What nobody tells you about losing weight
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- Your doctor quits nagging you and checkups are way less stressful.
- Not all the people who are now flirting with you are the ones you want to interact with.
- You wonder why your pants are slipping off, and after pulling them up by hand for a day you realize you need to notch your belt in one notch.
- You can dance again without sucking wind. For a long time.
- Alcohol tolerance goes down with your weight.12 -
I've heard that when you're gaining weight, all the emotions you were feeling as you got fatter were stored in the fat and as you lose the weight, you feel those things again. I don't know if it's BS or not, but I do know one time when I lost weight I was irrationally angry about everything, for weeks.
Maybe I was hangry! hahahaha
It's BS. Please let wherever you heard it from, whether in person or in print, know it's BS. Biochemicals and hormones like estrogen, sure. Actual emotions?
(Yeah, it's the sanitized version given the kittenfilter)12 -
Nobody told me that as much as I hated having my picture taken, everyone managed to take my picture at every family function in spite of my wishes. There are tons of (my husband's) family reunion pictures over the years when I was at my heaviest. Now, I have lost almost 70 lbs, am 15 lbs from my goal weight, and suddenly, no one wants to have their picture taken with me. In the obligatory family picture of a gazillion relatives, I was always put up front next to my husband because he is the oldest in his family. This year, my mother-in-law made sure I was relegated to the very back and pretty much all everyone can see is my head! Nobody told me that when I worked hard to lose all this weight, people who claim to love me would doubt I had actually lost the weight until a picture was offered for proof...my sister who lives in another state. Nobody told me that 'some' people would suspect I was taking drugs to lose so much weight and continue to lose weight. Nobody told me that instead of being happy for me, some in my family would treat me like a pariah. Not the entire family, mind you, but a very chosen few.40
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Wysewoman53 wrote: »Nobody told me that as much as I hated having my picture taken, everyone managed to take my picture at every family function in spite of my wishes. There are tons of (my husband's) family reunion pictures over the years when I was at my heaviest. Now, I have lost almost 70 lbs, am 15 lbs from my goal weight, and suddenly, no one wants to have their picture taken with me. In the obligatory family picture of a gazillion relatives, I was always put up front next to my husband because he is the oldest in his family. This year, my mother-in-law made sure I was relegated to the very back and pretty much all everyone can see is my head! Nobody told me that when I worked hard to lose all this weight, people who claim to love me would doubt I had actually lost the weight until a picture was offered for proof...my sister who lives in another state. Nobody told me that 'some' people would suspect I was taking drugs to lose so much weight and continue to lose weight. Nobody told me that instead of being happy for me, some in my family would treat me like a pariah. Not the entire family, mind you, but a very chosen few.
Ahhh that's too bad... I bet your head still looked great in the pic though
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@treehugnmama : That is did, that it did! Lol!
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That everyone won't automatically like you even if you've lost all the weight.28
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mazarasltm wrote: »I noticed that calorie counting allows guilt free cheating. Its all math (MFP does it for you), timing and exercise/activity. As long as know your limits.
^^this^^
I think that's why most of us have failed before CICO. We felt deprived. We're in a heat wave and today I had a large Taco Bell Baja Blast Freeze to cool me off.... guilt free. It was delicious!
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I've lost about 55lbs and still have a ways to go. But for me it's that my brain is not catching up. I look at myself and I still think I look basically the same, sometimes even looking at the "before" pictures and pictures from today it's hard for me to see the difference. Even though my measurements have gone down and I can fit into smaller clothes I still see who I was "before".
My bra size has not changed. It was something I was originally concerned about I didn't want to lose all of my chest but now I find myself wishing it would get at least a little smaller! Now my problem is the rest of me fits into smaller clothes but they never fit right in the chest area!!!
I started over a year ago but recently started doing IF (about 5-6 weeks ago)... it's completely changed my relationship with food! I always ate breakfast because I thought I needed to but I wasn't even hungry... And now I realize that being a little hungry isn't a reason to rush out and eat 500-600 calorie meals. Being a little hungry, within reason, is okay. I also find that I focus on food less in general. I usually aim to fast for 18 hours and having my eating window be 6. but sometimes I'm not hungry so I will extend my fast.
For my mental health it's better for me to not tell myself I can't eat something. I can eat anything I want... I just have to make it fit into my calories. And I was able to stop stressing about going over my calories one day. As long as my weekly calories are in a deficit I don't sweat it.
That as much as I want to be a runner I just can not do it. Not because I physically can't do it but because it makes me so HUNGRY and then I just end up overeating. I love walking and biking. I can bike farther than I ever thought that I would be able to.
Just to name a few. And I'm sure that more will come as my journey continues!12 -
SingRunTing wrote: »Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
Not so serious:
- Waking up in the morning and feeling my hip bones. I've never felt them before. I didn't realize how high up into my abdomen they go!
- Looking forward to my workouts (and feeling miserable if I miss them)
- Realizing that I can actually eat cake and ice cream, as long as I fit them into my calories. I went years without eating them or feeling guilty when I did. I don't feel guilty about food any more.
- Being able to breathe easier. I don't get winded walking anymore. I actually like to park on the other side of the parking lot. I don't have to hold my breath when I tie my shoes.
- Sleeping better. I think I used to have a touch of sleep apnea (I would snore really bad and was always tired no matter how long I slept). I just feel better rested and actually wake up earlier without being so cranky.
- Putting on a pair of pants that I bought two weeks ago and having them be a little loose. It's kind of annoying, but feels good too.
- Realizing that my brain doesn't keep up with my weight loss. If I have big clothes in the house, I will wear them. I have to donate them in order for me to not wear them. I have a box of clothes in smaller sizes that were handed down to me. I have to force myself to try them on once a month, or I will never think that they will fit me (even though I see the previous bullet point happen).
your whole post...it's like you read my mind. I agree with all of it!!!7 -
treehugnmama wrote: »That I could loose 37 pounds and go from sz 20 (tight) jeans to 16 comfortable and people don't notice or comment. (Other than hubby and mom both who know I'm loosing)
I do have a lot to loose I just thought that it 2 sizes and almost 40 pounds would show.....but who cares I FEEL so much better and that's why I'm doing it.
I totally understand, I've lost 44lbs. so far and some people are very supportive while others I've noticed have started treating me differently. For example, someone may say wow you've lost so much weight you look great or your doing so well and they say this in front of someone who is treating me differently and the looks I get or the fact that the other person has such a pissed off look on their face use to surprise me but now it makes me laugh and I know I'm doing a great job at losing. Motivation!17 -
I drive a bus and I always thought that the drivers seat was fairly comfortable. Now after loosing 51 lbs and not so much padding between my bones and the seat. It's like sitting on a brick
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lizzy_satellite wrote: »How I used to think baggier clothes were flattering (read: bulk hiding) and now when I wear a baggy t-shirt I feel that I look bigger than I am, and want to swap it out for something more fitted.
This 1000 times! I used to hide in baggy clothes, now if I wear something to big I feel huge.14 -
How uncomfortable it would be to sit on my butt.
Not just for lack of activity but actually uncomfortable because of the padding that's gone now.14 -
MimiOfTheLusciousLawn wrote: »Absolutely! I love form fitting clothes now! I'll love them even more after my last 35 go away!!
I can so relate to this!!!
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How few calories you truly can live on (especially as a short female such as myself).
And how few calories I personally need to consume for months on end in order to lose the weight I want to lose.
When I was obese (I'm still overweight) I NEVER thought I ate too much. I didn't even think I ate a lot. Turns out, I was eating immense amounts of food. I'm still retraining my brain to be able to understand how little I truly require.51 -
smelliefeet wrote: »How few calories you truly can live on (especially as a short female such as myself).
And how few calories I personally need to consume for months on end in order to lose the weight I want to lose.
When I was obese (I'm still overweight) I NEVER thought I ate too much. I didn't even think I ate a lot. Turns out, I was eating immense amounts of food. I'm still retraining my brain to be able to understand how little I truly require.
When you look for your BMR online (Basal Metabolic Rate), you will find for small people the number is quite low. The portions you are served are for a man. In the States, for an active football player. I used to think my Female co-workers were starving themselves. I was wrong.
Trying to eat what your body only needs is a biiiiiiiiig adjustment. Counting truly what I ate (every nibble, snack, drinky and weighting everything) taught me that I was way over what my calorie goal was (1500). Plus I had to significantly go below it with vigorous exercise to burn enough calories to encourage fat breakdown. My diet goal is my petite wife's BMR. What the *Kitten*. That is a tiny amount of food. So her goal / food intake is therefore tiny compared to my small portions. Im surprised I havent had a heart attack yet.
This makes low cal, high bulk food and diet food vitally important. Thank you salad and water.
I load my wraps with spinach, tomatos and greens. Everyfood has to seen for bulk, satisfaction and calorie. I will now play from the worlds tiniest violin. Americans/ Developed world are truly blessed (possibly cursed) with piles of food.
Good thing my wife and I both got on the wagon. It seems now easy to understand how people survive on small bowels of rice. You will never starve to death in the US if you put a little effort and buy easy cheap high cal American food. Though you may become malnourished.
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That's what I figured i would do too. When I get closer to maintenance I will try again and see how it goes. It sucks because I actually do like running. But I don't want to be overeating all the time.4 -
That leg-wise you are ready to go a size or two down again, but your waist hasn't caught up with your legs yet. Or that your lower legs and upper legs look like they belong to two different people.30
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That all of those medical conditions the fat was masking will suddenly come to light . . . . although they might have surfaced anyway.10
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AmusedToaster wrote: »That leg-wise you are ready to go a size or two down again, but your waist hasn't caught up with your legs yet.
This.... My legs are swimming in my current pant size and my wait has just not caught up yet! I even recently went down a size in pants and the legs are still too big!9 -
AmusedToaster wrote: »That leg-wise you are ready to go a size or two down again, but your waist hasn't caught up with your legs yet.
This.... My legs are swimming in my current pant size and my wait has just not caught up yet! I even recently went down a size in pants and the legs are still too big!
I am the opposite, my waist went down first, but my calves and thighs were behind. Then when I was close to goal weight, I just had to find a different brand. I actually had some muscle in my thighs that I had to deal with.
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AmusedToaster wrote: »That leg-wise you are ready to go a size or two down again, but your waist hasn't caught up with your legs yet.
This.... My legs are swimming in my current pant size and my wait has just not caught up yet! I even recently went down a size in pants and the legs are still too big!
I am the opposite, my waist went down first, but my calves and thighs were behind. Then when I was close to goal weight, I just had to find a different brand. I actually had some muscle in my thighs that I had to deal with.
I have the same problem! Can you share what brands you've found that work? I hate that my waistbands are so loose while my hips & thighs are still fitted.1 -
kristieshannon wrote: »AmusedToaster wrote: »That leg-wise you are ready to go a size or two down again, but your waist hasn't caught up with your legs yet.
This.... My legs are swimming in my current pant size and my wait has just not caught up yet! I even recently went down a size in pants and the legs are still too big!
I am the opposite, my waist went down first, but my calves and thighs were behind. Then when I was close to goal weight, I just had to find a different brand. I actually had some muscle in my thighs that I had to deal with.
I have the same problem! Can you share what brands you've found that work? I hate that my waistbands are so loose while my hips & thighs are still fitted.
For me, Lee fits better in the waist than Levis. But the overall size is huge! I should be a size 8-10, but in Lee I am a size 6. I buy the skinny jeans because all the other styles are way too big in the butt now.3 -
kristieshannon wrote: »AmusedToaster wrote: »That leg-wise you are ready to go a size or two down again, but your waist hasn't caught up with your legs yet.
This.... My legs are swimming in my current pant size and my wait has just not caught up yet! I even recently went down a size in pants and the legs are still too big!
I am the opposite, my waist went down first, but my calves and thighs were behind. Then when I was close to goal weight, I just had to find a different brand. I actually had some muscle in my thighs that I had to deal with.
I have the same problem! Can you share what brands you've found that work? I hate that my waistbands are so loose while my hips & thighs are still fitted.
I buy jeans that have stretch in them. My favorite pair of jeans right now is INC. at Macys. The ones I buy aren't loose fitting, but they have multiple different styles and I have to try on multiple pairs to find the right ones. They do stretch out a lot though. I used to love my Gap jeans, but they don't fit right anymore.3 -
that bingeing one day is so much more sickening that you remember it being.28
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No one told me that my body shape would change over 10 years. I’ve been saving a pair of ‘goal jeans’ convinced that I would fit back into them SOMEDAY. That SOMEDAY is now cause they actually fit, but I’m still 25 lbs heavier than I was the last time I wore the jeans (at age 24). I used to carry a lot of my weight in my hips, it seems to have moved up to my top half at some point in the last 10 years!17
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Others have said it, but it bears repeating. I've lost 43 lbs. I am constantly hungry. Even if I binge (which I do, on occasion), I become hungry again almost instantly. I've been trying to shrink my stomach with smaller meals, and that's helped, but realistically...I'm probably going to be at least mildly hungry for the rest of my life. Just one of the prices we pay.12
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Perhaps slightly inappropriate, but one of my biggest surprises about losing weight is the hypersexuality I've experienced. My sex drive has increased enormously, not that my husband is complaining, but it's been shocking how I seem to be "in the mood" all the time. I enjoy sex a lot more too, probably because I'm not out of breath or feeling completely self conscious the whole time!37
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How good it feels to go get your drivers license renewed and can put your actual weight down and not feel embarrassed!
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