28; never been on a date or had a boyfriend because of weight

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  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    I guess I'm just wondering if they ever caught the laundry room thief or not.

    I still worry about the Burberry coat that wasn't dry-cleaned.

    I know right! That was a risky move! I wouldn't ever have attempted that. But hopefully it was okay because she was planning on wearing it boating and to wine tasting events.
  • ftwmc
    ftwmc Posts: 47 Member
    As a male a woman's appearance matters very little after the first few minutes. Join a club or group that has similar interests to you stop looking for a boyfriend look for friends amazing what can happen.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Just don't slush any tires and we will be ok.
  • JaneSnowe
    JaneSnowe Posts: 1,283 Member
    I guess I'm just wondering if they ever caught the laundry room thief or not.

    I still worry about the Burberry coat that wasn't dry-cleaned.

    I know right! That was a risky move! I wouldn't ever have attempted that. But hopefully it was okay because she was planning on wearing it boating and to wine tasting events.

    Where can I catch up on this epic saga?
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    A lot of these posts are confusing. Anyways, I do not PERSONALLY think I am fat, but I think guys think I'm fat, that's the only explanation I can think of as to why guys don't like me~
  • happyauntie2015
    happyauntie2015 Posts: 282 Member
    You have to learn to love and be happy with yourself before a man comes along. You are worth making this lifestyle change for yourself not for dating or for anyone else do it for you! Starting on a treadmill is wonderful just remember we didn't get to where we are weigh wise overnight and we aren't going to reverse it overnight either. I am 37 years old and have put on over 100 pounds during the course of my 17 year marriage. I met my husband while I was in highschool and I was about 250 pounds. He was with me at my highest weight of 384 pounds I'm 311 now. I've only been a member of MFP a couple months. My sister met her bf at the gym. Just focus on getting healthy for you and the rest will fall in place :) add me if you'd like the more support the better!
  • JaneSnowe
    JaneSnowe Posts: 1,283 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    This is me before I gained 10 lb

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    You look really healthy here. Were you eating clean?

    Thanks! I think I eat pretty healthy :3

    So now you'll probably increase your 10 mile walks up hill to 20 mile walks, right? Will they be uphill though? And do you walk solo, or do you walk a dog? Sometimes walks are more tolerable when you bring a dog along. It might also assuage the loneliness you're feeling - poochies are so friendly.

    I love the Baby Doll tee you're wearing. The bright pink actually matches that book on the table, which appears to be a food and exercise diary. Do you wear this ensemble during your walks? You might want to consider some L'Oreal Infallible Le Rouge Lipcolour in in Fearless Fuchsia to color coordinate with your tee and exercise diary. It would brighten up your appearance considerably, although I think you look just fine anyway.

    Also, although the frames of your glasses match your complexion nicely in a cream tangerine palette, it might behoove you to purchase an alternate in pink - on the days when you want to accessorize with panache and true cosmopolitan flair.

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    Wasn't it a d&g shirt that she was waiting for in the mail?

    It was. Navy blue with white polka dots and sheer gauze long sleeves. Chloe ring. I'm not going to go as far as to say she's low renting, because she hasn't yet admitted to appearing out in public with this get up. The shoes would be of the utmost importance considering the length of the walks. We'll have to wait and see what she says.

    Are you sure the blouse didn't look like this?

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    It's okay looking, but if I were to pay $700 for a blouse I would expect it to be opaque enough to not show my bra.
  • WJS_jeepster
    WJS_jeepster Posts: 224 Member
    edited June 2016
    JaneSnowe wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    This is me before I gained 10 lb

    BEdQNgr.jpg?1

    You look really healthy here. Were you eating clean?

    Thanks! I think I eat pretty healthy :3

    So now you'll probably increase your 10 mile walks up hill to 20 mile walks, right? Will they be uphill though? And do you walk solo, or do you walk a dog? Sometimes walks are more tolerable when you bring a dog along. It might also assuage the loneliness you're feeling - poochies are so friendly.

    I love the Baby Doll tee you're wearing. The bright pink actually matches that book on the table, which appears to be a food and exercise diary. Do you wear this ensemble during your walks? You might want to consider some L'Oreal Infallible Le Rouge Lipcolour in in Fearless Fuchsia to color coordinate with your tee and exercise diary. It would brighten up your appearance considerably, although I think you look just fine anyway.

    Also, although the frames of your glasses match your complexion nicely in a cream tangerine palette, it might behoove you to purchase an alternate in pink - on the days when you want to accessorize with panache and true cosmopolitan flair.

    ho7zarzdwfmn.png



    Wasn't it a d&g shirt that she was waiting for in the mail?

    It was. Navy blue with white polka dots and sheer gauze long sleeves. Chloe ring. I'm not going to go as far as to say she's low renting, because she hasn't yet admitted to appearing out in public with this get up. The shoes would be of the utmost importance considering the length of the walks. We'll have to wait and see what she says.

    Are you sure the blouse didn't look like this?

    90_DG1D975-DMT1_D00O_20.jpg

    It's okay looking, but if I were to pay $700 for a blouse I would expect it to be opaque enough to not show my bra.

    Seriously - this makes me ridiculously happy to see this. It was my first thought after the first post and was so excited to see what's happened in the year or so since the last update!

    ETA - how do you only walk uphill? Do you mean on a treadmill?
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    A lot of these posts are confusing. Anyways, I do not PERSONALLY think I am fat, but I think guys think I'm fat, that's the only explanation I can think of as to why guys don't like me~


    Same thing actually.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    A lot of these posts are confusing. Anyways, I do not PERSONALLY think I am fat, but I think guys think I'm fat, that's the only explanation I can think of as to why guys don't like me~


    Are you sure? Have you asked any of them? What are the other relationships in your life like? Sometimes people are just socially awkward and don't realize it. That can be improved and worked on.
  • goldthistime
    goldthistime Posts: 3,213 Member
    edited June 2016
    NM

  • SisterSueGetsFit
    SisterSueGetsFit Posts: 1,211 Member
    Are you trolling? In another post you say you weigh between 77-90 pounds. You are way too thin and nobody would call you a pig.
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    Are you trolling? In another post you say you weigh between 77-90 pounds. You are way too thin and nobody would call you a pig.

    Of course I'm not trolling. Maybe he meant pig as an insult, not as a reflection of my weight, or maybe he wanted me to weigh less. I'm really down today. I want a boyfriend to talk to about my day and to call me sweetheart. Is that too much to ask? I feel left out of society because other women much younger than me are married with kids and I was never given that choice. I bottle it in a lot but right now I'm angry and resentful towards life and men for not giving me a chance. They don't even know me so how can they reject me without getting to know me first? If they went on a date with me and found out I had an awful personality, OK fine, but they don't even give me a chance.
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  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    edited July 2016
    I walked for 2 hours just now~ A few weeks ago I asked out the cashier at the grocery store and he rejected me, citing my weight as the reason, so now I'm too embarrassed to go back. It's strange because he was always very polite, which is why I was interested in him, so it took me aback when he called me a pig. I have never been asked out and have asked out and been rejected by over 50 guys in real life and over 50 guys online.

    You mentioned you weighed less than 100 lbs. Why would you call yourself a pig? Why would anyone else? Did you hear him say it out loud or just in your head?

    Body Dysmorphia is something a therapist can work with you on, it's not something you can always sort through on your own. Many of us deal with it on here..

    This thread doesn't sound (and the other one you have going currently) like it's about men not wanting to date you but about you not accepting yourself Perhaps also checking in with a mental health professional would keep you safe tonight?
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    I walked for 2 hours just now~ A few weeks ago I asked out the cashier at the grocery store and he rejected me, citing my weight as the reason, so now I'm too embarrassed to go back. It's strange because he was always very polite, which is why I was interested in him, so it took me aback when he called me a pig. I have never been asked out and have asked out and been rejected by over 50 guys in real life and over 50 guys online.

    You mentioned you weighed less than 100 lbs. Why would you call yourself a pig? Why would anyone else? Did you hear him say it out loud or just in your head?

    Body Dysmorphia is something a therapist can work with you on, it's not something you can always sort through on your own. Many of us deal with it on here..

    This thread doesn't sound (and the other one you have going currently) like it's about men not wanting to date you but about you not accepting yourself Perhaps also checking in with a mental health professional would keep you safe tonight?

    Thank you for concern. Well the cashier may have called me a pig as an insult rather than referring to my weight. I don't know what he's thinking but I have been unable to go back to that store. Generally men don't like me. Last night a guy who was asking me to help him on his English told me that no man would ever like me so I blocked him right away. I am trying to accept the fact that I will always be single since men aren't interested. I try hard to be positive but it can be hard being positive all day.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    I guess I'm just wondering if they ever caught the laundry room thief or not.

    I still worry about the Burberry coat that wasn't dry-cleaned.

    I woke up last night wondering about that myself, couldn't get back to sleep.....
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  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    If you asked me out I would have said yes the only girl I ever went out with was short and like 280 pounds and she looked like she didn't brush her teeth

    I didn't kiss her at all because of that

    Here you go! Hook it up! PM each other. :smile:
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    If you asked me out I would have said yes the only girl I ever went out with was short and like 280 pounds and she looked like she didn't brush her teeth

    I didn't kiss her at all because of that

    Ugh that does not sound fun :/
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  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    This is me before I gained 10 lb

    BEdQNgr.jpg?1

    You look really healthy here. Were you eating clean?

    Thanks! I think I eat pretty healthy :3

    So now you'll probably increase your 10 mile walks up hill to 20 mile walks, right? Will they be uphill though? And do you walk solo, or do you walk a dog? Sometimes walks are more tolerable when you bring a dog along. It might also assuage the loneliness you're feeling - poochies are so friendly.

    I love the Baby Doll tee you're wearing. The bright pink actually matches that book on the table, which appears to be a food and exercise diary. Do you wear this ensemble during your walks? You might want to consider some L'Oreal Infallible Le Rouge Lipcolour in in Fearless Fuchsia to color coordinate with your tee and exercise diary. It would brighten up your appearance considerably, although I think you look just fine anyway.

    Also, although the frames of your glasses match your complexion nicely in a cream tangerine palette, it might behoove you to purchase an alternate in pink - on the days when you want to accessorize with panache and true cosmopolitan flair.

    ho7zarzdwfmn.png



    Wasn't it a d&g shirt that she was waiting for in the mail?

    It was. Navy blue with white polka dots and sheer gauze long sleeves. Chloe ring. I'm not going to go as far as to say she's low renting, because she hasn't yet admitted to appearing out in public with this get up. The shoes would be of the utmost importance considering the length of the walks. We'll have to wait and see what she says.

    You are correct!
    I also seem to remember a boyfriend that asked her to stop calling him or something of that nature.

    Wasn't there a stabbing? Or am I thinking of a different laundry thief watching, Burberry coat washing, makeup lover?

    She stabbed her Polish boyfriend but only spent a week in jail. But I think that was because it happened in Eastern Europe. The laws are different there and she was shown lenience in exchange for her fluency in the language.

    I seem to remember her getting all upset because she couldn't take her "service dog" to the gym with her. Definitely remember the D&B blouse...
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    edited July 2016
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  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    If you asked me out I would have said yes the only girl I ever went out with was short and like 280 pounds and she looked like she didn't brush her teeth

    I didn't kiss her at all because of that

    But she HAD teeth.. so I guess I don't see the problem?
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
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    I'm the second from the left. Before I gained weight~
  • JaneSnowe
    JaneSnowe Posts: 1,283 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Are you trolling? In another post you say you weigh between 77-90 pounds. You are way too thin and nobody would call you a pig.

    Of course I'm not trolling. Maybe he meant pig as an insult, not as a reflection of my weight, or maybe he wanted me to weigh less. I'm really down today. I want a boyfriend to talk to about my day and to call me sweetheart. Is that too much to ask? I feel left out of society because other women much younger than me are married with kids and I was never given that choice. I bottle it in a lot but right now I'm angry and resentful towards life and men for not giving me a chance. They don't even know me so how can they reject me without getting to know me first? If they went on a date with me and found out I had an awful personality, OK fine, but they don't even give me a chance.

    What do you do for a living Goblet? And, if you don't mind me asking, what country do you live in?

    I know this is unfair, but MFP took down one of your other threads the other day. You were posting about this cute Chinese boy with tousled hair. You even put up a pic of him in jeans with no shirt on. MFP might have found it too racy and that's maybe why they deleted the thread. But you said he was a boy who was interested in you but that he thought you were fat. He also thought he was fat too, but clearly he really wasn't fat.

    In fact, you said you would be happy simply holding hands with him over coffee.

    Although you did mention that he wanted you to remove your tattoo.

    And he was suspicious that you would not work if he were to agree to marry you. Even though you assured him you would work after marriage, plus bear his children, birth them, raise them (I mean, when you weren't at your job), do all the housekeeping, cooking, lawn mowing and minor car repairs.

    He sounds like a catch.

    Even though your tattoo around your upper arm is very fetching and attractive, would you consider removing it at your own expense to keep this man?

    Plus, what does the tattoo say?

    You ask so little, and with such endearing simplicity. And I do hope you and this boy can work things out. But if you can't - there must be a cute, nice boy out there who doesn't think you are fat who will give you a chance...



    I recall he had a dog, what breed was that again? He needed shots every two hours, that I recall. Um, the dog, not the boy. I so love tousled hair, I can see how you'd find that attractive Bella. :) Between that and the lawn mowing, minor car repairs...that's quite a lot of promises though for a simple holding of hands.

    I wonder if the thread was pulled because of some of the words that are no longer allowed to be used on the forums? Tousled fat puppies fetching lawn mowers & I believe car repairs is another and I recall reading about in the recent memo that was sent out.

    Did I miss a memo?