FA proponents is that most of them have a slew of health problems that could've been easier to deal with by not being morbidly obese. The basic reason I lost weight was for simple vanity - I didn't want to spend the next 30 years wearing the same pair of pants (not the same style or same brand, but the same pair because finding any clothing higher than a 4X is nigh impossible in this province).
I don't feel comfortable in my own skin due to my depression. It won't matter if I look like whoever the sexiest/hawtest female is currently or the fattest woman in the world, I'll still not be comfy with me because my brain chemistry is broken. That's not something that can be fixed with support groups or therapy or medication. I do better on my own because I've learned people don't really care about me or how I feel and they certainly can't be bothered to help when asked.
Thank you for the online therapy session. Now I get to fight myself to not go ham on food.
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I don't think the author is trying to promote fat-shaming I just think she's saying "let's get real" and stop trying to normalize obesity. As she points out, you wouldn't try to normalize anorexia so why this pretense with the other extreme? Both are detrimental to one's health. Furthermore, I've yet to hear of too many formerly obese people who have shed weight and become fit who are saddened by their new image or think back on their obese lifestyle with fondness, most probably with dread.
Because I was much, much happier and less stressed. When I wanted a certain food to eat, I went and got it. I didn't have to bring out my diary and do fiddling to make it fit into my day
I have to ask, why do you want to lose weight? (since you're on MFP)
- Every new venture with an objective demands some sort of sacrifice. Eg. you want to get muscular, you have to put in the time and the exercises and then eat a certain diet. You want to be an opera singer, you have to put in the time, you have to give up family outings or social events with friends for example. You have to be present and accountable for your own success. And along the way you will meet all sorts of people, people who'll tell you you're doing it wrong, people who encourage you, people who will ridicule what you're doing, people who are judgemental, people who will be guides, people trying to be helpful but piss you off, the list goes on. Ultimately, you have to follow your own path and decide who and what you are or want to be. You can't stop people from judging, it's human nature.
When the people I knew in HAES shunned me for losing weight, I left and went back to being alone knowing they were just as bad as everyone else.
Interesting. Sounds like you hang with the wrong crowd(s), whether it's FA or the Diet people or diet buddies. Sounds like you feel better when you are on your own. I would guess that it's because you are listening to yourself, and not to what you think society wants. But it also sounds like your life revolves around your weight, make your life about something else and don't bring up your weight (ever).
Tools like MFP and support groups are just there to attain an objective. You have to glean what you find important from the information that is out there. You may have been happier eating the way you wanted but you have to ask yourself did you feel comfortable in your own skin?
Regardless of how you think society sees you. Do you honestly feel good on all levels? Physically, emotionally, mentally (there's more I'm sure). Only you know. Ultimately, you're allowed to be the size you want.
The last 4 years have been about my weight because it's in the forefront of me losing it. Before this, only doctors harped about my weight and that I should lose, though they offered no advice or alternative such as WLS (which should've been something they'd push because I was so close to dying because FAT = UNHEALTHY/DEATH). What I found completely ironic (?) when dealing with HAES/FA proponents is that most of them have a slew of health problems that could've been easier to deal with by not being morbidly obese. The basic reason I lost weight was for simple vanity - I didn't want to spend the next 30 years wearing the same pair of pants (not the same style or same brand, but the same pair because finding any clothing higher than a 4X is nigh impossible in this province).
I don't feel comfortable in my own skin due to my depression. It won't matter if I look like whoever the sexiest/hawtest female is currently or the fattest woman in the world, I'll still not be comfy with me because my brain chemistry is broken. That's not something that can be fixed with support groups or therapy or medication. I do better on my own because I've learned people don't really care about me or how I feel and they certainly can't be bothered to help when asked.
Thank you for the online therapy session. Now I get to fight myself to not go ham on food.
If you've made positive lifestyle changes through clinical depression than what you have done is that much more of an accomplishment. I hope you can find the therapy or meds that help you stabilize. Not all support groups and therapists are the same. It's like any other group of people, you have to find ones with whom you can get along and who have enough similarities with you that you can share something and see eye-to-eye with them.4
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