WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2016

Janet in OKC: As women who've had to work hard with changing our own lives and developing healthy eating patterns, we know how hard it is to turn away from unhealthy behavior and work on a new way of life. I think we have this in common with people who successfully get off of substance abuse. I hope your grandson makes a go of it this time and is able to stay clean after he is back on his own. :flowerforyou:

Heather: Your view of horses is lovely. I'm so happy that you were able to have a chat with our Dh and are feeling better about your upcoming trip. :haert:


I've been interrupted by this and that & need to get going for a haricut appointment.

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

Tibetan proverb: "The secret to living well and long is: Eat half, walk double, laugh triple and love without measure..."

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

Joyce – Maybe you should share your concerns with the Head Nurse; quite often what they have to say might make the MD decide to keep him a little longer so they can make sure that you’ll be able to care for him at home. Other than that, if you can afford it, you could ask for the name of a good nurse who might come in during the day and help you out with any medical requirements that concerns you. Better yet, is to confront the MD with your concerns about the change in diet and the reason he plans on discharge him. Sometimes one will improve better in his/her own settings. Lower bed, easier to get in and out of, moving around – to help get rid of the gas that builds up from the surgery; which he might not pass with others coming and going. Husband needs to discuss his concerns with the MD.

Michele in NC – Not all azaleas are deciduous; some might lose enough to look ratty or they lose the color in them. Your nursery should be able to tell you this and what kind of soil should be planted in. You would need to cut them back as soon as they drop all the leaves.

I live in zone 8; so what might flourish here; might not do so in cooler weather.

Finally2002016 – We have to remember that most times we have put on weight because we don’t lose that baby fat; and our food habits don’t change from eating for 2 to eating only for one. It keeps on piling up; until one day we realize we are at a point of telling ourselves that we won’t get up to a certain weight. I know I did; I’ve seen my DDnL#1 do this … took her 15 years to gain; but it will also take her a couple of years to lose it. Hopefully she will change her eating habit and not put it back on as soon as she stops this 'diet' she is on. She wants a ‘magic’ pill that she can take on night and wake up ‘thin’ the next day. All of us are at different places in our ‘journey’ and the ‘journey’ becomes a ‘change in life-style. Keeping track of everything that passes through you lips will help you lose weight. You need to talk to your MD about the caloric intake you should be eating in order to lose weight and not just ‘maintain’ your weight. You’ve come to the right place for encouragement. Tell us a little about yourself, family, pets, hobbies and what you prefer to be called. Set reasonable goals for each month that you can celebrate and exercise (no matter how you hate it). And expected weigh lost is between 1 to 2.5 pounds to get to your goals. NSV (like losing inches) are also important. Increase your water intake as well. With a minimum of 8 8-ounce glasses of water.

Pip and Katla – I don’t know what state Pip lives in; but, the other driver SHOULD be responsible for Kirby’s medical bills, loss of income, loss of companionship with his wife, and pain and suffering; or you can take that to court if he refuses or doesn’t have any insurance. Your ‘auto’ insurance be willing to pay out for medical payments, if he doesn’t. Make sure if you ‘settle’ or ‘go to court’ and get more than you have to use to get your money back for Kirby. The insurance company is going to want the other insurance company to pay anything they have paid out. Especially, if you don’t have any but health insurance – they will definitely want their money repaid when they find out the injuries were caused by an auto accident. Pain and suffering, property, loss of companionship, and loss of income should also be added above the amount you ask for when dealing with settle with the other company. Some companies have a pre-written release on the back of a check they might send to you, that if you endorse it could preclude you for settling the entire case. This is when you need to have an attorney to ‘represent you’, sometimes they can give him permission to block that portion out. Most attorneys will represent you for 33.3% of the settlement or verdict and answer any questions you have. If it has to be taken to court; they will ask for all things you have lost from the wreck. For example he might ask for a million dollars and then ‘hope’ they will settle for less. But, bottom line, yes his insurance will pay you (if he has any). If not, and you have ‘uninsured motorist insurance on your policy or Med Pay) they will pay up to the amount that you have for insurance against someone not having insurance. If you have to use your health insurance, they also will go after the other person to have what they pay out paid back to you. This also needs to be taken into account when you settle or take them to court. Get your own copy of the police report, make notes from it (such as whether he was charge for any infraction, such as speeding or not giving Kirby the right of road, or turning in front of him). A lot of health insurance companies will look to you to pay them back out of any settlement agree you make with the other party. This needs to be taken into mind. $90,000 ± for the hospital alone might mean the other party won’t have enough insurance to pay for this. Again, if you decide to take the driver to court and you are awarded, let’s say $500,000 … one of the things your lawyer will check is what property he might own; and put a lien on it so that ‘if’ he sells it or is ‘forced’ to sell it to make up the difference he will. Unless he doesn’t have a pot to even piss in.

Heather – Is this a ‘group’ cruise? Then maybe you ought to say that once he gets there he will enjoy it; if it is a couple cruise; and, you are looking forward to it … go and leave him home. You never can tell he might decide to join you at some point where the ship docks for trips you can take on ‘day trips’. We’re taking our DGDs to the beach at the end of July. Our DMGD might decide she does not want to go, as she did last year. That was ‘ok’ with us; we did not push it and really had a lot of fun with only the 2 of them DYGD and DYGD. DYGD behaved herself; and, we all went places that all of us enjoyed doing.

Welcome to all the ‘newbies’. Remember to go to barbiecat’s post for the next month; can you believe it is already June? I can’t!

Got up this AM to have coffee (hot) with husband; was so sleepy I could not drink it; instead I sent it spilling all over my lap. Thankfully, I had a blanket on, and it only burnt a little.

Lenora

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What a difference a day makes. He is getting up on his own, we took a long walk in the hall. He is emptying his bag by himself and on a soft diet. The ostomy nurse saw us. Very informative. Apparently the bags available to the public are a little bit fancier than what is ordered in a hospital. They also will see him 2 weeks after discharge and then as needed in their clinic. She will change his bag tomorrow and let us observe. So far his belly isn't tolerating very well the biscuits and gravy for breakfast. He got that order that he could eat and went gong ho and didn't think with his mind.

Getting excited for you Heather!

JOyce, Indiana

@cityjaneLondon Heather Thanks, I was feeling a bit worried. I was just an adequate mother myself but I am a much better grammy. And my ex (Grampa Rick) is also not to be competed with. He comes from a long line of really wonderful grampas. I'm a little jealous of him, but I like him too much to be mad.
Have a lovely cruise with your DH and your blue toenails! It is so exciting! We went on a Christmas Market river cruise December 2015 in France and Germany, and it was very nice! But the best trip I ever took was with my mom and my son, who was then 12. We went on a Galapagos cruise. That was in 1990. My son fell in love with the ship captain's daughter Paola, his first love. It was the sweetest thing, and a delight for our group to discreetly observe. Most of the group were in their 70's & 80's and were just captured by the blossoming romance. The Galapagos were magical and will always be the trip to beat. Paola was my son's measuring stick for all women to come, and he was fortunate enough to find my daughter-in-law, who is better than any of us deserve. She is an Amazon!

Joyce So glad hubby is recovering well. It's so great that he is gung ho even if he did make an unwise food choice. It must mean he is feeling much better! Yay!

Hi @solieco1 and @lgilchrist!

Michele I wonder if hardy camellias might work?

https://www.google.com/search?q=small+camellia+zone+7&client=safari&rls=en&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjD8OL274TNAhWEdD4KHXRABKIQsAQIZA&biw=1228&bih=743

Karen in Virginia

Heather UK

Karen in Virgina

Reading on my phone, so won't comment much except...
Pip - wowsers on that hospital bill. Hopefully insurance is covering most of it, but still.
Marcelyn - OMG. Praying the man from your hubby's work was just blowing off steam and everyone stays safe and sound.
Finally2002016- welcome! I am in the same spot. The weight is coming off VERY slowly. I did do Dr Mark Hyman's 10-day detox and lost 5 lbs but have gained back two as I added dairy and gluten back into my diet.

Hopping on a plane to Toronto now. Will post more later.

Linda/IA

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Becca Even a hangnail can make you miserable. I'd be mad too. Heck, I'm mad for you!

Karen in Virginia

I agree about Barbie's fathers picture. The way he is pictured so perfectly in what I assume is porthole. And what i also see is an apparent cigarette which was so common with WW2, well any of them. I know many service men who did not smoke at all but when they come back they are smokers.

I have no hit that oh so familiar rock bottom. When Charlie was in with his meningitis and it was panic mode the whole time, it wasn't long before I couldn't hardly walk. Luckily my kids were there and thoroughly enjoyed pushing me around in a wheel chair. Those two can terrorize an entire city when they get together! Anyway, Charlie and I were out for our second walk and he wanted to make a second round around the unit. He is trying hard to get rid of this gaseous feeling. I knew I had to go to the grocery store and he was just down right boring. He didn't want the TV on and he was trying to rest to not feel the gas pain and I was fighting sleep which is impossible in either the recliner or the couch in his room so I told him I needed to leave. It was really hard to get downstairs. Used a mobility scooter at the store, after getting my shopping done, had 6 bags plus 12 pack of soft drink and a gallon of milk, got it on the check out lane then back in the scooter and in my car. But then you know you have to get it in your house and up the stairs. As I got to the highway I realized I had forgotten all of the meat! So I have now eaten my supper, rested my legs and i will go back. Things like that make me so mad. I'm not that much of a cook anyway and it frustrates me when I make a stupid mistake. I can't make a nice stew without meat or a meatloaf without hamburger or his favorite casserole. I think it will be a very early bedtime after I get home.

This is what I was trying to tell Charlie last year when he went into rehab. I really, really needed my rest and recoup time before he came home. But now when he comes home tomorrow (?) I am down and out but he requires me to be up and about. I guess I can be glad that he is one stubborn man and will be an overachiever when he gets home. I doubt he will ask me for any assistance until it is time to change his bag. It is being changed tomorrow so it should last at least 5 days. I also know he will go start raving mad staying in the house without driving. This is the time I wish we had a nice deck outside that we could sit on our lousy deck that is to dangerous to walk on.

I am to wordy tonight and not welcoming our new people. I don't want them to think that this is the 'Listen to Joyce complain' group!

Joyce, Indiana

Becca ~ We are all rooting for you and your DH!

Joyce ~ Hope you get to rest just a bit.

Quiet day here!

Carol

Summer colds are the pits. Went back to doc says I can go back to the gym though. Yay for me.

My daughter informed me today she made the Deans list this past semester. Proud of her. High school she never really put the effort in but has turned that around that she is in college. I think taking a couple years off of school made a huge difference for her.

Joyce great news about the strides your DH is making. It can be amazing how fast a body starts to recover.

Becca thinking about you and your family. Sending postive thoughts your way.

Barbie as always thanks for keeping us going.

Well heading off to bed soon. Goodnight ladies.

Anne from Wisconsin